If You Own A Dance Club, Should You Put A Mezuzah On The Door?

Rob Abner blogs: “Another time a Hasidic Jew came into the club and asked me if there was a private room. I told him there were private rooms for lap dances. He said, no, he needed a private room to pray. I told him I didn’t really have a room where he could do that. He looked around and asked if I minded if he prayed in the corner real quick. I said sure, why not. So he went in the corner of the club, while a dancer stood nude on stage, faced the corner and began to read from his little prayer book and daven.”

Many of these Hasidim sanctified the name of God in these clubs with their generous tips and courtly demeanor. “I must say the Hasidic Jews spent plenty of money and never haggled with me over the price of a lap dance. I was happy to have their business and I never, in all my years, had to break up a fight started by a Hasidic Jew or throw a Hasidic Jew out of the club for selling coke in the bathroom.”

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My Former Roommate Has Done Well

I had so many dreams for my time at UCLA. At last I was getting on to university and getting serious about my education. I signed up for a special “Quiet Floor” at the Rieber Hall dormitory. It was for serious students. When I was asked about what type of roommate I wanted, I wrote someone quiet.

They matched me up with this great Vietnamese kid. He was wonderful. He was quiet and considerate. He was serious with his studies. And then my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome forced me to leave UCLA after nine months in June of 1989 and I never returned.

I haven’t kept up with anyone from my dorm and yet I think so much about my time there. It was where I lost my virginity. It was where many of my dreams died.

I just Googled my former roommate and he has done so well for himself and for our country, just as I would have expected. At the same time, if he were to look at my life, it would not terribly surprise him.

From the Maine Medical Center:

Dr. Han is the Director of CORE and a health services researcher and board certified general internist and palliative care physician. He received an M.D. at New York University School of Medicine, an M.A. in Bioethics and an M.P.H. from at the University of Pittsburgh, and completed Internal Medicine residency training at UCLA and a fellowship in cancer prevention and control at the National Cancer Institute (NCI), National Institutes of Health.
Dr. Han’s general research interests are in risk communication, shared decision making, clinical prediction models, cancer, and palliative and end-of-life care. His specific interest is in understanding and improving the communication and management of uncertainty in health care, and his work bridges the disciplines of health services and behavioral research. His clinical activity is in palliative medicine, and he is an attending physician at the Hospice of Southern Maine. Dr. Han is actively involved in initiatives to promote shared decision making and to teach risk communication skills to medical students and physicians, and is a member of the Editorial Board of Medical Decision Making and the International Patient Decision Aids Standards (IPDAS) Collaboration.

Paul Han MD

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Common Obstacles To Learning The Alexander Technique

Veteran teacher Robert Rickover tells fellow teacher Mark Josefberg: “The Alexander Technique is simple but not necessarily easy. There are some classic traps some students encounter.”

“The most classic trap is to try to recreate [the great feelings you get during a lesson]. The teacher helps you. You have this feeling of lightness. You try to hold on to the feeling [and it then eludes you]. Trying to latch on to feelings is a dead end.”

“Wanting to get a right position or wanting to be right. A student will often come in and ask, is my head in the right position?”

“Most posture advise is about putting yourself in a certain position such as head held up high or chest lifted or shoulders pulled back. They’re all terrible. They’re all static.”

“There is no right position but there is a right direction aka the mental statement you are making to yourself about what you would like to happen.”

“The idea that you have to try or to concentrate on your Alexander directions. In directing yourself, the more gently and softly you can think them, the more effective they will be… You are going to forget your directions within a second or two and you have to forgive yourself and move on.”

“When people think about specific things, there’s a tendency to narrow your focus while when people think about things generally, it is about vague things such as enjoying the breeze. You can’t get much more specific than thinking about your neck… So I recommend a light way of thinking about a specific area. It’s not a natural way of thinking.”

“Expecting instant results. People can easily get the impression that all they need is to be shown something once or twice to make these changes because the changes seem so deceptively simple.”

“Getting upset with setbacks… It’s easy to get discouraged and to feel like not much is happening… Because our ideas are so contrary to most thinking about physical functioning, people will tack on what they believe and attribute it to you.”

“You might hurt more after a lesson, even in different places. As you start to become more sensitive to what is going on, you’ll notice tension more readily. When you start to change your functioning, some parts of your body will be called upon to do stuff they’ve not done before.”

“When muscles that have been chronically held begin to release, the sensing mechanisms wake up and you start to feel the tension that is still there.”

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Thank You For Sharing

I’ve long thought that sex and love addiction would be a great topic for a movie and now I’ve seen three recent movies on this theme and they are all excellent. I did not detect one false note.

* Thank You For Sharing
* Shame
* Don Jon

I realize that most people can’t take this addiction seriously, but those who are interested in understanding it will be well served by these films.

An addiction to anything that takes your pain away (such as alcohol, drugs, food, shopping, sex, love, TV, sports, work, exercise, etc) will gradually take over your life and reduce your functioning. I’ve gone my life feeling uncomfortable in my own skin and ill at ease around 99% of people, and since age eight, I’ve been picking up addictions such as to fantasy, sports, etc that give me a high and remove me from reality and from reminders of my failures in trying to relate to people.

I often said I had an addictive personality but did not realize I was an addict (to process addictions like gambling, love, exercise, work, etc) until May of 2011.

I grew up as a Seventh-Day Adventist and I had a great fear of addicts. I thought they were dirty smelly dangerous people like winos in the gutter and Aboriginees on the rampage. As I’ve hung out in 12-step rooms over the past three years, I’ve realized that many addicts (particularly to drugs and alcohol) are indeed dangerous while others (addicts to exercise, TV, work, etc) are no more dangerous than the average person. I’ve come to see what I have in common with alcoholics and drug addicts and I’ve come to believe in a common solution (12 Steps). Most of the 12-step literature I consume is aimed at alcoholics but I find it speaks to me.

I love how the 12 Steps points out that the desire to rescue/or to be rescued are different facets of the same thing. In some of my relationships with powerful women, I wanted to be rescued, but sometimes I find women more pathetic than me and I enjoy for a while rescuing them. My girlfriend of a few years ago, when I told her to get her act together and to be responsible, repeatedly said to me, “You love me because I’m pathetic.” She was cute and it was kinda fun for a while picking her up, giving her a home, bringing her into my life, introducing her to my friends and community, taking her out to eat, taking her on a long road trip, but eventually I tired of her inability to build an adult life.

I got a comment on one of my blog posts, “Help me” (that was all she said) and I immediately researched the commenter’s pictures to see if I wanted to help her.

A wise female friend tells me:

There is a saying in DA (Debtors Anonymous) that I like: “No one is coming.”

No rescuers are on the way.

I like rescuing people, but I try not to do it with guys. I don’t even buy my boyfriends clothes (anymore) because I learned that it made them look at you as a mother figure and then they start acting passive and pathetic. I end up hating passive guys.

Here’s a great article on sex addiction:

“Sexaholics Anonymous is by far the most rigid, fundamentalist and conservative of all the fellowships. Most of its members, like its founder Roy K., are religious. In New York most attendees are from the Orthodox Jewish community, along with Episcopalian or Roman Catholic clergymen. Serious problems such as pedophilia or incessant patronage of prostitutes are the main concern. “Deviant” behaviors such as sodomy, onanism, sadomasochism and a penchant for gang bangs are also addressed. Sexual sobriety is defined not only as freedom from all “inappropriate” behaviors but also “progressive victory over lust.” The only acceptable expression of the sexual impulse is through vanilla heterosexual carnal relations with one’s legally recognized spouse—man and wife, ideally in the missionary position, as sanctioned by the Holy Bible. Homosexual members are welcome—so long as they commit to a life of celibacy.”

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Are Jews In America Underdogs?

Are Jews better off for having so many groups like the ADL and the Museum of Tolerance and for dominating Hollywood and the MSM to the point we can deter any criticism of ourselves as a group (and our tendencies as intellectuals) and destroy anyone who points out our influence (aka remarks about the Jewish lobby or the Israel lobby)? Example: Rick Sanchez getting fired by CNN for calling Jon Stewart a bigot.

Perhaps Steve Sailer is right and it is time we stop thinking of ourselves as the underdogs and start thinking about the noblesse oblige that comes with being the big dogs? Perhaps we need to emphasize being good citizens of benevolent host countries such as America, honesty in business, paying our taxes?

Jews are great at law. We are a religion of laws. We make great lawyers. We’re great at maneuvering around legal systems and working the system, aka the Museum of Tolerance pulling in those millions of dollars of public funds and the Hasidim in New York living off welfare and the haredim in Israel living off the dole.

Israel has the largest and most powerful military in the Middle East. Is Israel still the underdog?

Steve Sailer wrote:

What adds interest to this was that subprime billionaire Roland Arnall, whom Bush had appointed Ambassador to the Netherlands for raising $12 million for him, who was the biggest donor to Arnold Schwarzenegger and, before him, Gray Davis, who co-founded the Simon Wiesenthal Center and the brow-beating Museum of Tolerance, was the founder of a couple of the biggest and worst subprime boiler rooms, Ameriquest and Argent. Previously, he had founded the notorious Long Beach Mortgage, which Washington Mutual bought.

In 2006, Arnall paid a $325 million fine to settle a lawsuit brought by 49 state attorneys general. Yet, Congress approved his nomination as ambassador. (Overall, states performed somewhat better in regulating subprime than feds, who mostly egged them on. The states were operating, on average, under older laws, while the feds were operating mostly under the U. of Chicago-style consensus that emerged over the last generation or so.) Here’s Arnall’s obituary by E. Scott Reckard of the L.A. Times, who covered subprime in real time better than anyone else. Roland invented the “stated income loan,” which did so much to help people realize the American Dream.

His widow Dawn is being sued by his brother for $47.6 million. The brother claims that Roland claimed he was strapped for cash because of the $325 million fine.

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What Is Marvin Hier’s Legacy?

Newsweek magazine called Marvin Hier the most powerful rabbi in America. “Hier is one phone call away from almost every world leader, journalist and Hollywood studio head.”

As Rabbi Hier heads towards retirement, what is his legacy?

Here are some random thoughts.

* As far as Judaism goes, he doesn’t have any legacy. He doesn’t leave any Torah commentaries or any Torah community behind.

* I asked various leading Orthodox rabbis (in Israel and in the US) about Marvin Hier’s legacy and none of them had anything to say, meaning they did not believe he has any Jewish legacy.

* Everything he’s done has been done beautifully. The Museum of Tolerance is a beautiful building. The museum tours are done beautifully. Special events hosted there are done beautifully. The movies Rabbi Hier produces are superb. My every experience with the Museum of Tolerance is first-rate.

* If you know anything about Judaism, you know it is a highly intolerant religion devoted to the one true God and that it regards all other religions as nonsense (see the Aleinu prayer, “For they worship vanity and emptiness, and pray to a god who cannot save”), and yet Marvin Hier is this authentic Orthodox rabbi who’s tapped into fundraising for the greatest virtue of the cool crowd — tolerance — all the while devoting his efforts principally to the welfare of Jews (a tribal approach to life that most Westerners would regard as primitive).

* The 1995 Shabbos we found out in California that Israel’s Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin was shot by an Orthodox nationalist, I went to daven at Aish HaTorah, down Pico Blvd from the MOT, and there was no sadness and some joy at the news.

In my two decades in LA Orthodox Judaism, both of the modern and traditional varieties, I’ve found that a majority of those Orthodox Jews who talk about Meir Kahane (whose view on expelling Arabs from Israel has much support in Torah literature) and Baruch Goldstein do so positively (I understand that is different in New York). You can buy a copy of Baruch HaGever at the 613 Mitzvah store, a quarter mile down Pico Blvd from the MOT.

* Rabbi Marvin Hier created one of the premier locations in all of California for a Jew to do business with a Gentile. (Chaim Amalek)

* The more meritocratic America becomes, the more disproportionately successful American Jews will become, and the more pressing the need to keep the goyim from resenting us as we continually outstrip them.

* Rabbi Hier completely avoided shanda (scandal). Many men in his position get out of control sexually, financially or with drugs and alcohol. He’s avoided this.

* I fail to see any need for his Museum of Tolerance (it’s really a Holocaust museum with a nod to other genocides) or any more Holocaust museums by anyone (when compared to the Jewish need for Torah education).

* Rabbi Hier rarely, if ever, made stupid public pronouncements. I do agree, however, with Ami Eden’s Ami Eden’s op-ed critique in the NYT called “Playing the Holocaust Card:”

Jewish organizations and advocates of Israel fail to grasp that they are no longer viewed as the voice of the disenfranchised. Rather, they are seen as a global Goliath, close to the seats of power and capable of influencing policies and damaging reputations. As such, their efforts to raise the alarm increasingly appear as bullying.

The most recent example came earlier this month, after Prince Harry of Britain was photographed attending a private masquerade party in a World War II-era German uniform and Nazi armband. His appearance touched off a frenzy in the news media. The prince was called insensitive to Jewish suffering, with some suggesting that he was infected with anti-Jewish bigotry lurking in the genes of the royal family. One protester, Rabbi Marvin Hier of the Simon Wiesenthal Center in Los Angeles, called on the prince to make amends by traveling to Poland for the Auschwitz ceremony.

This is exactly the wrong approach. By playing the Holocaust card against Harry, Jewish critics deflected attention from how Harry had insulted the memory of the millions of Britons who suffered during World War II; they also risked squandering a diminishing supply of hard-won moral capital better spent in the fight against terrorism and the rise in Holocaust denial and anti-Semitism…

* As far as being a Jewish leader, I don’t see Rabbi Hier having significance. I’ve never heard someone say, “I wonder what Rabbi Hier thinks about this.” Rabbi Hier is an organizer, not an intellectual. He has excelled at reminding the non-Jewish world about how Jews have suffered but he does it from Orthodox Judaism, unlike his secular deracinated peers such Abraham Foxman and Morris Dees and their low-rent race hustler counterparts in black life such as Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton. From where I sit, Rabbi Hier’s hustle is good for the Jews and for the world (while Jackson and Sharpton are definitely bad for blacks and for the world), but who knows. Perhaps Steve Sailer is more prescient than I am: “…Jews need to realize that people like Abe Foxman and Morris Dees are not on their sides. They are on the sides of Abe Foxman and Morris Dees, respectively. They make a very nice living scaring the bejeebers out of elderly affluent Jews with nightmare stories about how the New Cossacks are ready to ride, and then extracting big donations.”

* Jews were better off in the mildly anti-Semitic America that didn’t allow them into all hotels and country clubs and colleges and jobs in proportion to their talents because that bias promoted group cohesion and discouraged assimilation. I don’t think that Jews are better off that groups such as the ADL and Bnai Brith and the MOT have made it impossible for any public figure to get away with critical remarks about Jews as a group and to publicly analyze typical weaknesses (and strengths) of Jewish thinking and organization. I think Jews would be better off if we were to be as open a target to group criticism and evaluation as Christians and Mexicans.

* Jews such as Marvin Hier, Abraham Foxman, Dennis Prager, et al, men with high IQs and great ambition excel at presenting to the world its greatest problem and then developing a solution. It helps your productivity and gravitas when you’re convinced you are fighting on God’s side.

* Marvin Hier is a “court Jew.” He doesn’t shape Jewish life, but his stature as an authentic Jew who can convey absolution to public figures accused of anti-Semitism is immense.

According to Wikipedia: “In return for their services, court Jews gained social privileges, including in some cases being granted noble status for themselves.”

* Only in traditional Orthodox Judaism do we freely admit this basic Judaic dismissal of other religions. In Modern Orthodoxy and the more liberal streams, we misrepresent Judaism to make it more acceptable to the wider world we mix in.

Meir Kahane’s approach was basic elementary Torah, popular with Orthodox Jews but the opposite of the ostensible MOT approach (depending on whether or not you view the MOT as primarily about promoting Jewish interests or universal interests, as the Jews’ interests in Israel are best served by minimizing the presence of Arabs, who have low IQs on average and sympathize with the enemy).

* I am certain that whoever replaces Marvin Hier will do a dramatically inferior job (unless it is one of his sons).

Jack* emails:

I remember when Hier moved to Los Angeles. He was a nothing Rabbi in Vancouver and befriended the Belzbergs who are one of the richest Jewish families in Canada. It’s pretty clear that Hier wanted a bigger stage than Vancouver and the Belzbergs were willing to finance his transition to Los Angeles. He didn’t come here to run a synagogue. He came here because he wanted to compete with the ADL as a spokesman against Anti Semitism and his vehicle to do that was to create the museum of the shoa (deliberately mistranslated as the museum of tolerance as a way to gain acceptance in diverse city of Los Angeles.) The ADL had always been an East Coast organization (even though a number of its national Chairs in the past twenty years have been from L.A., the executive director is out of New York) and Hier realized that with his penchant for publicity and the Belzbergs’ money and with the large numbers of wealthy Jews, particularly in the entertainment business, that he could tap for dough in exchange for carved letters on the marble walls of his museum, he could go places. If Hier is thought highly of by traditional Jewish leaders (traditional in the sense that they were leaders of existing Jewish organizations whose mission was duplicated by Hier and whose fund raising base was raided by Hier) or by any learned Rabbis, they have kept that praise to themselves. When Hier first moved here up through the opening of the museum, I heard plenty of disparaging remarks about Hier, many apparently fueled by resentment that he could come in and gain such a high profile, but others based on the belief that he created a solution for a problem that didn’t exist, to his (and his family’s) enormous benefit. Take a look at the salaries and expenses paid to Hier and his family members who are employed by the museum.

Did you read the Times’ 1990 article? My recollection is that it was well researched, sourced and accurately reflected how Hier was thought of at the time. Now it’s 23 years later, and Hier is a respected elder statesman, not a climber.

It seems to me that in every area where Rabbi Hier competes with existing Jewish institutions, he does that area better than they do.

This Forward article of Dec. 15, 2013, names Marvin Hier the most overpaid Jewish charity chief.

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Cults In Our Midst

By Margaret Singer PhD:

Indirect trance induction also grows out of storytelling and other verbal experiences. Cult leaders often speak repetitively, rhythmically, in hard-to-follow ways, and combine with these features the telling of tales and parables that are highly visualizable. They use words to create mental imagery, commonly called guided imagery.
In these guided-imagery exercises, the listener is urged to picture the story being told. The speaker may say, “Stop reflecting. Just go with the picture.” Those who do stop reflecting on their nearby circumstances and go with the picture suddenly feel absorbed, relaxed, and very focused. And guided-imagery stories lead many people to experience altered states of consciousness.
A considerable number of different guided-imagery techniques are used by cult leaders and trainers to remove followers from their normal frames of reference. One technique is to tell long detailed stories that hold listeners’ attention and get them absorbed, while lowering their awareness of the reality around them. As a result, they enter a trancelike state in which they are more likely to heed the suggestions and absorb the content of what is being said than if they were listening in an evaluative, rational way. The leaders who use guided imagery and other verbal techniques navigate through these exercises according to how much the listeners seem to be attaching to the words, how submerged and quiet they become.
For many persons, entering a trance state is pleasurable. It provides a respite from thought about the woes of everyday life. Thus, for example, about sixty years ago, people used to get together to read trance poetry. This poetry was an aspect of Romanticism, a nineteenth-century literary, philosophical, and artistic movement that was a reaction to an earlier neoclassical movement focused on intellectualism. Among the influences on Romantic poetry were mesmerism, the opium-induced hallucinations of British writer Thomas De Quincey, and Germanic authors’ stress on imagination. When read aloud under suitable circumstances, a number of poems from this period have a decided trance-inducing effect. Poems such as Poe’s “Annabel Lee,” Gray’s “Elegy,” Tennyson’s “Bugle Song,” and Coleridge’s “The Rime of the Ancient Mariner” are of this type. Early in this century, groups would gather to have a good reader read such poetry aloud in order to induce a condition of rapt attention and intense emotional responsivity in a sizable portion of the audience. Some reported the experience was intense enough to be called “sublime ecstasy.” These group readings, as well as solitary silent readings of certain kinds of poems, produced what are best called trance-augmented aesthetic experiences.
Students of this phenomenon have listed six qualities of trance-inducing poetry: (1) freedom from abruptness, (2) marked regularity of soothing rhythm, (3) refrain and frequent repetition, (4) ornamented harmonious rhythm to fix attention, (5) vagueness of imagery, and (6) fatiguing obscurities. It is these very qualities that can be identified in analyzing the speech of many cult leaders, particularly when they are addressing groups of members and sympathizers.
Some leaders combine storytelling imagery with shouting, rhythmic clapping, and dancing to induce altered states. These processes, the reader will recognize, combine both overbreathing and trance induction in one event. So not all guided imagery is quiet, and surely not all cult leaders know the details of how trance induction through absorption works or the intricacies of hyperventilation. But from what has been described to me and others, I believe that the successful cult leaders monitor, observe, and learn from what they try and, as needed, revise and reformulate the folk art of persuasion.
One leader of a Bible cult repeated long, colorful tales of his childhood as the content for his guided imagery. The history he told was later found by ex-members to be mostly fictional. The main thrust of his tales was to point out how pure and clean and innocent he was as a child. He explained that these traits led him to his special mission as a leader. Ex-members recalled that they spaced out during his tales and left the meetings feeling subdued and obedient. Interestingly, they said his guided imagery often was about achieving a mind such as he had had as a child: “Get your mind as it once was, the mind of a child, free and innocent, not a thought in your mind. Let me think for you.”
Some of the psychotherapy cults and thought-reform groups use guided imagery to regress members back to childhood. The purpose is to stir up recall of past pain and loneliness and, at the same time, induce members to blame their parents for allowing them to be alone and neglected when they were children. The following brief sample of a regression technique comes from a man who had been in a group that used a great deal of visualization. He was told:
Close your eyes and go back in time to your childhood. See yourself at about age six. It is like a dream. you see yourself in a woods. You are you young and all alone. You walk between the trees to a clearing in the center. You see an old wall with a wooden gate that opens easily. You step inside, look around. you see some toys from when you were very young. The stuffed animal you loved, but it’s cast aside, all alone and neglected. You look over across the way and see some clothes torn. You see the blanket you used to take to bed with you. You see your old bed across the way. You begin to feel as lonely now as you did as a little kid in bed, all alone. Who did you long for? Did they come? Why are you crying all alone in your bed? Think about all those lonely times and all those broken promises. Dad forgetting to come home to play, Mom not coming to put you to bed. All those broken promises. They are still deep inside, pulling at you, you are crying out alone and no one comes.
This guided imagery has the psychological goal of stirring up emotions, causing you, the group member, to return to childhood memories and recapture sadness. It also has the goal of implying that there are even more painful memories yet to be found, intimating that your parents caused all the miseries in your life. This allows the leader then to show you the way to happiness through learning his message and way of life: to come to find your new family and to feel loved here, blame those awful parents and don’t go near them.
Guided imagery can have any content, and the group process of hearing others cry and sob as they recall past traumas has a powerful impact, for it induces a contagion of feeling and participation that can be heady for most persons.

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The Dangers Of LGAT (Large Group Awareness Therapy)

An excerpt from “The Politics of Transformation: Recruitment – Indoctrination Processes in a Mass Marathon Psychology Organization”
Published by St. Martin’s Press 1993
By Philip Cushman, Ph.D.
Mass marathon training is usually based on the belief that it is a universal truth that all human beings will have problems in life until they develop deep cathartic psychological insight, experience completely their every feeling, and live only in the present moment (see Brewer, 1975; Bry, 1976; Rhinehart, 1976). According to this ideology all defenses are bad and must be destroyed. They shape their group exercises in order to uncover and intensify the participants’ underlying conflicts and deficits. Everyone must be exposed to these exercises; there are no exceptions. When all defenses are destroyed, they claim there is literally no limit to what each individual can accomplish.
Yet there is research that contradicts this universal claim. Applebaum (1976) reported on the results of the Psychotherapy Research Project of the Henninger Foundation, which attempted to better understand the effects of psychological insight in the treatment of patients who had ego-function difficulties and severe characterological problems. After insight-oriented treatment. a substantial number of patients were found to have changed for the worse. The data confirmed that the “screened-off aspects of one’s self” are hidden for a reason; for some types of people the conflicts that necessitated the screening off should remain hidden. Psychology, Applebaum argued, has to recognize the factors, which impinge upon whether, when, how much, and what kind of insight a particular person in particular circumstances should be helped to achieve. We need to know . . . the patient’s capacities in order to design the best amount, kind, and timing of insight. (1976, pp. 205-206)
The data demonstrated Applebaum’s contention that differential diagnosis and a differential treatment plan is crucial in effective psychotherapy. This conclusion challenges the universal and absolutist claims of insight oriented mass marathon groups. Applebaum warned that “Until we give up the pipe dream of insight as a universal good or a universal bad, we and our patients will, at times, be injured by its dangerous edge.” (1976. p. 206)
Just as Applebaum criticized those who considered the indiscriminate use of insight a universal therapeutic panaceas so too did Hampden-Turner (1976) attack those who treat human growth like a consumer product, indiscriminately applying certain techniques to every customer who appears with a blank check. He vigorously disagreed with the ethics of “The pop supermarket, the idea that you can purchase a “peak” here and a “high” there, and go psycho-shopping for prepackaged experiences…in fact human growth is not like a product at all, and we vitiate it utterly by pandering to the consumer ethos.” (1976, p. 3)

His critique focused particularly upon the highly structured, authoritarian, insight-oriented marathon workshops. Some aspects of humanistic psychology, he argued, seem· “…to have almost forgotten that our most precious human values are achieved by indirection as opposed to the means ends rationality of industrial production. . . I seriously question any high that has been programmed in advance.” (1976, pp. 1-2)
He voiced his disagreement with psychological ideologies that discount or deny the significance of the sociohistorical and economic realities of the situation in which the client lives. These ideologies instead argue for the grandiose delusion of the ultimate limitlessness of the individual. To the organizations that teach this ideology he posed a provoking question: “If we are not aware of what the economy does to us, are we self aware at all? Any genuine search for truth must remind us of the things we cannot change.” (1576, P. 3)
In this way Hampden-Turner raised an issue that Sampson (1981) expanded upon. Sampson criticized cognitive psychology (the single most prominent aspect of the ideology of many mass marathon organizations) for its “subjectivist reduction.” By this he meant the regressive tendency to discount the nonsubjective world by considering it to be either a hallucination or subject to the total control of the individual. According to some mass marathon organizations, human fetuses choose their parents, female victims choose to be raped, and Vietnamese children chose to be bombed. The regressive aspects of this ideology seem to be readily apparent.
Sampson demonstrated how a regressive psychological doctrine can impact on political activity. He argued that an ideology both accurately expresses the “zeitgeist” of the era and may also inaccurately distort the facts in order to serve the ruling elite. He explained how cognitivism as an ideology serves the status quo of power and privilege in American society by teaching individuals to reinterpret their internal response to a painful experience rather than to work at rearranging the external situation so that it could better facilitate personal and communal well being.
Humanistic psychology owes much to Lewin’s “laboratory movement, ” which originally developed the encounter-group format at the Bethel Institute. Mass marathon psychotherapy organizations claim that they are within the legitimate tradition of this movement. They claim that their training techniques, which include severe milieu control and a rigid ideology, are taken directly from the encounter movement of years past. And yet Gottschalk and Pattison’s (1969) study of the history of T-groups and the laboratory movement appears to refute that claim. They found that the laboratory movement was originally an attempt to encourage democracy within community action groups. It was composed of three types of groups: T-groups, task-oriented groups dedicated to teaching about group process, and intervention labs whose goals were action-oriented community improvement programs. The authors found that the original unified effort diverged into an increasing number of activities, each with different philosophical foundations and agendas. The shift in the 1950s to “individual growth. . . . self knowledge, to actualization and maturation” (1969, p. 4) was a clear deviation from the founding philosophy.

They reported that T-group participants sometimes complained of the hidden. agendas, group norms, and covert values of charismatic group leaders and their loyal followers.
They found that the trainer and various group members are calling upon them to stop certain ways of behaving, talking, thinking, and feeling, and that different ways of behaving are being prescribed. (p. 12)
Also the T-group was found to consciously evoke dramatic reactions in the participants, which often involved an exaggeration of impulsive traits and personality styles.
Gottschalk and Pattison isolated 13 liabilities of encounter groups, some of which are similar to characteristics of most current mass marathon psychotherapy training sessions:
They lack adequate participant-selection criteria.
They lack reliable norms, supervision, and adequate training for leaders.
They lack clearly defined responsibility.
They sometimes foster pseudoauthenticity and pseudoreality.
They sometimes foster inappropriate patterns of relationships.
They sometimes ignore the necessity and utility of ego defenses.
They sometimes teach the covert value of total exposure instead of valuing personal differences.
They sometimes foster impulsive personality styles and behavioral strategies.
They sometimes devalue critical thinking in favor of “experiencing” without self-analysis or reflection.
They sometimes ignore stated goals, misrepresent their actual techniques, and obfuscate their real agenda.
They sometimes focus too much on structural self-awareness techniques and misplace the goal of democratic education; as a result participants may learn more about themselves and less about group process.
They pay inadequate attention to decisions regarding time limitations. This may lead to increased pressure on some participants to unconsciously “fabricate” a cure.
They fail to adequately consider the “psychonoxious” or deleterious effects of group participation (or] adverse countertransference reactions. (1969, p. 13)
As a result, participants and leaders may unconsciously distort their feelings and responses when reporting to researchers about the group or recruiting for future groups. This might result in a deceptive “oversell” that could undermine informed consent and lead to unrealistic regressive expectations in new recruits, the specific type of problems that have been found to lead to psychological casualties (see Yalom & Lieberman, 1972, below). Since these liabilities are so similar to the techniques used in some mass marathon training’s, they may also cause psychological damage in that setting as well.
In a significant study with far-reaching consequences for the study of mass marathon training’s, Yalom and Lieberman (1972) observed in 209 undergraduate subjects the negative effects of participation in an encounter group. Over the course of 10 weeks, 18 groups met for 30 hours; there were also 150 fifty control subjects who did not attend any group.
Each group was run by a leader who was chosen because he was an excellent representative of one of 10 ideological schools of encounter (T-groups, Gestalt, Rogerian-marathon, psychodrama, psychoanalytic, Transactional Analysis, sensory awareness, Synanon, personal growth, black-white encounter, and leaderless). Each was given complete freedom.
Yalom and Lieberman’s primary interest was in assessing the types and causes of psychiatric “casualties.” The operational definition of a casualty was “an enduring, significant, negative outcome which . . . was caused by…participation in the group” (1972, p. 223). There is little doubt that the careful, conservative manner in which the study was conducted tended to minimize negative results and reduce the risk to subjects (1972, p. 228). The authors developed a system for identifying subjects who were harmed. Their definition of this subsample and their means of locating it were characteristically conservative. Subjects were included in the casualty subsample only when they had experienced “enduring” negative change and “…as a direct result of . . . [their] experience in the encounter group became more psychologically distressed and/or employed more maladaptive mechanisms of defense.” (1972. p. 228)
Also, the experience must have been proven to be the responsible element in the psychological decompensation. For example, one subject committed suicide during the study and was not counted as a casualty because the suicide could have been caused from past encounter group experiences.
In a startling finding, Yalom and Lieberman reported that 9.4% of the subjects met their stringent criteria and were therefore identified as casualties. The authors viewed this as a serious challenge to the entire movement.
The authors also determined that it was neither the psychological traits of the subjects (i.e., predispositional factors) nor the ideology of the leaders (i.e., doctrinal factors) that determined the casualty rate. Instead, surprisingly, it was the style of leadership that was primary. Leaders who were aggressive, stimulating, intrusive, confrontive, challenging, personally revealing, and authoritarian were the leaders who caused the casualties.
Specifically these leaders often unilaterally structured the group’s events. Their focus was on the individual rather than group process. They provided a comprehensive intellectual framework with which to understand one’s self and one’s world. They exercised firm control and were “ready, willing and able” to take over for participants and guide them to “enlightenment” (1972, p. 236). They were People who were charismatic leaders: they had a universal message to deliver, a foolproof technique to use, and a cause to recruit for. They were uninhibited in their attempts to convert all the participants in their group. These characteristics are clearly duplicated by many mass marathon trainers. The findings corroborated Gottschalk and Pattison’s 1969 conclusions and again call into question many tactics used by mass marathon organizations.
Of the categories that caused casualties, “rejection” was the most damaging. “Failure to achieve unrealistic goals” was the second most dangerous category. Each of these subjects reported being pressed for a breakthrough without being able to deliver. “Leader attack”-“group attack” tied for third. The fact that participants were restrained from leaving, that they had “no place to hide,” was thought to be a crucial element. “Group pressure to experience and express feelings” also caused casualties. When subjects couldn’t comply, they felt a “sense of hollowness” which led to a “deficient or empty self-image” (1972, p. 243).
Interestingly, many subjects who demographically resembled the casualty subsample didn’t have negative experiences. Yalom and Lieberman found that they had more realistic expectations for the experience, they were not lonely or depressed, they remained uninvolved (i.e. “…they did not enter into a public confessional and therefore maintained their objectivity and their ‘observing ego'”), they dropped out of the group, they depended on a positive self-concept when they were negatively criticized by the group, or they used an outside reference group to bolster their own beliefs when in conflict with a group norm.
The authors suggested that a questionnaire that detects unrealistic expectations would be a helpful counterindicator when attempting to predict which potential participants would be at risk. In summary, Yalom and Lieberman stressed that casualties were caused by the style and techniques of the leader, and by recruitment and selection practices.
The groups were determined to be dangerous when:
Leaders had rigid, unbending beliefs about what participants should experience and believe, how they should behave in the group. and when they should change.
Leaders had no sense of differential diagnosis and assessment skills, valued cathartic emotional breakthroughs as the ultimate therapeutic experience, and sadistically pressed to create or force a breakthrough in every participant.
Leaders had an evangelical system of belief that was the one single pathway to salvation.
Leaders were true believers and sealed their doctrine off from discomforting data or disquieting results and tended to discount a poor result by, “blaming the victim.”
Yalom and Lieberman concluded by again emphasizing the crucial importance of informed consent. “Our best means of prevention,” they maintained, remains the type of group the subject enters, and our best means for prevention is self-selection. If responsible public education can teach prospective encounter group members about what they can expect in terms of process, risks, and profits from a certain type of group, then and only then can they make an informed decision about membership. (p. 253)

It is instructive to note that many mass marathon organizations are conducting their training in the exact manner found by Yalom and Lieberman to cause the greatest number of psychiatric casualties

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Life Had Some Rude Surprises For Me

As I moved through my teens into my 20s, my father foresaw that I had heapings of misery headed my way. When I wouldn’t heed his admonitions and insisted on my own way, he said, “Perhaps you’ll only learn through pain for I fear that life has some rude surprises for you.”

What did my father see for me that I didn’t?

For most of my life, up until February of 1988, it seemed to me that every year was better than the previous one and that growing opportunity and freedom would bring me happiness. And then I moved through my 20s into my 30s and 40s and now I can look back and puzzle out what my dad was on about. What did he see that I didn’t?

* That pursuing what I wanted before what God wanted for me would end in disaster. It turns out I’m the type of bloke who needs transcendent purpose in his life or he’ll go off the rails pursuing his lusts. I’m naturally all about me and what I want and what will advance my name. That hasn’t served me. I’ve made a hash of things. I’ve had to keep coming back to God after totally stepping in it and pledging anew to put Him first.

* That spending my health to get my wealth would result in me spending my wealth to try to get my health.

* I couldn’t talk to women like I talk to men.

* If I treated people carelessly, as means to my ends, they would resent that and hurt me. Nobody likes a know-it-all.

* My indifferent work ethic would not allow me to get ahead. I couldn’t only expend effort when it suited me, when the subject interested me, or I’d get stuck in minimum-wage jobs. Most advancement comes through personal connections.

* My father taught me that women are not lemons that you can squeeze and throw away. Women are not watermelons that you can drill a hole in to see if they’re sweet. Women are not mangoes that you can eat out and discard. Women are not apples that you can munch and trash. Women are not strawberries that you can cover with whipped cream and eat for dessert. Women are not a box of chocolates where you can take a bite out of each to see if you want more.

* I love a good gossip but it would never occur to me to say to somebody, “Did you know what Joe said about you?” I never do this but I see it done all the time. If somebody says something to me in confidence, I protect it. If I didn’t, I would never have any sources. What happens between Joe and me, I keep that to myself. I sometimes have friends who are feuding and I simply keep quiet about what each says to me. There’s a circle of trust. I feel terribly betrayed when I confide in one person and she tells it to another.

* Once a day, I like to lie back, close my eyes, listen to my favorite pop songs, and visualize myself running around Pacific Union College like I did in seventh grade. Back then when I jogged my 40 or so miles a week, I dreamed that one day I’d leave for the big city and my life would really begin. Now I live on my own in the big city and I dream about jogging around my insular Seventh-Day Adventist community of 1978.

I feel so many shades of sad. There’s the glaring exposure of running through sunshine when the whole world sees how alone you are. There’s the brooding darkness and fright of running through deep shade. There’s the bite of running through early morning cold when no one’s around and then there’s the struggle of pounding through the oppressive heat of the Napa Valley summer. And as I run, I think about whether I’m getting closer or further from the girl I like, Denise.

The meaning of every street I run down in my imagination depends on the amount of love on it for me. I’m an emotional vampire, seeking to suck the love out of life. People like me who are needy haven’t yet learned to care for ourselves so we can transcend ourselves in our care for others.

Even in seventh grade, I was aching for a love fix, though that was diminished once I connected to the Muths and was made an honorary member of their family. My God, it is such a beautiful warm sunny Christmas day in Los Angeles, and I’m lying back imagining running through seventh grade. Only now I can’t blame anyone. In seventh grade, I could blame my parents, my church, my school, my teachers, my classmates. Now it’s all on me. I wish I could accomplish something magnificent.

My basic state of mild depression hasn’t shifted much over my life.

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The Call Of The Shofar Controversy

Benny posts:

Reflections on the Call of the Shofar controversy:

I don’t know much about the program, nor do I particularly care. But, ever since the controversy began, I’ve been asking —

What’s the goal and purpose for writing and bashing COTS?

Okay, so you feel it might be a cult. Gotcha. But, why are you suddenly bashing this group? Why are rabbis, rabbonim and mashpiim writing articles and calling meetings to discuss this issue? What difference does it make if mature adults make a decision to attend a weekend retreat?

Is the goal to save souls? Really? Then, I simply ask you, where are these people on the numerous other important and profound social issues going on in Chabad today? Why are there no meetings on sex-abuse by these same people? Why are they not writing articles on the matter and publishing it on all Chabad websites?

Rabbis – you think it’s okay to motzie shem rah on hundreds of fellow Jews? You think its okay to disparage them? You think its okay to call them idol-worshipers (the worst thing that anyone can ever call a yid)?

Clearly, it isn’t about COTS or saving souls. It is clearly about power, control and getting your name in the news. Not one of the so-called experts or opinionates interviewed a single COTS attendee to discover what happens, what affect it had and what “hold” COTS continues to have over the member.

It’s a bloody shame. They want to control our daily actions, our way of thinking and our ability to be independent. These rabbis crave power and control – something they have been losing steadily over the past several years.

Rabbis – if you truly care about the Jewish soul, then show that you truly care and do something about the more pressing and important issues. And then can we address COTS and its effect on several hundred adults.

Luke says: It’s such a shame that rabbis want power, control and influence. Oh wait, all the anti-abuse activists want the same thing. Wait, everybody with an IQ over 100 wants the same thing. Every healthy smart adult with an ego wants power, control, and influence, if only to keep it away from people they hate. Much of the anti-abuse activism is driven by hatred of rabbis (who embody Judaism aka telling you what to do), which is fine with me. Let a thousand arguments bloom. Rabbis have lagged in the fight against abuse and they deserve criticism.

You could make the same argument against the rabbis against COTS by saying, “But what about lashon hara/tv/internet? Why aren’t they speaking out about lashon hara/internet/tv etc” Or any of 100 things that pose a danger to Orthodox Judaism. COTS aka Landmark aka LGAT (Large Group Awareness Therapy) is dangerous. Read Culteducation.com if you want to know more. Rabbis are doing their jobs when they condemn something that is dangerous, even if they don’t simultaneously condemn everything else that is dangerous.

Put “Call of the Shofar” into Google and the first auto prompt is for “cult.” COTS comes from Landmark, which is EST, which was developed by Werner Erhard, the fake name of former used car salesman John Paul Rosenberg, who was heavily influenced by Scientology.So if you love Scientology, you’re going to love COTS, and if you hate Scientology, you’re going to hate COTS (if you think things through and do your research).

Per Wikipedia:

Erhard read L. Ron Hubbard extensively, and some Scientology terms overlap with terms from est.[19] Erhard later said, “I have a lot of respect for L. Ron Hubbard and I consider him to be a genius and perhaps less acknowledged than he ought to be.”[17]:383 William Bartley, in his biography of Werner Erhard, recounts that he asked Erhard to describe the differences between est and Scientology; Erhard replied:

The essential difference between est and Scientology is two-fold. The first has to do with Scientology’s emphasis on survival and its idea that the purpose of life is survival. est sees the purpose of life as wholeness or completion – truth – not survival.
The other main difference between est and Scientology lies in the treatment of knowing. Ron Hubbard seems to have no difficulty in codifying the truth and in urging people to believe it. But I suspect all codifications, particularly my own. In presenting my own ideas, I emphasize their epistemological context. I hold them as pointers to the truth, not as the truth itself.
I don’t think anyone ought to believe the ideas that we use in est. The est philosophy is not a belief system and most certainly ought not to be believed. In any case, even the truth, when believed, is a lie. You must experience the truth, not believe it.

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