Narcissists Watch More Porn: Enter Eroticized Rage

Linda Hatch writes: For the narcissistic sex addict, compulsively seeking out pornography on the internet does more that just provide sexual arousal and gratification. Remember, the narcissist who cannot resist internet porn may be being triggered by an intense need to rebuild his fragile facade. The addict is feeling unworthy, rejected, and “less than”. But porn can and does put that fragile Humpty Dumpty back together again.

Patrick Carnes in his article on eroticized rage describes the mechanisms by which sexual acting out behavior can be a way to cope with anger. The average person whose ego has been somehow deflated may feel embarrassed, humbled or dejected. But the person whose narcissistic bubble has been burst feels mostly outraged and resentful. There is no soul-searching, only the feeling of something intolerable and the impulse to change it.

Porn is a fantasy outlet offering a perfect escape from narcissistic wounding. It takes a person who feels outraged and victimized and offers them a quick fix through:

• Restoration of parity

The scenarios depicted in online porn images and videos have the power to change feelings of being one-down or undesirable and make them into their opposite. This restores the person’s sense of self. I had a client whose addictive pattern was to hang around coffee shops and look at attractive, much younger women. He would then realize that he could not “have” these women and go home to a marathon of pornography use. He particularly liked the fact that these fantasy women were “always there for me.”

• Getting even
When the addict feels victimized he or she may respond by using pornography to get even or turn the tables. The fantasy scenarios involved may be ones of revenge or humiliation but not always. For the person who feels abandoned and rejected by a partner, the mere fact of indulging in porn may be a violation of trust and therefore an act of revenge.

• Defiance of convention

Doing what is seen as perverse provides an outlet for anger and an affirmation of one’s own uniqueness and importance. Once again, it reaffirms the battered ego by means of getting away with something exciting and risky. It says “I am important enough that I play by different rules.”

Because the fantasy escape into porn merely restores the narcissist’s false self, it does not last. There is no permanent strengthening of the sense of self, only the repairing of the narcissistic facade.

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Would You Buy A Used Car From Me?

I’ve never worked in sales. The prospect of such a job fills me with dread, but many people tell me I have the gift of the gab. Maybe I should be more open-minded?

Would you buy a used car from me?

Oz writes: “I can see you talking about Japanese IQ scores while trying to sell a Toyota.”

Chaim Amalek writes: “And why not? Who would you rather built that new car you are about to commit spending 30K on: a high I.Q. Japanese manufacturing battalion, or some drunken Irishmen (or worse)?”

I’ve been trying out the slogan, “At Ford, quality is job one”.

Phig: “Would be an awesome tagline for you to end dates with.”

Steven: “There’s a Ford in your future!”

The boss says to me: “You’re a living legend, but what kind of legend?”

So in a recent job, I asked the boss if I could make fun of him and he said yes, and I did, and then there was no more work for me. Hmm. Correlation?

Another boss complained that while my memory of the naked twister story is impeccable, when he has asked me to do some elementary things, I was all confusion.

I asked my rebbe for advice and he said: “The only answer I can come up with off the top of my head is that you write a serious book that is not about you (sorry!) but perhaps about some big topic. And you have plenty at hand. But do you have the discipline to write about such a topic?”

Oy, I started my day being completely wrong about the location of something (I said another bloke had it when it was in my cabinet).

Great technique for dealing with difficult people. Say, “I’m confused when you say X…” Only elucidate if you think they can hear you. Otherwise just say, “Hey, my confusion is my problem.”

My favorite saying when I get caught: “This isn’t what it looks like!”

The past is never past. It lives with us each day.

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Israel’s Disproportionate Response To Nepal Earthquake

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LAT: Aide to Kamala Harris, 2 others accused of running rogue police force

Story:

An aide to state Atty. Gen. Kamala D. Harris and two others are accused of operating a rogue police force that claimed to exist for more than 3,000 years and have jurisdiction in 33 states and Mexico, authorities said Tuesday…

A website identifying itself as the police force’s official site describes what makes the group unique: “When asked what is the difference between the Masonic Fraternal Police Department and other Police Departments the answer is simple for us. We were here first!”

The website adds: “We are born into this Organization our bloodlines go deeper then an application. This is more then a job it is an obligation.”

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Marriage, Illegitimacy & Politics

Comment to Steve Sailer: For a somewhat more enlightening analysis of how marriage and illegitimacy correlates with politics, see this USA Today article from nine years.

Excerpts:

“House Democratic leader Nancy Pelosi, a Catholic mother of five from San Francisco, has fewer children in her district than any other member of Congress: 87,727. Rep. Chris Cannon, R-Utah, a Mormon father of eight, represents the most children: 278,398.”

“GOP Congress members represent 39.2 million children younger than 18, about 7 million more than Democrats. Republicans average 7,000 more children per district.”

“Rep. José Serrano, D-N.Y., has 227,246 children in his Bronx district, the 10th most in the House. Only 29% of those children live with married parents. By contrast, 84% of children live with married parents in Cannon’s central Utah district.”

“Democrats control only one of the 50 districts with the highest marriage rates.”

And now watch as the Democrat lays on the bullshit:

“Rep. Rush Holt, D-N.J., who represents the most-married Democratic district (32nd overall), discounts the importance of the marriage rates. ‘It’s a statistic without meaning,” he says. “If you look at numbers from enough different angles, you can see almost anything.’”

Got that? 49 of the 50 most-married congressional districts are Republican and that supposedly means nothing.

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Tried Alexander Technique?

* Fashion designer Celia Birtwell says: “The Alexander Technique, which helps with posture and balance. Many years ago, my back was very painful due to poor posture. I was sceptical, but it sorted out my problem after a few months.”

* Elise Eberle: “Her entire body and every movement in it carries the weight of all the horror Mercy has been through. I had the chance to speak with Eberle at the “Salem” press junket last month and ask her how she prepares for such a daunting task put upon her body. She spoke of The Alexander Technique and releasing tension in her body (in a way, she’s releasing her own tension to fill our own bodies with tension). “Being aware of your body is such an important thing,” Eberle said, “It’s important [to understand] where your body is and how you can use it to your advantage. I love physical acting. It’s a pretty perfect role and I’m so blessed to have it.” This girl knows what she’s doing and it is the most stunning thing to watch.”

* NEWS: A MARRIED schoolmaster has insisted he did not grope young boys and was simply using the Alexander Technique to help them relax.

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What Is It Like To Be A Minority?

From Amerika.org: Let me portray for you how it appears to be a minority in society:
You are a captured and defeated people. The wealth here and the laws that protect you are things you could not invent for yourselves. The leaders who do well are not of your people. You are protected by laws that are inherently condescending, and you face a Damoclean choice with police: either they treat you like children and let you get away with murder, which is infuriating, or they force you to obey the rules of the majority, which is humiliating. You face the same choice with personal behavior. You can have your culture and identity but forever be an outsider, a freak to the majority, or you can assimilate and appear to be something exactly as nasty as the term “oreo” implies, someone who gave up who they were to be an Uncle Tom. This applies to every minority in every country and it is why throughout history diversity has been a red flag of the failure of an empire, not its “strength” as our zombie-robot politicians claim.

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Why Are Some People Smart?

From Wired:

“You cannot ask a kid with low IQ to just work hard and then become a really talented mathematician,” he says. “It’s impossible.” And yet, Zhao says, that’s what is currently expected in China. He wants to stop the vast majority of Chinese students from wasting their time.

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You First!

A friend: Why aren’t you rich? Why aren’t you married? Why aren’t you a father?
Luke: You first.
Friend: This is not a Craigslist ad, where we negotiate who gets the right of first refusal by being second to send along a photo.
Luke: Because of my own failings to prioritize earnings and community over everything else.
Friend: Nebech, you would have had it all had you stayed in porn.

* Normally I awake on my own, but this morning my alarm brought me out of a vivid dream that I was reduced to living out of my van and was begging friends to let me park and live on their property.

* I overheard today a Yid saying: “A Jewish guy from New York who was in the textile business got a good deal? There’s a shock.”

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White Nationalist Environmentalist Garrett Hardin

The SPLC calls Garrett Hardin a white nationalist.

Most of the SPLC’s complaints against him are “hate facts,” unpleasant truths the SPLC can’t refute.

Jeff* emails: Dear Luke,

It was great to see you mention Garrett Hardin in your blog. His original books all went out of print, but a number of them which are collections of shorter articles, have been put together in various anthologies. Their publication has been underwritten in part by Billionaire Charles Munger (Warren Buffett’s business partner) and iconoclastic and highly intelligent lawyer who founded one of Los Angeles’s preminent law firms, Munger, Tolles and Olson. His son, Charles, Jr. holds a PhD in physics from Stanford and is currently involved in trying to revitalize the moderate wing of the Republican party that once had a substantial foothold in the San Francisco Penninsula and Santa Clara County and his daughter Molly is a lawyer involved in education reform movements. He lives in Hancock Park. He is the owner of the Daily Journal, the legal newspaper.

He gave a provocative speech to the graduating class at USC law school in 2007. He is someone who values intelligence.

As you probably know, the conservation movement in this United States was driven by progressive Republicans-Theodore Roosevelt and Gifford Pinchot- in the early part of the twentieth century for Roosevelt and up through the 30’s with Pinchot.

Hardin ended up in Santa Barbara where Robert Maynard Hutchins retired to and set up an institute (Now the Center for the Study of Democratic Institutions, affiliated with UCSB) after he was forced out of the University of Chicago.

Hardin was probably the deepest thinker/philosopher of the Environmental Movement the later 1960’s, at the time of Earth Day in 1970 up through the mid-1980’s He was favorably thought of and mentioned in the Whole Earth Catalog by its Editor/Publisher Stewart Brand.

But this was when the environmental movement was motivated by Zero Population Growth, which was very much in favor of birth control and abortion in third world countries, which was an outgrowth of Paul Ehrlich’s bestseller, The Population Bomb. The Sierra Club was headed by David Brower and more concerned with saving the environment and wilderness, than with environmental and social justice. No one was concerned that the leadership of these organizations were all white and mostly men.

From SPLC:

Date of Birth: 1915
Date of Death: 2003
Groups: Federation for American Immigration Reform; The Social Contract Press
Ideology: White Nationalist
Garrett Hardin was a prolific and controversial writer whose 1968 article “The Tragedy of the Commons” launched him onto the national stage as one of the intellectual leaders of the environmental movement. Hardin used his status as a famous scientist and environmentalist to provide a veneer of intellectual and moral legitimacy for his underlying nativist agenda, serving on the board of directors of both the anti-immigrant Federation for American Immigration Reform and the white-nationalist Social Contract Press. He also co-founded the anti-immigrant Californians for Population Stabilization and The Environmental Fund, which primarily served to lobby Congress for nativist and isolationist policies.

In his own words:
“Promoters of more diversity maintain that the more immigrants the better; and the greater the variety the richer America will become. Many of these promoters are ‘Europhobic’ — fearful of, or revolted by, European civilization and values. They say we should stop taking in North Europeans, urging us instead to solicit the Filipinos, the Taiwanese and the Salvadorans… . Diversity is the opposite of unity, and unity is a prime requirement for national survival.”
—“How Diversity Should be Nurtured,” The Social Contract, 1991

“During the first part of the 20th century, immigration to the United States was biased to favor those who were most like the people who created this legal entity — the northern Europeans. … Then popular anthropology came along with its dogma that all cultures are equally good and valuable. To say otherwise was to be narrow-minded and prejudiced, to be guilty of the sin of ethnocentrism… . That which was foreign and strange, particularly if persecuted, became the ideal. Black became beautiful, and prolonged bilingual education replaced naturalization.”
—“Conspicuous Benevolence and the Population Bomb,” Chronicles, 1991

“The Ford Foundation (and other organizations financed by American money) have allotted many millions of dollars to nondemocratic Latino organizations that are determined to revise the political structure of the United States. … We have no reason to suppose that suicidal political organizations will never succeed in creating a chaotic NorteAmericano Central. The human species may not self-destruct; but what we like to call ‘human civilization’ may.”
—“The Persistence of the Species,” Politics and the Life Sciences, 1999

“My position is that this idea of a multiethnic society is a disaster. That’s what we’ve got in Central Europe, and in Central Africa. A multiethnic society is insanity. I think we should restrict immigration for that reason.”
—Interview with The Social Contract, 1997

Background:
For almost 60 years, Garrett Hardin used his authority as a respected, if controversial, ecologist at the University of California, Santa Barbara, to integrate nativist attitudes towards race and immigration into the American environmentalist movement. He portrayed overpopulation as an existential threat, and based many of his arguments on racist, pseudo-scientific assertions about immigrants’ fertility rates. Supported by grants from the Pioneer Fund, a foundation dedicated to the promotion of racist pseudo-science, Hardin prophesied a total collapse of civilization if immigration, particularly non-white immigration, was allowed to continue unabated. He worked within both academic and activist circles to make immigration an environmental issue by convincing the public that impending environmental disaster could only be averted by sealing the borders, cutting off relief efforts and foreign aid to poor nations, and working to purge as much ethnic and cultural diversity from the United States as possible.

Hardin wrote for two very different audiences over the course of his career. His scientific publications targeted the educated public, and in them he worked to establish immigration as a plausible ecological threat while loudly disavowing any racist intent. At the same time, however, Hardin also published numerous articles in far-right publications, including The Social Contract, a nativist magazine founded by anti-immigration activist John Tanton and edited by Wayne Lutton, and Chronicles, a far-right magazine controversial even among conservatives for its racism and anti-Semitism. In these venues, he insisted that the United States and northern Europe were in danger of being overrun by non-white hordes, especially Latinos and Muslims. He framed these views in terms of ethnic struggle, claiming that “there are two forms [of genocide]. Active genocide is the sort one first thinks of — Hitler killing six million Jews. But there is another form — more subtle, less obvious, but potentially equally effective — that we may call passive genocide. The way this works was recently revealed in … remarks by Ali Akbar Hashemi Rafsanjani, the speaker of the Iranian parliament… Translated bluntly, ‘We Muslims are going to outbreed you.’ … If two cultures compete for the same bit of ‘turf’ (environment), and if one of the populations increases faster than the other, then year by year, the population that is reproducing faster will increasingly outnumber the slower one. … This is passive genocide.”

Hardin used the specter of environmental destruction and ethnic conflict to promote policies that can be fairly described as fascist. Concerned that ethnic solidarity would lead minorities in the United States to liberalize immigration policy, Hardin argued that “[t]he double question Who benefits? Who pays? suggests that a restriction of the usual democratic franchise would be appropriate and just in this case.” Moreover, he regularly insisted that to prevent catastrophe, American culture would have to adopt radically new values, especially regarding reproductive freedoms. In 1963, Hardin began publicly advocating for women’s reproductive rights. With the 1968 publication of “The Tragedy of the Commons,” however, he began calling for the United States to reject the UN Declaration of Human Rights, explicitly arguing that the government should adopt coercive measures to prevent women (especially, as he argued elsewhere, non-white women) from reproducing. According to Hardin, certain racial groups have “adopt[ed] overbreeding as a policy to secure [their] own aggrandizement,” and because of this, he argued, “the freedom to breed is intolerable.”

Hardin was generally coy about what coercive measures he had in mind to prevent the “wrong” people from breeding, although in various outlets he praised China’s one-child policy and suggested that forcible sterilization was a viable option. In later interviews, he admitted that he used the rhetoric of women’s rights to cloak his true interest in abortion and sterilization, because “[t]o mention abortion’s effect on population growth would be to arouse the suspicion that I was a nasty Nazi.”

Unsurprisingly, Hardin evinced a lifelong interest in eugenics and racial differences. He fiercely denounced the “equalitarians” who pointed out that there was no evidence to support his racist beliefs in the intellectual, psychological, and moral inferiority of nonwhites. Hardin was one of 52 signatories to Linda Gottfredson’s infamous 1994 Wall Street Journal op-ed, “Mainstream Science on Intelligence,” which claimed, among other things, that the average IQ among the black population was only 85, and that the average black 17-year-old was the mental equivalent of the average white 13-year-old. His beliefs about black intellectual inferiority take on even darker connotations when laid alongside his assertion in an undergraduate biology textbook that “[t]here seems to be little danger of society’s being deprived of something valuable by the sterilization of all feeble-minded individuals.” Demonstrating definitively that his concern with overpopulation was primarily a cover for his racist ideology, Hardin opposed groups like Zero Population Growth, which encouraged their primarily white membership to remain child-free. Richard Lynn, another signatory of “Mainstream Science on Intelligence” and noted purveyor of racist psychological theories, praised Hardin for his willingness to argue “that this would be dysgenic because the peoples of the first world are more intelligent than those in the third world.”

Hardin’s interest in curtailing both the immigration and reproduction of ethnic minorities in the United States was part of a broader program of white separatism. Hardin usually obfuscated this stance in mainstream publications; however, in 1990 he gave an interview to Californians for Population Stabilization, an anti-immigrant organization he co-founded. In this interview, he laid out his belief that nations should be segregated along ethnic and religious lines, arguing that “we will have the greatest success if the diversity is spatially isolated to a considerable extent; that is, if you get inside of one nation equal proportions of all the world’s cultures, all the world’s ethnic groups, all the world’s religions, you will have such a mixture that there’ll be nothing but internal warfare, and it’ll be absolutely dreadful.” When asked if he was advocating for segregation, he responded, “Segregat[ion] by nation, not by neighborhoods within a nation. See, that’s a different thing; the same word, segregation, but if we segregate by nations, then peace is possible.”

Hardin’s anti-immigrant rhetoric often revolved around his belief that immigrants came to the United States in order to steal the wealth and privilege that they, and the cultures they came from, were incapable of providing for themselves. From this starting point, he argued that not only was immigration intolerable, but that foreign aid, particularly disaster relief, was allowing poor nations to live beyond their means, and should thus be cut off. The Environmental Fund, which was founded by Hardin and funded by Cordelia Scaife May, right-wing activist and heiress to the Mellon-Scaife fortune, lobbied against P.L. 480, the “Food for Peace” program that sells heavily subsidized surplus grain to famine-stricken nations. While unsuccessful at having it repealed, he took credit for convincing Congress to let the program “wither on the vine,” calling this “success” the Fund’s hallmark achievement.

Hardin’s opposition to famine relief made his opposition to immigration even more striking. He singled out refugees in a number of his writings, portraying them as greedy freeloaders. One of his favorite rhetorical tactics was to describe nations as lifeboats, each with severely limited resources. Because of these limitations, it was morally acceptable to forbid any more people from boarding a lifeboat that was close to capacity, and in some cases it would even be acceptable to throw existing residents “overboard.” In his controversial 1974 essay, “Living on a Lifeboat,” Hardin portrayed refugees as cynically choosing to “fall out of their lifeboats and swim for a while in the water outside, hoping to be admitted to a rich lifeboat, or in some other way to benefit from the ‘goodies’ on board.”

Ironically, he acknowledged that white Americans had no good moral claim to their own “goodies,” but when asked if the land their wealth was built on should be given back to the native population from whom it had been stolen, he said “[a]s an exercise in pure logic, I see no way to reject this proposal. Yet I am unwilling to live by it. … Suppose, becoming intoxicated with pure justice, we ‘Anglos’ should decide to turn our land over to the Indians… Then what would we non-Indians do? Where would we go?” Yet anyone asking the same question about nonwhite refugees was not only “irrational,” but “suicidal.”

Despite all this, Hardin is still taken seriously as a scientific and environmental thinker by the broader educated public. Excerpted portions of “The Tragedy of the Commons,” in addition to being assigned in countless college courses, were included in The Oxford Book of Modern Science Writing, edited by Richard Dawkins, and American Earth: Environmental Writing since Thoreau, edited by Bill McKibben with an introduction by Al Gore, both published in 2008. After his suicide in 2003, The New York Times published an obituary of Hardin in which its strongest criticism was simply that he “saw his harsh message on overpopulation as a form of tough love.”

Over the course of his career, Hardin wrote 27 books and over 350 articles, many of which were frank in their racism and quasi-fascist ethnonationalism. Nevertheless, whenever Hardin’s views are presented to the public, the white nationalism that unified his thought is invariably glossed over. In general, the only places to find open discussions of the entirety of Hardin’s thought are on white supremacist websites, where he is celebrated as a hero. Articles and comments on VDARE.com, stormfront.org, and The Occidental Quarterly, not to mention publications Hardin personally contributed to like The Social Contract and Chronicles, recognize Hardin as one of the intellectual pillars of modern scientific racism and white separatism. After his death, John Tanton and Wayne Lutton founded the Garrett Hardin Society to continue Hardin’s mission of transforming environmentalism into a weapon to use against immigrants, minorities and poor nations.

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