The Shabbos Elevator

Rabbi Gil Student writes: A ruling by leading authorities in Israel was recently published in a newspaper, prohibiting the use of so-called "Shabbos Elevators" (I, II). This has led to a big confusion, with people objecting and be unsure of how to act.

I’m not sure what the big suprise or confusion is all about. Shabbos Elevators have long been controversial, with authorities on both sides of the issue. See R. Chaim Jachter’s four-part essay on this subject (I, II, III, IV). Engineers have attempted to alleviate all possible problems with these elevators but I am not aware that their solutions have been universally accepted. As with most things, this is a matter of debate. I personally never use Shabbos Elevators but I also never really had a need to. The one time I was on a high floor in a hotel in Israel on Shabbos, I used the stairs. But I’m not saying that you have to do that. Ask your rabbi.

What concerned me, though, was that the newspaper ruling was blanket. It did not mention that people with extenuating circumstances should consult with their rabbi. There are leniencies, which understandably vary based on a rabbi’s views on the relevant subjects but there are nevertheless leniencies in some situations according to everyone. The last thing we need is someone old or sick having a heart attack because they read in the newspaper that leading Torah authorities say they have to take the stairs.

Similarly, there was a bit of a ruckus before Yom Kippur when a newspaper reported that R. Yosef Shalom Elyashiv recommends against wearing Crocs on Yom Kippur (link). This is something that he has been saying for years and that the Arukh Ha-Shulchan (Orach Chaim 614:5) and R. Joseph B. Soloveitchik (Nefesh Ha-Rav, p. 210) shared this view. It’s a disagreement, and an old one at that.

The bottom line is, as I’ve been saying for a long time, don’t decide halakhah based on what you read in newspapers. Ask your rabbi, just like you did in the past and will continue doing in the future.

MARK POSTS: I saw at least 10-15 people in my very Chareidi minyan on Yom Kippur wearing Crocs. The ones who weren’t were mostly older folks who still don’t know that they exist.

JOSEPH KAPLAN WRITES: There are two problems. First, instead of only telling people not to go by what they read in newspapers, perhaps we should also tell the "leading authorities" not to publish their dogmatic "piskei halacha," with no reasoning, discussion or support, in newspapers. The second problem was the arrogance of the language of the pronouncement. Ignore what anybody else says; we know better than everybody. We’re the only experts; everybody else is wrong. One of your points, Gil, as I understand it, is that this matter has authorities on both sides. Well, not according to the "leading authorities"; only what they say is meaningful.

So, there is much of an ado because the "leading authorities" made it a big deal with an arrogant edict from on high which they thought appropriate to publicize in newspapers. And it will also be much of an ado when elderly people miss shul for the first time in decades on shabbat or yom tov because of this or, God forbid, collapse from a heart attack when trudging up the stairs. If this is the care, thought and sensitivity that "leading authorities" put into their decision making, then I want no part of such authorities.

TZVEE WRITES: Joseph Kaplan is of course correct. But due to the complete lack of a hierarchy of authorities in Orthodoxy, don’t expect any resolution of this shortcoming. The explosion of reporting in new media most certainly will exacerbate this weakness.

DOV POSTS: The aspect of things that shocked me was that virtually all modern Orthodox blog readers and commenters couldn’t relate to either issue as a true halachic issue. Hundreds of responses on dozens of blogs were ranting and raving about poskim who pasken "without any basis in halacha" or "disconnected from reality" or "just for Chareidim who don’t think" or "trying to make life difficult." Very very few could even admit that there were halachic issues for either.

Now, I’m just about the most cynical person I know about pashkevilim. I know from discussions with the son of a J-lem Gadol that the situation is truly horrible. But that doesn’t mean that Torah Jews can stop thinking about Torah issues as Torah.

So now we add Rav Gil’s info that Nefesh HaRav was machmer on some form of comfortable shoes, and a commenters info that Rav Neventzal is machmer on crocs. Is that enough for everyone to realize that there may in fact be a halachic issue here?

Note that it’s perfectly possible to be meikil, yet to acknowledge the issue. I happen to have worn Crocs on Yom Kippur, based on most poskim I saw (including Rav Shternbuch) saying that they were mutar min ha’din (even Rav Elyashiv said that min ha’din they were probably mutar, even if he recommended otherwise).

Even more importantly, the elevator psak was written in a way that should make modern Orthodox Jews thrilled – the Rabbonim wrote that they reached their decision based on discussions with experts in technology. We should all be thrilled! Here’s a pashkevil saying that a psak on halacha requires discussion with technical experts, and that psak can change based on developments in technology. The fact that it’s a change to the stricter side (if it stands) shouldn’t change our principles.

MICHAEL SEDLEY WRITES: I’m convinced that the Elevator issue is a marketing scam. Within a few months someone will have "invented" a 100% kosher Shabbat Elevator with the stamp of all the gedolim, and provided he can convince enough people not to use a "regular" Shabbat elevator, hotels and hospitals will be lining up to buy his new product.

The fact that the Oneg Shabbat of hundreds (thousands?) of people, particularly the elderly and sick, may be ruined as they are unable to leave their homes is a small price to pay for the profit he stands to make at the expense of those least able to afford it.

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The Mussar Shmooze

Shmuel Sofer writes: The Mussar Movement made famous by R. Yisroel Salanter and his students held that pure Torah study might not adequately train students and adults to perfect their lives and align them with the ethical principles and worldview that is befitting of a “Ben Torah”. Its proponents argued that the Talmud is replete with ethical instruction but, like many of the legal passages, those texts are often distributed throughout the Talmud and rabbinic literature in a manner which makes a programmed study difficult. The classic “mussar texts” such as Mesilas Yesharim, Orchos Tzadikim and Shaarei Teshuva culled through the sea of the Talmud and organized the material into an organized text. Mussarniks advocated regular study of these classic works. An additional component that the mussarniks innovated was the role of the mashgiach ruchani, a spiritual/ethical counselor who would oversee students ethical development. One of the mashgiach‘s key tasks was to deliver a mussar shmuz or inspirational lecture designed to motivate students. Often topical or arranged according to the weekly parsha, the shmuz became a means of taking the lessons of the mussar works and bringing them to the students in a very practical format.

The mussar program of R. Yisrael Salanter took root in many yeshivos and has survived today in a somewhat modified form. Some yeshivos minimize the study of mussar while others place a greater emphasis on it. The weekly “shmuz,” though, has become a mainstay feature in virtually all yeshivos, in part because of the practical lessons which students can integrate into their daily lives. In recent years, shmuzen from some of the great mashgichim of the “yeshiva world,“ such as R. Chaim Schmulevitz of Mir and Rabbi Eliahu Dessler of Gateshead, have been published and in some cases translated into English.

RAFAEL COMMENTS: You mean that you have never heard of the movement known as "The Shmuz"? It is an organization that gives chizuk to baalei baatim like me who are out working and have lost touch with the learning and focus they had in their yeshivah years. Its sort of the like the Men’s Movement of the 1990’s for frummies (do you remember the one I’m referring to – they had massive stadium gatherings to try and bring out a man’s more tender, emotional side?)

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Blogging Allowed On Festival’s Intermediate Days

Rabbi Gil Student says: R. Yuval Cherlow rules that you are allowed to blog on Chol Ha-Mo’ed (link). See also this post: link.

Note that you should ask your own rabbi and not rely on internet rulings.

YEHUDA POSTS: I really don’t understand this idea of having to ask your rabbi questions that are widely discussed on the Internet and halachic journals. Are you telling me that I have to ask my rabbi if I can shake a woman’s hand when I already know that many, many poskim permit it?

What if the rabbi of my family’s shul doesn’t reflect my hashkafos and will say "No"? Must I follow his psak? That frankly seems like a very strange position to maintain.

ANON POSTS: What is fascinating is that Yehuda (and, granted, I don’t know anything about you) doesn’t even see why it might be a problem – his whole way of thinking about psak is in the context of the sovereign self – not the shulchan aruch.

This bodes well for the future of Orthodoxy (unless, of course, Yehuda is not Orthodox!)

YEHUDA POSTS: Please read the Eim Habanim Semeicha’s account of how he tried to convince Hungarian chassidim that he was right about Zionism. He criticizes them bitterly because they didn’t confront his arguments. No matter how many proofs he brought for his position, the only response he got was: "But my Rebbe is against Zionism."

Do you believe Judaism should run that way? That the only decision a Jew should make is who his rabbi is and that’s the end of using his mind for the rest of his life?

I believe strongly (and this is just one example) that shaking hands is permitted. That’s the way I grew up and Rabbi Schechter told me explicitly that it’s permitted (in addition to the many articles which argue for that position). But Rabbi Schechter is not my posek and there are many questions I would never ask him.

I don’t have one posek. That may be unfortunate, but it’s a fact of modern life where someone may grow up and be around multiple communities and rebbeim.

I also don’t have one mentor. But I don’t think this is revolutionary. Do you think most Jews in the shtetl had a mentor? Sometimes yes and sometimes I’m sure they didn’t get along that great with the rabbi of the town and had no mentor. This is idea that everyone must have a mentor is I think bizarre.

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A Serious Man

AP reports:

Joel and Ethan Coen took the title of their latest film, "A Serious Man," from the dialogue they created for the characters in their surreal, darkly affectionate look at a Midwest Jewish community.

In one scene, a rabbi giving a eulogy refers to the deceased as a serious man. Later, the Coens’ desperate hero calls himself a serious man as he tries to gain an audience with his synagogue’s elusive senior rabbi.

The phrase is the brothers’ take on the Yiddish word mensch, an upright man, someone of substance and decency.

Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/n/a/2009/10/01/entertainment/e050338D10.DTL#ixzz0SnAmmHLi

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TV Host David Letterman Says He Was A Victim Of An Extortion Attempt

Radar Online reports: "An NYPD source has told RadarOnline.com that the suspect under arrest in the David Letterman extortion case was a producer for CBS’s 48 Hours, Robert Halderman. Halderman often went by his middle name Joe and currently has a residence in Connecticut."

Apparently this guy lived with the woman Letterman had sex with. She still works on the show. The sexual affair ended before 2003.

David Letterman married Regina Lasko in March of this year. They started dating in 1986. At least they didn’t rush into things.

The only thing that surprises me about this sort of thing is when powerful men don’t have extra-curricular sex, particularly with people they work with. My father explained to me early on that propinquity leads to passion.

Bill Carter writes for the New York Times:

David Letterman said on his show on Thursday that he had been the victim of an extortion attempt over charges of sexual affairs with staff members, claims that he conceded were true.

Mr. Letterman said on “The Late Show,” on CBS, that he had been approached by a person who wanted $2 million not to go public with information that Mr. Letterman had been in sexual relationships with women who work on his show.

Mr. Letterman said that he had testified before a grand jury and had admitted to the relationships.

“My response to that is, yes I have. Would it be embarrassing if it were made public? Perhaps it would,” he said on the show. “I feel like I need to protect these people. I need to certainly protect my family.”

Mr. Letterman, 62, married his longtime girlfriend in March. They have a son, now 6.

The New York Daily News says:

"They say, ‘Well, why did it take you so long to get married?’ and, of course, the answer honestly is we wanted to make sure we had the prenup just right," he joked.

"I had avoided getting married pretty good for, like, 23 years," he said. "I secretly felt that men who were married admired me – like I was the last of the real gunslingers."

Letterman was married once before – to his college sweetheart, Michele Cook, from 1969-1977. He dated comedienne Merrill Markoe after that, and started dating Lasko in 1986.

After the wedding announcement, guest Julia Roberts teased Letterman about getting hitched.

"You’re bound for eternity," she said and Letterman replied, "That’s right, and never been more deeply in love."

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‘Friday Night Was Lovely’

"Friday night was lovely," he says.

"Don’t say lovely," she says. "So was Thursday night."

"Thursday night was more aggressive," he says. "Friday night was a little more emotional."

"Do you think it is OK to do both?"

"Of course."

"OK. I don’t know."

"It makes me feel emasculated," he says, "if I can’t take care of you. I need to feel competent."

"And then?"

"It feels like you are offering all of yourself to me. I feel like I am dining out, at an all-you-can eat buffet. You’re lavish with your affections."

"So how does that make you feel?" she asks.

"Very manly. Very good. It makes me feel rich and powerful.

"And then to receive it, it makes feel like you want to please me."

"I do," she says.

"I feel like a little boy and you’re my mommy and you’re taking care of me. It feels nurturing and devoted and dirty. There are pleasures here not available through more conventional means. The tongue can do more things."

"You were just so open," she said. "it was amazing. It felt really really safe. I felt really connected to you physically, mentally.

"How do we know which mood the other’s in? More physical or more emotional? Who’s going to take charge? I know what you’re going to say."

"You’re very forthright," he said. "If you’re not into something, you let me know. If you want something, you’ll say. If you want to talk, you’ll say so. What did you expect me to say?"

"I expect you to say that it doesn’t matter much what mood I’m in and that I should just bend over.

"What if you’re in a gentle mood and I’m in a rough mood. What if I want to bite  you and fight you and you just want to love me?"

"Well," he said, "You’ll probably be rough with me and then I’ll be rough with you."

"But what if that is not your mood?" she asks.

"I’ll tell you to be gentle. Then you’ll get angry and pound your fists against my back."

"You were so fast and harsh and angry Thursday night,"  she says. "I wanted to slow down and try things."

"You can say slow down."

"Really?"

"Yeah. Often a woman will buck so much I can’t **** her. It throws me off my rhythm."

"Ohmigod, is this a common problem for you?"

"Yeah," he says. "It has been a common problem. As Lord Curzon instructed his American wife, ‘Ladies never move.’"

"Ohmigod, women should pay to have sex with Luke Ford."

"I’ll say, ‘Don’t move!’"

"And take it like you mean it.

"How do you tell someone not to move?"

"With manly authority," he says. "Sometimes women buck around a lot more than necessary. They want to prove how wild they are. It’s never been a problem with us."

"No," she says, "because I totally submit to you."

"I like that," he says.

"No one has ever ****ed me like that," she says. "I’ve never let anyone **** me like that. Normally you  meet in the middle and you find your rhythm. You just throw me over."

"I like to dominate you," he says. "In the bedroom. In many ways, you dominate me. In many ways, you dominate me because I dominate you in bed. You get your power back by not returning my calls etc."

"Is that why I want to fight with you sometimes?" she asks.

"I think that’s why you distance yourself," he says. "Because you don’t like being so vulnerable to me. You shut down and throw up defenses."

"It’s very possible," she says.

"I don’t even realize it sometimes," he says. "You’re dominating me. I’m stepping down a step and the step is not there and I’m falling through space."

"I love that feeling," she says.

"I hate that feeling," he says. "You like to drive fast next to cliffs."

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I Talked To My Soul This Afternoon

A friend bought me a 75-minute session with Siri-Gian of SoulAnswer.com.

I arrived 20-minutes early and sat in the sun in my car and wrote down my thoughts.

Then I went in the house and waited for her.

She’s warm and cozy and motherly.

She brought me into her office. She asked me what I wanted to find out.

"I don’t really know," I said. "I hoped you could guide me.

"I went to the opera last night for the first time. This soul-thing is a first time for me. I’ve never done anything like it. I don’t believe in talking to your soul and I don’t not believe. In this respect, I’m agnostic.

"I’d like to know if **** is good for my soul.

"I’m nearing the end of my first year of training to become an Alexander Technique teacher. I want to know if this is good for my soul.

"I’m having a lot of money difficulties.

"But my main problem is my inability to connect with others. I tend to want to sit back and analyze others and think myself smarter than them and this gets in the way of my connecting.

"I hate ***. I’ve built my whole life around hating ***. If I meet anyone who reminds me of ***, I want to destroy them on my blog."

"Would you like to let that go?" Siri-Gian asks.

"Yes. What I’m doing is not working. I need a new direction."

She has me lie down on a table. She starts pressing on my chest. It hurts. She says it will feel better by the end of the session.

She takes my right arm and bends it back. It hurts.

She pulls out a tape recorder and starts asking me questions.

She asks me several times if my soul is ready to answer.

I don’t know what to say. This feels a little bit like my attempt at automatic writing, which was a complete failure.

I don’t know where my soul is. I don’t sense it answering her question. I don’t want to be a party-pooper so after a while I say, "Sure."

I feel warm. My body buzzes.

Siri-Gian asks me a bunch of questions. I don’t sense answers coming up from my soul. I just get pictures in my head.

At first, I picture I’m waist-deep in the water looking at an island reminiscent of the TV show LOST (I just saw 20 minutes of this about three weeks ago).

Then this picture intercuts about every second with me walking through the jungle in the island.

Then I see myself walking through downtown Los Angeles at night. Then I see various pictures of my opera date.

Then I see my dad looking pained and silent while I lie in a field of clover bathed in sunshine.

I talk about all the people who’ve done me wrong and Siri-Gian asks me if I want to forgive them. I say sure. We go through each person and each wrong and I forgive.

This becomes really intimate and after an hour or so when it is time to sit up and drink a glass of water, I’m ready to flee.

I think I proposed that I’d be more compassionate towards human frailty, including my own, and that I would use humor in my writing.

I haven’t heard the sound file yet.

Here’s the follow-up protocol.

I feel peaceful and energized. My chest don’t hurt no more.

I think I’ll go to yoga.

Sat nam.

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Appalled!

I was relaying to friends how appalled I was by this Jewish girl taking communion, and this Alexander Technique teacher noted that every time I said I was appalled, I shrunk down.

He insisted I keep my length. Then I tried to explain how appalled I was but there was a problem — I no longer felt appalled. I discovered it was impossible to have the emotion of disgust while fully erect.

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My First Time At The Opera

Downtown Los Angeles. Dorothy Chandler music center Wednesday night. "The Elixir of Love".

We’re on the main level, row S, seats 44, 45.

The story grabs me. Luke, a simple blogger, loves Dina, a haughty YULA graduate from a rich family. While the Jews take a break from the davening at Young Israel of Century City, Dina reads them the story of Tristan and Isolde, and how a magic potion brought those famous lovers together.

The sounds of a fundraising appeal interrupt this idyllic scene. Israeli porn movie director Shlomo swaggers up to the bima and pledges $15,000 to help combat Christian missionaries in the Holy Land.

Poor Luke can pledge nothing.

Shlomo is instantly drawn to Dina. He gives her flowers and proposes marriage. Dina is not so easily wooed. The whole scene upsets Luke, who tries to persuade Dina to love him instead. Dina tells him she would rather stay unattached. She doesn’t believe in fidelity. She doesn’t believe in relationships. She doesn’t believe in marriage. She believes in doing what feels right in the moment.

Rabbi Gadol from Morocco swaggers on to the scene. He proclaims he has brachot that can cure all. Impressed, Luke asks him if he happens to be selling a bracha to make a woman love him. The rabbi obliges if Luke will promise to give him $2,000 after yontif.

Luke’s confidence increases immeasurably and he walks around the shul giving divrei Torah. Dina, irritated at Luke’s new self-assurance, spites him by promising to marry Shlomo in six days.

Luke is unfazed, believing the bracha will work by then.

A producer arrives, calling Shlomo to the set. Dina agrees to marry him the next day.

The wedding celebration begins. Dina delays the rabbis because Luke is not present to witness the wedding. Everyone parties. Rabbi Gadol picks over the feast.

Luke enters, hurt that the bracha has yet to take effect.

Rabbi Gadol recommends another bracha at the same price. Luke is penniless. He promises to work as Rabbi Gadol’s online assistant for six months to pay.

Unbeknownst to Luke, his wealthy uncle has died and left him a fortune. When the shul girls hear the news, they throw themselves at him. Rabbis fete him, thinking they will get massive donations. Clueless about his inheritance, Luke assumes that the second bracha has done the trick.

Bewildered, Dina asks Rabbi Gadol what is going on. He tells her how Luke pledged himself for six months of social networking in the service of Torah to pay for the bracha to win her love. Touched that he would go to such lengths to win her, Dina realizes that she has loved Luke all along. She buys his services back from Rabbi Gadol and confesses her true feelings to Luke. Everyone in Pico-Robertson celebrates their happiness.

Rabbi Muskin marries Luke and Dina in David Suissa‘s backyard, with catering by Pats.

Bob emails: “It’s just like the movie Pretty Woman in gender reverse. Richard Gere takes Julia Roberts to the opera to show her how the other half lives. So respectable **** takes man-whore Luke to the opera. She trying to rescue him from his slovenly blogger existence. It’s sweet actually. Too bad she will FAIL!”

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Yisroel Pensack: The New York Times Reports On Senator’s Aid To An Aide

The New York Times is currently running this headline on its home page:  "Senator’s Aid After Affair Raises Ethics Flag".  The sentence on the home page under that headline says, "Experts say Senator John Ensign may have violated ethics laws by helping an aide get work after having an affair with his wife."

After figuring out that it was the senator’s help, or aid, to his aide that raised the flag rather than the aide himself standing at the flagpole, I was still wondering whether the aide might have been unethically rewarded for having an affair with the senator’s wife, or whether the senator himself had an affair with the aide’s wife.  I hope nobody involved got AIDS.

Fortunately, the article and headline here clarify everything.

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