What Interests You Frequently Does Not Interest Those Around You

When people ask me what I do for a living, I say I teach Alexander Technique. Most of the time, people ask me, what’s that?

Most of the time, I answer, “It is a way of noticing how you respond to stimuli and how to let go of those responses that don’t serve you.”

Some of the time, I figure that answer is not going to cut it, so I shorten it to, “Alexander is a movement technique. It’s about learning to move the way the body likes to move.”

I try to adopt my definitions of the Technique to my audience.

My friends want me to succeed with my new business but most of them have little interest at examining their habits and learning to let go of their responses of needless tightening and compressing. They have other things on their mind. They know they don’t have good posture, but it is not severely restricting their life. They’re able to do everything they want to do how they want to do it. They feel no need to learn Alexander Technique.

With such people, I frequently show them easy to do exercises that will alleviate their back pain. These exercises are not Alexander Technique, but they’re mechanical things you can do to make your life easier.

Alexander Technique is not for everyone. It demands a lot of concentration and a strong desire to look at your habits and to reprogram your responses to life. For people not interested in this, physical therapy or acupuncture or craniosacral therapy or yoga or walking might be better suited to their needs.

So I don’t prescribe Alexander Technique to everyone I meet. I never say, “You really need to do this,” even if I think they really need to do this. It is more important to me that I accurately read where somebody is at and then, if they are open to it, to offer suggestions to help their life that frequently have nothing to do with my work.

I’m like the sales lady at a department store who hears what the customer wants and then directs him to another store, one better suited to his needs.

Similarly, I don’t think Orthodox Judaism is for everyone. It is certainly not necessary for non-Jews, who are generally better off exploring the religion in which they were raised and finding ways to make peace with it. You don’t have to believe in all the tenets of your religion to get benefit from it. You can be an atheist but still go to church every week for social or business reasons or for the health of your family.

Many Jews are going to find Orthodox Judaism impossible. A Yiddish club or a Jewish book group or a Reform Temple or a yoga studio will be better suited to them.

Sometimes I’ll leave shul early because I just can’t take being around so many people. I have to get outside and walk. My social anxiety has kicked in. Sometimes I have things I’m anxious about that after I’ve said my prayers, I dash out to struggle with my computer problems or other issues.

Sometimes I have such a hard time with prayer that I stay in shul but I might walk to the back and shmooze or I might pull a sefer (book) off the shelf and read or take down a Talmudic tractate and study.

I’m not for running into concrete walls unless it is absolutely necessary.

When I was younger, I was always trying to force things, trying to push people to do things they didn’t want to do, trying to push myself into things I was not suited for, I was making commitments I could not live up to. In my old age, I want tranquility.

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Gun Shots Usher In New Year In Pico-Robertson

I heard a lot of gunshots around midnight last night as the hood welcomed in the new year.

I hear there was a big police presence at the 18th St/La Cienega Blvd mall in the early morning hours of Sunday.

The gun shots came from the ghetto area near the mall. I think kids were just firing into the air to celebrate the new year.

So I expected this Shabbat there would be a major police presence in the community. I heard the police were pursuing these mugging cases and there was political pressure on the police to do something. Yet I didn’t see police around this Shabbat in Pico-Robertson.

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Former Yeshivat Yavneh President David Rubin Pleads Guilty

The past few years have been horrible for David and for his family and friends as this case has dragged on.

Bloomberg reports: CDR Financial Products Inc. and its founder, David Rubin, pleaded guilty less than a week before trial on charges tied to a federal investigation of bid- and auction-rigging in the municipal bond market.
Rubin, 50, and his Beverly Hills, California-based firm were charged along with two other employees. Prosecutors said Rubin, who served as chief executive officer, took kickbacks for running sham auctions for investments.
He pleaded guilty along with the company yesterday in Manhattan federal court. Jury selection in the trial of former CDR Chief Financial Officer Z. Stewart Wolmark and Vice President Evan Zarefsky is set to begin next week and was to include Rubin as a defendant. Rubin tried unsuccessfully to have the trial postponed because his wife is in the final stages of terminal cancer.
“Mr. Rubin has accepted responsibility for his conduct and has pled guilty,” Bradley Simon, a lawyer representing Rubin, said in a phone interview after Rubin’s plea. “Mr. Rubin will now be able to direct all of his energies to caring for his wife and family during this critical time.”
Rubin, who began sobbing at the mention of his wife in the hearing yesterday, will be sentenced April 27. He was allowed to remain free on bail.

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Working With The Rabbis

Many Orthodox rabbis strain their voices trying to project across a noisy room on the Sabbath. The Orthodox do not use microphones on Shabbat.

Many rabbis end up hoarse. Some lose their voices completely. And this strain is unnecessary. It is a function of a tight and compressed neck. As the rabbi strains to project his voice, he inevitably tightens his neck, tips his head back, thus compressing his neck and his spine, diminishing his musculature, making everything tight, and it is no wonder that this destroys the voice.

If I can get the rabbis to start taking Alexander Technique lessons, then I can wake up other Orthodox Jews from their destructive muscular holding patterns and I can turn around an entire community so that they move with more ease and perform the tasks of daily life with joy.

So far no rabbi has taken me up on my offers to help.

Most people are reluctant to examine their habits. They’d rather do something than learn to undo something unproductive.

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I Meet A Holocaust Survivor On My Shabbos Walk

Saturday evening, I go for a stroll.

An old man calls me over. “Can you do me a big favor?” he asks.

“What do you need?”

“I need a mitzvah.”

“What do you need?”

“I just had heart surgery. I need you to walk with me. The person who was supposed to walk with me did not show up.”

“Sure, I’ll walk with you.”

He takes my arm and we walk slowly down the street.

“I needed to go for a walk but I had no one. God told me to go down to the street and He would send somebody to me. Two other people passed by but I did not call them over. When I saw you, I saw an arrow pointing at you, this is the one.”

We walk on.

He tells me he survived the Holocaust. “I had 120 family members and relatives. I was the only one who survived. I was in five camps including Auschwitz. After the war, I went back to my village in Poland. I waited for three weeks. None of my family returned.

“My mother was 42 when she was murdered by the Nazis. My father was 45. My zede (grandfather) had a beautiful white beard. When the Nazis entered the ghetto, they asked him, why don’t you shave your beard? Before he could answer, they took out a gun and shot him in the head, splitting his head in half. I can still hear the click of the pistol. I was covered in blood. I just had a nightmare about it last night. Such things, you never forget.”

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Sabbath Muggings In Pico-Robertson

I reported here.

YICC.com emails:

Dear Friends,

Please forward this to your neighbors and anyone else you think would find this information useful. While this may not have happened in your neighborhood, it is much too close for comfort.

As reported:
We just heard from our friend who was mugged on Friday night on
La Cienega and Pico. He lives in Crestview. Two other men were accosted, with their children present, as well in the past month.

The perpetrators in all three incidents were black gang members. Which gang, he could not identify.

In one incident, the man faced his assailant, in another he was grabbed by men in a car and frisked for money. In this person’s case, he was attacked and beaten in front of his son (we have subsequently verified that this man who davens at Chabad of Beverlywood was taken to Kaiser’s ER and needed 15 stitches). All three were religious Jews who carry no money on Shabbat.

PLEASE BE CAUTIOUS AND KEEP SAFE!

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The Last Of The Pure Sephardic Poskim

In a 2008 lecture for Torah in Motion on Rabbi Ben Zion Uzziel (former Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel), history professor Marc B. Shapiro says: He’s one of the last of the few Sephardic poskim (deciders of Jewish law). The Sephardic world has been Ashkenazied. If you go to their yeshivas, they’ve adapted the black-and-white Ashkenazi dress, which comes from the Hasidic world. Into the 1960s, you did not have this uniform.”

“For many years, the Sephardim did not have yeshivas of their own. To this day, they don’t have quality girls schools. They send them to the Ashkenazi schools like Bais Yaakov.”

“Rabbi Uziel was operating from a Sephardic curriculum. They did not know of and they did not quote [the Ashkenazi cannon like the Mishna Brura]. Now the Sephardim quote all the Ashkenazim.”

“There’s a rising tide of extremism [among the Sephardim] which did not exist until the last 20 years. Anti-Zionism was never found in the Sephardic world.”

“Now you can’t be a Zionist and haredi and you can’t be Modern Orthodox and not a Zionist.”

“The Sephardic world never had a problem with secular learning except in extreme areas like Aleppo, Syria. They never had a problem with working.”

Only the Sephardim have things like holy water. Not the Ashkenazim, not the Hasidim.

JB Soloveitchik’s father did not want to give him any secular education. His mother made sure JB got a good secular education.

Sephardic sages were more likely to have relationships with non-Jews.

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Was Rabbi Yechiel Yaakov Weinberg The Only Gadol In History To Have A Real Friendship With A Non-Jew?

In his first lecture on the Sridei Aish (Rabbi Yechiel Yaakov Weinberg) for Torah in Motion, Dr. Marc B. Shapiro says: Rabbi Weinberg was friends with Paul Kahle, a leading [non-Jewish] scholar of masoretic studies of the Targum. He was a great lover of Jews. When the Nazis came to power, he had to flee Germany. He was a great friend to Rabbi Weinberg.

“Rabbi Weinberg is very unhappy about the attitude to non-Jews in [parts] of Jewish law and a lot of this is motivated by his friendship with Kahle. Rabbi Weinberg is the only posek (decider of Jewish law) who had a deep intimate friendship with a non-Jew.”

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The New Anti-Semitism

Jonathan Tobin writes:

Though The New York Times’s Thomas Friedman invariably characterizes himself as a friend of Israel, his Dec. 14 column illustrates the slippery slope along which critics of the Jewish state invariably slide as they attempt to shout down those with whom they disagree.

In an effort to simultaneously bash Republican supporters of Israel as well as the Israeli government, his frustration with Israel’s enduring popularity led Friedman to engage in smears more typically associated with fringe intellectuals such as Israel Lobby authors Stephen Walt and John Mearsheimer. It’s not just that Friedman disdains Newt Gingrich and Mitt Romney’s belief in the U.S.-Israel alliance, but that in order to justify his contempt he finds himself having to paint Israel as being intrinsically unworthy of any support.

First, Friedman is wrong that Newt Gingrich’s line about the Palestinians being an “invented people” means Israel wants to rule the West Bank indefinitely. Rather, the injection of some truth about the history of the conflict ought to highlight a fact that journalists like Friedman have done so much to ignore: the inextricable link between Palestinian nationalism and a belief in the destruction of Israel. The point that Gingrich and many others have tried to make is that unless and until the Palestinians reinvent their identity and political culture in such a fashion as to drop their desire to extinguish the Jewish state, peace is not possible.

Second, let’s address one of the primary slanders at the heart of his piece: that the standing ovations Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu received last spring in Washington were “bought and paid for by the Israel lobby.” Rather, they were the result of the fact that the overwhelming majority of Americans – Jew and non-Jew alike – think of Israel as a friend and ally. They, and their representatives in Congress, believe the Jewish state’s security is, contrary to Friedman’s formulation, a vital U.S. interest in the Middle East. It is true, as Friedman says, that the applause may not have been a personal endorsement for Netanyahu, but that’s because it was also a stiff rebuke to President Obama’s attempt to ambush the Israeli prior to his visit with his speech about the 1967 lines, whose purpose was to tilt the diplomatic playing field in the direction of the Palestinians.

The notion that the only reason politicians support Israel is because of Jewish money is a central myth of a new form of anti-Semitism that masquerades as a defense of American foreign policy against the depredations of a venal Israel lobby. This canard not only feeds off of the traditional themes of Jew-hatred, it also requires Friedman to ignore the deep roots of American backing for Zionism in our history and culture.

Friedman goes on to embarrass himself by contrasting the reception Netanyahu received on Capitol Hill to the one he might get at a center of leftist academia such as the University of Wisconsin. There’s little doubt he would not be cheered there. But the same would be true of most American politicians or thinkers who deviated from leftist orthodoxy. The notion that liberal campuses are more representative of public opinion about Israel than Congress is laughable.

But Friedman doesn’t stop there. He goes on to enumerate various Israeli sins that should, he thinks, cause American Jews and our leaders to distance themselves from the Jewish state.

Some of the items he lists are troubling. Israeli Foreign Minister Avigdor Lieberman’s closeness with the Putin regime in Russia is a mistake. But can a small nation under siege be blamed if one of its leaders sees the value in maintaining relations with a powerful nation? And many Americans, Friedman included, have at times criticized opinions or decisions made by our own secretaries of state. Disagreeing with Colin Powell, Condoleezza Rice or Hillary Clinton isn’t considered a good reason to abandon support for America’s continued existence and security, so why should it be so for Israel?

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No Strings Attached

I was half asleep as I lit my hanukiah this evening, the last night of Hanukkah.

As I prepared to eat my evening meal of raw oats with grapes and soy milk, I thought to myself, I’m not really a good Orthodox Jew. I fall short in so many ways. I was just going through the motions there. I want sleep.

Then I started watching “No Strings Attached“, and I thought, well, in comparison with these people, I really am a man of holiness.

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