Category Archives: Abandonment

Lack Of Meaning Vs Too Much Meaning

In the buffered identity, the decisive forces lie within: the capacity to choose right from wrong, to create meaning, and to chart one’s life with autonomy and strategy. In the porous identity, the decisive forces lie without: the world presses … Continue reading

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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–And How to Make the Most of Them Now

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Dealing With Abandonment

Therapist Mark Smith: “You are only going to be highly attracted to people who are made of the same psychological DNA as the people who hurt you the most growing up.” “If you start at 3 in psychological health and … Continue reading

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Resolving Your Parental Issues

Most of the people around us see us more clearly than we do. As we get older, we might find it easier to let go of the barriers we keep up against admitting the truth, and seek help. Most everything … Continue reading

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Prisoners Of War

I’m watching this Israeli TV show “Prisoners of War” and this gorgeous girl, working undercover, throws herself at this guy to try to suck information out of him. And I’m thinking, I’d give anything to be this guy. This is … Continue reading

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My Neediness Is As Big As The Grand Canyon

Just before my 40th birthday, my ex-girlfriend Holly, who was throwing me a party, said to me on the phone about her shopping for my gift, “What do you get the guy who has nothing?” She had looked into the … Continue reading

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Family Tree Counseling

I love FamilyTreeCounseling.com. Here are some highlights from their podcasts: A better way to say Fear of Abandonment is crazy jealousy issues, when someone over-reacts when they perceive you backing away from them. They react emotionally, not rationally. It’s probably … Continue reading

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My Fear Of Abandonment

As I drive up the 405 towards Mulholland Drive on Super Bowl Sunday Feb. 3, 2013 to the first performance of my one-man play, there is a loud knocking from my engine. I notice that as I reduced the pressure … Continue reading

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My Fear Of Abandonment Comes From My Unwillingness To Grow Up

My fear of abandonment keeps raising its ugly head because I’d rather put my reliance on a relationship, a group, a job, a status, on anything rather than to do the work to become self reliant and self-validating. For example, … Continue reading

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Will A Relationship Cure Your Fear Of Abandonment?

Therapist Jerry Wise says: For many who have suffered abandonment, often they have put their hope in marriage as the antidote for this problem. They look for relationships to heal the hurt of abandonment. Abandonment is the experience of suffering … Continue reading

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