Damian Chapa On His New Movie ‘Polanski, Unauthorized’

On April 23, I talk to director Damian Chapa after the premiere of his movie "Polanski, Unauthorized."

The interview begins three minute into this video.

Luke: "How do you think Roman Polanski will feel about this?"

Damian: "I hope he sees it."

Luke: "Do you think he’ll respect it, like it?"

Damian: "You never know how another person thinks about your work.

"It’s really easy to judge people. The hardest thing in life is to forgive and have redemption. That goes for all of us. This film’s about all of us. We all need to forgive and we all need to have redemption."

He waves his hands together.

Damian: "In the world, there’s a lot of tense in-between people. You’ve got to get rid of them by forgiving."

Luke: "What was the hardest part for you in playing Roman Polanski?"

Damian: "Being short."

"I had a really difficult childhood. I understand what it’s like to have emotion and pain. I had someone who died who I was in love with, who got murdered while pregnant. I understand it. That’s why I think I was the person to play it."

Luke: "When did someone you loved get murdered?"

Damian: "It was a long time ago. I don’t want to talk about it. But that’s why I understood the pain. I understand how it feels. This film is about all of us. We all had to go through this together. We try to act like we don’t, but it’s deep in our psyche. That rape or statutory situation or whatever they call it, happened to all of us and we all have to live with it. The whole world needs to purge. There’s such a dichotomy and hypocrisy and we all have to live with it until we watch it, we relive it, and we purge it."

Luke: "What’s the hypocrisy?"

Damian: "All of us, actors, filmmakers, directors, rock stars, we have a certain get-out-of-jail-free card that’s unnecessary and unfair. By the same token, we all as artists have things happen to us that may predict this kind of insanity. We live in this world where it’s OK for one person but not OK for another person. We have to purge this."

Luke: "How did you come to this project?"

Damian: "I always felt a personal parallel with [Roman Polanski]. Also, being an artist who writes, directs and stars in his own movies. I don’t think there are too many of us. What I tried to do here is show redemption. This is not about putting somebody in the limelight in a negative way."

Luke: "How much liberty does the movie take with the facts of his life?"

Damian: "Some of it is surreal. All the things that were important were based on court documents."

Luke: "It’s a complicated storytelling structure. How did you arrive on that?"

Damian: "I didn’t want to create a film where everybody would know what it would be like… The only way to do that is to jigsaw the situation to where we keep want to know more and more. Human beings need to be tested. We’re sick of going to movies where we know what’s going to happen in the first ten minutes. People want to think when they go into the theater."

Luke: "This was fun."

Damian: "It’s like a ride and people keep getting off on different rides."

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Rabbi Ephraim Bryks – Marriage Counselor

Vicki Polin writes:

Case of Rabbi Ephraim Bryks (Brooklyn, NY) – This makes me sick!
www.theawarenesscenter.org/bryks_ephraim.html

What more can we do to protect innocent people from becoming the next victim of Rabbi Ephraim Bryks? 

How is it that after all these years of exposing the serious allegations made against Rabbi Ephraim Bryks, he is still able to draw a crowd? 

Bryks is an "orthodox" rabbi who allegedly molested several boys and manipulated adult women he was counseling into have sexual relations with him.   This is a case in which several suicides are connected.  This is a case in which the Canadian Broadcast Network put together a documentary. http://theawarenesscenter.blogspot.com/2007/11/rabbi-ephraim-bryks-unorthodox-conduct.html

We have to ask, what makes this alleged cult leader so charismatic that people would flock to hear what he has to say? 

The only way anything will ever change is with public outrage.  Below is a link that listss recent lecutres conducted by alleged serial rapist/child molester – Rabbi Ephraim Bryks.  Please contact every news media group you know and let them know about this case.  Go to the web page that is promoting Bryks, and write to the owner and let him know your outrage at his posting of Bryks’s lectures.  Let the owner know if anyone comes in contact with Rabbi Ephraim Bryks after listening to one of his lectures on line and is harmed, that he could be named in a civil suit since he was made aware that Bryks is a danger to women and children. http://www.kolyakov.org/Rabbi/Ephraim_Bryks/

WARNING: Rabbi Ephraim Bryks and Marriage Counseling
Ephrayim Bryks has become a rabbinic marriage counselor. The term marriage counselor or life coach can be used by anyone. He is not the only "rabbi" suspected of sexual abuse using one of these titles to access vulnerable individuals or couples both here and in Israel. Consulting actual professionals is expensive and unless the community publicly warns against going to these charlatans (often worse) many innocents will continue to be hurt.
Sincerely,
Rabbi Yosef Blau

Rabbi Ephraim Boruch Bryks principal Yeshiva Berachel David Torah High School Queens, currently serves time as a member of the Vaad Harabonim of Queens (Rabbinical committee that makes important decisions within the community). As of today, there has been no public statement made concerning his decade long membership on the Vaad Harabonim of Queens. On May 27, 2003, he resigned his membership in the Rabbinical Council of America (RCA), after being involved for a quarter of a century.

Rabbi Ephraim Bryks is originally from Denver, Colorado. In this case, accusations about his inappropriate behavior with children started surfacing in the 1980’s. These accusations also included making sexual advancements to women in his congregation. When his alleged victims disclosed their experiences to a rabbinic leader in their community, they were basically told to keep silent. The rabbi advised them not to go to the police or child family services. He told them to deal with the allegations internally with the synagogue board. The children were not offered psychotherapy to help them cope with their alleged victimization. Unfortunately a teenager who didn’t have the coping skills to deal with his memories ended up committing suicide.

Over the years Rabbi Ephraim Bryks has left a trail of alleged victims from such far-away places as Winnipeg, Canada. He is currently located in New York City. There are no documented cases or public information regarding any victims in New York, yet he has been let go by schools (one characterized as firing), but the schools will not discuss the matter.

For years alleged victims have been going to rabbinic leaders in their communities looking for guidance. For years rabbinic leaders have found it more important to protect an alleged sexual predator over protecting our children.

49 year-old Rabbi Ephraim Boruch Bryks will continue to run Yeshiva Berachel David in Queens until the end of the 2003 school year. No public statement has been made concerning his decade- long membership on the Vaad Harabonim of Queens. Rabbi Bryks was a member of the Rabbinical Council of America (RCA) for over a quarter of a century before his May 27, 2003 resignation. Ads in The Jewish Press indicate that Rabbi Bryks is currently working as a mortgage broker for a company he runs out of his home called REB International LLC.)

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Russian Emigre Writer Sana Krasikov On Good & Evil

I met Sana at LimmudLA.

We hit it off.

I just read her first book and wanted to discuss it with her.

I call her at 7 a.m. April 24, 2008, with evil on my mind.

Sana: "You’re up so early. It must get light at 4 a.m. in LA."

Luke: "About 6:15 a.m."

Sana: "Do you have a morning ritual? Do you get up and go for a jog in the mountains?"

Luke: "I get up and put on tefillin and then check my email."

 "My apartment is the size of where you’d park a car."

Sana: "By New York standards, that’s luxury."

Luke: "It’s really small. Women freak out."

Sana: "That was my first trip to LA. I had a friend give me a tour of Beverly Hills after LimmudLA was over. I feel like I should’ve been more overwhelmed. He said it was all movie stars and Persian Jews."

"We drove down Rodeo Drive. We drove up and down these hills. It was a little bit like being in an Orientalist painting. All these perspectives."

We talk about her work history.

Sana: "After college, I worked for a few months in New Hampshire as a reporter at a small newspaper. Then I went to New York for a year and worked in a law firm. I decided I didn’t want to be a lawyer. I went to the Iowa Writers Workshop for two years. Then I got a Fullbright and studied in Moscow for a year. Now I’m back in New York."

Sana spent her first years in Georgia and Ukraine (then part of the Soviet Union). "We came to the States when I was almost nine."

Her parents are engineers.

Luke: "What are your memories of living under communism?"

Sana: "Phrased that way, I don’t think I had that kind of macro perpective on it. Georgia was a bit different. It was marginal in the best way. It was very ethnically diverse. There was a more casual attitude about Soviet power there. It was a little bit like New York in terms of how international Georgia was. It is a junction between East and West."

Luke: "What kind of Jewish identity were you raised with?"

Sana: "We were your typically non-practicing Soviet Jews. When I went to the Ukraine for the summers, I do remember a synagogue next to where my grandfather lived. That’s the only time I remember seeing Jews practice. I’m an Ashkenazi Jew from Georgia. I know that Georgian Jews have more of a religious identity than Ashkenazi Jews. I don’t think we went to synagogue until we came to the United States."

Luke: "Was it a regular thing?"

Sana: "My family goes on the holidays. As I got older, I’d go to Shabbat dinners."

Luke: "What role does Judaism play in your life today?"

Sana: "Let me think about that for a sec."

There’s a ten second pause.

Sana: "My interest in it deepens every year. When I was in Moscow, I started studying Torah once a week. Being a brainy person and enjoying the intellectual rigor of it, that was something I took to. I do to some degree keep kosher.

"Coming from a Soviet background where so much of the identity is being a group that hasn’t been treated well, that’s an identity I don’t relate to well. Like any old and deep tradition, there’s so much more to it than that. To approach it the way a lot of Russian immigrants do, I find kind of unpalatable. That we’re Jews because we were oppressed."

"That’s not to say I’m not a spiritual person. I do feel it at a level that’s not just intellectual.

"I don’t know if that answers your question."

Luke: "How did you experience LimmudLA?"

Sana: "As a presenter, a portion of my mind was always about the next thing I had to present. I experienced the LA part of LimmudLA. Women in kipas was not something I’d seen before. When you ask somebody their affiliation and they say, ‘I’m post-denominational.’ It was very hip. It made me want to move to LA. It seemed like a fun place."

Luke: "When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?"

Sana: "For a while, I wanted to be a dentist. Everything in town was falling apart, but we had this amazing dental clinic. I did visual arts for many years — painting, woodcuts, etching, lithography, ink paintings. I never envisioned writing."

Luke: "When did you realize you were a writer?"

Sana: "You are what you do. When I write, I’m a writer. When I don’t, I’m not. When I went to Cornell (I started off in Chemistry and then did a joint American History/Literature major), I couldn’t take any art classes. I was depressed about it. As a creative person, you need a creative outlet. In my junior year, I didn’t take writing seriously, but it was a way to sublimate my desire to express myself. It was a lot of pent-up creative energy getting expressed."

Luke: "If you were to read a book, with how much accuracy could you guess whether the author was male or female?"

Sana: "That is a great, great question. I think I could guess with high accuracy. Men and women use language differently. Men think more verbally and women think more adjectivally. For women, our brains are databases of preferences. We can go into a room and without a lot of verbal communication, we can know what everybody wants in that room. You can see that male writers have a different approach to sentences and they do use stronger verbs."

Luke: "What have your parents most wanted from you?"

Sana: "To be happy. They both work a lot. They’re pretty busy with their own lives."

"Parents want you to be passionate about something boring but they realized after a while it wasn’t going to work with me."

Sana has an older sister.

Krasikov says she enjoyed her few months as a reporter "in a really sadistic way. Writing fiction you’re on your own a lot. When you’re a reporter, you see people every day. You’re like a tourist in different worlds. You have to churn stuff out. You can’t think about craft."

Luke: "Where were you a reporter?"

Sana: "I’m not telling you."

Luke: "Why are MFAs so popular among novelists?"

Sana: "It gives people socially sanctioned time to write. They don’t have to justify why they’re dropping out of life for two years."

Luke: "What effect does it have on writing that all these writers have MFAs?"

Sana: "I was told that my writing was not MFA writing."

"People focus a lot on language and that’s a double-edged sword. It’s wonderful to explore language in novel ways but there’s much more to writing than that. I too want to push my writing but only to the degree that I can still tell a good story and say something about human beings and the social world. I don’t think you can teach that.

"Writing has become very much about sentence writing. That’s not the most interesting thing about fiction to me."

Luke: "Is writing a lonely profession?"

Sana: "It’s a solitary profession. Even as a kid, I never felt lonely. I enjoy solitude. After being social, I need to withdraw into my own space."

Luke: "Has anybody in your life complained that you used them for your writing?"

Sana: "No."

Luke: "Is there a genre of Jewish-American-Russian fiction and do you belong in this? Your work reminds me of Gary Shteyngart, only not as absurd."

Sana: "Really? I don’t think so."

Luke: "OK. Here is where I given an opinion to invite your feedback."

Sana: "Go ahead."

Luke: "It seems with all the other post-Communist Jewish writers who come to America, this is just a feeling I have, together with your book, it seems like all the characters are Godless and as a consequence they’re hopeless. And the result is depression [for me]."

Sana’s shocked. "By godless, do you mean they don’t believe in God?"

Luke: "They may believe in God, but he doesn’t have a role in their life. I’m thinking it comes from growing up in atheistic communism. Therefore, there’s a hopelessness. I always get depressed when I read this genre."

Sana: "I’m not sure it’s a genre, but can you give me an example of writing where the characters are not godless?"

Luke: "Say, Dostoevsky, where some of the characters are God-intoxicated. Tom Wolfe’s novel A Man in Full. You know what it is to deal with someone where God is a vital part of their life?"

Sana: "Hmm."

Luke: "In Gary Shteyngart’s books and in other post-Communist American-Jewish literature I’ve read, all the characters lead pointless lives."

Sana: "Do you think there may be an element of projection in this?"

Luke: "Maybe. I’m throwing this out there."

Sana: "You’re dealing with some issues and you see them around you.

"I do find that writing fiction is a Rorschach’s test for people. They see what they want to see. Maybe you’re struggling with these issues yourself now and in a strange way it’s flattering for me to hear this because it means you are seeing my characters as people who you can pass judgment on, which is fine by me.

"I think God is in every life. God has a way of making his existence manifest. Some people are more conscious of God’s existence in their day-to-day life."

"I would venture to disagree with you about my characters. Some of them do grapple with God. I do write about the kind of people I encounter. They do come from a world where spirituality has not been at the top of their list of priorities. I’m a pretty spiritual person and I see God’s existence in a lot of different ways. I don’t think it’s always clear. It’s arrogant to think we know God’s plan for us. Something that prosaic in our lives may lead us to a place of spiritual growth."

"I would have to read my stories over and look at it through that lens. They are certainly characters who live a different life from you but I’d like to think that if they were real people, God would try to help them out."

Luke: "I feel like all these characters are products of this 70-year atheistic experiment in communism."

Sana: "What are you thinking of in particular?"

Luke: "For 70 years in the Soviet Union, there was no religiously directed character building, no sense of the transcendent, and these people all leave me depressed."

Sana: "Maybe you’re just depressed, Luke? What’s going on in your life?"

Luke: "Maybe."

Sana: "Did you go outside yesterday?"

Luke: "I go outside every day."

Sana: "Good, good."

Luke: "You don’t find your characters depressing?"

Sana: "I don’t. They just feel like regular people leading regular lives. They’re people stuck between a rock and a hard place. They’re struggling. We feel God’s presence when we struggle. I don’t have an interest in writing about characters who aren’t struggling. If everything was going great in their lives, why would I want to write about them? I’m not sure that in the 70 years of socialism, people were completely Godless. Spirituality has always been pretty important in Russia. People just sublimate it in different ways. Russians have always worshiped literature. They often say that’s their spirituality. People did still secretly go to church. We always had matzo on Passover. People always held on to their traditions there. From a western standpoint, yes, the dogma was Godless, but if you look at people’s day-to-day lives, they weren’t as Godless as you’d think."

Luke: "Are any of your characters triumphant?"

Sana: "That’s a very male question. Interesting. Do they triumph over adversity? Is that your question?"

Luke: "Just, are they triumphant? I’ll just leave it there."

Sana: "What do you mean by ‘triumphant’?"

Luke: "Do they triumph?"

Sana: "Over what? Over their circumstances?"

Luke: "Yeah."

Sana: "Yeah. At the end of Companion, for example, you have a woman who’s in a really tough situation but she makes her life beautiful. The last thing she does in that story is make an omelet and put garnish on it. She makes up a beautiful meal inspite of everything else going on in her life. The way to be triumphant is to live in the present. Some characters can’t but others can. Everything in her life is going down the tubes but she will look good and she will do her hair and she will make a beautiful meal. That’s a form of triumph. I’m not sure triumph has to be climbing a snowy mountain peak. It can be about maintaining a certain kind of feminine dignity."

Luke: "Is your story that just came out in The New Yorker in this book?"

Sana: "Yes, the second to last one [‘The Repatriates’]. You didn’t read it, did you?"

Luke: "I read the whole book."

Sana: "That’s OK. I’m not judging."

Luke: "The dissolving of the marriage…"

"Do you belong to a school of writing?"

Sana: "I hope not."

Luke: "You’re certainly a realist."

Sana: "Yes. I’m not a fabulist. I’m inspired by life."

Luke: "How do you feel about writing about parts of life you know little about?"

Sana: "I do that."

We talk about research.

Sana: "Truth is transcontextual."

Luke: "What does that mean?"

Sana: "I don’t know where that came from. I read about the resurgence of Islam in Central Asia. I read about it from different angles. I made sure that things added up and there was nothing glaringly wrong with the story I was telling."

Luke: "What do all your characters have in common?"

Sana: "They’re all so different. What do we all have in common as human beings?"

Luke: "They’re almost all immigrants."

Sana: "Not all of them come to stay in America."

Sana thinks for more than ten seconds. "They’re kinda on their own, all of them, in some ways. We’re used to thinking of people coming and they’re immediately embraced by a community. And that’s the immigrant experience as we know it but a lot of people come without that support. They come to work as domestics. They’re on their own. I kinda feel that we as people are on our own. I feel like I’m on my own. That sense that there’s not much behind you. There’s not much to fall back on other than yourself. Maybe that is what’s depressing for you."

Luke: "Who wouldn’t that be depressing for?"

Sana: "It’s not depressing for me. They’re vulnerable characters but they’re tough because they know there is nobody to rely on. I’m drawn to people and to characters like that who have to just make it on their own. One of my characters — Nona — becomes a trophy wife in Moscow (in ‘There Will Be No Fourth Rome’). She makes her fate. She makes her compromises and she’s comfortable with them. My worldview came through in that character."

Luke: "Who would you say is your happiest character?"

Sana: "I write and I forget."

Luke: "Or any happy character?"

Sana laughs. "Happy is such a funny term because there are so many different ways to be happy. Americans often equate happiness with pleasure. Even as a writer, I’m not happy in a day-to-day way. It’s grueling. On a deeper level, you’re tapping into a deeper dimension than you would if you were doing something else. They may be moving toward a goal or trying to untangle things in their lives. Life is tough but it doesn’t mean that they are totally miserable.

"Happy characters? I’ll have to get back to you on that one.

"Happiness is like, Americans always fetishize happiness and harp a lot about it. I don’t always understand what is meant by that. Russians never ask you, ‘Are you happy?’ Happiness isn’t a category as important for people with a Russian mentality. The pursuit of happiness is a uniquely American way of thinking."

Luke: "If ten is ecstatic and zero is miserable, what happiness score would you give your average character in your book?"

Sana: "Five. And let’s just leave it at that. I feel like this interview should turn. What? Are you thinking about happiness? Do you feel like there are things that could make you happier right now?"

Luke: "Sure, but the happiness of your characters is as important a question as anything in life."

Sana: "Is that how you read characters? You wonder if they are happy or unhappy? Are there other ways of looking at a character’s psycho-spiritual state? No?"

Luke: "I read for pleasure. I don’t read for technical reasons. I can get enormous pleasure out of getting depressed in a book. I’m not reading a book to feel yippee! So, my primary response to what I read is emotional. I don’t have a degree in literature and I’m not terribly interested in literary criticism."

Sana: "Neither am I."

Luke: "These people are as real to me as you are. I spent maybe 20 minutes talking to you at LimmudLA. These characters are like people I meet in real life. I’m wondering about what to me are the most important questions in the world — ultimate meaning, happiness, purpose, fulfillment."

Sana: "Purpose and fulfillment are different from happiness. I think about those terms as well. Are they fulfilled? Are they working towards a purpose? We always read things from the cultural lens we come from. I don’t see someone who’s struggling as being necessarily unhappy."

Luke: "Neither do I."

"What’s your story with community? You mentioned that all your characters are alone and that you identified with that feeling. We typically replicate our experiences with community no matter which community we enter."

Sana: "I’ve always felt supported both by family and friends. I don’t feel like I live in a vacuum or that I’m an island. The sense that we’re on our own is more of a feeling, not because I haven’t felt people’s love. Jews always have a connection to a broader Jewish community. Are you asking me specifically what are my connections to a Jewish community?"

Luke: "I’ll talk about myself for one minute to use it as a springboard to ask you that same question."

Sana: "Please."

Luke: "I replicate my experiences of community wherever I go. They are all pretty much the same as when I was a child. One of my keenest memories is from second grade when I did not get invited to classmate Gavin Brown’s birthday party. My therapist suggested that I call my memoir, ‘The Uninvited.’ I go through life antagonizing a tremendous number of people. I’m always in danger of getting kicked out of a community but if I can hang in there with a community for a time, I will gradually and awkwardly work my way towards its middle. Without pushing myself into a community, I naturally isolate myself."

Sana: "You don’t strike me as particularly offensive."

Luke: "Are you a person completely different from your characters or are you a joiner?"

Sana: "I’m not a joiner. I’ve always been pretty independent and straight forward but I haven’t found that has alienated me. I respect where people are coming from so I don’t impose too much of myself on others. I don’t necessarily get super-influenced by others as well. I always give people the respect of their reasons. I tend to be nonjudgmental. When I meet new people, I try to enjoy their company as much as I can. I’d rather learn something from them than give them a particular impression of who I am. Maybe it’s easier if you are a woman to do that. I don’t take a lot of things personally. That experience you talked about of rejection at an early age, come on Luke, everybody’s gone through this. There’s always some snotty-nosed kid who doesn’t invite you to a birthday party. People always have unique reasons for doing things and it depends more on who they are than who you are. It’s hard to be a writer if you care a lot about what people think. Talent is not as necessary as a certain kind of temperament."

Luke: "When I say the phrase, ‘Join a community,’ what does that evoke in you?"

Sana: "I don’t tend to see communities as a group. I’m very much about dealing with people one on one. That’s where I get the most social pleasure, not from being the life of the party and telling some story that’s going to make everybody crack up. When I’m in a new environment, I tend to have intense conversations with one person and then another person. I don’t envision community the same way you do."

Luke: "How do you feel about subsuming your individual identity with a group identity?"

Sana: "’Subsuming’? That’s a strong word. I don’t think it has to be subsumed. Individual identity and group identity has never been in conflict for me. I always like learning new things from people but there are very few people who’ve been able to change who I am in a fundamental way."

Luke: "How does it feel to you to subsume your individual identity into a group identity?"

Sana: "It feels dystopic. The way you frame it, it feels like a strange nightmare scenario. Otherwise, I don’t think about it."

Luke: "You said earlier that you identify with the aloneness that all your characters feel. Is that correct?"

Sana pauses for ten seconds. "I don’t know. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t."

Luke: "How does being right-wing in your politics affect your relationships with other writers?"

Sana: "I’m not right-wing. I’m pretty moderate. I’m socially liberal. It doesn’t affect it all. I have pretty vanilla views in most things."

Luke: "You said to me at LimmudLA that you were a Republican."

Sana: "Yeah. I don’t always vote the party line. I’m a small government, federalist type of person. On a lot of individual issues, I probably fall more to the left. I think I’m a very tolerant person and an open-minded person. In terms of my relationships, where I stand politically does not have a lot of consequence."

Luke: "Do you believe there’s universal good and evil?"

Sana: "I have a theory about good and evil. I think good is whatever makes us connect with other people and evil is whatever makes us put up boundaries. The force of the ego makes us want to defend a particular projection of ourselves. So we operate under the illusion that we are separate from others. That leads to evil in the world. Whatever makes our ego boundaries break down and connect with other people in a genuine way, also leads to good. That’s a principle I try to live by."

Luke: "By the standard you just elucidated, are you more good or evil?"

Sana: "I don’t know. I can’t judge myself. When I die, I’ll be judged by God. I don’t go around thinking about good and evil. When you start thinking that way, you become a self-righteous asshole."

Luke: "Do you think some civilizations are superior to other civilizations?"

Sana: "Whatever civilizations have survived up to this time in history, they are clearly doing something right. Some civilizations put more of a focus on individual rights and defending civil liberties. America tries more than most countries to defend individual civil liberties. That’s the yardstick by which I measure whether one society is superior to another."

Luke: "Would you say that the United States today is a more civilized country than Russia?"

Sana: "I don’t know. That’s a really complicated question. Russia has had a very complicated history."

Luke: "Would you say communism is evil?"

Sana: "Communism is an idea. Can an idea be evil? I don’t know. Communism certainly didn’t erase the sadistic inclinations in individuals from what we see in Russia and the history of the Soviet Union. I can’t say a concept is evil. One thing I can give communism credit for is that by virtue of being communist, Russia brought its country into the 20th Century. Within decades, communism took an agrarian society and made it an industrial society, a process that in Europe took centuries. It was communism that made a huge portion of the Russian people bourgeoisie. I’m not a dogmatic person, so I’m not going to slap a label on things. Russia in the 20th Century does not have a strong history of defending human rights."

Luke: "But you wouldn’t say that communism as practiced in the Soviet Union is evil?"

Sana: "In general, I wouldn’t make such a blanket statement. I would have to launch into a complicated discussion about it."

Luke: "What about Nazism? Would you call Nazism evil?"

Sana: "You mean like fascism?"

Luke: "I mean Nazism as practiced in Germany between 1933-1945."

Sana: "Well, it certainly was responsible for the murder of millions of people. So yeah, to that degree, it was evil. And communism was responsible for the murder of millions of Russians. To that degree it was also not a manifestation of people’s best qualities."

Luke: "What, if any, moral responsibilities do you have to society as a writer?"

Sana: "I don’t have grand and lofty ambitions. Once writers start doing that, they get a little heavy handed. It’s hard enough to tell a good story and to then say something about the world. We often don’t know the net result of our actions, which is a good thing. To reflect the world back to itself, I don’t know if it’s a noble goal, it’s one purpose. It takes all kinds. I don’t go around thinking I’m making the world a better place. That’s what communists did in Russia. They went around thinking they were making the world a better place. It’s exactly that kind of thinking that leads to what you would call evil."

Luke: "But it’s not what you would call evil?"

Sana: "No, no. Let me rephrase. An effort to try to make the world a better place in any kind of self-righteous way doesn’t always end up in the world being a better place. I would never have the hubris to say I’m making the world a better place. Communism tried to achieve this good for the future and made the present a living hell. Is that good?"

Luke: "No."

"This is good. I realize that a lot of these questions must seem weird but these are just the questions I think about all the time when I encounter literature and when I encounter life."

Sana: "You’re just working through your own stuff. You’re going to ask whatever questions are on your mind at a particular point in life, right?"

Luke: "This is the template I’ve been asking everyone for years."

Sana: "Good and evil? Really?"

Luke: "Yeah."

Sana: "Huh. What does everyone answer?"

Luke: "Unless they’re active in an organized religion, they answer what you do."

Sana: "Am I Godless?"

I think for ten seconds. "I remember asking the author of ‘The Jewish Century,’ Yuri Slezkine, if one could call the United States a morally superior country to the Soviet Union. He said no."

Sana: "Did I say no to that? I don’t know. Your questions seem like they are leading questions, frankly, which makes someone a bit weary of answering them. It’s hard to feel rapport with your interviewer when you feel there’s a veneer of judgment radiating from the voice. You seemed like a good cool guy but I kinda feel like there’s a right and wrong answer with the way you’re phrasing your questions. Maybe there is. Maybe you have a thesis that you are looking for support of. There’s not a whole lot I can say that’s going to control how you interpret it. Right?"

Luke: "Well, that’s bad interviewing technique on my part because as soon as you put a judgment in a question, you’re not going to get a good answer. I work really hard to not put a judgment in a question. So if I fail in that respect, I fail. My interviews rise or fall with the rapport I develop with the people I interview. It will be interesting to see how other people react. I’ll send you a copy of the transcript."

Sana: "Do you have your own questions as part of that transcript or is it like an NKVD interrogation where it’s just my side, and your side is flat and polished? You’d be a great interrogator for the KGB."

Luke: "Thank you. People say that. I sent you a link when I first emailed you with the 30 or so other interviews I did [with writers of Jewish fiction]."

Sana: "I read them. They were pretty great."

Luke: "Well, I used the same questions with you that I used with them."

Sana: "I don’t remember the good and evil stuff. Oh well."

"So how’s everything else?"

Luke: "It’s OK. I’m just struggling to make a living as a writer. That’s what I think about day in and day out."

Sana: "I hear that. It’s tough."

Luke: "That’s the main issue in my life for years. I’ve been making my living as a blogger for almost eleven years."

Sana: "Your blogs are pretty widely read. A friend of mine was telling me about it and I hadn’t even mentioned you."

Luke: "I’m one of the first bloggers to make a living at it. I have a wide audience. Your experience may vary, but the thing most people say I’m best at is interviews."

Sana: "You’re thorough."

Luke: "The drawback of doing interviews is that they are exhausting to transcribe. We’ve spoken for two hours and this is going to take me twelve hours to transcribe."

Sana: "I’ve got to run."

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She Would’ve Been 78

My mom died April 24, 1970.

I was almost four.

I remember her.

Most of the women I’ve loved have been like her — cute, cuddly, nurturing and chronically late and unorganized.

She would’ve turned 78 Saturday.

I don’t say yizkor for her in shul because she was a goy and she doesn’t count for anything in Judaism.

Sorry mom. May your neshama have an aliyah.

I honor your memory by sleeping through sermons just like I did as a child at your soon-to-be-removed breast.

When I converted, I was born again. I don’t have any ritual obligations to my family even though they send me checks and cheer in times of need.

Jane emails:

Oh’ yes you do…a lot!!!…Owe her, I mean. She gave you life, raised and cared for you during your early years. At times mother leaves, against her will … but she never stops loving. Just as Hanna came up each year to see her little boy serving at the Shilo. It is written, that she’d make a little coat for him. How many tears were stitched into her boy’s coat? How many blessings embroiled into the seam? Mother’s love keep one warm throughout life’s journey. I felt YOUR love to her, the lose and sadness embedded between your lines just as Madam Defarge was knitting her messages, in Charles Dickens "Tale Of Two Cities’. Mother’s love is bigger even then conversion and does not negate your choices. A mother wraps you with her blessings and just prays to keeps you warm and safe.

>>You sound like a mom.

Yes, Nothing I’ll ever do in life will come close to it. I needed to speak from the heart and clarify the feelings of being one. Someone has to stand up and speak for her. Your Dad, may he live to 120 and your deceased mother, may she rest in peace, deserve our gratitude. We read and enjoy the fruit of their labor. You come from a wonderful family.

From my live cam chat Sunday night:

YourMoralLeader:  hi guys
YourMoralLeader:  me luv u long time
guest6:  u luv emma short time
YourMoralLeader:  but intensely
guest6:  laugh, live and love intensely
guest6:  how was the holy passover?  are we now matzoh free ?
YourMoralLeader:  it was fine
YourMoralLeader:  urs?
guest6:  it was long and hot & i am only referring to the holiday
YourMoralLeader:  you dont mind if i steal your best lines?
guest6:  steal away
guest6:  i just read on your blog about your mother.
guest6:  sorry
guest6:  it was very sweet
YourMoralLeader:  i’m not just a horny hound dog
guest6:  do you say yizker for her in shul?
YourMoralLeader:  no, she was a goy
YourMoralLeader:  dont count
guest6:  one of the few things i admire about you is the way you write
guest6:  horny hound dogs should get their love & attention any way they can
YourMoralLeader:  I twice mentioned my cam to people over Pesach and both times they got creeped out. Cams creep people out. You and i know better. Perhaps I should not have talked so much about my ….
guest6:  what does your…have anything to do with your cam  ?
guest6:  its like watching a car crash  you really can’t look away…either at your…or your cam

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Trading Emotional Heroin For Sexual Cocaine

Nathan writes:

The first year of life is (ideally) about unconditional love. But note what this turns into: the mood swings of "the terrible twos."

The next stage is about conditional love – which tends to lead to greater emotional stability.

In "adulthood," I’ve seen men essentially trade "emotional heroin" in return for "sexual cocaine" from women – which leads back to the terrrible 2’s again.

The lesson: unconditional love is a drug, use it like a doctor, not like an addict.

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Sock On His Cock

From Jewcy.com:

Matzah and Nudity: a winning combination?

Matzah and Nudity: a winning combination?

In one last round of Passover-related news, a 27-year-old yeshiva student in Israel went into a supermarket and got totally undressed, save for a sock on his cock. He was protesting the recent Israeli ruling that allows chametz to be sold during Pesach in places that are not public—including supermarkets and pizza places. The nude student was arrested by Israeli police for suspicion of performing an indecent act in public.

Proving once again that dorky Jews can be sexy, a Brandeis University group called Students for Environmental Action (SEA) has put out a calendar called BARE: Brandeisians Advocating Real Environmentalism, which features 25 student models posing nude with strategically placed fruits, bicycles and computer chords. The calendar costs $10 and helps raise money for the group’s annual organic and locally grown food banquet. Maybe they should hang out with that yeshiva student in Israel…

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My Sana Krasikov Interview

I talked to her for two hours by phone Thursday morning. It got bumpy.

My legendary charm was nowhere to be found.

From my chat room:

YourMoralLeader:  Emma, just tell your parents you have to go to LA to fundraise for the IRA
Emma:  lol
Emma:  I love your wit
YourMoralLeader:  tell em you regret you only have one life to give for your country
Emma:  I will tell them with crocodile tears
guest11:  Who is Luke talking to?
guest11:  Soviet immigrants…..
guest11:  Commies
YourMoralLeader:  sana krasikov
YourMoralLeader:  google her
guest11:  She looks hot, in that descended-from-Mongol-invaders sort of way
guest11:  So many Russians have that look.
YourMoralLeader:  yes
YourMoralLeader:  product of rape
YourMoralLeader:  so sad and yet so hot
guest11:  "Scratch a Russian, find a Mongol"
guest11:  But the maternal lines were preserved
YourMoralLeader:  yes
guest11:  And such women are good at riding ponies.
guest11:  They know their way around the steppe
guest11:  The next time you interview her, ask her how she is around ponies and in hauling things on sleds.
guest11:  I’ll bet she rules on both
YourMoralLeader:  will do
RabbiGadol:  And tell her Rabbi Gadol wants her to breed
RabbiGadol:  If she can
RabbiGadol:  Half the Russians I know look like the late Leonid Brezhnev
YourMoralLeader:  not good
RabbiGadol:  But some of them are super hot. It’s the Viking blood

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Bring Emma To America

I deserve some happiness in my old age.

Click on the paypal button on the top left. All donaters of $100 or more will get a personal phone call from Emma while she’s live on her cam.

We’re going to bring her out here in June, please G-d.

From my live cam chat:

Emma:  I will bring plenty of poatos for you Luke
guest6:  enough potatoes to feed 8 kids +
Emma:  My parents don’t like technology
guest6:  do they like potatoes?
Emma:  Yes they like potatoes
Emma:  hmm… they would want to know every last detail
guest6:  emma big birthday plans next month?
Emma:  No plans yet
Emma:  Do you want to see me Luke? If you do I won’t be saying I met a guy off the internet haha
Emma:  lmao
Emma:  Oh I dunno.. I will think of something
Emma:  lool
Emma:  I have an idea
Emma:  My sister could come… and I could say it’s our first holiday to L.A!!!!!!!!
Emma:  lmao sarcasim
Emma:  Yeah I bring my dogs too
Emma:  I dunno I haven’t been able to see her
Emma:  She is getting an op
Emma:  It’s complicated
Emma:  Yeah Luke sure I could
YML: Tell your parents that your entire college class is going to LA for the summer
Emma:  With a free 41 year old for every student
Emma:  More like I will be your singing coach
Emma:  lol free jew
Emma:  Green tea – great for your skin
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  OPEN UP!
YourMoralLeader:  is there a problem here?
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  HEY BUSTER OPEN UP!
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  WE GOT A WARRANT
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  GET THE CHICK OUTTA HERE
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  THIS PLACE IS A HEALTH HAZARD
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  HOW MANY PEOPLE LIVE HERE?
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  WE GOTTA DELOUSE THE WHOLE PLACE
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAY ANYTHING
YourMoralLeader:  OK
YourMoralLeader:  it’s clean in here
YourMoralLeader:  I cleaned for passover
YourMoralLeader:  kinda
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  BUT IT MAY HARM YOUR DEFENCE
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  WHAT’S A NICE JEWISH BOY DOING IN A DUMP LIKE THIS?
YourMoralLeader:  I’m poor
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  THAT’S NO EXCUSE
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  MOSES WAS POOR
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  HE LED US OUT OF SLAVERY – HE DIDNT BUM AROUND SOME DUMP ALL DAY
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  I HOPE WE DON’T FIND ANYTHING WE SHOULDN’T
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  WHERE IS THE CHICK?
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  WE NEED TO QUESTION HER
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  WE GOT 235 INFRINGEMENTS OF HEALTH LAWS
YourMoralLeader:  she’s getting me some matza
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  GET HER HERE NOW
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  AND SOME DODGY OLD VIDEOS]
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  AY YAY YAY
PUBLICHEALTHDEPARTMENT:  LISTEN WE WILL BE BACK LATER
Emma:  It takes 7 weeks to process a passport
QuixoticLass:  so I really do need an au pair…I just can’t pay you, what do you say?
QuixoticLass:  a little indentured servitude?
QuixoticLass:  YML will tell you tis hard work caring for my midget army
YourMoralLeader:  Emma, just tell your parents you’ll be working the summer in LA and I’ll be your baby

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Once Again, The LA Times Schedules Its Book Festival For Passover

Once again, observant Jews won’t be able to attend.

As Michael Sonnenschein remarked a few years ago, "Jews don’t read books anyway."

Festival website.

I’m not bitter. I’ve got guns and religion.

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Helping The Homeless In Pico/Robertson

I don’t give money or material assistance of any kind to the homeless. I don’t believe in it. There are social service organizations better equipped for this. I talk to the homeless at times. I know some of their names. There are a few I take time to greet and we’ll have brief chats. But I prefer to keep the unwashed at a distance — be they homeless or not.

The homeless are one reason I am not a libertarian (even though I have a lot of sympathy for that way of thinking, it comes from my UCLA economics education and my admiration for almost all things Milton Friedman). They are one reason I am not opposed to the prohibition of alcohol, drugs, prostitution, pornography etc (I don’t support such prohibitions either).

If we make vice (and in my view most homeless have destroyed their own lives with drugs and alcohol and bad decisions) easily available, a lot of people will indulge and a significant portion of them will destroy their lives and become a burden on the rest of us.

I no longer believe that what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes is their business alone.

Everything we do affects other people. If we choose to spend our spare time watching pornography or doing drugs or studying Shakespeare, that is going to affect us and those around us.

In one of the evening prayers, we thank G-d for separating us from those who stray.

Judaism is an exclusivist religion, and the more seriously it is practiced, the more exclusivist it gets. The Modern Orthodox are more exclusive (many won’t invite non-Jews to their seders for instance because it is problematic as far as Jewish law, a non-Jew pouring wine for a Jew etc) than the non-Orthodox and the traditional Orthodox are more exclusive than the Modern Orthodox.

It tends to be the modern Jews who get all weepy about connecting with non-Jewish blacks while the traditional Jew is little concerned with this and more concerned with fulfilling his obligations as a Torah-observant Jew (and none of these obligations entail davening in black churches).

From the LA Times:

Rabbi Yosef Kanefsky

Mel Melcon / Los Angeles Times

Rabbi Yosef Kanefsky, left, of B’nai David-Judea Synagogue in Los Angeles, chats with Bobby Alexander, who is homeless, on Pico Boulevard. Kanefsky, 44, helps the homeless, elderly and poor of the Pico-Robertson district.

By Duke Helfand, Los Angeles Times Staff Writer
April 25, 2008

They began lining up in front of the synagogue well before sunrise.

The homeless, elderly and poor of the Pico-Robertson district — 100 of them — held up white registration cards as they shuffled through the doors of B’nai David-Judea.

Rabbi Yosef Kanefsky, a man of 44 more prone to blue jeans than black suits, greeted each by name. One by one, he handed out $15 Ralphs gift cards to everyone except four newcomers who hadn’t registered.

They swarmed him outside the synagogue after he finished with the others.

"Sir, I would like a gift card," said a man in a hooded sweat shirt.

"I’m sorry," Kanefsky answered.

"Sir, why can’t you go back in there and get me a gift card?"

Kanefsky stood firm. "I can’t do that," he said softly.

Like Jewish leaders elsewhere, this Modern Orthodox rabbi has long exhorted his congregants to give tzedakah, or charity.

Providing for the poor, he says, is not only a mitzvah — a good deed — but a holy act and a religious obligation. The message frames the holiest day of the Jewish year, Yom Kippur, when worshipers are reminded that charity is among the deeds that can avert an evil decree in the year to come.

But Kanefsky, who figures he has handed out $75,000 worth of Ralphs cards to the needy of his Westside neighborhood over the last 11 1/2 years, has found himself wrestling lately with the limits of goodwill.

How much, he wonders, is he helping when the demand only keeps outstripping his resources? And how does he continue to help the poor without turning his synagogue into a sanctuary for the homeless — possibly unsettling some of his parishioners?

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