I’m as homophobic as they come but I adore West Hollywood’s "Five Dollar Guy." Not in a sexual way, just in a funny way.
I met him at the Mamie Van Doren party Nov. 14.
Video Video Highlights of Mamie, Julie Strain and co Part Two Part Three
I’m as homophobic as they come but I adore West Hollywood’s "Five Dollar Guy." Not in a sexual way, just in a funny way.
I met him at the Mamie Van Doren party Nov. 14.
Video Video Highlights of Mamie, Julie Strain and co Part Two Part Three
Critics of the Craigslist-style forums say the sites act not as healthy outlets for inevitable sentiment but as encouragement to troubled minds.
"I don’t see how that belongs on Craigslist," said Shari Julian, a Texas psychologist and frequent expert witness and corporate consultant on workplace behavior and harassment.
The Internet has been a great forum for what Julian calls "real communities" of cancer survivors or military families. But it has also nurtured an "artificial" sense of community among the hateful, she said.
"When you have a venue for ventilating rage, your belief in that rage is ratified," Julian said. "It increases their belief that their behavior is acceptable. Their behavior is applauded, seconded. In that case, it’s scary. It does seem to roll and escalate."
I’ve published a lot of offensive material over the years, much written by me. The above remarks resonate with me. I’ve noticed how mindless hate feeds mindless hate on my websites just as thoughtful posts lead to thoughtful emails.
Think the Larry Craig story was just a tabloid creature of late summertime?
Think again.
Eight men have now come forward in the Larry Craig story – for reasons that range from clear anger to admitted self-promotion – and they have told their stories to the Idaho Statesman, the newspaper that broke the story in late August. According to the Associated Press’ reporting of the matter:
Eight men say they either had sex with Sen. Larry Craig or were targets of sexual advances by the Idaho lawmaker at various times during his political career, a newspaper reported Sunday…
The newspaper identified four men and reported details of the encounters they say involved Craig. It also reported the accounts of four other men who did not agree to be identified but who described sexual advances or encounters involving the conservative Republican, who opposes same-sex marriage and has a strong record against gay rights.
It’s a blockbuster advancement in the story, no doubt.
"Sex in Shakespeare is usually the source of pleasure. And of course the source of life. Young lovers look forward with frank delight to the consummation of their passions, usually after they have been properly married. There are lots of sexual jokes in Shakespeare and they are usually good natured ones… Young people prance out into the green fields and sing "Hey nannany" on a May morning… But in Measure for Measure, sex is usually an unattractive source for death. In Shakespeare’s 38 plays, only two have scenes in brothels (Measure for Measure and Pericles)." Professor Peter Saccio in The Teaching Company’s course on Shakespeare’s comedies.
I go through a couple of books (or courses) a week on CDs I borrow from the Los Angeles Public Library.
Hanukkah is for many a time filled with wonderful memories of rushing around to purchase gifts and cards for loved ones; of families and friends getting together, lighting the Menorah, eating potato pancakes, and singing the traditional songs.
However, for survivors of childhood abuse (emotional, physical and sexual abuse), this festive time can be a time where painful memories reemerge. It is not unusual for survivors to need to make decisions about how to best keep themselves safe during the holiday: some may need to spend time with friends who understand their conflicted emotions toward the holiday, some may need to limit their time with their families, while others may not feel safe spending the holiday with family at all. Even for those who make alternate plans, there is often a sense of loss of the loving, healthy family they never had or the memories they wish they’d had. Hanukah–like other times where families traditionally get together–can be a difficult time for those who no longer have contact with family members due to the degree of dysfunction that was (and often still is) in their family.
This is a time of year when a survivor may find it safer to retreat than to participate in holiday functions–the associations and memories may be too painful, too emotions too close to the surface. This is not a failure or wrongdoing, but can be seen as yet another aspect of the aftermath of abuse in the family. It is important that each individual survivor finds what works best for him or her so that they can optimize their ability to stay emotionally healthy. If you decide to be with your family and are nervous about how you’d feel about it, it can be helpful for you to designate ahead of time a ‘safe person’ with home you can debrief afterwards or call if things get tough while with family. It is vitally important that each person be kind to themselves about the decisions they make for holiday plans. The rest of us need to respect the survivor’s decisions, and to understand that they may decide not to participate in Hanukah events.
It’s like taking a check for my lovemaking skills.
It just doesn’t feel right.
I don’t want to make money from Torah Ringtones and Torah Weirdos For Christ.
That’s why I’ve been so slow to commercialize this sacred website.
I’m so spiritual that I don’t like worrying my pretty little head about such carnal concerns. It’s like reading "The Game" to pick up women.
It’s not part of the divine plan for my life.
The things of God and the things of man should be separate.
I just find tweaking my AdSense so tawdry. I want to concentrate on the things of Heaven, not play with the Devil.
It’s easier for a camel to thread the eye of a needle than for a rich blogger to find salvation.
The only way I’ll allow myself to include advertising on my websites is to do it so ineptly that I only make the minimum of money.
I put in AdSense codes today for my blogs YourMoralLeader and Mel Needs Help. It felt awkward. Why must my art be contaminated?
Oh, how I long for the days when I could live off Holly Randall.
I’ve stepped up my economizing. I just cancelled HBO (saving $15 a month). The last time I tried to do that, they offered me six months for $5 a month. I was hoping they’d do the same this time but they offered me nothing.
December 16, 2007 – International Press Academy’s 12th Annual Satellite Awards
December 13, 2007 – L.A. Direct Magazine Holiday Party
December 12, 2007 – Tom Kennedy’s Party For His Debut Novel "The
Twelve"
December 12, 2007 – "Walk
Hard" Premiere
December 11, 2007 – Katie Lohmann’s 20th Calendar Release Party
December 9, 2007 – Hollywood
Life Magazine’s 7th Annual Breakthrough Awards
December 9, 2007 – Blade Runner
Screening
December 6, 2007 – Flaunt Magazine
Christmas Party
December 6, 2007 – Jules Verne
Film Festival
December 5, 2007 – FULCAGE
Fashion/Charity
When I’m in a good relationship (with a woman, a family or a community) or engaged in a noble cause, my mind settles.
Right now my mind races.
I must become finer. So many people have invested in me — my parents, my childhood friends, my teachers, my rabbis. I owe them. I need to repay them by becoming a good person.
But I don’t want to fall off the deep end with religiosity. My contribution to humanity, my reason for being, is not primarily the holiness of my deeds but the quality of my writing.
Good writing demands brutal honesty. Such honesty can be cruel. It’s not my God-given mission to become a saint. It’s my God-given mission to blog.
Oh why did I have to throw my life away to write on porn?
Oh well, that’s done. It’s inured me to humiliation. Now I can take that courage and do something noble.
I must stop writing in a tawdry way. I must stop taking shortcuts. I must stop using cheap tricks and comparing Brad Greenberg to something out of Der Sturmer. I must make a contribution.
But first I have to live. I have to pay the bills. I must get traffic. Once I’m financially secure, then I’ll be good. But not overly…
The big news this weekend that a whopping three editors, including the managing editor, quit Nick Denton’s flagship Gawker Media blog empire, has left former Wonkette editor Alex Pareene up a tree without a parachute. Pareene, you’ll recall, was run out of Washington after his affair with a married female was revealed on Big Head DC. Denton looked kindly on him (maybe because Denton is known for some strange affairs of his own), and let him start quietly snarking in NYC at Gawker. But, with the departure of a majority of its editorial staff, Denton has now announced that he wants to re-fashion the site as a news disseminator — not a snark regurgitator.
BigHeadDC writes this memo to Dan Savage:
Perhaps you don’t want to believe the Benjamin Nicholas / Trent Lott story because you played a role in once hiring Nicholas, an alleged plagiarist, to write a few articles for your newspaper, The Stranger? Have you had communications with Nicholas since this story broke? If so, what has he told you? Have you not been honest in explaining your relationship with him? Most importantly, why did he risk his negatively affecting escort business by not flat-out denying a Lott relationship in his original e-mails?
If I were maximum dictator, I would force every newspaper editor, every magazine editor, and every television producer in the land to read Ben Wallace-Wells’ 15,000-word article in the new (Dec. 13) issue of Rolling Stone, titled "How America Lost the War on Drugs."
Wallace-Wells captures the complete costs of the drug war better than any journalist I’ve read in a long time. He documents how the federal government has dropped about $500 billion combating illicit drugs over the past 35 years. Nearly 500,000 people sit in jail or prison for drug crimes, "a twelvefold increase since 1980," Wallace-Wells writes. For all the money the government has spent and all the people it’s jailed, it’s still failed to make a long-term impact on the availability of drugs. The militarized drug-control techniques favored by the Bush administration, he reports, have increased violence and political corruption abroad, violated human rights, and destabilized several Latin American nations.
Wallace-Wells’ accomplishment, while formidable, didn’t require the back-channel confidential sources that Bob Woodward relies on or the mildewed library stacks of obscure documents that made up I.F. Stone’s arsenal. Wallace-Wells gets the story and gets it well by approaching the much pawed-over topic with an open mind and a smart set of questions. Like an auditor called in to assess the wreck of a Fortune 500 company, he asks what the government has gotten for the half-trillion dollars it has spent on the drug war and takes the question to the limits.