What Should You Do When You’re Overcome By Anxiety?

I got a call from a student tonight. He said he was struggling at work and feeling inadequate to the challenges of his life. He felt crippled by anxiety. Did I have any advice?

He expected me to give him some Alexander Technique directions but I didn’t. I said to him, “Concentrate on the things you’re grateful for. When I feel anxious, I like to sit down with my journal and write out everything that I’m grateful for. I find that whenever I compose a gratitude list, I feel happier. And when I write out the things I’m anxious or sad about, well, that does not improve my mood (though it might provide clarity).”

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I Always Thought I’d Turn The Corner And Become Righteous

I was just looking at video of myself from Loma Linda University last year and I winced. Oy, I was harsh!

Makes me introspective and a tad mournful because I always thought there would come a time when I’d leave my bad ways behind me and become a mentch.

Sure, I played around in the first half of my life but now I was serious. I had religion. I had Alexander Technique. I had years of psycho-therapy. Now I was headed on the right path and I would consistently choose the good.

Not happened yet. I’m still a mixed bag.

It’s just occurring to me that there’s not going to be a great cataclysm where you could measure my life before and after this event. Instead, I’m going to be a mixed bag until I die, just evenly poised between good and evil.

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The Lost Meaning of the Seventh Day May 15, 2010 At Loma Linda University

Last year, I was on a panel discussing a new book about Jews, Christians, the Holocaust, and the Sabbath.

As I watch myself 18 months later, I feel uncomfortable. I was not gracious. I was weird. I was provocative. I was histrionic. I was a bad imitation of Dennis Prager. I remind myself of the hysterical Newt Gingrich.

Here are some highlights:

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Baby Kidnapping In Israel

Yitzhak Kerem emails: Baby kidnapping at Hadasa Ein Karem hospital in Jerusalem in 1964! Boy and girl twins born were born on 29 November 1964 to mother Rachel Nosrat Saadian and her husband Shmuel. Babies born healthy, fed, clothed, and put to sleep. After twins born, the next day, staff informed uncle and father when they went to get baby out of the room where the babies were kept that baby died and baby was buried. When they asked where baby was buried, staff refused to say and noted they were not permitted to give details about the death and burial. Mother still living and she’s about 80 years old. Saadians later changed last name to Arie. Male twin baby was not given an Israeli teudat zehut identity card, but twin sister Margalit was (#05919810). Details revealed to me by surviving twin sister Margalit Saadian Rabo. Saadian parents were both born in Isfahan, Iran. Did Israeli Prime Minister Levi Eshkol continue Ben-Gurion’s legacy in kidnapping Jewish (mostly Mizrachi) babies and giving them to barren childless couples to make them good devoted political party members for life or to be sold abroad? Was this an isolated case or was there also such a trend of baby kidnappings in the 1960s?

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Marketing The Benefits Of Alexander Technique Without The Off-Putting Alexander Language

The two most successful new teachers of Alexander Technique in California are Amira Alvarez in Berkeley and Sharon Jakubecy in downtown Los Angeles.

They both have slick websites that stress the benefits of the Technique but don’t use the unattractive language of traditional Alexander teaching (such as “inhibition” and “stop and say no” etc) that stops so many people from getting Alexander lessons.

SharonJakubecy.com’s front page does not even mention the word “Alexander.”

I find myself frequently discussing these two women with my fellow teachers (particularly my fellow teachers just launching practices) and we envy their marketing skills and business savvy. Alexander teachers often come from a performing arts background and they couldn’t market to save their lives. Most instructors don’t have enough students to earn a living but Sharon and Amira appear to operate thriving businesses with an easy to follow formula of selling freedom and happiness.

I’ve been thinking a great deal about how much I want to borrow from them.

In particular, Sharon Jakubecy never ceases to amaze me. I talk about her marketing more often than that of any other Alexander teacher. Could I ever have the stones to follow in her footsteps?

I have this tic of saying to myself in uncomfortable situations like these, “Well, that’s just not me. I’m not a marketer.” But that’s the easy way out. If I keep doing what I’m doing, I’m just going to be broke and miserable. I need to learn to market my new skills and there may be no better role model than Sharon Jakubecy. (Interview here.)

Sharon even teaches via Skype. I’ve not heard of any other Alexander teacher doing that. I know that many psycho-therapists do it so why not Alexander teachers? Sure, the traditionalists may protest that F.M. would never have taught via Skype, but what if it works? Obviously many students find benefit from it or they wouldn’t do it.

I do have questions about this approach. What if you sell a package of ten lessons for $997 to make someone “Slim, Sexy, Successful, & Stress-Free for the Holidays” and it doesn’t take? Some people are just going to advance slowly with their Alexander lessons and may not see dramatic change until they’ve had more than 30 lessons. Indeed, there are probably people out there who are just not capable of the cognitive work necessary to implement the Technique. So no amount of lessons will help them.

So that could be the downside of marketing yourself as an Alexander teacher by stressing the benefits of the Technique. What if your student does not achieve the promised results in ten or twenty lessons?

As Alexander teachers, we can only teach a Technique to willing and able pupils, we can’t guarantee results. We can’t heal. That’s our mantra in the training schools anyway. We’re here to help people to become aware of their habits of needless compression and to show them how to let go of those habits that don’t serve them. Letting go of unnecessary muscular holding, for instance, will usually enable people to live more sexily, successfully, and stress-free (though 90% of Alexander teachers would never use that language).

Karyn Chapman has an elaborate website (BackSchool.com.au) out of Brisbane, Australia, that says: “Welcome to your new, pain-free way of life with the Alexander Technique!”

What if you take 30 lessons and you still have a lot of pain? If your pain comes from needless tension, a good Alexander teacher can alert you to your habits and help you to let go of this needless holding, but if your pain comes from other sources than your own use, Alexander Technique may not be of much help.

The one good thing about Alexander teachers is that they never make the pain worse. If they did, they’d have to pay higher bills for liability insurance than $150 a year!

Julia Caulder was my first Alexander teacher. She started out of the block faster than anybody I know. Soon after graduation, she had her practice flourishing. Look at her beautiful new website.

She has this great quote from the famed actor/director Kenneth Branagh: “The Alexander Technique is remarkable. Julia Caulder is an excellent teacher. I highly recommend both.”

Julia’s website, like her teaching, is gorgeous. Yet it is still classical Alexander pedagogy: “The Alexander Technique is not about “doing,” it is about “undoing” those habits that unconsciously add work, stress, and pain to daily life.”

Here are classical Alexander websites by three new teachers in Los Angeles — Adolfo Santamaria, Leah Zhang, and Jennifer Schneiderman. They present the Technique in the traditional manner.

Adolfo writes: “Have you ever considered that how you do things, like the manner in which you stand, sit, or walk could be limiting your potential? Or even, be the source of your pain?”

Many people find such a concept threatening. They don’t want to face the possibility that they might be doing things that cause their pain. Marketing that stressed bliss might appeal to them more.

Yet other people rejoice in the opportunity to unlearn bad habits.

I took up the Technique in 2008 because I knew I needed to change my life.

The following sentences hooked me. On page 28 of The Stylelife Challenge, Neil Strauss writes: “Because posture is key not just to your confidence and appearance but also to your health, I’ve prepared an extra-credit video tutorial for you online at www.stylelife.com/challenge. It provides the basics on Alexander Technique, a school of movement that improves not just the way you stand, walk, and sit but also the way you speak and feel about yourself.”

Here are the classical websites of some of L.A.’s greatest Alexander teachers:

* Frances Marsden
* Babette Marcus
* Michael Frederick
* Sydney Harris
* Jean-Louis Rodrigue
* Pamela Blanc
* Celio Da Siveira

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Your Spiritual Leader

I remember a few years ago, I was davening at this Modern Orthodox shul and the rabbi got up and said to the congregation, “When you chose me as your spiritual leader…” And I thought, “What the hell? I never chose you as my leader, spiritual or otherwise. I just happen to daven here. I have friends here. I like the kiddish. It’s close to my home.

“I don’t agree with you on almost any controversial issue. I like you but you’re not my spiritual leader. Dennis Prager is my moral leader.”

When I talk with Christians, they ask about my “faith community.” I don’t belong to a faith community. As far as I know, many of the people I go to shul with are atheists. We’re a community to the extent we practice together.

Maybe we’re not even a community?

On his radio show today, Dennis Prager read something about “the Cornell community. As soon as I hear the word ‘community’, we’re talking left lingo.

“Cornell community means Cornell students. When I was at Columbia, I never thought I was a member of the Columbia community. I thought I was a student at Columbia University.

“The gay community. Do all gays think they are a part of the gay community? It’s disrespectful to lump all people as X or Y. Do heterosexuals feel they are a part of the heterosexual community?”

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What Can The Alexander Technique Cure?

No authentic representative of the Alexander Technique will ever claim it can cure anything. What it can do is to reveal to somebody his habits of needless compression and show him how to let them go.

This is not always easy. Life is tough. When we’re young, we learn to tense up and push through difficult patches. We feel like if we only made ourselves smaller, other people would hurt us less. So we got used to pulling down and tensing up to get by.

Through Alexander Technique, for instance, I can learn that I have a pattern of pulling down and collapsing when I start to laugh. I’ve got a habit of curling up when I laugh. I probably developed this style of making myself smaller when full of mirth so other people would take less offense to me. I got hit a lot as a kid because I found the most inappropriate things funny.

So I have some emotional attachment to my needless tension. It’s not easy to leave behind. And every time I let go of one layer of gratuitous muscular holding, I find another layer just below.

With my students, I notice they often have a huge emotional attachment to their tension. They’re attached to doing things in a rapid and brutal way. They just want to get stuff done quickly. They don’t care about the toll this shoving takes on them.

So I have to slow them down, break a task into many parts, and get them to think through their choices and find a more gentle and efficient way of using themselves. But I can’t cure them of their back pain. Only they can cure themselves by choosing to let go of the needless compression.

Almost all head, neck and back pain is caused by needless muscular holding said pain specialist and JFK physician Janet Travell.

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Do We Have A Jerry Sandusky-Type in LA’s Orthodox Community?

You’ve heard about the “former Penn State defensive coordinator Jerry Sandusky, who was arrested over the weekend on more than 40 counts of child sexual abuse.”

What if we had a Jerry Sandusky-type in LA’s Orthodox community? Could we have a powerful man who’s able to isolate underage teen boys, invite them over for Shabbos, ply them with alcohol, molest them, and then have the rabbis orchestrate a cover-up for the good of the community?

That’s the exact story I heard about in 2008 but the boy in question was told not to talk to me. The rabbis covered things up. The family of the boy did not go to the secular authorities. They did not press criminal charges or file a civil lawsuit or even go to a Beit Din (Jewish law court). The powerful man was protected.

In the wake of the Jerry Sandusky story, I tried again this week to get the boy to talk to me but found out he had committed suicide.

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Trial Attorneys – Do You Care About How You Come Across?

I notice that people in high-stress positions like trial attorney tend to carry around a lot of unnecessary tension and this warps the way they come across.

The most common tension pattern I see is the head thrust forward and angled back, tightening and compressing the neck and deforming the torso. The shoulders are typically held high. The person is stuck in a version of fight-or-flight but it’s not serving them.

If you’re not poised, if your head is not balanced on top of a lengthened spine, you’re going relate to yourself in a contorted way and you’re going to make other people uncomfortable. By contrast, if you move with ease and grace, you’ll think more clearly and you’ll allow people around you to relax.

Those who are deformed in the use of their bodies tend to relate to themselves and to others in a deformed way while those who are poised tend to be poised in their own thinking and feeling and in the way they talk to others.

I’m offering a free five-minute consultation to all trial attorneys in Los Angeles who are interested in learning more about how they come across.

Luke Ford 264 S. La Cienega Blvd. #1417 BH, CA 90211 E-mail: [email protected] Fax: 310-388-0814 Phone: 323-528-5814

Chaim Amalek emails: Outstanding idea. So we have a growing list of occupations that could benefit from AT:
1. actors
2. prostitutes
3. trial lawyers
4. people who need to appear in court as witnesses in high stakes civil cases
5. politicians and those who want to be
6. rising corporate types who need to make a good first impression
7. rich dudes who come across as shlubs because they hunch their shoulders and do whatever else it is that AT corrects, Tell them that’s why they cannot get hot girls.
Any got any additions to this list?

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Panic Attacks Kill Triathletes

If you think about your Alexander Technique directions (a free neck, the head releasing away from the torso, back lengthening and widening), it is virtually impossible to have a panic attack. You must compress to panic. If you think about expansion, you won’t panic.

Most stomach aches, for instance, come from compressing down into the stomach. Sometimes so much so that the result is regurgitation.

The solution is to stop pushing down in yourself, think up, and release into expansion of the torso.

Here’s an article on athletes dying in triathlons. They almost always die in the swim portion from panic attacks.

I did a triathlon once in Australia. I didn’t train and I finished last. An ambulance followed behind me during the ride and the run.

From the Washington Post: My hypothesis is these athletes suffer panic attacks, a state characterized by a racing heart, sensation of breathlessness or choking, and a feeling of lost control.

In the swim event, a combination of stresses can lead to a panic attack (or something like it): the excitement of the moment, the chaos of swimming into and over other people, the chest constriction of the wet suit, the darkness and coldness of the water, competitiveness and the desire not to quit when friends and family are watching. On rare occasions this leads to drowning.

Discussion threads on blogs suggest that panic attacks are common even among experienced athletes, although apparently nobody in the triathlon industry has attempted to learn how common they are. Some coaches mention them, but many triathletes train without coaches. Race directors in general don’t name panic attacks as potentially lethal but manageable hazards, though they do warn about wet roads for cyclists and high temperatures for runners.

Perhaps the biggest problem is that panic attacks leave no trace, making it hard to make them a contributing cause of death.

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