Why People Become Orthodox

From Hirhurim:

Orthodox Rabbi Kenneth Brander is the inaugural Dean of Yeshiva University, Center for the Jewish Future (CJF). Rabbi Brander is also the Rabbi Emeritus of the Boca Raton Synagogue, founding dean of the Boca Raton Community Kollel, and founder of the Weinbaum Yeshiva High School of Broward and Palm Beach Counties. During his 14 years of service to that community, he oversaw its explosive growth from 60 families to some 600 families.

Click here to read moreThere are several reasons why people decide to become part of an Orthodox community:

These are often a combination of practical and philosophical reasons:

People may become involved in the Orthodox community because they send their child(ren) to a Jewish day school, even though they live a non observant lifestyle. Once their child begins to study, they feel compelled to start learning how to read Hebrew so they can understand the child’s homework or they begin to study Chumash so that they can keep up with their child. They may start attending synagogue so their children can interact with their friends. They begin by becoming socially orthodox.

I remember one particular experience, when my eldest, Tuvia was in kindergarten. He became friends with another boy and they had regular play dates together (my wife had joined forces with a friend in the Conservative community to write “the Emily Post handbook” on making everyone comfortable around kashrut and religious standards at birthday parties and playdates) At one point, the friend turned to his parents and said that he wanted to wear tzitzit like his friend Tuvia. Eventually, that family koshered their home. The two boys, now young men, are still close. He and his family not only keep a strictly kosher home but they are all serious bnei Torah and are true lights for our people.

In the Boca Raton community, there were more that sixty families that were slowly drawn to an Orthodox life style because of the openness of the community and the purpose it gave their lives. This renaissance watching the unaffiliated grow overtly in their spirituality empowers the FFB (frum from birth) community. It causes those in the Orthodox community to revaluate their religious observance – moving from robotic mechanical practices to actions which celebrate a rendezvous with God and a responsibility to influence society around us.

I have had the privilege of watching accomplished doctors, lawyers, and business people engage in a metamorphosis from driving on Shabbat, eating at the finest non-kosher restaurants, to embracing a lifestyle which was previously unfamiliar to them. I have watched as they sat in synagogue struggling to keep up, worked to find precious time to learn Hebrew and study Torah and ultimately become pillars of the community. One very prominent physician, over a period of ten years moved from not being able to read Hebrew to receiving semicha from the Rabbanut in Israel and Rav Zalman Nechamyah Goldberg. Another prominent businessman and his wife moved from sending their children to the fanciest of Christian prep schools to engaging in Torah study with the Rabbis of the community. They then sent their children to the Yeshiva day school, becoming community leaders. During their spiritual journey, they bought an RV to park in the shul parking lot for Shabbat where they stayed with their family, eventually bought a Shabbat home, sold their weekday fancy home to move close to the synagogue, and most recently made aliyah. They may view me as their teacher, but in all candor, I am the student who has watched and benefited from how they and so many were willing to sacrifice to find true meaning in life.

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Do I Seem Gay To You?

When I signed up for a roommate matching service in 1997, they automatically placed me in the gay section.

I remember calling around for a roommate, and everyone I spoke to was gay, and I wondered what was going on.

Now on Facebook’s Speed Date application, I have a bunch of people winking at me. The problem? They’re all guys. One is named SnuggleBum.

What message am I sending to the universe to receive these winks?

Are my jeans too tight? Is my interior decorating too exquisite?

Khunrum emails: "You’re as queer as a $3 bill. You’ll never squelch the Gay rumors until you marry. I say, keep the chin whiskers and ask Emma for her hand. Then the worst people will say of you is that you’re "Bearding"…or give it up. Drop the Hebrew shtick and start a new website….www.GayLukeisBack.com."

Chaim Amalek emails:

Over forty, never married, no kids, no real responsibilities to others (not even to a gold fish) leads many to jump to such conclusions.  (Believe me, I know.)  On the other hand, if you were gay, likely you would be living in a swell sort of place with many fine furnishings.

Emma – you need her now more than ever.  I know she’s happily Roman Catholic (to your somewhat less happily Jewish), but like Paris, she is well worth a Mass.

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Charity Scams

Tom Herman writes for the WSJ:

Here are a few areas IRS and Justice Department officials have been focusing on and advice from lawyers and accountants on how to avoid trouble:

 Kickbacks. Consider the case of the two men who pleaded guilty recently to criminal misconduct involving donations to a variety of charitable groups operating under the umbrella of Spinka, a religious group within orthodox Judaism. One was Joseph Roth, a Tel Aviv-based banker, according to the U.S. Attorney’s office for the central district of California. The other was Rabbi Moshe E. Zigelman of Brooklyn, N.Y., who "pled guilty because he accepts full responsibility for his actions and seeks to atone for any harm he caused," says Michael J. Proctor, a lawyer at Caldwell Leslie & Proctor in Los Angeles.
 

They were among eight individuals and five charitable entities indicted in the Spinka case late last year. The government accused Rabbi Naftali Tzi Weisz and Rabbi Zigelman, formerly an assistant to Rabbi Weisz, of soliciting donations to Spinka-related groups by promising to secretly refund up to 95% of the "contributions." Rabbi Weisz pleaded not guilty, says Brian Hennigan, a lawyer with Irell & Manella in Los Angeles.

In some cases, contributors got cash payments through an "underground money transfer network" involving various parties, some of whom operated businesses in and around the Los Angeles jewelry district, the U.S. Attorney’s office said. Among other things, Mr. Roth admitted to facilitating tax evasion by setting up secret bank accounts in Israel involving the use of bogus trusts, according to a U.S. Attorney’s office statement.

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Rabbi Marc Gafni As A Rorschach’s Test

When I decide on who to let into my personal life, I make judgments about whether someone is good or bad.

I only want good people close to me.

In my professional life, I rarely try to classify people as good or evil. I prefer to stick to empirical facts rather than weave theories about them.

Sometimes I can’t resist weaving theories about people.

One such person was R. Mordecai Gafni.

I talked to about ten people who knew him and in October of 2004, I wrote a long rambling essay portraying him as a charlatan and a monster.

This was way too easy for me.

I have a tendency to idealize and devalue people. I idolize Dennis Prager as the greatest Jew since the Rambam and I portray Gafni as the biggest creep since the Nightstalker.

Among my flaws, I do have some saving graces, one of which is that I can listen to people.

I can listen to people or I can defend myself but I can’t do both at the same time.

If I avoid getting defensive, I can listen to people such as Marc Gafni who I’ve long regarded with contempt and start to inhabit their world.

So where do I stand today on Marc Gafni? I don’t have any stance. I’ve spent hours talking to him over the past two weeks as I do my best to understand his life story from his perspective. I’ve reverted to journalism.

Yes, deep inside of me, there is a journalist dying to get out.

I am as interested in Marc’s perspective on his life as I am in the views of others who’ve known him.

I hope to pull the facts together one day and tell his story coherently and fairly.

Right now I’m thinking about the make-up of those who defend Gafni and those who oppose him. What separates these two camps?

One striking characteristic of those who supported Gafni (such as rabbis Telushkin and Berman and Shacter-Shalomi) and then dumped him is that they never cared much for the facts.

When they defended him, they never bothered to listen to the stories of the women who said they were ill-treated by Gafni.

Then, when charges came out in 2006 that Gafni was sleeping with many of his staff members at Bayit Chadash, they didn’t bother investigating the charges before dumping Gafni faster than yesterday’s news.

There were at least two dozen rabbis who publicly supported Gafni from 2004-2006, and then almost all of them abandoned him in 2006 without calling Gafni for his side nor doing any fact-checking.

Why?

It seems to me that the rabbis who supported Gafni prior to the Bayit Chadash scandal of 2006 and then dumped him never cared much about the truth. They either cared about Gafni personally or they cared about the values of his story as they understood it.

But empirical truth? Way too many people don’t want to be bothered. They want to look at these cases through ideological glasses.

How many rabbis have sexual scandals of their own? A lot. After the Bayit Chadash scandal of 2006, many of these scandalous rabbis could no longer afford to publicly support Gafni because it might invite scrutiny of their private sins.

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I Love ‘Michael Clayton’

I love legal thrillers.

I love John Grisham novels.

I love power.

I love stories about smart good-looking people deciding matters of life and death.

I love suits. I love power suits. I love powerful women in suits making decisions about life and death.

I love "Michael Clayton."

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Rabbi Michael Ozair Residing in Thailand

I’ve been acquainted with Rabbi Ozair for about a decade. I took some of his Torah classes (before his criminal conviction).

I interviewed him after his release from prison and we remained on friendly terms.

I haven’t heard from him in a couple of years.

We know a lot of people in common.

I’ve got a profile of him here.


 Sex offender Registry Photo / Facebook Photo

Vicki Polin writes today:

Towards the end of May, a member of The Awareness Center happened to stumble upon convicted sex offender, Rabbi Michael Ezra Ozair’s Facebook account.

When I was informed I immediately looked at Ozair’s site.  I was stunned to see that most of his “friends” appeared to be teenage girls from Thailand, China, Israel and a few from Los Angeles.  Rabbi Ozair did have a few adult friends listed (mostly male), several of whom were individuals in which The Awareness Center had been watching, due to worrisome information about them.

Considering Michael Ozair is a convicted sex offender and it appeared that he might be using his Facebook account to groom teenage girls, a report was made to the IC3 (The Internet Crime Complaint Center). 

The fact that removing an account from Facebook is not the answer to the real problem, because Ozair — like many other convicted sex offenders can easily create another account using another name within in minutes of an account being terminated.  Nonetheless, it was hoped that his account closing would send a message that his behavior was being monitored.

Over the last few months several newspaper articles stated that Facebook had a policy that convicted sex offenders were not allowed to have an account with them.  A note was sent to facebook with all the necessary information.  At the time I thought the problem would be solved easily.   I was wrong.

The next day I received a note back from Facebook asking for more information regarding Michael Ozair and was asked for a direct link to the sex offender registry in which he was listed.  I went to both the California and National sex offender registry — Michael Ozair was not listed.  I had no idea what was going on and started to dig.  After several phone calls and e-mails to law enforcement in Los Angeles, I learned that Ozair was no longer listed in a way in which he was easily found.  Each state has its own protocols in how their registry works.  Unfortunately, since Michael Ozair is currently registered as living outside the United States — in Thailand, his profile is not easily accessed.

My contact at the LAPD forward Michael Ozair’s most updated registration to both the contact at Facebook and to me.  I thought this would be all that was needed and Ozair’s account would be closed.

I didn’t hear anything for a few days and kept checking to see if Ozair’s account was removed.  The entry was still there.  I recontacted Facebook and they stated there was some technical difficulties with the police officer’s e-mail and that the officer would need to send the information to a different e-mail address and was asking for more information besides a copy of the sex offender registration.

On July 3, 2008, I finally received a note stating “After reviewing the reported abuse, we have removed all offending content based on our Terms of Use.”

If it weren’t for the many hours communicating with Facebook and the LAPD, Michael Ozair’s account would have remained open — Meaning this convicted sex offender would have maintained full access to teenage girls on Facebook. 

I’m still bewildered with the reality that a convicted sex offender would be allowed to move to Thailand, especially considering it is known to be a haven for sexual predators.  It’s also known as one of the worst countries when it came to the human sex slave trade.  

Rabbi Michael Ozair’s case shines a light on a deeply worrisome phenomenon — several American convicted sex offenders are moving to places like Thailand, China, India, Israel, etc. — all known Mecca’s for child predators to most likely continue creating more victims.  As Americans we need to be concerned with not just the safety of our children, but the children of the world.  Without a federal policy in place, American sex offenders will continue with this trend.

For more information on the case of Rabbi Michael Ozair go to: http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/Ozair_Michael.html

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My Feelings R Real

Luv u!

Wots the matter?

R u fraid of emotional intimacy?

U rock!

C u ltr!

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Whining About The New Yorker’s Barack Obama Cover

Jack Shafer writes:

Although every critic of the New Yorker understood the simple satire of the cover, the most fretful of them worried that the illustration would be misread by the ignorant masses who don’t subscribe to the magazine. Los Angeles Times blogger Andrew Malcolm wrote, "That’s the problem with satire. A lot of people won’t get the joke. Or won’t want to. And will use it for non-humorous purposes, which isn’t the New Yorker‘s fault." Malcolm continues in this vein, calling it a "problem" that "there’s no caption on the cover to ensure that everyone" will understand the punch line.

Here’s ABC News’ Jake Tapper singing the harmony line:

Intent factors into these matters, of course, but no Upper East Side liberal—no matter how superior they feel their intellect is—should assume that just because they’re mocking such ridiculousness, the illustration won’t feed into the same beast in emails and other media. It’s a recruitment poster for the right-wing.

Calling on the press to protect the common man from the potential corruptions of satire is a strange, paternalistic assignment for any journalist to give his peers, but that appears to be what The New Yorker‘s detractors desire. I don’t know whether to be crushed by that realization or elated by the notion that one of the most elite journals in the land has faith that Joe Sixpack can figure out a damned picture for himself.

How did we arrive at the point where a simple wisecrack like Blitt’s causes such a hullabaloo? Has the public’s taste for barbed drawings waned since the Paul Conrad, Herblock, Pat Oliphant, and Bill Mauldin heydays, or have the voices of the would-be bowdlerizers gotten stronger? Shall we don blinders and erect barriers so nobody is offended or misled?

Only weak thinkers fear strong images. The publication that convenes itself as a polite dinner party, serving only polenta and pureed peas, need not invite me to sup.

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Are You A Flake?

I’m reading this book "106 Mortgage Secrets" and I’m learning a lot about life.

Gary Eldred writes in his new book about loan approval:

The credit score is most important…

Have you job hopped or job flopped? Have you lived in more places than you can remember? Did you jump through six majors before you finished community college? Do you suffer bouts of binge spending and borrowing? Does your background look more like a tossed salad that’s been thrown against a wall than the impeccable dinner presentation of an expensive French restaurant? If so, you’ve got some explaining to do.

Loan reps and underwriters want to make sense of your life as it’s displayed on your mortgage application. They want to evaluate where you’ve been and where you’re headed. To satisfy their penchant for consistency, figure a theme or angle that ties your loose ends together. Give the lender confidence that six motnhs after you’ve closed your loan, you won’t abandon the property to join a Hare Krishna colony.

 

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