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Love At First Sight

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

So do you believe in love at first sight? What if you see someone across the room and she smiles and your whole being explodes? I’m not talking about lust. I’m not talking about seeing somebody and all you can think about is wanting to bed them. I’m talking about seeing someone and wanting to talk to them all evening. What if you have a type that you run into a few times over the course of your life, a type that speaks to you beyond reason, moves you in a primordial sense, someone who vaguely recalls your mother?

Is there something to be learned from staring at the photo of an acquaintance, someone who’s polite and you’ve had maybe a total of two hours of conversation with her, and writing out everything that she brings up? If I don’t really know her, then this must be about me. Then surely this is a process of self-knowledge.

I love the dark, demure, mysterious woman, the good girl, the shy one, the one in charge, the teacher’s pet, the lady in the business suit, the one who has what I lack. I want her to hold me while I cry my heart out. Then perhaps we may begin?

All the loves of my life have looked like this:

Just her photo makes my heart ache. Should I talk in therapy why her photos move me so much? It happened the moment I saw her all those years ago. Why does the sight of her walking down the hall shake me up?

There was Cindy in sixth grade, then Denise in seventh, Rainy before 11th grade, Rachel in Australia, and then the two Lisas. Just talking to them, just thinking about them, made me high. I couldn’t hang with them for long. The feelings were too strong. I’d ricochet from frozen to chaotic.

OK, so they tap into my emotional hunger.

Blog: “Self-compassion is about approaching ourselves with caring, kind interest and a desire to help ourselves when we’re in emotional or physical pain, she said. It is about acknowledging painful feelings, allowing them and meeting our needs.”

According to Wikipedia: The concept of a lovemap was originated by John Money to assist a discussion of why people like what they enjoy sexually and erotically. According to Money, it is “a developmental representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting the idealized lover and the idealized program of sexual and erotic activity projected in imagery or actually engaged in with that lover…

Money revisited the concept of ‘love map’ and expanded it to three categories, which are namely, ‘haptoerotic'(cutaneous), ‘morphoerotic’ (visual) and ‘gnomoerotic’ (narrative)…

Money describes the formation of an individual’s lovemap as similar to the acquisition of a native language, in that it bears the mark of his or her own unique individuality, similar to an accent in a spoken language. A lovemap is usually quite specific as to details of the physiognomy, build, race, color, temperament, manner, etc. of the ideal lover (p. 29).[1] Since its inception, the concept of “love maps”, applied to interpersonal relationships, has found apt acceptanc

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God, Torah & The Commandments

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

Historian Marc B. Shapiro writes:

R. Kook argued that there is good reason to observe mitzvot even if one does not have a traditional view of the Torah’s authorship. On the one hand, there is nothing surprising in this. After all, would anyone tell a non-Orthodox Jew that it is OK if he eats on Yom Kippur?[1] R. Kook’s originality is therefore not seen in the bottom line, but in the argument he uses.[2] He notes that Maimonides and other medieval greats used arguments that they themselves did not accept in order to make religious points. For example, Maimonides used an argument that assumed the eternity of matter in order to prove the existence of God.[3] This was valuable in that those who accepted the former point would also be forced to acknowledge the latter point, i.e., God’s existence. Only then could he attempt to weaken the belief in eternity. Similarly, R. Kook is prepared to argue for the binding nature of Torah law even on the assumption that it was not given to Moses. This is valuable since, in his day at least, it was the acceptance of biblical criticism that encouraged people to give up the observance of mitzvot. If R. Kook can therefore show that even an acceptance of biblical criticism does not mean that there is no place for mitzvot, it will be a great achievement.[4]

R. Kook notes that traditional Jews observe rabbinic laws and even customs. His point is that these are regarded as valuable and help form the religious personality Yet no one believes that they were given to Moses by God. Why, then, should believers in biblical criticism not feel bound to other laws, which while traditionally seen as from Sinai, can also be regarded as rabbinic or even as customs (“folkways” in Mordecai Kaplan’s language). In other words, the mitzvot should be seen as having value regardless of their origin.

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I Want The World To Love Me

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

A friend who’s known me since childhood says: “You want everyone to love you. You want to be special to everyone. I so understand you. You have to have been unloved to understand this need.”

“As to NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) you seem to have the background for it. I do not know if you treat people as things or manipulate them. You are unique if you are trying to overcome your lack of empathy and care. Most NPDs don’t recognize they have a problem.”

“Confusing sex and love is typical behavior for NPD.”

Attention is our substitute for connection, intensity for intimacy.

When I was bedridden with CFS between ages 22-27, I once complained to my stepmom that she wasn’t listening to me.

Her friend later explained to her, “Luke needs 500 people listening to him, and if he was well and at UCLA, he’d have that.”

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Preach Equality But Practice Supremacy

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

Preach equality to be socially acceptable, but practice supremacy (put your own group first).

Chaim: “In other words, talk like a Swedish WASP, but think and live like a Japanese. Unfortunately, today’s WASP talks and acts like a WASP.”

* Chaim Amalek: “Whenever a plane is hijacked, crashed, a temple is shot up, a cartoonist is murdered or dozens of school girls are turned into sex slaves, most everyone presumes a muslim is at fault.”

“I think you goyim need a special “Yeshiva for Noahide Goyim” to teach you how to survive in this world. And who better to be the Rosh Yeshiva of this school than Levy ben Abraham?”

“Won’t any Jew step up and teach the goyim who are not our mortal enemies how to make it in this world?”

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The World Cup Of Cricket

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

I tell a friend in Australia via Skype: “We thrashed the Poms by a hundred runs. I was telling everyone at shul about it but they thought I was a dago. They couldn’t care less.”
Mate: “I thought everyone in your area would be on the edge of their seats waiting for that result.”
Luke: “Not even the ones from Australia could care.”
Mate: “Yesterday, India beat Pakistan in Adelaide. It was the biggest TV audience for cricket ever, about 1.2 billion. They had tens of thousands of Indians fly in from India. Tell them that.”
Luke: “They all think a I’m wanker. It doesn’t matter what I say.”
Mate: “A game in the NFL wouldn’t have an audience of 1.2 billion.”
Luke: “The Super Bowl might.”
“I was trying to get anyone to listen to me in shul this morning about the cricket.”
“I must be like a stray dog that keeps coming around. They can’t get rid of me.”

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Blasting The Car Horn

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

So when a car pulls up next door in 90035 and starts blaring the horn, is this person disrupting the peace of the community most likely:

* Seventh-Day Adventist
* WASP
* Mormon
* Buddhist
* Middle-Eastern

In my experience, Persians are the most likely group in 90035 to frequently use their car horn (and to bring the police in to settle down a domestic dispute).

I remember this Persian neighbor, when his teenage son wouldn’t immediately account for some money, began screaming, “My son’s a drug dealer!”

It was inconceivable in my Seventh-Day Adventist upbringing for any parent to scream, “My son’s a drug dealer!”, even if in fact the son was a drug dealer. Where I come from (Avondale College), we tried to keep that stuff quiet, along with the car horn. Growing up an Adventist, we’d go weeks without hitting our horn.

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What Would I Possibly Talk About With A Hot 19yo?

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

This girl on Tinder lied to me. Her profile says “24” but she’s only 19. What would we have in common?

Mark: “Plenty if she was a white supremacist, too. That’s a subject people don’t get wiser about with age. Doesn’t require a BA, either.”

Chaim Amalek: “Women are not for talking.”

“Tinder is a young man’s (and a young woman’s) game. Or at least that’s what the media would have you think. In fact, it is a waste of time for all sensible people. I believe that more relevantly (i.e., you will be asked to participate), the easy sex, drugs, and orgies of tomorrow will be held in America’s nursing homes, where aging boomers and gen-Xers will go to be cared for by angry Third World peoples full of triumphalism over having won the war.”

“Hashem wanted you to have procreative sex with many women from your previous life. That’s why he put them before you, that you might save them through sex and motherhood resulting from said sex. Fifty Shades of Grey is just goyishe nareshkeit that Yidden need not think about, ever, unless they can sell some related merchandise to the goyim and use that money to send their Jewish kids to yeshiva to learn talmud.”

“I never said Luke should have sex like a maniac. Luke is no maniac. Rather, I said Luke should have had sex like a man (e.g., a Mexican, or a Muslim), that is to say, without a condom or apologies, and with the long range purpose of procreating no matter the short term cost to his penis in terms of temporary painful lesions or the like. (I am not saying that would have happened, just noting the one reason often given for wearing condoms that also prevent procreation.) God set before Luke many women with whom he could have chosen one or two or three beautiful young women with whom to be fruitful and multiply, but Luke instead chose to blog. But Torah wants Jews to multiply, not to blog. Let’s get real here. I write these words with a heavy heart, not to hurt, but in the hope that someone fertile from Luke’s old life will present herself to him to follow God’s commandments.”

“Luke knows (or at least he knew) many women. There for the picking. This is not a matter for rabbis to resolve, nor can they. Instead, his best options are on the fringes of society, if he would but be bold enough to exercise them.”

Christoph Donnellan: “Or if she’s a Jewish Supremacist, you could talk to her about the glories of ‘Tiikun Olam’ and how Jews are a special ‘holy people’ who can never do any wrong.”

Damon: “As the saying goes, the first liar doesn’t have a chance. So go ahead and fight fire with fire – tell her you’re a world famous blogger/author and that you make lots of money.”

Nobody has offered me cocaine nor a threesome yet via Tinder. I fear that I’m doing it wrong.

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Hispanics & The Housing Crash

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

Before the big housing crash of 2007, it was conventional wisdom that home values could not fall across America at the same time.

Well, that was basically true. Home values during the great real estate crash of 2007 did not drop much for white and asian homes, but they dropped dramatically for black and hispanic homes.

Total U.S. data for home values; Key: Green=Hispanic, purple=Asian, orange=black, blue=white

Steve Sailer writes:

Versus their peak, white neighborhoods in Greater L.A are currently down 1.6% in median home price, while Hispanic and black neighborhoods are still down over 20%…

Hispanics mostly live in very high home price states, such as California, or fairly high home price states, such as Arizona, Nevada, and Florida. (Texas is the exception.)

…I wouldn’t rule out a Red Chinese Housing Bubble in California. For example, California golf courses are selling for high amounts even though golf appears to be in long term decline. Early in the century South Korean money poured into California golf courses, only to get badly burned. Now Chinese money is pouring in, even though nobody seems to have a clue how to increase golf’s popularity, and it’s very hard to get the permits to plow under a California golf course to turn it into a shopping or housing development. But rich Chinese want something to own that can’t be taken away by Peking.

COMMENTS TO STEVE SAILER:

* An interesting analysis would be to look at the loan brokers that preyed upon the Hispanic immigrants. What are the characteristics, and how does the favorite question Cui Bono translate en Espanol?

* The fascinating thing about the MMM is that the ramifications of the economic disaster wrought – by mass immigration, as it happens – are still being felt profoundly in nations far away from the USA, which had no knowledge of and no control of American immigration and economic policy. For example, despite all the guff one might read, the UK, economically speaking, is still basically ruined. Likewise the genesis of the contagion that has destroyed Spain, Greece, Italy, Ireland and a whole host of other states.
From the rantings of American madmen – and libertarians – these being one and the same thing – insisted upon their ‘right’ to a one dollar box of strawberries, comes the destruction of the ancient Italian nation into a death spiral of deflation, demoralization and collapsed birthrates.
Fascinating, as I said, but also fascinating is America’s original sin, the importation of 500,000 odd west Africans, imported in order to satisfy the laissez faire lust for cheap cotton, but who eventual revealed themselves to be the avenging death angels of the jealous and capricious god, who cursed the States for the sin of having ‘too much of a good thing’.
The moral is ‘heed the words of Powell’.

* That Boston Globe article — which I read in full and much to my surprise was in the Business section — isn’t doing Hispanic immigrants any favors by making them out to be 100% victims. I actually agree that they are victimized — just not 100% victims.

For one thing the article points out: “People who were barely making mortgage payments before the recession went into foreclosure.” So even during the good times lots of these buyers couldn’t handle their payments.

Also their example family’s still in the house that was foreclosed on in late 2009. No mention was made of them making any payments.

It seems in this case a rough justice has occurred.

What will this family do when it is finally forced to leave — and to pay for housing again?

* It would seem the resilience of the housing market is proportional to the IQ of the region, with higher IQ regions such as Palo Also recovering the fastest and low IQ regions taking forever, if at all.

* L. posts: In my experience, all the homes I have seen for sale end up being bought by hispanics. It’s almost like no one else is buying homes but them. Then you end up like my old street, trying to study for my finals with Mexican polka music blasting through the walls every week, eaten corb cobs+old tamale corn husks thrown over the fence, clothes hanging to dry in the front yard or yelling and cursing at their kids all day long. It’s very rare to see a hispanic family who moves and who is not doing those things, unless they are second or third generation and fully Americanized. (Aka, English is the first language and not having the whole village living in the house or having the whole family visit every weekend).

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Text Neck Can Hurt Your Kissing

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

BLOG: The Science of Kissing, What Our Lips Are Telling Us by Sheril Kirshenbaum says “A good deal of the scientific literature speculates that kissing may have evolved to help us choose a suitable partner, or to realize when a match is a bad idea…The exchange of olfactory, tactile, and postural information might trigger unconscious mechanisms that guide us in deciding whether we should continue, and a kiss might even tell us about a potential partner’s level of commitment and genetic compatibility.”

Now let’s consider what could be meant by “postural information”. When we’re using our phones, what tends to happen is that we make ourselves shorter. This is a common habit, that when we want to reach to look at something or kiss someone, we push the face forward and press the head back and down into the spine. Compressing the head and neck is different from tilting the head, which is is possible to do just by tipping it back and not over-tightening the muscles in the back of the neck.

“Kissing presents some interesting kinaesthetic challenges. A tall partner tends to stoop and reach down to the shorter one, misusing himself (or herself) in the process. Unwittingly, the shorter partner aggravates the problem by making herself (or himself) shorter still.” – The Alexander Technique, A Skill for Life, by Pedro de Alcantara

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What Women Want

Posted on February 15, 2015 by Luke Ford

A comment to Steve Sailer:

What do women want? Let’s look at their sexual fantasies. In my long years, I’ve known large numbers of women with drawers and e-readers full of “romance novels”. The story lines and characterizations are generally all the same. They are the Cinderella story recast:

There are one and more women between Cinderella and the Prince, who is handsome, charming, and has lots of money, status, and power. Cinderella acts to remove the female competition between her and the Prince so that she can take her rightful place as the Princess of the realm. The story line is generally consumed by scenes of females going at each other as they compete for the Alpha Male. The “bodice ripping” at the end of the chapters are thinly veiled rape fantasies. The Prince eventually finds Cinderella so “hot” that he cannot control himself. His lack of control excites her … because, it represents her final victory over the female competition who are unable to drive the Prince to sexual frenzy. The final scene fades as Cinderella takes her rightful place on the throne next to the Prince. Cinderella and the Prince live happily ever after.

What do little girls (in waiting) want? It appears to be much the same, given the success of the Princess movies and the paraphernalia in the Princess Industry.

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