Monthly Archives: August 2012

What Did I Think Love Was?

Love for me has primarily meant romantic love. Sexual love. Agape love is great in real life but it is not the stuff of fantasy. So love for me has primarily been a fantasy rather than a reality, an aching … Continue reading

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What Creates A Sex Addict?

I was struck by these few sentences by Patrick Carnes in his groundbreaking book on sexual addiction called “Out of the Shadows“: Addicts report that as children they felt desperately lonely, lost, and unprotected. Not only was there a lack … Continue reading

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What’s My Role In Judaism?

Sometimes I think I’m the court jester. Other times, I think I have a powerful role. More people read me than hear any Shabbos morning sermon. People don’t treat me trivially. I remain an outsider. Almost every group I join … Continue reading

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Why Did I Convert To Judaism?

* I wanted to be part of the most effective group for making a better world. A group that had a divine recipe (Torah). * I wanted to improve myself. * I wanted to belong to a transcendent community (without … Continue reading

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Why Do I Keep Seeking Out Substitute Father Figures?

I was blessed with a good father. My dad is righteous. He’s a rock. He’s reliable. He’s predictable. He’s stable. And with my mother (who died of cancer before I turned four) and my step-mother, he gave us three kids … Continue reading

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