Category Archives: Marriage

John Gottman and the Science of Marriage

John Gottman (b. 1942) holds a singular place in the history of modern psychology. Across more than five decades he helped turn the study of marriage and intimate relationships from a descriptive and therapeutic pursuit into a quantitative science built … Continue reading

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David Schnarch and the Problem of the Self in Marriage

David Schnarch (1946-2020) was an American clinical psychologist and sex therapist who built a comprehensive theory of marriage, sexuality, and adult development around a single problem: how a man holds onto a coherent self while staying close to someone who … Continue reading

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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships By David Schnarch

More people have told me that they found this book particularly painful to read than any other book mentioned to me. It will rock your world, and not in a pleasant way. Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch has a strong … Continue reading

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Decoding The Shiduch Crisis

Gemini says: An eighth debate involves the “Shidduch Crisis,” a perceived imbalance in the dating world that makes it difficult for young women to find husbands. While many see this as a demographic and social problem requiring technical fixes like … Continue reading

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Lovemaps: Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition In Childhood, Adolescence and Maturity by John Money

* “Dr. John Money is the Duke of Dysfunction, a man who writes about “unspeakable” human sexual problems with such dignity and care that his case histories make me feel almost normal.” — John Waters, jacket endorsement for John Money, … Continue reading

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Normal Marital Sadism

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/experts/david-schnarch-phd https://crucibletherapy.com/about/david-schnarch https://passionatemarriage.com/ David Schnarch writes in his book Passionate Marriage: * When we talk about developing a fuller, deeper understanding of marriage, many people automatically think of unconscious feelings or repressed experiences. We’ve grown accustomed to looking at life’s … Continue reading

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Gender Offenders

Steve Sailer writes: The founder of the Skunk Works, Kelly Johnson, America’s most famous aeronautical engineer, married a girl in the Lockheed accounting department in 1937. When she was dying in 1969, she explained to Kelly that he was too … Continue reading

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‘The Gift Of Fear’

Gavin de Becker writes: After one speech, a policeman who’d been in the audience asked to talk with me alone. He told me how he realized just then that he had relentlessly pursued a female student at the police academy … Continue reading

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The Case For Marriage

Friend: How about your perspective of what Jewish women want in a guy, in the following age brackets: 20-29 30-39 49-49 Single women LF: Money becomes increasingly important as women age Looks become decreasingly important F: I disagree. Women who … Continue reading

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Sex Before Marriage In Orthodox Judaism

Marc B. Shapiro writes: Because the masses had no interest in what the rabbis had to say about this matter, R. Landsofer concludes that one need not even rebuke them, as they won’t listen anyway. Not long ago I heard … Continue reading

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