Category Archives: Personal

Reconnecting With Old Friends

A great thing about having some measure of fame is that it reconnects you to old friends. And Facebook is great for that. There are large swathes of my life where I’ve been unable to reconnect with anyone. I’m not … Continue reading

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Working On Myself

I fear I’m going to be rusty when I get back in the dating game. What am I going to say about my blank resume the past 30 months? That I’ve been working on myself? I knew this couple. They … Continue reading

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Laughter Vs Embarrassment

I was at this Jewish event one Friday night in Pico-Robertson circa 1995 and I thought I was being terribly amusing because people were laughing. The organizer pulled me aside and said I was being inappropriate. “But they were laughing,” … Continue reading

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Writing Letters To Your Parents

I notice that many psycho-therapists give their patients assignments of writing out their feelings and frustrations in long letters to their parents. Did your dad wound you when you were eight with a withering comment at the dinner table? Write … Continue reading

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What Do I Get Out Of Therapy?

Sitting down with the same person every week and sharing what’s on my mind without any fear of judgment or repercussions helps me to find clarity. I bounce my ideas and feelings off the world all the time on my … Continue reading

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When Did I Find My Power?

Assignment: Write about a time in your early life when you felt powerful. In seventh grade (1978) at Pacific Union College Elementary School, my teacher tried to integrate me. She gave me a big part in an audition for the … Continue reading

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I’ve Kept Almost No Friends From Childhood

I had this idea that the friends you make in childhood are friends for life. Boy, was I wrong. When I came down with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome at age 22, most of my friends dismissed me when I could no … Continue reading

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When Did I Hit Bottom?

Over the past year, I’ve been going to 12-step meetings for love addiction, sex addiction, co-dependency and the like. I’m trying to figure out when I hit bottom. Perhaps it was the evening 13 years ago that I went searching … Continue reading

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$100 Students Are Easier To Work With Than $25 Students

About six months ago, I was giving a friend $25 Alexander Technique lessons. He bargained me down to giving him half lessons for $12.50. And this guy was my most difficult student. He didn’t want to do many of the … Continue reading

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The Therapist Who Loved Me

In early 1994, my psychiatrist suggested I would make more progress if I got a psycho-therapist. I agreed. One afternoon, my girlfriend, nine years older and not Jewish, drove me to the office. I had all sorts of fantasies that … Continue reading

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