Will Exercises Improve Your Posture?

According to fitness coach Belle Badell, “the idea of the chest pop is to squeeze the back muscles and then squeezing the upper abs. …Press the back muscles in and downwards. Press and release. If you ever wonder how Shakira does it, this is the trick.”

I notice Belle tightening and compressing her shoulders and neck as she does this exercise. If people imitate that, they’re likely to feel lousy and have less free movement.

If you’ve got distorting tension patterns that cause bad posture, I doubt you’re going to improve by doing this or any exercise. You’re just going to ingrain the habit of adding more compression to your back, shoulders and neck. That’s going to diminish your breathing and your emotional and physical freedom.

The idea of exercises to improve your posture holds that you can just add layers of corrective procedures to undo the damage of interfering tension patterns. The Alexander Technique instead focuses on letting go of those interfering tension patterns so that you can move more easily. You learn to undo rather than to do.

Shakira has beautiful use of herself and I doubt it is because of the chest pops outlined above.

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This Week’s Torah Portions – Parashat Vayakhel (Exodus 35:1-38:20), Parashat Pekudei (Exodus 38:21-40:38)

I discuss the weekly Torah portion with Rabbi Rabbs Mondays at 7:00 pm PDT on my cam and on YouTube. Facebook Fan Page.

This week we study Parashat Vayakhel (Exodus 35:1-38:20) and Parashat Pekudei (Exodus 38:21-40:38).

* The Torah often reads to me like it was written by an accountant. In my experience, accountants are among the most ethical people I know. They are exact. It’s hard to be a good person if you’re sloppy. Torah is all about attention to detail. And accountants are discrete. They know a lot about people’s lives.

* Rabbi Berel Wein writes: “Accountability is the name of the game in Jewish life. The Torah teaches us that “adam muad lolam” – a person is always liable and responsible for one’s actions and behavior.”

* Rabbi Wein writes: “At the conclusion of the reading of this parsha, the congregation this Shabbat rises and proclaims “chazak, chazak v’nischazek.” – “Let us be strong, let us be strong and let us strengthen others as well.” Part of being strong is the realization of the necessity for being responsible for one’s deeds, behavior and words.”

After I got tossed from this synagogue, I did a lot of sniveling on my blog about how much it hurt me. And this bloke, I don’t even know his name, kept saying to me, “Be strong. Jews don’t respect those who are voluntarily weak.”

So what does it mean to be strong? Not many Torah Jews are emo boys. According to Wikipedia: “Emo has been associated with a stereotype that includes being particularly emotional, sensitive, shy, introverted, or angst-ridden.”

* There’s a lot of repetition in these final chapters of Exodus. Rabbi Wein writes: “One must train one’s self to be honest, to resist temptation and shoddiness. Goodness and truthfulness are conditioned by habitual behavior more so than by inspired sermons and learned treatises.”

* From Chabad: The Rebbe explains that the Torah wants to emphasize that there will always be two versions of G‑d’s home on earth: the ideal version, as G‑d envisions it and describes it to Moses, and the real version, as it is actually built in and out of our physical lives.

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Live In Response, Not In Reaction

My Alexander Technique students usually want out of their pain as fast as possible. If they have a sore neck or tight shoulders of a gimpy knee, they want a fix pronto.

But these pains are only symptoms for what is really going on — a refusal to accept reality.

When we accept what is, we don’t rush. We don’t get impatient. We don’t get frustrated. And we don’t lie. And when we don’t do these bad things, we don’t feel guilt and shame.

I want my students to accept that the pain they feel when they type at a computer or when they walk down the block or when they sit in a chair is primarily a symptom of a lack of coordinated use of the self. When you’re moving elegantly, most of these pains don’t occur. But you can only move elegantly when you accept reality and stop rushing and trying to immediately fix things.

David Gorman writes: “What did happen when I actually inhibited my monstrously powerful habitual urge to react to the feelings of the symptom was very, very different than I expected. After a moment of intense awareness of narrowness and restriction (during which I had to choose again not to react), an expansion filled me up and the strain and tension disappeared.”

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Silent 1930s Film Of F. Matthias Alexander, developer of the Alexander Technique

F. Matthias Alexander shown with some of the students on his first Alexander Technique training course in the early 1930s.

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Virtue As Acceptance Of Reality

I’m reading an e-book by David Gorman on the virtues.

He makes the point that patience is the absence of impatience. And what is impatience? It is a refusal to accept reality. It is a refusal to accept that things are moving more slowly than we would like. Life is not living up to our expectations.

When this happens, we all tend to tense and to push. We compress and we try to hurry. You can’t try to hurry and not tighten up. If you were to resolutely stay poised, you could not be frantic.

As long as we believe that our beliefs about what should happen are more real than what is happening, we are going to be impatient. We’re going to tighten and compress. And we’re going to hurry.

The true meaning of impatience is that our beliefs are out of alignment with reality and we are not experiencing life in the present moment but trying to force life to align with our beliefs.

We should take the feeling of impatience as a wake-up call that our thinking is out of alignment with reality. Impatience is just part of the learning process.

If we learn to accept reality, we will lose our impatience, and we will stop unnecessarily tensing ourselves and those around us.

It makes no more sense to practice patience than it does to practice good posture. Instead, by letting go of the way we unnecessarily interfere with ourselves by trying to impose our unrealistic beliefs on reality, we will naturally let go compression and take up our full space in the world.

When we try things and they don’t work out as we wish, we get frustrated. The feeling of frustration is a wake-up call that our ideas about what steps will bring about a particular end are not accurate. Our beliefs are not matching up with reality.

When you understand the meaning of your feeling of frustration, that unpleasant feeling goes away. Once you get the message, the messenger leaves.

When we are deliberately being dishonest, we usually feel lousy. We’re afraid and nervous and tense and calculating.

So why then are we dishonest? Because we expect to lose something important to us if we are honest.

How hard it is for you to be honest is a measurement of how much you want what you want and don’t want what you don’t want.

If it would be unacceptable to lose something and intolerable to endure something, we will be dishonest to avoid those unpleasant states. So we make up a form of reality and try to get others to accept it.

We reject life as it is. By contrast, if we were to accept life as it is, we’d feel little desire to be dishonest. Honesty simply means accepting reality just as the absence of frustration and impatience also means the accepting of life as it is.

So what keeps us from accepting the truth? Our unreal ideas about what should be.

No matter how strong our beliefs and how eloquently we can state them, we are all still forced to live in reality.

By refusing to lie and to rush, we can see ourselves as we are and accept other people as they are.

“If we look at how things work with curiosity rather than trying to distort them to suit ourselves, how could we feel guilt or shame? We’ve done nothing wrong.”

PS. I don’t think of devious people as moving elegantly through life. If you’re constantly lying, you’re inevitably going to develop weird compression and tension patterns. Just think of Richard Nixon.

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Popular Solutions To Postural Problems

The best thing you can do for your posture is to be happy. Happy people tend to be buoyant aka “capable of floating”. Buoyant means full of air and full of life. Upward in orientation. Depressed people tend to collapse. They’re pulled down.

When you float through life, you’re much more likely to be happy than when you are focusing, tensing, compressing and pulling down.

Another way to have great posture is to be in the present moment. When you think about the past or the future, you’ll stop noticing what you’re doing in the present, and you will most likely tense and pull down on yourself.

One way to be in the present is to notice everything you can around you. See what’s to your left and to your right and everything in between.

Another way to be present is to listen for every distinctive sound. These choices tend to awaken your kinaesthesia and you’ll find yourself moving up and letting go of needless compression.

Here’s a posture video by golf swing coach David Leadbetter:

For him, posture is a position rather than an orientation. It involves fixing which will always lead to tightening and compression. Notice how tight his shoulders, back and neck are in this video. His face is filled with tension. His jaw is clenched.

This video below claims to improve posture in ten seconds.

The Indian therapist says to the patient: “Imagine there’s a thread in the middle of the head and somebody is pulling you up. Get the chin a bit tucked in. And the shoulders a little back.”

When you try to do these things, or anything like them, you will stiffen and tighten. This unnecessary body tension is the primary reason for bad posture. So even though this advice above sounds good and creates immediate results, in the long run it will do more harm than good.

With the Alexander Technique, our clients are “students”, not “patients.” We don’t fix them or treat them. We educate them about their tension patterns and show how to let go of the patterns that aren’t serving them. We don’t guide them into the correct positions. We show them how they’re holding themselves down and when they let go of these habits, they become buoyant and their posture takes care of itself.

The following dance posture video is excellent, even if you have no interest in dancing:

Below, Elliot says our physical body is a manifestation of our thoughts, emotions and spirit.

Elliot: “You can look at me and my postures and physical manifestation and guess what I’m thinking.”

“The origin of most of our postural distortions are psychological and spiritual.”

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Perky Check-Out Girl At Walgreens

I went to Walgreens on Pico and Robertson Blvds about 9:30 this morning and got two sticks of Classic Old Spice deodorant.

My check-out girl was Asian and she looked like she was in high school. And she was happy. Very few check-out people exude happiness. Very few people period exude happiness.

It’s not the first time I’ve encountered her, but every time I do, it makes me smile. I want to go back and keep buying stuff just for the pleasure of talking to her again. I wonder if she’s religious? What’s her secret? Why is she so happy?

According to an online dictionary, perky means “Having a buoyant or self-confident air; briskly cheerful. 2. Jaunty; sprightly.”

Perky means up. Buoyant. Somebody who’s pulled down, compressed, and unnecessarily tense is not going to come across as perky.

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There’s Nothing New About That Breitbart Clip Of Obama At Harvard In 1990

Even posthumously, Andrew Breitbart appears to have made reckless claims. And his Breitbart empire repeated them.

There was nothing new in that Obama 1990 clip made public this past week by the Breitbart empire.

PBS Frontline reports:

But there’s nothing new about the clip or Obama’s role in the controversy at Harvard Law School. In 2008, as a part of our quadrennial election special The Choice 2008, FRONTLINE ran the same footage of the speech as a part of an exploration of Obama’s time at Harvard Law School, where he graduated in 1991. It’s been online at our site and on YouTube since then. You can see that part of the film below.

FRONTLINE producers obtained the footage from the same source as BuzzFeed did this week: the archives of WGBH, Boston’s PBS station. The footage was shot in 1990 by a team of local news producers for the WGBH Ten O’Clock News. FRONTLINE is produced at WGBH and our producers were alerted to the footage in the station archives in 2008.

In light of today’s controversy, and Breitbart.com editors’ claims that the footage had been edited, we pulled the full archived tape. It includes not just Obama’s speech, but other footage from the rally and portions of Derrick Bell’s speech. You can watch it in full below.

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Women Know How To Go For The Jugular

I was watching this PBS Frontline report about terrorist David Headley (he planned the 2009 Mumbai attacks).

I was struck how his wives, after falling out with David, would go to the FBI and other law enforcement to say that he was a terrorist.

They were happy to marry him and to live with him, but when he did not treat them as they wanted, his wives went for the jugular and tried to destroy him.

That’s been my experience with various women. If they feel scorned, they stop at nothing to destroy you.

I don’t know any man who’s tried to destroy the career of a woman who’s broken up with him. I would never act that way and neither would any of my friends. We would never send faxes to an ex’s workplace to try to destroy her. Yet I’ve had that done to male friends of mine by their exes.

Bruria emails: “After watching PBS Frontline report about terrorist David Headley, the only question you came up with is Re: his wives loyalty? This raises some questions in my mind:
You ‘go global’ and generalize ALL women…That is warped and ugly. To add insult to injury, you sheepishly proclaim that you couldn’t “Go for the Jugular” as women do…Really, Luke? You just did! to a whole collective of women.”

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Has the left coast deprived Luke of the American experience?

Greg Leake emails: Hi Luke,

A few days ago you had an interesting post called “The Apprenticeship of Luke Ford.” I always appreciate the insight into yourself, and at the same time I asked myself, “Has Luke missed some of the American experience?’

Let’s start with your religious background in California. You mentioned to Rabbs not long ago that you had been close to a religious community most of your life, in the early days with the Seventh Day Adventist Church and more recently with Judaism. You lived in the Napa Valley in the Seventh Day Adventist community, went to their schools a while, and had a sort of unaffiliated time when you fell harder than most, which is to be expected for a preacher’s kid. (Preacher’s kids are notorious for being wild, non-conformist, and independent.) And then Judaism.

I would like to tell you that when you leave the coasts, left and east, you find yourself in flyover country. And flyover country is different in some ways.

You’ve talked about how cloistered and unearthly the Seventh Day Adventist church is as a denomination.

In flyover country, take, say, big metropolitan Baptist and Methodist churches are basically part of the WASP power structure. You have talked about being impressed by the doctors, lawyers, and Indian chiefs in the Jewish world.

In flyover country, the big Protestant denomination metropolitan churches are filled with well-to-do upward-mobile power couples, climbers, and politically-connected professionals. the difference in flyover country is that the doctors and lawyers do not have any more authority than the guy who owns a car dealership or the guy who is a VP in an insurance company or the CFO of a franchise business. The guy who has made some money from a string of gas stations may have more dough than the doctors, lawyers, and Indian chiefs. Remember, George and Laura Bush are Methodists. You should see the well-heeled church they go to. You should see the church that Jerry Jones attends. You know, John Wesley once said when asked about money, “Get all you can, give all you can.”

One needs to keep in mind that the US was basically started by Protestants and their work ethic. Surveys have demonstrated that wherever you have state-supported religion, belief in God diminishes. Protestantism is almost always been outside the bounds of state control. I live next door to a Pentecostal minister, and know whereof I speak. Remember George H. W. Bush was an Episcopalian before that church put its foot in it.

In Protestantism, especially in the South, it’s almost synonymous with rugged individualism, independence, and a distrust of government control.

So my basic point is that in your cloistered spiritual community associated with your early days with the Seventh Day Adventists is not really characteristic of being in a hard-charging Protestant community in flyover country. It is curious in this regard to wonder why rick Santorum, very thoughtful and devout Catholic, is getting most of his support from evangelical Christians. The Catholic vote seems to be going to Romney.

You also discussed the dichotomy between the part of you that wants to be a highly moral, solid citizen and another part that enjoys the seamier side of life. and as a Jew you chew on this dichotomy and wonder what should be done and what perspective this should be seen from.

In flyover country you’re just a guy with high ideals and some low appetites. The authentic Luke is a guy who is a mixture of both qualities. Outside of these cloistered religious environments, this would not be unusual, but just a fairly normal human condition. Carl Jung, a psychologist I prefer to Freud, said, “The more light you have, the more darkness you have. Someone with a lot of light casts a very large shadow. The “Shadow” was a way that Jung discussed all of the negative traits that each of us has that others see but we do not see in ourselves.

All of the psychotherapy you have done has made your own shadow very visible to you. As a consequence you are ahead of the game, because your deleterious factors are not operating unconsciously, and they present you with a moral dilemma just as Jung said. Because you know your shadow so well, you have an opportunity to consciously correct some of your misguided inclinations, and this is how one becomes a better person.

In flyover country, this is automatically assumed to be true for most people without any of the knowledge of Jungian psychology. As a consequence, we spend a lot fewer hours chewing on it and just try to correct it as best we can.

Professionalism is important in flyover country, but less so than in the Jewish world. In flyover country there is less appreciation for people who seem to have affectations. Our model of desirability is more someone who appears to be a regular guy despite their profession or success. I’ll mention George Bush again. If you did not know who he was, and you drove by him raking leaves and struck up a conversation, you might think he was a guy who owned a construction company or a couple of feed stores. You’ve listened to Rick Perry, and you might get the same idea about him if you saw him outside his role as governor. The whole idea of being a doctor, lawyer, or Indian chief does have some prestige in flyover country, but not as much as you find in your community. I used to live next door to a lawyer. He was a nice guy and played up being a lawyer a little bit, but we both understood that while he had professional status, he was just a guy I might hire.

so in flyover country, whether it’s ion Dallas, Phoenix, Kansas City, Denver, Indianapolis, there is a whole different social ethos when it comes to presenting yourself as a professional or the sort of respect that one gives to a professional. And in the small towns and small cities, the professional is just a guy pumping gas at the next pump.

Ultimately my point is that your descriptions of your lives and dilemmas are illuminating, and there is a certain part of the American fabric that you seem to have missed. What I have been describing is ordinary life away from the coasts and out in the big middle where most Americans live the American way of life outside of a bunch of cultural influences imported from elsewhere.

I think you have done a remarkable job of gaining insight into the workings of your own psyche. And your desire to improve deleterious parts of your own character is very respectable.

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