Category Archives: Dating

Orit Arfa Given The Brush-Off By Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger

Orit Arfa writes a fascinating and heartfelt blog post on a recent debate at Stephen S. Wise temple: “Hi Patti,” I said as I approached her. “My colleague at the Jewish Journal once interviewed you, and I thought I’d introduce … Continue reading

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The Ponzi Scheme In Orthodox Dating

From Hirhurim: R. Chananya Weissman takes on the "Ponzi scheme" solution to the Shidduch Crisis: link Philologos on the proper spelling of "meshugas": link College should only take three years: link Letters about Human Rights Watch, including from its chairwoman … Continue reading

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We Must Write What We Can Only Whisper

I imagine things from her perspective: I met him in yoga in early January. He came in late. He looked a mess. He wore sweats. He had a beard and a yarmulke and tzitzit hanging out. He was looking for … Continue reading

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Luke Ford’s Secret Diary V

Part one. Part two. Part three. Part four. August 3. I loved being with a girl who was fanatical about staying in shape. Remember how Jane dissed my blog post about Mary? Jane would not read past the first sentence … Continue reading

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Luke Ford’s Secret Diary III

Part one. Part two. July 21. I love my therapist. When I told her that I did not represent enough value to ****, that’s why she cheated on me, my therapist said, "Cheating is not about you. It’s about her." … Continue reading

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Luke Ford’s Secret Diary II

Part one. July 17, 2009. ***** was very friendly last night. She gave me her card and pointed out her email address. I emailed her and she replied an hour later, saying meeting me was a "pleasure". She asked if … Continue reading

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Luke Ford’s Secret Diary

I’ve been keeping a journal since July 15, 2009. Here are some excerpts: July 15. I met a new friend in yoga. She’s tall and meaty. I like her body. I like how fit and flexible she is. She meditates … Continue reading

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Jealous Of Her Dog

I am wary about how emotionally attached she is to her dog. It’s not even her dog. It’s a friend’s dog that she takes home many nights. She’s more attached to this dog than she is to me. I’m losing … Continue reading

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What’s Your Relationship Model?

I’m listening to a KPFK interview with relationship expert Alison Armstrong. She says we all have relationship models and automatically assume that everyone has our model. One model is legacy. You’re all about having children and providing for them so … Continue reading

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‘Friday Night Was Lovely’

"Friday night was lovely," he says. "Don’t say lovely," she says. "So was Thursday night." "Thursday night was more aggressive," he says. "Friday night was a little more emotional." "Do you think it is OK to do both?" "Of course." … Continue reading

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