Category Archives: Personal

I’m A Serial Enthusiast

August 11: If this is what isolating looks like, I’m doing fine! I spent about five hours in shul today. My main website, Lukeford.net, has been felled by an attack of malware and is currently blocked by Google. My feet … Continue reading

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Gratitude

My therapist asked me Monday night why I didn’t express what I felt. Why did I minimize my gratitude? “I didn’t want to get overwhelmed by emotion,” I said. “It’s not worked out well for me to show too much … Continue reading

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Tales From Jewish Dating Hell

Dating is the one thing you get worse at the more you do of it. I came to Los Angeles at age 27. I went to 20-something evenings at Aish Ha Torah. Then I started going to 30-somethings. What a … Continue reading

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The Case Against Masturbation

More than two months ago, I gave up masturbation. (About 16 years ago, I gave up promiscuity and about two years ago, I gave up porn and any kind of visual aid to masturbation.) In 1990-1991, I gave it up … Continue reading

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In My Father’s Footsteps

My boss came to my shabbos lunch talk. He said he could see my dad Desmond. He said he could see my father’s example coming out in my strut as i walked back and forth making my points… He said … Continue reading

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And Then They Become Goddesses

A friend writes: Is any woman less pleasant than the formerly hot 50 year old who does not get why men don’t want her? Then they all become “goddesses”. Beware the goddess!

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My Sobriety Tour

Fred emails: “Being a roadie on Luke’s Sexual Sobriety tour might be a good idea. One might meet chicks who are falling off the wagon, as it were.” The 13th step is always the slipperiest.

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After 20 Years Of Well-Earned Ostracism, I’m Being Embraced By My Religious Community

And to think that 12.5 years ago, I was named “A**hole of the Month” by Larry Flynt’s flagship publication. It was an honor just to be nominated.

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Pain & Perspective

In 2009, it took about five visits (and nearly $1000) to my physical therapist to get over my plantar fascitis, which had been bothering me since 2000. For almost a decade, I’d been going to a podiatrist who gave me … Continue reading

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Can I Give An Inspiring Speech?

I feel relatively comfortable giving the 12-step share. You confess your shortcomings and your struggles and you say what has helped you. In Orthodox Judaism, a lot of people know that I converted and they want to know why. More … Continue reading

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