My DNA Leaks Over The Crime Scene

From my live cam chat:

palestine4ever:  She bought it [lukeisback]?
palestine4ever:  Scoop!
palestine4ever:  Who was running it before?
palestine4ever:  The Fake Luke?
palestine4ever:  We admire your loyalty.
palestine4ever:  It’s just funny that that there are all of these Luke porn sites being run by people other than Luke
palestine4ever:  It shows what a bull in a china shop you were in that industry
palestine4ever:  Years later, your DNA is still leaking all over the crime scene
palestine4ever:  I honestly haven’t paid any attention to porny comings and goings in a couple of years
palestine4ever:  But you were Oft Imitated, Never Duplicated

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Creating Attraction Between Men & Women

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach writes:

Tens of thousands of singles congregate on the Upper West Side of Manhattan or the Pico-Robertson area of Los Angeles. They attend singles synagogues. They go to an endless variety of singles events. They date about 50 people each. And still no magic. They just don’t fall in love; they fail to develop an erotic spark.

But notice how in what is often referred to as the "ultra-Orthodox" community, where I was educated, this rarely happens. On the contrary, most men and women get engaged after dating, perhaps, their fourth or fifth person, and after dating for just a few weeks.

I know what you’re thinking. Yeah, you religious kooks will marry almost anybody. But give us a bit more credit for our discernment. The real reason we get engaged so much more quickly is that the two sexes have been largely separated since birth. When they finally do go out, they don’t need to be impressed with superlatives. They are attracted to good enough – someone who satisfies their needs – as opposed to mounting a 15-year search for "the best."

When our men and women go out, the date itself is erotic. The distance between men and women exists in the very educational structures, so that when the two are brought together, even in a non-sexual environment, an immediate sexual spark is felt. They go out and, guess what? They’re actually attracted to each other.

HUSBANDS and wives need to recapture some of that same erotic longing by ensuring they never grow into becoming the same person, and by always maintaining erotic differentiation.

The erotic mind works through differentiation. Sexual polarity is key. When, say, a husband wife become too alike, when they do everything together and never have any space apart, they begin to tire of one another. This is not only due to the loss of novelty, but, more importantly, to the loss of sexual polarity.

Here is a strong argument for the need for zones of privacy, even in marriage. Yes, when we marry, we become one flesh. But it’s important that we remain one flesh clothed in two bodies. We dare never become one person.

To be sure, I am a great believer in the most intense intimacy in marriage and would never advocate distance between husband and wife in the most important spheres. But there is a good reason why Jewish law says that a wife should preserve a modicum of modesty even in the bedroom, and that a husband should be careful never to attend to his hygienic needs in his wife’s presence. Not everything in marriage is designed to be shared.

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Leah Kleim’s Tats

From her website:



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Top Jewish Neighborhoods

Lisa Alcalay Klug writes for Jewish Living magazine: "The key word that defines all 10 neighborhoods is‚ "vibrant." There is energy surging forth in every one. Together they form a mosaic of diverse pieces‚ mixing old and young; singles and families; suburban and metropolitan settings; affordable to pricey housing; Reform to Conservative to Orthodox to Renewal and more. They are the new melting pots, bubbling with all the forms of self-expression that represent the Jewish people today."

Where is the energy surging forth in Pico-Robertson?

What exactly makes this neighborhood "vibrant"? Where is this vibrating going on? Isn’t vibration against the Torah? It’s a form of self-abuse, no? Surely the rabbis banned it.

Where are the forms of self-expression bubbling in Pico-Robertson?

Isn’t that against the Torah? "Bubbling" sounds subversive and "self-expression," well, that’s idolatry, no?

I bet that the only bubbling, vibrating and surging in Pico-Robertson happens at the gay temple — Beth Chayim Chadashim — and even then only on Sabbath.

Isn’t a mosaic, by definition, composed of "diverse pieces"?

Where is the melting going on in Pico-Robertson? Most of the groups I know, from the ultra-Orthodox to the secular Jews, keep to themselves. If you take your worldview seriously, it is difficult to roll with those different from you. As the Good Book says, "How can two men walk together unless they be agreed?"

Is it possible to write the paragraph above with even more cliches and less meaning?

Lisa writes:

Pico-Robertson, Los Angeles

7. Pico-Robertson, Los Angeles

For decades, Jews have congregated near where Pico Boulevard meets Robertson Boulevard in West L.A. Of late, the community has grown exponentially, yet it still gives off the comforting sense that you are among brethren. Clustered within a mile-long strip between Beverly Drive to the west and La Cienega Boulevard to the east are a slew of synagogues, kosher markets, and eateries from fast food to fine dining. There are also Judaica stores, wig and dress shops, countless schools—even, a few blocks farther, the Museum of Tolerance and Simon Wiesenthal Center.

Most shuls are Orthodox, with every variation represented from Persian Chabad to the Carlebachian Happy Minyan, which meets in a Jewish-owned karate dojo. There are both old-school frum-from-birthers and a growing wave of ba’alei tshuva, newly observant returners to the faith who congregate at Aish HaTorah and several Modern Orthodox shuls. Housing is relatively expensive: Glamorous Beverly Hills starts one block north, and Beverlywood, an equally exclusive area, begins several blocks south; in between are "modest million-dollar homes," small in size but big in price, as well as apartments popular with singles and young families.

    At-a-Glance Essentials:

  • Epicenter: Roughly the intersection of Pico and Robertson boulevards.
  • Downside: Pico is a somewhat unsightly boulevard that becomes highly congested during peak hours. Smart shoppers avoid the pre-Shabbat rush.
  • Contacts:
    The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles (www.jewishla.org)
    L.A. Jewish Guide (www.lajewishguide.com)
  • More: Click here (PDF) for further information on this neighborhood.
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Painful To Watch

Dikla Kadosh writes:

At Camp Rikud, David Dassa’s annual Israeli folk dance weekend at Camp Hess Kramer in Malibu, there is always a talent show on the last night.

Many of the performers are painfully embarrassing to watch and leave you wondering how anyone could be so lacking in self-awareness. Like the high school girl who performed a slightly odd dance number in a loose strapless shirt that kept sliding down every time she turned, jumped or twirled. The performance was dangerously close to becoming a peep show and the audience was more preoccupied with gasping and giggling at the near-wardrobe malfunction than with the young girl’s awkward movements – which in the end, turned out fine for everyone: the audience was entertained and the girl was the talk of the night.

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Will the Democrats cave on telecom immunity?

Sometimes I’ll feel like I’ve been unfair to political scientist Raphael J. Sonenshein and I’ll try reading him again, only to discover why I loathe the man’s thinking.

In this article, he blasts the Democrats for caving in to the administration and granting legal immunity to the telecoms who cooperate with law enforcement in finding terrorists.

This is one of our best tools for fighting terrorists. If legal immunity is not given, telecoms and other important businesses will have less incentive for cooperating with the government. As a result, we will be less safe.

We haven’t been able to find one American who has been injured by this wiretapping access, yet we do know that this access has provided important information that has kept us safer.

I wouldn’t mind my phone was randomly tapped for terrorist talk if this would provide our country greater safety.

Andrew C. McCarthy writes for National Review:

It’s been nearly three weeks since House Democrats endangered our national security by effectively rescinding the law that permitted the intelligence community to conduct aggressive surveillance outside the United States. That has sensible Democrats increasingly worried.

They know their House leadership has bungled this issue. The Democrat-controlled Senate passed a compromise measure by a decisive two-to-one margin. Yet, Speaker Nancy Pelosi refused to allow the Senate bill to even reach the floor — where it would have doubtlessly passed. Instead, top Democrats embarrassed themselves by voting a couple of transparently politicized, legally meaningless contempt citations against Bush-administration officials and then . . . leaving for a week’s vacation. Now, we are only a few legislative days away from yet another recess, this one for two weeks over Easter.

The party’s 2008 prospects may hinge on a convincing demonstration of national-security seriousness. For members who grasp that, skipping town without addressing the perilous gap in our capacity to detect new terrorist threats is unacceptable.

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Yay, Another Jewish Journal Cover Story On Gay Marriage

It feels like months since the last one.

Julie Fax writes this week:

While the advent of legal marriage for same-sex couples in California seems heaven-sent for some, for others it is yet another signal that earth is moving further away from heaven.

Without a religious basis for defining marriage, they argue, the term marriage loses its relevance.

"Whether we like to admit or not, the United States is founded on Judeo-Christian religious values. If we don’t acknowledge that the institution of marriage was founded on these values, then we are opening up a Pandora’s box," said Rabbi Daniel Korobkin, an Orthodox rabbi in Hancock Park. "Not only should gay marriage be allowed, but polygamy should be allowed, incest should be allowed."

He argues that broadening the definition of this societal institution actually weakens it, just as broadening the definition of homicide to include animals would weaken the crime of murder.


At the same time, some Orthodox rabbis, including Korobkin, have opened up tentative conversations about how to include the gays and lesbians who are invariably a part of any community, even while not upholding their lifestyle as an ideal.

Conservative radio host and social commentator Dennis Prager warns that redefining marriage will change society.

"Outside of the privacy of their homes, young girls will be discouraged from imagining one day marrying their prince charming — to do so would be declared ‘heterosexist,’ morally equivalent to racist. Rather, they will be told to imagine a prince or a princess. Schoolbooks will not be allowed to describe marriage in male-female ways alone. Little girls will be asked by other girls and by teachers if they want one day to marry a man or a woman," Prager wrote in an article on his Web site soon after the decision was handed down.

He predicts heterosexism will go from being merely socially reprehensible to criminal, and that eventually even the terms male and female will be undercut.

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For The Sin Of Not Getting Along With ME Susan Freudenheim…

For the great sin of not getting along with Jewish Journal managing editor Susan Freudenheim, the newspaper has lost a few male writers (Marc Ballon, etc).

I guess she’s allergic to testosterone.

Every time I start to read something by her, it becomes so exquisitely sensitive, I feel too dirty to finish.

How long must I wait until I get to read the next "Why aren’t I married?" column by Amy Klein?

(The answer is that men are beasts, Amy.)

Every singles column by her has that subtext.

At least she doesn’t complain about the Jewish community’s lack of celebration of illicit female desire (as does Orit Arfa).

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Emma Launches A Blog

She writes:

It has been a lazy week so far.

Work is boring..

That guy from the bar never did call back…


Things are just going by in such a sloooooooow pace.

Tomorrow it’s my best friends 21st birthday party.

Her mum has booked the V.I.P area in one of the top clubs.

I don’t care much for clubbing but I HAVE to be there!

I got her a wicked birthday prezzie.

We went shopping last week and she noticed these really awesome jeans.

"Ugh, I can’t afford them" she said.

I was secretly smiling.

So I got her them and an mp3 player.

I’m the best at picking out gifts. I enjoy it. I’m a fast shopper but I always get it right.

Party starts at 9pm and will probably last into the wee hours of Friday morning.

I’ll go over to her house about 8 and help her pick out something really nice to wear.

I haven’t got a clue what I will wear. You can’t go wrong with black, right?

Maybe an eye catching top, black skinny jeans and knee high boots.

Then, accessorise darling!

I have some free time tomorrow morning before I start work, so I will get everything I need then.

I won’t panic…

Nothing is worse than leaving things until the last minute.

I like shopping but if it’s more than an hour I get bored and loose interest. I tend to rush and
that drives people crazy! hahaha

There will be alot of people I don’t know at this party but that doesn’t worry me. I like meeting new personalities and different faces.

There is one problem with my best friend. She likes to think that she is a "matchmaker" and enjoys introducing me to alot of single and willing guys, which most of the time never really interest me.

I mean, he knows, and I know, she is trying to "set us up" and that’s just awkward!

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Gross National Happiness: Why Happiness Matters for America–and How We Can Get More of It (Hardcover)

Christopher Barat writes on Amazon.com: "The author of "Who Really Cares," the tome that turned popular stereotypes about charitable behavior on their heads, is back with more data regarding which groups in the American population report high levels of happiness. No doubt, most outside attention will focus on the very first chapter, wherein Brooks displays that conservatives have consistently been happier than liberals from the early 70s up until the present, but those who toss the book aside in disgust will miss some important insights. Some of the keys to happiness outlined by Brooks include practicing a religious faith, enjoying a happy married life, working at a job with meaning, and giving back to others through charity. A general theme that runs through all of these is that those who refuse to accept victimhood – and instead take steps towards gaining control over those parts of life that can be controlled – are bound to enjoy happy lives. Not a shocking conclusion in and of itself, but it does fly in the face of redistributionist theories that simply "shifting money around" to equalize income will make everyone feel better, not to mention emphases on the god of "self-esteem" (it’s always best to strengthen one’s own sense of self-worth, as opposed to relying on others to fill our tanks). Lest you think that this is just some partisan screed, Brooks also cautions us that those at both political extremes are among our happiest citizens – and, for that reason, their "tyrannical certainties" should be allowed as little control over our political process as possible. The book gets a little repetitive at times and lifts some of its insights directly from "Who Really Cares," but it’s a worthy companion piece to Brooks’ earlier volume."

Here’s his professor page.

Dennis Prager summarizes one finding of the book: "Marriage makes people happy, children not so much."

Conservatives who are married and go to a house of worship every week, 52% say they are very happy. Liberals? Fourteen percent say they’ve very happy.

Conservatives are twice as happy than liberals to say they are very happy, and far more optimistic about the future, less likely to feel like a failure and more likely to rate their mental health as excellent.

Half of the difference in happiness between conservatives and liberals is explained by lifestyle but the other half is because of the worldview.

Conservatives believe that hard work and perseverance can overcome disadvantage. They have a sunnier disposition about life. What’s the right unit for making social change? It’s me, the individual.

You can’t feel like a problem solver and a victim at the same time. Problem-solvers feel happier. When you concentrate on solving your problems, you have to turn off your victim mentality. When you dwell in your victim mentality, you can’t solve your problems. A big part of the liberal constituency is based on victimhood. If those people were to stop feeling like victims, that would end the Democrats coalition.

What makes for happiness is not easy money but creating value. Earned money makes for happiness.

Arthur C. Brooks writes:

Happiness Predictor 1: Faith

Roughly 85 percent of Americans identify with a religion, and about a third of Americans attend a house of worship every week or more. These statistics have changed relatively little over the decades. By international standards, America’s level of religious practice is exceptionally high. In Holland, for example, just 9 percent of the population attends church on a regular basis; in France, it’s 7 percent; in Latvia, 3 percent.

In general, religious Americans (those who attend a place of worship almost every week or more) are happier than those who rarely or never attend. In 2004 the General Social Survey found that 43 percent of religious folks said they were very happy with their lives, compared with 23 percent of secularists. Religious people were a third more likely than secularists to say they’re optimistic about the future. And secularists were nearly twice as likely as religious people to say "I’m inclined to feel I’m a failure."

The connection between faith and happiness holds regardless of one’s religion. All nonpartisan surveys on the subject have found that Christians (Protestants, Catholics, Mormons, and others) and Jews, as well as members of many other religious traditions, are far more likely than secularists to say they’re happy. It also doesn’t matter if we measure religious practice in ways other than attendance at worship services. In 2004, 36 percent of people who prayed every day said they were very happy, versus 21 percent of people who never prayed.

Of course, not every religious person is happy; neither is every secularist unhappy. Nonetheless, it’s clear that faith is a common value among happy Americans.

Happiness Predictor 2: Work

If you hit the lottery today, would you quit your job? If you’re like most Americans, you probably wouldn’t. When more than 1,000 people across the country were asked in 2002, "If you were to get enough money to live comfortably for the rest of your life, would you stop working?" fewer than a third of the respondents answered yes.

Contrary to widely held opinion, most Americans like or even love their work. In 2002 an amazing 89 percent of workers said they were very satisfied or somewhat satisfied with their jobs. This isn’t true just for those with high-paying, highly skilled jobs but for all workers across the board. And the percentage is almost exactly the same among those with and without college degrees and among those working for private companies, nonprofit organizations, and the government.

For most Americans, job satisfaction is nearly equivalent to life satisfaction. Among those people who say they are very happy in their lives, 95 percent are also satisfied with their jobs. Furthermore, job satisfaction would seem to be causing overall happiness, not the other way around.

The bottom line here: If we want to be happy, we need to work. And that’s advice worth sharing with our kids as well.

Happiness Predictor 3: Marriage & Family

Matrimony has taken a lot of hits since the 1960s. It’s been said to hold many people, especially women, back from their full potential to be happy. Don’t believe it.

In 2004, 42 percent of married Americans said they were very happy. Just 23 percent of never-married people said this. The happiness numbers were even lower for other groups: Only 20 percent of those who were widowed, 17 percent of those who were divorced, and 11 percent of those who were separated but not divorced said they were happy. Overall, married people were six times more likely to say that they were very happy than to report that they were not too happy. And generally speaking, married women say they’re happy more often than married men.

Marriage isn’t just associated with happiness–it brings happiness, at least for a lot of us. One 2003 study that followed 24,000 people for more than a decade documented a significant increase in happiness after people married. For some, the happiness increase wore off in a few years, and they ended up back at their premarriage happiness levels. But for others, it lasted as long as a lifetime.

What about having kids? While children, on their own, don’t appear to raise the happiness level (they actually tend to slightly lower the happiness of a marriage), studies suggest that children are almost always part of an overall lifestyle of happiness, which is likely to include such things as marriage and religion. Consider this: While 50 percent of married people of faith who have children consider themselves to be very happy, only 17 percent of nonreligious, unmarried people without kids feel the same way.

Happiness Predictor 4: Charity

We’ve all heard that money doesn’t buy happiness, and that’s certainly true. But there is one way to get it: Give money away.

The evidence is clear that gifts to charitable organizations and other worthy causes bring substantial life satisfaction to the givers. If you want $50 in authentic happiness today, just donate it to a favorite charity.

People who give money to charity are 43 percent more likely than nongivers to say they’re very happy. Volunteers are 42 percent more likely to be very happy than nonvolunteers. It doesn’t matter whether the gifts of money go to churches or symphony orchestras; religious giving and secular giving leave people equally happy, and far happier than people who don’t give. Even donating blood, an especially personal kind of giving, improves our attitude.

In essence, the more people give, the happier they get.

Happiness Predictor 5: Freedom

The Founders listed liberty right up there with the pursuit of happiness as an objective that merited a struggle for our national independence. In fact, freedom and happiness are intimately related: People who consider themselves free are a lot happier than those who don’t. In 2000 the General Social Survey revealed that people who personally feel "completely free" or "very free" were twice as likely as those who don’t to say they’re very happy about their lives.

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