My Alexander Journey

I am six weeks away from finishing my first year of Alexander Technique teacher training. It’s a three year program and then I will become a certified teacher and charge $50 an hour for lessons.

Alexander Technique has changed my life. If you’ve known me for a while and met me recently, then you know what I am talking about. The other night, I was at a Shabbat dinner. The family has known me for as long as I’ve been in Los Angeles (since 1994). The hostess told me later, "You’re in a far better place than you’ve ever been."

She also said, "I love men with good posture."

Many women do. Who wants to bind oneself to a guy who’s contorted in his body, stuffing his head down onto his spine and compressing his neck and back? Yeah, I’m talking about the conductor Gustavo Dudamel and those like him who think they have to tighten their necks to work hard.

What’s key in the use of your body is the means-whereby you go about your life, not end-gaining.

Thanks to my 18-months with Alexander Technique, I feel poised. I use myself more efficiently and I have more energy and endurance. I think more clearly. I am not as buffeted by destructive emotions. I’ve learned to let go of postures that were not helping me, postures in my body and in my emotions and in my thinking. They all go together. If you are poised and graceful in your use of yourself, then you are likely to be poised and graceful in your emotions and your thinking.

PS. I read an article a few months ago about how many people have used Alexander Technique to overcome Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It’s working for me.

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I Love Dogs

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Will Love Of Christ Overcome Lack Of Sex?

I was raised (in Seventh-Day Adventism) that you should not mess around before marriage. You should not even kiss too intensely.

On his second hour of his radio show Friday, Dennis Prager got a call from a evangelical Christian man who said he was bothered by lust. Dennis asked him if he had a good sex life with his wife. The man said no, it had never been good. They’d been married 11 years. They had not messed around prior to marriage.

Dennis: "People need to confront reality… I do believe that overwhelmingly people should postpone intercourse for marriage. I also believe that doing nothing before marriage is a bad idea because you need to know if you have chemistry in that arena. It is better for everybody and for all religious values if you know that. This notion that if people share their love of God and in this case love of Christ will overcome all other issues is a fairy tale. Happiness and fairy tales do not mix."

I found the following advice from Prager very helpful in deciding what exactly I should do before marriage and what exactly I should leave for my marriage night. "There are ways of knowing do you share chemistry without intercourse. That is so elementary my dear Watson that I don’t know what to say. You don’t even need to do everything else, there is just enough to know if this can be an area of passion and joy. It might not be to one partner. You need to know that. Before I ever married, a psychiatrist told me that sex is 2% of marriage but it can ruin the other 98%."

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Rabbi Gabe Elias Knows The Pulse Of Mogen David

Rabbi Elias at Mogen David is a canny operator. He thinks things out many steps ahead of the pack. He’s skilled at anticipating underhanded behavior. He can read it from a mile away. He can out-maneuver you if he wants to.

Mogen David has a huge endowment and it can operate off the interest from its endowment.

It became a separate-seating Orthodox shul in 2001, bringing in 30-year old Rabbi Johnathan Muskat who lasted less than two years.

Prior to that, it was one of the last mixed-seating Orthodox shuls in the United States. It was to the left of every shul in the neighborhood.

Rabbi Muskat was too religious for the shul. He didn’t want to permit mixed-sex dancing and the like.

Many young rabbis have these sorts of problems. They lack the life experience of dealing with people who are different from them. You’re not going to change some 80-year old who wants mixed dancing.

I wonder what happens when Beth Jacob and Bnai David and the like rent themselves out for marriages? Surely these marriages do mixed-dancing in the shuls after dinner? Renting a shul for a wedding cost a tenth of what renting a place at a nice Los Angeles hotel such as the Four Seasons.

Rabbi Elias, by contrast, knows the pulse of Mogen David. He’s brought in a Sephardic minyan. He used to host the Happy Minyan at Mogen David. He hosted Rabbi Toledano’s dayschool for Sephardic kids. He keeps the place hopping even though much of his membership is old and irascible.

When you control a huge endowment, a rabbi such as Gabe Elias has a lot of pull in the community. Nobody wants to tick you off.

According to his online bio: "Ordained at Yeshiva Beth Midrash Lerabonim, be has worked as Executive Director and Assistant Rabbi for Congregation Mogen David for the last 16 years."

If you want to start criticizing semichas (rabbinic ordination), you can start with anything coming out of Yeshiva University in the past 25 years. The semicha is given by finishing courses. They don’t face a comprehensive test. The course tests are based only on what is given in shiur. The tests are recycled and passed around. Even Lakewood these days does testing by section.

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How The Haredim Took Control In Israel

The Haredim have been yelling about the illegitimacy of Modern Orthodox conversions for many years. Only now do they have the political power to delegitimize such conversions.

When the Mizrachi aka religious Zionists aka the Modern Orthodox in Israel opposed Prime Minister Ariel Sharon’s plan to withdraw from Gaza, Sharon was livid at their political party Mafdal and he pushed through Shlomo Amar and Yonah Metzger as Israel’s chief rabbis.

From Wikipedia:

In November 2006 Amar submitted a draft bill to Prime Minister Ehud Olmert that would remove the conversion clause from the Israeli Law of Return. This would prevent converts from all streams of Judaism, including Orthodox Judaism, from having automatic citizenship rights in Israel, and restrict the Law of Return to applying only to Jews by birth whose mothers were Jewish.[5][6] This also affects potential immigrants who are descended from only one Jewish parent or grandparent, not all of whom would be accepted as Jewish under Orthodox law. See also: Matrilineal descent and Who is a Jew?

When we get new chief rabbis in 2012 or 2013, I expect we’ll get a higher quality rabbi than Yonah Metzger and we’ll get rabbis more concerned about all of the Jews in Israel, not just the rabbis’ political camp.

The previous Chief Rabbis (Yisrael Meir Lau of the Ashkenazim and Eliyahu Bakshi-Doron of the Sephardim), were not first-rate Torah scholars, but they were concerned with all of the Jews in Israel.

It took Bakshi-Doron six months to figure out how to be Chief Rabbi. He was elected to be Ovadia Yosef‘s puppet. It took him six months to realize he had to become his own man.

Shlomo Amar would be better off just being Ovadia Yosef‘s puppet, but he feels torn between Ovadia and Yosef Sholom Elyashiv on matters such as conversion and the election for the new Chief Rabbi of Jerusalem. At one point, Shlomo Amar decides he won’t accept RCA conversions. Then he changes to only accepting RCA conversions in the United States.

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Shake This And You’ll Go To Heaven

An Orthodox friend explains to me why he doesn’t trust converts or baalei teshuva (returnees to Judaism): "Someone shows up to Canfield Elementary School with a lulav and says, shake this and you’ll go to Heaven. Suddenly the kid comes home and he wants to be Orthodox. You have another sucker into the Jewish fold. That’s Judaism. You want to get them while they’re young. At the core, it’s irrational to convert to Judaism, unless you’re leading an empty life and you want to remake yourself because you hate how you are."

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Ari Wasserman’s Double Life

From Jewish Action, a magazine of the Orthodox Union:

Ari Wasserman, thirty-eight, a successful Los Angeles lawyer, is leading a double life. He’s traversing both the Torah and corporate worlds with seemingly the greatest of ease, and prospering in both. He has a life many ba’alei batim wish they had the tenacity to get away with.

Every day, Wasserman wakes up between 3 and 4 AM, tiptoes to his study and learns Torah until it’s time to leave for the local neitz (sunrise) minyan. After Shacharit, he heads for Starbucks, settles in with his latte and sefarim and works on the in-depth halachah shiur that members of the Congregation Kehilas Yaakov community have, over the past nine years, come to eagerly anticipate.

Every morning, Wasserman invests hours preparing source materials to ensure that the shiurim, which he delivers on Shabbat, flow logically and simply. He also uses the time to work on his third sefer; all this, and his workday hasn’t yet begun.

Wasserman’s two volumes of Hegyonei Haparashah, compilations of his shiurim on Bereishit and Shemot, are a mix of halachah, parashat hashavua and commentary on contemporary issues; he is hard at work on the third volume, on Vayikra.

While some may call his schedule grueling, Wasserman calls it gratifying. A respected specialist in corporate contracts and mergers, Wasserman decided early on to launch the most meaningful and consequential merger of his life. He negotiated a deal with himself to live as Yissachar and Zevulun rolled into one.

“He’s a man on a mission,” says Antony (Chanan) Gordon, a longtime attendee of Wasserman’s shiur and senior managing director at an investment company. “Ari uses every second in a productive way. He demonstrates that in order to achieve the highest level, you can’t defuse your focus, and that the time you have is so precious.”

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The Bad Boy

"I’m the bad boy of the Alexander Technique," he says to her. "I stir up trouble in class."

"I’m the bad girl," she says. "Surely you know that about me by now. I’m always doing things to get attention."

"Oh," he says. He thought he was the baddest of the bad. Maybe he had met his match.

"I love you," she says over the phone as they’re saying goodbye.

"I love you," he says. "Wow, this is the first time we’ve said that outside of the bedroom."

"Well," she says, "for me at first, it was primarily sexual. A woman has needs."

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Rav Aron Tendler Returns To The Valley

His Valley Village home is in his wife’s name. It’s rented out.

You’ll find Rav Aron Tendler walking around Valley Village, wishing people a "Gut Shabbos" in that friendly way of his.

That’s some balls. I’d move to Billings, Montana, if I were him.

He had so many girls. He had a hot girl staying in his house and he was making it with her.

JACK CALLS: "Who was the one he was going to **** and she called ‘No joy’?"

Luke: "What’s no joy?"

Jack: "That’s when you’re in the Air Force and you don’t bomb a target. You yell, ‘No joy!’

"There was one who said no.

"His candle at Shaarey Zedek is gone. Everyone at the shul who was upset he left has either left themselves or given up any hope of his return."

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Eternal Judaism

Joe emails:

I seriously find major fault with Bnai David.

The use of time and money to feed the local homeless population, which are mostly psychotics (any sane homeless person lives by the beach in Venice Santa Monica) is a waste of time and money. Yes, it is a good deed. But there are much more important good deeds that can be done. How about educating the Jewish children in the area that cannot afford Hillel/Shalhevet – Canfield Elementary is loaded with Jewish children whose souls could be saved. Why not spare some of Rabbi Kanefsky’s dynamism to outreach to the parents there (and to the other local private schools loaded with Jewish younglings) rather than serving some mental defective some stew.

I know the PR value is that here is a synagogue caring for others – with the goal of said PR showing how good a citizen the shul is so that the shul gains political power. Such political power is necessary if the shul needs to expand, close the street down for a torah dedication, get relaxed parking restrictions, or, in a worst case scenario, as an argument against putting Jews on trains (which was all the rage last century).

My answer to this dilemma is to save Jewish souls and let the homeless collect bottles.

As Darth Vader said in Star Wars, "the ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force." All the PR in Los Angeles is insignificant next to the power of the Torah.

Look at the Jews of Germany, they outreached like crazy to their aryan fellows and in return, they got free train rides and Zyklon B in costco quantities.

Observant Judaism in Germany for the last few centuries or so has left almost no impact – save for Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch and maybe Rabbi Hildesheimer (I do not count the Rav’s sojourn in Berlin for his doctorate as in Germany’s column). So, the Jews of Germany got their PR and if you attend a yeshiva now, their PR did not result in a single significant book on the shelf of religious works. The true contribution of German Judaism to the world is one Albert Einstein, whose theories of relativity and nuclear fission guaranteed the supremacy of western civilization from 1945 until the forfeiture thereof by Barack Obama.

Now turn to Eastern Europe, where the Jews only cared about how much torah knowledge could be amassed under the most austere of circumstances. They did not participate in society, they participated in the pilpul of the Talmud. They got the same gift gas from their gentile hosts. BUT – go to a yeshiva now and the names bandied about for the nearly inscrutable ability to scrutinize the Talmud are the names of Rabbis from Mir, Brisk, Vilna, Slobodka, Satu Mare (Satmar), etc. These are the Shaagas Aryeh, the Chafetz Chaim, the Brisker Rov and the Vilna Gaon. These, as Ronald Reagan would say, are the boys of Puenet Du Hoc.

This is the Judaism of the eternal, the kind they do not report on in the Jewish Journal.

A FRIEND CALLS: "I’m enjoying all the Bnai David bashing. I went to school with these guys. I hated them."

Luke: "They’re nice people. The opposite of catty and judgmental."

FRIEND: "The website looks like it is trying to sell a product. I don’t buy Modern Orthodoxy. Count yourself fortunate that you were thrown out of there. Now you have unlimited license to **** with their minds. It’s true. That’s why they never killed Arafat. It would make him more powerful."

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