The Rise Of The Korean Nursemaid

Many soft-spoken service workers become fierce when they can. Blacks, for instance, used to do much of America’s menial labor and they were known as docile servants. That all changed after the Civil Rights revolution of the 1960s. Now their jobs are largely taken by Mexican and Filipino immigrants who similarly have a reputation for docility. Well, just wait until they have power and then see how docile they are.

It’s easy for men to bonk down in social class (many of my buddies attached themselves to Filipina and Mexican women when they couldn’t find a quality white girl). Many white men marry oriental women because they think they are meek and mild and submissive and later get a shock when the tiger mother comes out. If you have your life together, why would you want to attach yourself to someone with a credit score below 700 who constantly creates chaos? Been there, my friend. It didn’t work out so well.

Report:

SAN FRANCISCO — For decades, the petite and soft-spoken Susan McClain Koret has barely had a voice.

The 76-year-old Korean immigrant is officially “chairwoman for life” of the prestigious $500 million Koret Foundation, which her late husband Joseph set up to fund humanitarian causes both here and in Israel. But in quarterly board meetings at the foundation’s renovated brick San Francisco headquarters, she is frequently treated by powerful and well-known fellow directors as little more than the nursemaid she once was for Joseph Koret’s dying first wife.

The long-simmering conflict exploded last week in dueling lawsuits and news conferences, casting an unflattering light on the inner workings of one of the Bay Area’s largest and most revered philanthropies. The Koret Foundation — best known for its donations to Jewish community and religious organizations, as well as a host of schools and museums like the Exploratorium — has distributed half a billion dollars since the late 1970s.

Koret claims that the clubby board — led by real estate magnate Tad Taube, the best man at her wedding to Joe Koret — is funding its own pet projects and conservative causes instead of following her husband’s vision that money be used to help the most needy.

“Joseph Koret,” her lawsuit states, “is turning over in his grave.”

The story of how a simple military bride rose to a lofty position in one of San Francisco’s most prominent philanthropies says a lot about how Susan McClain Koret found her voice among her late husband’s well-heeled associates.

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Why Don’t I Ever Feel Heard?

I have spent my life struggling with the feeling that I am not being heard. I guess it goes back to my early years in foster care. Whatever the cause, it is a big reason I blog. The healthier I get, the less need, perhaps, I will feel to write.

Therapist Jerry Wise: “If you equate ‘being heard’ with ‘agreed with’, you have an enmeshment problem [wanting others to be just like you].”

“Often feeling heard allows couples to move on… A child who grows up in a dysfunctional family has a different experience with feeling heard.”

“The person who does not feel heard is often having an experience they have felt most of their lives. It is not simply about the immediate interaction with another person. The content may be about that but the process is about not feeling heard.”

“I’ve been with couples where one individual was being heard but could not feel being heard because she did not feel heard growing up in her family.”

“Feeling heard happens when we value ourselves enough to be heard.”

“Often individuals who grew up in dysfunctional families equate feeling heard with being totally validated as a person. They so lack a sense of self they feel that if they can only get enough validation, they will feel cared about. The self-love I need is important work I have to do. It doesn’t happen by someone else hearing me. I have to do that self-work first.”

“Not feeling heard may say more about the relationship vs not being heard. Maybe there are deeper problems not resolved?”

“Reducing our historic need to feel heard will increase our experience of being heard. If we heal from our childhood, we will live in a way to feel more heard. Otherwise, we will feel our spouse is just like our parent, our family of origin in not hearing her.”

“Looking at the deeper roots of not feeling heard is more important than just learning skills. Healing deeper wounds tends to resolve more not feeling heard issues than just learning skills.”

“Reduce your need to be invisible and to be not heard. If we were heard, that would create anxiety for us.”

“Stop repeating yourself and stop nagging. Use IMAGO dialogue.”

“Resolve your family of origin issues. You are more likely to be heard after those are resolved. They will blind us.”

“As we increase our worthiness of feeling heard and increase our self-differentiation through expressing our needs, beliefs, wants, boundaries and feelings without reactivity and cutting off. This will enable us to experience more love and feeling heard.”

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We’ll Say No More About It

* Growing up a WASP, I often heard the phrase, “We’ll say no more about it.” I don’t ever remember hearing it in Jewish life, however.

* From Downton Abbey, S5E6, Lady Mary: “I’ll be as solemn as a church.” I can’t imagine anyone ever saying, “I’ll be as solemn as a shul”, though Reform temples can be solemn.

* According to some Biblical religions, if you see a woman and you think, “she would never go out with me”, and you rape her instead, you got yourself a wife.

* Twenty three women I swiped for on Tinder swiped me back, leading to ten Tinder conversations and one phoner.

* A Daf Yomi joke: I tried to get some ma’amar but all she’d let me know was halitzah.

* Husband to wife: “Business is down. We need to control our spending.”
Wife: “Why don’t you work harder? Advertise more? You’ve got to spend money to make money.”

* I was in a gorilla suit on Babylon 5 circa 1995 and it was a hot day. I started teetering and an actress pointed me out and they stopped the shoot and took great care of me and gave me the final SAG voucher I needed to join SAG. I was always treated great on set. Many of the actors were friendly, such as Liza Minelli.

* The car that gave me the most pleasure — the Corvette.

* A shaygetz I know used to date the daughter of a leading Conservative rabbi who was friends with John Updike. One day John came by and asked my friend, “Have you screwed her yet?” The shayg ended up converting to Orthodox Judaism.

* Friend: “What’s with this outfit? There’s got to be a better way to dress. You look like you jumped out of a plane and you pulled the rip cord and a Torah floated above you.”

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Brian and the Boz

This 30 for 30 documentary shook me up. It’s about a kid (Brian Bosworth, better known as the Boz) who can never meet his father’s expectations who takes on a college coach (Barry Switzer) as his subtitute father figure, enjoys astonishing success as he takes on an alter ego (the Boz), but then it destroys him and destroys his relationship with his substitute father figure, destroys his relationship with his substitute family (the Oklahoma Sooners) as he writes a tell-all book filled with devastating criticisms of the people who loved him, and then his dreams of NFL success come to a quick and crushing halt because of shoulder problems and he has no home and no community to fall back on. He falls into a deep depression as everybody who loved him has grown to hate him.

Rick Reilly, the author of the Boz’s autobiography, says: “He took a shot at everybody he could except his dad, who was the one person he really wanted to lash out at.”

Brian tells his son: “It seemed like no matter how well I played, I never seemed to be able to do enough.”

Son: “Why was that?”

Brian: “I don’t know. I don’t know why I couldn’t make him happy. It was just something I couldn’t give him.”

“Look at all this stuff. There’s more to life than paper clippings, accolades, and rewards. If you can’t meet the expectations, it doesn’t mean that you are less of a man.”

Director: “Brian was never able to find peace with his relationship with his father. There was this space between them that neither of them knew how to mend and to move past.”

Brian’s dad dies in 2009. There never is a reconciliation.

“Brian is trying to show his kids the love he never got himself.”

Rick: “Brian was a terrific pro player as long as he lasted. He wasn’t big enough to play in the NFL but he got $11 million dollars. He went to number two on the New York Times bestseller list. They gave him gifts in Seattle. He was the toast of the town.”

Brian: “You can fall off that pedestal in a moment.”

Friend: “He realizes that what he was chasing for decades, he was never going to find contentment in that.”

“To get to where he is now, you have to hit rock bottom.”

Daughter: “After my grandfather’s death, he came to truth with his faith and what’s real and what’s deserving of his time and energy and love.”

Pat Tillman: “He’s morphed into a guy who’s filled with contrition.”

Barry Switzer: “You’ve always been a part of the program, Brian. We knew what you were.”

In the 90-minute program, that’s the sentence that moves me most: “You’ve always been a part of the program, Brian.” I guess that’s the sentence I most want to hear from some of my authority figures.

Brian says to Barry: “You and I have gone through a long relationship and I’ve always felt, I can’t let this man. I not only betrayed you, but then I lost your trust, I lost you as a coach, I lost you as a friend. It took me many years of work to get back into the good graces with you.”

That part makes my eyes well up.

Brian to Barry: “You replaced my father as my father figure.”

Barry: “I loved Brian Bosworth. That other kid who came along, Boz, I had a little problem with him.”

“You were never a disciplinary problem. You were never an alcohol problem. You were never a drug problem. You did everything we asked of you. The problem was you were always on stage for the media, doing the outlandish, saying the outlandish. Your mouth created more problems for you and for me than any actions you did.”

In 2003, Brian goes back to Oklahoma University and apologizes and is accepted back, to a degree, into that family.

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Why Can’t We Criticize Islam?

Dennis Prager writes: There is apparently no amount of mass murder, no number of innocents tortured or women raped, no amount of female degradation, no number of people enslaved, no number of Christians expelled from or murdered in the Middle East, no amount of Nazi-like Jew-hatred in its societies, no number of beheadings or even crucifixions, and no amount of terror that allows criticism of Islam.

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Why do Jews oppose wars against evil?

Dennis Prager writes:

One of the deepest disappointments in my life has been Jews’ opposition to wars against evil. I had always assumed that, as the victims of so much evil throughout history, and as heirs to the great moral teachings of the Bible and Judaism, Jews, of all people, would support fighting on behalf of victims of the greatest evils.
Take fighting Communism, for example. Along with Nazism, Communism was the most genocidal movement in human history; it actually enslaved and murdered considerably more people than Nazism. Yet, most Jews didn’t support anti-Communism in general nor anti-Communist wars in particular. Even worse, Jews were disproportionately pro-Communist. In Stalin’s time, the Yiddish press was the most pro-Communist press in the Western world. And among those in the West who gave Stalin the secrets to the atomic bomb, nearly every one was a Jew.
How could that be? How could so many people who see themselves as bearers of a great moral legacy, or who simply see themselves as highly moral, have either been supportive of the greatest mass murder machine ever devised; or, as was more often the case, opposed fighting the greatest mass murder machine ever devised?
On what moral grounds did Jews oppose supplying the South Vietnamese government with arms to help save itself from being taken over by Communist North Vietnam? Most American Jews not only opposed fighting the Communist regime of North Vietnam, they even opposed merely supplying the South Vietnamese government with military hardware so that it could defend itself when, in violation of the 1973 Paris Peace Accords, North Vietnam attacked South Vietnam. And in those very same accords, America had promised to replace every South Vietnamese bullet and tank lost in defending itself.
After all, American Jews hadn’t opposed the Korean War, in which nearly 37,000 Americans and more than two million Koreans died. That war was a mirror of the Vietnam War. The southern half of the Korean peninsula — just like the southern half of Vietnam — was pro-West and anti-Communist; and the Communist North, backed by China and the Soviet Union, sought — in both Korea and Vietnam — to forcefully impose Communism on the south.
Nothing has changed today. Most American Jews vigorously supported President Barack Obama’s plan to remove all American troops from Iraq. The consequences, which everyone who opposed this plan knew would happen, were that Iraq would go from relative stability to mayhem and bloodbath. Why hasn’t this mattered to most American Jews?

Contrary to what Dennis Prager alleges, Judaism has been strangely silent about the need for Jews to lobby their non-Jewish host nations to fight wars against evil. There’s also nothing in Jewish history to suggest that this has been a historical practice of Jews.

Instead, Jews, like all other groups, push for policies that are in their self-interest.

American support for Israel is not good for America and it is not good for Israel. It was a major reason Al Qaeda attacked the US on 9/11. If America gave less foreign aid and if its military was less involved in the world and instead protected its own borders, America and the world would be better off. Israel would have more room to take care of its enemies. Win win for Israel and America. Our relationship is too close for our own good (our meaning America, Israel, Jews, the world).

Ken Kurson: “Luke, do not interpret the fact that I haven’t deleted your comment [above], unfriended you, and stalked you down and pounded the shit out of you for that stupid comment as anything other than a lifelong commitment to free speech.”

Luke: Please correct me if I am wrong, but this cartoon seems indicative of a certain type of bitter Jewish humor that goes back to the Torah ala Israelites saying they were better off in Egypt where they had leaks. Many Jews I know today say, “He’s worse than Hitler” or “This is worse than Auschwitz” as a reflex. The Ashkenazi discussion style uses a lot of vicious hyperbole. Jews are rarely criminally violent, but they are routinely verbally violent. Is this cartoon any worse than Israelis calling each other “Nazi”?

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What A Shame

Who knows, given a proper education and encouragement, that suspect might otherwise have found cures for AIDS or ways to make solar power more economical.

REPORT: DALLAS – A man shot and killed the person who tried to rob his wife outside a popular Dallas grocery store.

It happened Tuesday night at the Aldi store on Forest Lane and Webb Chapel Road.

According to police reports, the elderly couple was walking to their car when a man approached them.

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Who Inspires These Lone Islamic Gunmen?

I don’t want anything for my group that I don’t want for other groups. If blacks and Muslims want to build up black and Muslim communities and keep out everyone else, I’m fine with that. Let them build their own countries. Let them build their own schools.

Different groups have different interests. Jewish interests often clash with Muslim interests, for example. Black interests often clash with Latino and Asian and White interests. It is natural for different groups of people, different races and religions, to fight. The more diversity you have in your country, the more conflict.

The races assimilate in only the most superficial of ways. Japanese-Americans have life results very similar to Japanese and African-Americans have similar results to Africans.

VDARE writes:

In January 1993, a Pakistani applicant for political asylum (and, simultaneously, for amnesty as an illegal immigrant) opens fire on employees entering CIA headquarters, killing two and wounding three!…In December 1993, a Jamaican immigrant (admitted as a student but stayed, illegal status automatically regularized after marriage to a U.S. citizen) opens fire on commuters on New York’s Long Island Rail Road, killing six and wounding 19!!! WHAT’S GOING ON??!!?

The case of Colin Ferguson, arrested in the Long Island Rail Road shootings, is particularly instructive. With a little help from President Clinton, talking the very next day at a lunch for journalists, it was rapidly converted into another argument for gun control.

The Pakistani immigrant was a man named Mir Amal Kansi. Kansi was eventually executed. But Pakistan is full of people who hate America for either Muslim or Pakistani nationalist reasons. Some of those are that the highest levels of Pakistan’s government. We saw that in 2011 when CIA interrogators discovered that Osama bin Laden was hiding in Abbottabad, Pakistan, about a mile from the Pakistani Military Academy. [What Pakistan Knew About Bin Laden , By Carlotta Gall, New York Times, March 19, 2014]

Kansi may have “acted alone.” But there was a whole culture behind him. And some of them were egging him on.

But if there was a whole culture of Communism behind Oswald, and a whole culture of Islam and the nation of Pakistan behind Kansi, who or what is the whole culture behind Colin Ferguson, the proliferating Immigrant Mass Murders, and the “Disgruntled Minority Massacre” phenomenon I identified recently?

Colin Ferguson was not Muslim. But he was black, an immigrant from Jamaica. He shot up a train full of unarmed white people on the Long Island Railroad because he hated white people. He certainly acted alone—he was, in some sense, insane, although apparently fit to stand trial in New York.

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High Rents Vs More Kids

Are my peers choosing not to breed by picking high rents in safe areas over lower rents in more dangerous places that, still, would leave them with enough money with which to woo and marry and breed with a fertile woman? Chabad Jews are willing to live in the darker parts of town to afford their kids. The Lubavitcher Rebbe opposed white flight (for Jews from their historic neighborhoods).

I think this unfairly puts the onus on white men (actually, men in general) while not looking at some of the unfortunate choices young white women make.

David: “I have noticed that. Certain ethnic/religious groups will live in the s— areas of town and pop out a shed load of kids. Funny part is that the two groups that spring to mind are Jews and Muslims.”

Chaim: “In pure economic terms, I think there is something to this argument. But I don’t think it is anyone’s plan, it is instead a consequence of certain decisions. But I also think it takes two here, and women are the ultimate gatekeepers of their sexuality (at least when they are young).”

Alex: “Also jews and muslims have communal support that whites don’t. Whites aren’t accustomed to governing themselves independent of surrounding circumstances. At least in the west that seems to be the case.”

Chaim Amalek: “Alex, that is true of religious Jews, but not so much others. The old model of “real” Americans as lone wolves striking out for the wilderness on their own has always been somewhat false (lone wolves are the losers of the animal kingdom, are they not?) and it certainly does not work now. What White America needs is a consciously self-interested form of communal action. In other words, Socialism. Socialism of the family and of the immediate community, which is what orthodox Jews have. Mormons are a great example of what I mean. Whatever it is that the Mormons are doing and whatever you wish to call it, do that. Also parts of Hassidic life (only parts of it) are worth emulating. ACLU/Woody Allen liberalism is not. Step One: The recognition that all groups are in competition with all other groups to one degree or another. Step Zero is recognizing that there are groups.”

Alex Trivunovic: “All socialism is national, since it needs homogeneity in order to work. This is never openly stated. The technical term is ‘corporatism’ i think. For Mormons that is. A corpus (body) that acts essentially as a tribe or political party for it’s members in return for solidarity and loyalty. Sometimes unquestioning and self sacrificing loyalty.”

Chaim: “Syrian Jews. I think it is more about having a sense of belonging to a group and favoring members over outsiders. Also pooling resources, living together, sharing meals, and all that follows from that. No miscegenating with others, not even Ashkenazi jews like the Hassids. No converts allowed.”

“Alex, sometimes under the same roof. The high birth rate thing is more to do with the Hassids, who are not Syrian Jews by a long shot. There, they created a self contained world where girls are socialized to accept and expect that they will marry young (that is KEY), and have as many children as they possibly can.”

“So marry YOUNG, detach yourself from popular culture, recognize that humanity is broken down into many groups, figure out which one you belong to, and favor its members over outsiders. That’s most of it.”

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Is Seahawks QB Russell Wilson Not Black Enough?

Russell Wilson, a polite Christian, is the only black quarterback right now I’d feel comfortable building my franchise around. I would not worry that he’s going to go out and do stupid things and get arrested.

Barack Obama and George W. Bush both lost their first runs for political office because they were not strong enough in their district’s dominant in-group identity (black for Obama and white Christian for Bush). They never forgot this lesson.

From Bleacher Report:

There is also an element of race that needs to be discussed. My feeling on this—and it’s backed up by several interviews with Seahawks players—is that some of the black players think Wilson isn’t black enough.

This, again, was similar to the situation with McNabb. And this, again, will be denied by Seattle people. But there is an element of this.

This is an issue that extends outside of football, into African-American society—though it’s gotten better recently. Well-spoken blacks are seen by some other blacks as not completely black. Some of this is at play.

Runningback Marshawn Lynch reacted to the trade with a tweet, “Damn, they got my nigga.”

The Washington Post reports:

Charles Barkley weighed in on a report that the Seattle Seahawks’ locker room is divided because quarterback Russell Wilson isn’t “black enough,” saying that blacks are “brainwashed to think, if you’re not a thug or an idiot, you’re not black enough.”

The NBA analyst, as always, was never anything other than outspoken on a topic that has roiled the Super Bowl champions since the trade of Percy Harvin sparked rumors about divisions within the team.

“We as black people are never going to be successful, not because of you white people, but because of other black people. When you are black, you have to deal with so much crap in your life from other black people,” Barkley said in a CBS Philly radio interview on “Afternoons with Anthony Gargano and Rob Ellis.”

Barkley wasn’t finished.

“For some reason we are brainwashed to think, if you’re not a thug or an idiot, you’re not black enough. If you go to school, make good grades, speak intelligent, and don’t break the law, you’re not a good black person. It’s a dirty, dark secret in the black community.

“There are a lot of black people who are unintelligent, who don’t have success. It’s best to knock a successful black person down because they’re intelligent, they speak well, they do well in school, and they’re successful. It’s just typical BS that goes on when you’re black, man.”

Barkley and all the other mainstream commentators on this don’t get it. Every group has to look at the world in a way that it finishes first. Let’s imagine blacks looked at the world the same way whites did. Then blacks would go around feeling bad because they didn’t have the cognitive skills, on average, to compete with whites and to out-earn whites and to out-perform whites in business and academia and organization.

So blacks, like all other groups, look at the world in the way where they finish first by valuing things that blacks are great at such as sports, rap, jazz, other parts of pop culture, thuggery, trash talk, womanizing, baby making, and other improvisational skills.

Here’s an article on the Dallas Cowboys offensive line: “Callahan said the characteristic that connects Dallas’ offensive linemen is their intelligence…” Three of the Cowboys starting five offensive line players are white. Blacks dominate the speed positions in the NFL while whites hold their own at the positions that require strength and IQ.

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