Category Archives: Narcissism

Human Nature and the Dark Triad

This rings true to me. Due to instability in childhood, I compensated with a grandiose internal conception of myself that I expected the world would one day recognize. Accompanying this delusion, I found it easy to treat people as means … Continue reading

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Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad – and Surprising Good – About Feeling Special

Craig Malkin writes: * narcissism is a learned response, that is, a habit and, like any habit, it gets stronger or weaker depending on circumstances. Narcissists bury normal emotions like fear, sadness, loneliness, and shame because they’re afraid they’ll be … Continue reading

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How Do You Spot Toxic People?

Here are some highlights from the excellent Jackson MacKenzie book, Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People: 1. Gaslighting and crazy-making. They blatantly deny their own manipulative behavior and ignore evidence … Continue reading

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Narcissistic Fathers

If you don’t deal with your past, your past will deal with you. The relationship you have with your inner world reflects your relationship with your mom. The relationship you have with your outer world reflects your relationship with your … Continue reading

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When Narcissists Fall Apart

From The Rawness: Narcissists, without their armor of grandiosity, will fall apart. They reach a point where their armor is the only thing holding them together. Narcissists become what I like to call “grandiosity sharks.” Have you heard how a … Continue reading

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The Fear Inventory

Here are my notes and musings from Tuesday night’s Fourth Step workshop with HerbK: Resentment is the biological survival instinct of anger. Fear is the biological survival instinct of survival. Dishonesty is the biological survival instinct of freezing and hiding. … Continue reading

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How To Let Go Of Narcissism

Walter emails: I believe I can instruct someone on how to dismantle their own narcissism. Ultimately, it’s you who’s got to do it anyway, That’s why narcs are so impossible to treat. A therapist cannot do it for you. However, … Continue reading

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Narcissists Watch More Porn: Enter Eroticized Rage

Linda Hatch writes: For the narcissistic sex addict, compulsively seeking out pornography on the internet does more that just provide sexual arousal and gratification. Remember, the narcissist who cannot resist internet porn may be being triggered by an intense need … Continue reading

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Would I Have Made A Good Spy?

Watching the TV show, The Americans, which many critics regard as the best show on now, I put myself in the place of the protagonists, the Russian spies. Pretty much everything I watch I put myself in the place of … Continue reading

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Narcissism & Humor

Sam Vaknin: The narcissist has a sense of humor but he rarely engages in self-deprecating humor. If he does, he expects to be rebuffed by his listeners. He expects to be commended for his courage and wit. His sense of … Continue reading

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