Work On The Thinking First

I’m nearing the end of my three years of training to become an Alexander Technique teacher and I’m feeling quite rebellious.

I’ve been drilled that when it comes to working with students, you must first work on their thinking.

This is regarded as superior to the generally English method of teaching that stresses first getting your hands on the student to give them a kinesthetic sense of ease.

I don’t think one way is superior. If you silently put your hands on the student and guide him through a procedure such as walking or getting in and out of a chair, you are working with the student’s thinking just as much as if you sat apart from the student and gave them a learned discourse on the profound teachings of F.M. Alexander.

“Thinking” is not something that takes place apart from the body. And moving the body does not take place apart from the emotions and from the thinking. The human being is a unity of thinking, feeling and body.

Now, some people seem to have great bodies but their thinking and emotions appear to be a mess. This is a topic of great importance that I will leave for another blog post.

It does not matter to me that teachers of the Alexander Technique proudly proclaim that the Technique is not body work. Gasp! I disagree with the dogma of my profession!

I know that Alexander teachers think of themselves as much more prestigious than regular practicioners of body work. We’re above the messy decaying sexual body. We work primarily with the mind.

That’s a delusion. When we’re working with the mind, we’re working with the body. Mind and body are one. There’s nothing wrong with looking at the Alexander Technique as body work just as there’s nothing wrong with looking at football as life and death.

Of course football is much more than life and death. So too, Alexander Technique is body work but also much more than body work just as I am not just a gorgeous hunk of well-coordinated ebonics in motion, I’m also a lofty intellectual who loves the songs of Barry Manilow.

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It’s All Working Together Now

I have two main goals for my life and work right now — be my best self (by practicing the principles of the Alexander Technique) and meet as many people as possible.

I don’t need to sell people. I can just reply when they ask what I do for a living that I am an Alexander Technique teacher. Half the time, people ask me, “What’s that?”

I say, “It’s a way of noticing how you respond to stimuli and letting go of those responses that don’t serve you.”

If they’re interested, they might say, “What does that mean?”

I can say, “Well, if a loud noise went off behind you right now, you’d probably react by sticking your head out, raising your shoulders, tightening and compressing your neck and your torso and generally making yourself as small as possible. Most people get stuck in a version of this fight-or-flight reflex and they walk around locked and loaded. They go through a minor version of fight-or-flight whenever they encounter stimuli such as speaking to a stranger or getting in and out of a chair or simply walking across the room while people are watching them. With Alexander Technique, we can learn to let go of this fight-or-flight reflex when it does not serve us, which is most of the time (unless we’re faced with a hungry tiger).”

Then people might say, “How much do you charge?”

I say, “A hundred dollars for an hour lesson.”

And I hand them my business card.

I’m off to the races of my new career.

What’s good for me and what’s good for my career are now one and the same — to be my best self and to meet as many people as possible.

I can’t remember when all the parts of my life worked together. It might never have happened before.

This is all good.

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This Week’s Torah Portion – Parashat Noach (Genesis 6:9-11:32)

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This week we study Parashat Noach (Genesis 6:9-11:32).

* I thought we’d start by me giving Rabbi Rabbs an Aura Soma reading. After all, you are the colors you choose.

* Then we’ll do a cooking show. Tonight I’ll demonstrate how to prepare raw oats with almond milk. First you take the raw oats. You pour them into your bowl. Then you go to the frig and add almond milk. Mix. Sit down in front of your computer and eat.

Rabbi Ari Kahn writes: “Rashi paints the practice of taking two wives in unmistakably negative terms: this is the behavior of the generation of the flood. One wife was wed for solely utilitarian purposes: she was to bear children and work in the household. The other wife was designated for pleasure: she would be rendered infertile by means of a birth-control potion, for the sake of maintaining her figure. This “trophy wife” would dress in beautiful clothing and eat delicacies while the other wife worked.4 While this practice was not the main transgression of the generation of the flood, it is certainly among the morally reprehensible behaviors our sages regarded as the cause of the flood.5 In fact, similar practices continued to draw harsh rebuke in the words of the prophets – and are tragically echoed in our own day and age. The prophets Malakhi and Yeshayahu saw this practice as an expression
of immorality and disloyalty, and warned that God Himself would treat
whoever was disloyal to “the wife of his youth” in kind.”

* I have this problem in my relationships. I often chose girlfriends for pleasure and I made them take a birth control potion for the sake of maintaining their figure. Oy vey!

Rabbi Ari Kahn: “The Talmud stressed that the bonds between a young man and his bride are sacred in a way that no other union can equal.”

“The Jewish ethos abhors the rejection of the first wife. This is the case not only when a man takes two wives, but also if he casts aside the first wife, the older woman who has borne his children and built her life around him and their home, in favor of a younger woman. Lemekh was the first to create the impossible situation of “eating your cake and having it too” – one wife for work and one wife for play.”

* What does it mean the world became corrupt? Rashi says sexual immorality and idolatry. The problem was that the society made this corruption legal. They celebrated it. Rashi on Gen. 6:1 says the society was so corrupt that they took whatever woman they wanted, or whatever man they wanted or animal they wanted. And this was legal. According to the midrash, this society was so corrupt that when two men got married, they had ceremonies for it. It is one thing to be raped. It is another thing to find yourself married to the rapist. Now we get the Noahide laws forbidding homosexual, adulterous and incestuous relations. (Rabbi Ari Kahn, 75% thru lecture)

* I’m amazed at how much one rabbi can influence a synagogue. If he’s a powerful enough personality, a rabbi can shape a whole shul in his image. This has happened for instance at Bnai David-Judea and YICC. Beth Jacob’s power is distributed between the rabbi and the board. In Hasidic shuls, the rebbe can hold particularly dramatic sway.

What do I think is the best measure of a rabbi’s influence? How much he can get his congregants to study Torah.

By contrast, the story of Noah shows that a righteous man can have no effect on those around him if they’re wicked. A decent person such as myself can be influenced to study more Torah and to observe more commandments and be more of a mentch, but many people can not be changed for the good.

Rabbi Berel Wein writes: “It is not the trauma of the Flood itself that so depresses Noach as much as it is that somehow he has not found a way to communicate his message to his society and even to his own family. We are told little about Noach after his family disappointments upon emerging from the ark. He is apparently sapped of his will to influence others after so many years of being rejected. He sees no basic difference in post-flood humankind than in pre-flood humankind.”

“The true test of spiritual leadership is what happens after one’s dreaded disappointments have proven to have been accurate. Since Noach could not save his generation prior to the flood, he somehow gave up on the generations after the flood as well.”

Almost everything we build up over our lifetimes will fall apart. Almost all of our achievements will turn to sand.

* Rabbi Wein writes: The deleterious effects of alcohol abuse are clearly evident in this week’s parsha. Noach, after the trauma of the great flood and the destruction of his society and world, somehow drowns his sorrows in wine and becomes drunk and loses control over himself. From that incident, further tragedies, curses and disasters arise until it seems that the entire exercise of the flood seems to have been purposeless and irrelevant.

The scourge of alcohol related tragedies that was for many years almost unknown in the Jewish world is today commonplace in our society. Binge drinking by kippah-wearing youths is now an accepted way of life in the Diaspora and here in Israel as well. If one has any doubts about the effects of such behavior on family life, employment success and social interactions, let him spend five minutes speaking to Dr. Abraham Twerski. He will quickly disabuse (no pun intended) you of such a fanciful untrue notion. Automobile fatalities, broken families and homes and marriages, violent behavior and an attitude of uncontrolled hedonism all are products of the vineyard of Noach.

Because of this alarming situation in the Jewish world there are now synagogues that ban any form of liquor except for kiddush wine from being served or located on its premises. The excuses of Purim and Simchat Torah may have been valid for previous generations of sober minded Jews. In a generation of over indulgence and uncontrolled materialism, such as ours resembles, alcohol has become lethal to Jewish life, behavior and values.

* Rabbi Wein writes: God’s promise regarding floods and ice ages not recurring in such a cataclysmic fashion is, according to the rabbis, limited to only the destruction of the world by water. It does not address other forms of potential disaster.

Noach’s world was one of greed, oppression, financial and physical corruption and unbridled sexual excess and licentiousness. Well, tragically and unfortunately, our world also resembles such a state of human affairs. Noach is apparently unable to cope with his world. He builds his protective ark and rides out the storm.

…Noach, so to speak, does not move on from the events of the flood. All of his previous years of effort in building the ark and obeying God’s commandment are seemingly wasted because of his inability to capitalize on his miraculous survival. Though he survives, he is also a victim of that flood. This explains, in a way, his strange decision to plant a vineyard, harvest the grapes and then himself become drunk on the resultant wine.

* Nimrod was a charismatic black man who came to rule his society and dramatically increase the role of government. He wanted to pass universal health care coverage. “Yes, we can!” was his slogan.

Rabbi Berel Wein writes: “So the world‘s peoples spoke only one language and spoke only of one way and one goal. This unity, which at first glance always appears to be so desirable, soon sank into a cold, ruthless and murderous conformity. Big Brother Nimrod controlled everything and everybody and anyone who dared to express a dissenting opinion – such as Avraham – was immediately consigned to the furnace of destruction.”

“I do not think that there is a greater diversity in any section of Jewry than the one that exists in the religious, observant sector. Yet, the Jews that compose this core section of Jewry, in spite of political and even ideological issues of significant difference, still retain a certain sense of unity of purpose, behavior and affinity one to another.”

“The rabbis in the Talmud stated, “Just as no two human beings are ever exactly alike physically, so too no two human beings ever share exactly the same opinions and thoughts [about life and events.]” The rabbis were not complaining about this state of affairs. They were merely pointing out the reality of the human condition. Thus they saw unity of purpose for good causes – those advocated by the Torah and Jewish tradition – as a positive goal to be achieved. But they warned us not to confuse unity of purpose with conformity of thought and style. Conformity is an outer feature of life – everyone dressed the same and apparently behaving in like fashion – while unity is more a matter of the heart and soul, of the inner self of the Jew.”

* Rabbi Wein writes: “The grandeur of our times is that even though many Jews have given up on themselves, have intermarried, assimilated, secularized, and disappeared, the Jewish people as an entity has followed the path of Avraham and not Noach. Not only is the State of Israel an example of Jewish determination and constancy, but the strong development of a Torah life-style amongst large numbers of Jewish communities the world over, is a testimony to dealing with and defeating tragedy.”

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High Anxiety

I live in a state of high anxiety. It’s been particularly acute for the past month as I’ve moved out of my residence for more than 14 years and crashed with friends for two weeks before moving into a new place.

I’m not exactly sure when walking down the street became a tense experience for me because I kept seeing so many car accidents about to happen that never do, but if I had to put a date on it, I’d say since late October of 2007 when I abandoned my source of income for the past 12 years and fell into debt as I developed my new career.

When I walk down the street these days, I keep seeing cars about to hit each other. I keep seeing drivers not paying attention. I see mothers cycling by with their babies attached precariously. I see disaster about to strike.

When I let go of a door after holding it open for others for an inordinate time, I feel myself falling through space as I anticipate tragedy. I expect someone to get smacked and injured because I gave up holding the door.

When I detach myself from one conversation at a party, it’s sometimes agony. I feel like I’m falling through space. I think I’m anxious that even though this conversation was dull, the next one may be impossible to find, so I’ll end up wandering alone and pathetic through the party and everyone will know I’m a loser.

So my life these days is constant anxiety about disasters that never happen.

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Morry’s Fireplace Hosted A Big Simchat Torah Party Thursday Night

So I came out of the Happy Minyan about 9:30 p.m. Thursday and walked east on Pico Blvd. I noticed a huge crowd outside Morry’s Fireplace (operated by Aish HaTorah).

Aish used some sharp thinking to set up this meeting place. Instead of going to clubs, young Jews can hang out at Morry’s and meet each other.

So I think about 300 young Jews, average age of about 25, were milling around outside the place. I pushed my way in. It was jammed. There was a mehitza but it was pointless. The place was packed and the men and women’s sides were equally filled with the opposite sex.

I haven’t seen such a jammed Jewish event on Pico Blvd ever.

What caught my attention was that 95% of the crowd was Persian.

My theory and my experience is that Persians tend to need less personal space than those born in America. Your typical Ashkenazi Jew born and bred in America would look at this event and think, “Way too crowded. I’m out of here.” The typical Persian thinks, “This is crowded. Interesting. Wonder what’s going on?”

I notice most Israelis don’t have the same need for personal space as Americans.

I grew up a WASP (White Anglo-Saxon Protestant). I converted to Orthodox Judaism. WASPs tend to need more personal space than Orthodox Jews.

I spent about 15 years in Modern Orthodoxy before switching to Chabad a couple of years ago. I notice that the Modern Orthodox expect much more personal space than do Hasidic Jews.

Persians, Israelis and other Middle Easterners tend to push and shove and to need less personal space than westernized Ashkenazi Jews who in turn push and shove more than WASPs, who are known for their reserve.

Thursday night, many of the Persians were on their cell phones. This crowd was overwhelmingly non-observant, but they had shown up to a Simchat Torah event.

When your typical Western Ashkenazi Jew abandons Jewish observance, he stops showing up to Jewish events, but most Persian Jews in America tend to be traditional. They’ll still show up to Jewish events such as Passover even if they don’t observe Jewish law. They might go to shul Shabbos morning and then drive to soccer practice Saturday afternoon.

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You Are The Colors You Choose

I’ve become intrigued by Aura Soma – a soul reading aura cleansing technique developed by a blind woman in the 1980s.

I sat down with a practicioner last week in front of this website and picked my four colored bottles in this order — Physical Rescue, Archangel Raphael, Peace, Spiritual Rescue. After that, I chose Energy Rescue and Energy.

My primary concern right now is physical survival. Economic survival. Paying the rent and the health insurance and the credit card bills. So I was struck that the first colored bottle I chose represented physical rescue, the thing I want most right now.

I was later struck by my desire for spiritual rescue, also one of my prime concerns.

Maybe there’s something to this idea that the colors we choose say something about us.

Here are some of the likely challenges for people who choose the Physical Rescue bottle: “These people can be out of touch with their own emotions.There can be a coldness connected with this colour. Often these people hide their true feelings and identity from others just as the beautiful deep magenta base hides the rich depth of magenta within itself, seen if you hold a torch or flashlight behind it. There can be a desire for perfection that separates them from other more imperfect beings.”

Here are some of the likely challenges for people who choose the Archangel Raphael bottle: “This person may have huge survival and security issues with the material aspects of life. Is unable to go inside and listen to the voice of their higher self guiding. May be resisting waking from the dream. A lack of trust in the inner wisdom and a lack of understanding of universal laws and principals. Not allowing the perceptions to come through to the heart and mind. A person who might refuse to evolve or even admit that any change is taking place. Someone who cannot see the forest for the trees.”

Here are some of the likely challenges for people who choose the Peace bottle: “Difficulty in finding inner and outer peace. There may be difficulty balancing the active and passive aspects of the personality, or the male/female models within the self. This person may be overly active in the area of promoting social or community well being at the expense of the nurturing and support of close relationships.”

Here are some of the likely challenges for people who choose the Spiritual Rescue bottle: “A tendency if not careful, to be occupied excessively with spiritual matters, and therefore be of little “earthly good”. There can also be a tendency toward foolishness, self-deception, and a lack of restraint. There is often a lack of self-love and a need to be loved – “the wounded carer”.”

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JEWISH EDUCATIONAL MOVEMENT VS 6401 WILSHIRE BOULEVARD LLC

Case Type: Breach Contrct/Warnty(Sellr Pltf) (General Jurisdiction)
Case#: BC471757
CASE NAME: JEWISH EDUCATIONAL MOVEMENT VS 6401 WILSHIRE BOULEVARD LLC
Parties: 6401 WILSHIRE BOULAVARD LLC – Def/Res,BBNAB LLC – Def/Res,DOES 1 TO 20 – Def/Res,FOX JANICE – Def/Res,GARSHOFSKY FAMILY TRUST – Def/Res,GIBSON HUGH JOHN – Def/Res,JEWISH EDUCATIONAL MOVEMENT – PL/PET,KAUFLER PHILLIP – Def/Res,MASKET ALEXANDER – Def/Res
Attorneys: NEJADPOUR F. BARI ESQ. – Attorney for PL/PET
Date Filed: 10/18/2011
Case Summary: http://www.lasuperiorcourt.org/civilCaseSummary/

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Republican Debate ‘Not An Uplifting Evening’

On his radio show today, Dennis Prager said: “The Rick Perry attack on Mitt Romney… You hired an illegal years ago. If that’s the way he feels he’s going to win an election, let me find a petty scandal, then I’ve lost respect for him. That’s bottom of the barrel tactics. It’s a near impossibility in domestic life in the United States that someone won’t get into your life who’s not in the United States legally. What do you do when you hire somebody to tend your garden in the back yard? Show me your American citizenship?”

“We’ve made it impossible for normal people to run for office. The media has done this. This is what it plays up.”

“There’s no room in these debates for vision. It’s all policy. You end up with people with little vision and a series of little policies. Mitt Romney has a 59-point plan for the economy. What American is going to read it? This is not the way it was. Watch the Kennedy-Nixon debate. You realize how substantive it was and how non-wonky it was. Now it is people up there citing data.”

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I Try To Heal The Past By Reconnecting With Old Friends

I want to undo it by reconnecting with people from my past and doing it better. I want a second chance.

Shame is a big thing for me. When I think back upon the past, I often wince. It is often unbearably embarrassing and shameful to me.

I think I’ve sexualized a lot of this anxiety, and I have tried to solve many of these emotions through having as much sex as possible.

I keep thinking I am so much further along than the awkward loser I used to be, that I am so much more mature, that I can do it better now.

I’m eager to engage many people from my childhood to try to make myself feel better that I’ve changed, matured, grown wiser and kinder.

In such interactions, I often gain an increased measure of peace about myself and my life choices and my frailties.

Greg Leake emails: Hi Luke,

I don’t think I have ever known anyone who has worked as hard as you have to redeem themselves and solve psychological quirks that may have led them into things they regret.

You have worked with this sexaholic organization, you have worked diligently to become an Alexander Technique teacher, you gave up your business and rigorously live the life of an observant Jew. The work that you have put into trying to resolve your difficulties and be a better Luke Ford is really remarkable and admirable.

I hope your friends realize that if anyone has recognized their misdeeds and worked to become a better person, it is you. I didn’t mention the years of psychology.

If work and effort and conscientiousness and concern can help make a human being a better person, then you are an example for us all.

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My Scary Van Dating Stories

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