On Dennis Prager’s radio show April 18, 2012, Alison Armstrong said: “If a woman asks her man for something, he might go, we can’t afford that. Protect comes before provide. If he’s protecting his own resources, that will trump his desire to provide for her. She needs to honor that and not just think he’s a jerk.”
“When I asked my husband to put in a swimming pool, he just vetoed it and I thought he was a jerk. He calculated my $40,000 swimming was a $250,000 hit to our retirement fund.”
Dennis: “I think, am I protecting us? The issue of money is not what is spent but what is lost in protection.”
Alison: “A man will say no to something and a woman will think, he doesn’t love me. No. He’s protecting something. The no is always protecting something. It might be protecting his own energy. He’s got to get his tank filled before he can say yes.”
“It’s procreate, protect and then provide. Otherwise there’s nothing to protect and provide for.”
“When your man’s head is turned by another woman, it is terrifying to us. Why is it so terrifying to daughters when their divorced father gets his first girlfriend? Because it is procreate, protect and then provide, a man can’t help that his instinct will be first to protect and provide for the person with whom he is procreating. That is who he will protect and provide for first. Women know this instinctively. That’s why we’re so afraid of our man having intercourse with another woman.”
“If procreate is first, why not start the day that way? An intelligent wife doesn’t send a hungry man into the world.”
“When a man’s female type walks by, procreate breaks through the focus of providing and protecting. So when a man’s type walks by, it breaks through your focus. I’ve watched it happen to you during the show. You’re in the middle of providing your show when your type shows up on the TV screen… They put up a lot of your type on TV.”
Dennis: “On Fox News.”
Alison: “We were in a dialogue in one of our courses. There was a question a woman had for her boyfriend. ‘Why do you need so much sex? You went months without it when we weren’t together. Why do you need it so often?’ He was stunned. To him it was obvious, that protecting and providing requires energy, and he gets that from the procreating. It’s what fills the tank and provides the fuel for protecting and providing.”
“Women act with men in the reverse — please provide for me and then I’ll procreate with you. It’s like saying to a car, take me somewhere and then I’ll give you gas.”
“Men don’t know what sex costs women. It costs us biologically. When you ask your wife for sex, she’s checking her own accounts. She’s checking to see if she can afford it. Do we have what it is going to cost us? Sex costs a woman oxytocin. It leaves her feeling disconnected. Foreplay is the process of building oxytocin, which makes her feel like she can afford to have sex. That’s why she wants to snuggle. That starts building it again.”
“A woman with a full-time job outside of the home is not building oxytocin. She’s spending testosterone. She’s exhausted and disconnected at the end of that experience.”
On his radio show Friday, Dennis Prager got a call from a woman asking: “I was calling to get your opinion of breast augmentation?”
Dennis: “Here’s my question for a mature woman, not a high school girl: Why would there be a reason not to?”
Mary: “I guess the opinions of other people thinking you’re being vain?”
Dennis: “What does being vain mean?”
Mary: “That you are more concerned with your outward appearance than what you are inwardly?”
Dennis: “That’s weird.”
“If you shampoo and do your hair, are you not concerned with other people?”
“I don’t know a good argument against a mature woman getting breast augmentation unless she has beautiful breasts.”
Mary: “What about people who say, ‘You should just be happy with what God gave you’?”
Dennis: “I think it is one of the ten stupidest lines I’ve heard in my life.”
“What if God gave you essentially no breasts?”
Mary: “That’s pretty much what I’ve got.”
Dennis: “What if you’re born deaf?”
“I would ask somebody, ‘Why would God want to handicap me in attracting men?'”
“I think you care more about others if you do want to look good. Why should you brush your teeth as often or use mouthwash or deodorant? What does vain mean? Does it mean you care how you look? If so, I’m vain. I care how I look.”
“Exactly how you came out is how God made you and you should do no alteration? What about Siamese twins? Did God make them Siamese twins? Did God make people deaf? Did God make people with all sorts of impediments? It is an insult to God to say that the way you came out of the womb is what God wants. Did God make you a brunette?”
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* Most people today don’t give a flying fig about matters such as purity and impurity. And yet purity is what I want most in a spouse. I want someone who’s not been plucked and yet will be grateful to reap all the benefits I’ve gained through my varied experiences with many different races and religions.
* What is impurity? Rabbi Wein writes: “Impurity of heart and mind is what allows one to mock the righteous and ridicule the pious.”
I knew this talent agent (Shylar at Reb’s Pretty Girl International) in the industry who liked to watch Little House on the Prairie. That was his way of getting pure. In between booking girls for various scenes of degradation, he watched Michael Landon and co.
* Rabbi Wein writes: “We literally wallow in a sea of impurity of thought and evil behavior and we are bombarded constantly by messages and examples of gross impurity and maliciously evil behavior. And we are alone in combating these evils, since the impurity of society ridicules any public attempt at raising the level of purity of that society.”
Ain’t that the truth! I’ve seen so much filthy material on the internet. I even made some of it in my weaker moments. Maybe I’ll read some of the reviews on my past documentary efforts.
* Is it permitted to sing Gentile hymns in the bathroom? If they are about the God of Israel like Abide With Me? Do the goyim’s incorrect notions about the Almighty render it permitted to sing their songs in unholy places like clubs etc?
I think in my Gentile upbringing, it was discouraged to sing Gentile hymns in the bathroom.
* From a Torah perspective, is it good to spend as much time as possible alone (a la Rabbs) or as much time as possible with other Orthodox Jews (a la Luke)?
Rabbi Berel Wein writes: “The traditional translation of tzoraat as leprosy is undoubtedly misleading and inaccurate. The rabbis of the Talmud treated this disease as mainly a spiritual one, albeit reflected in actual physical symptoms. Slander, narrowness of vision, jealousy of others and bad character traits were assigned by the rabbis as being some of the potential causes of the onset of the disease.”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “The Parsha of Metzora deals with the plague of tzoraat – according to the Rabbis of the Talmud, a product of the sin of slander and abusive speech. “Life and death are in the hands of speech and the tongue.” In a society where everyone demands the right to know everything about everyone anytime, it is difficult to promote the ideas of privacy, correct speech and avoidance of gossip and unnecessary curiosity about others.”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “Legend has it that the famed ARI (Rabbi Isaac Luria of sixteenth century Safed) was able to tell a person what one’s sins and spiritual defects were simply by looking at the person’s face.”
I think there are rabbis like that today. My father, the college professor, could tell by looking at his students which of them were masturbating. They’d have a sallow countenance and shifty eyes. I inherited this detective ability. On Monday night’s show, Justin will say a few words in the chat room about “shomer bris.”
* You can try to improve yourself all you want, but whenever you’re confronted with powerful stimuli, your habitual responses to stimuli will take over and your social position will remain unchanged. All of my life I’ve been in the least popular segment of the popular crowd or the most popular segment of the losers. And I’ve been pursuing self-help since about age 11. I’ll meet someone I want to impress and my face will give me away. I won’t be able to sustain my lies or self-delusion when I’m confronted with a truly righteous man.
* Rabbi Wein writes: “In Biblical times the Lord, so to speak, forced us by physical symptoms to come to the kohein and confront our true spiritual state. This was a blessing, albeit in disguise, for it allowed for the necessary diagnosis that could eventually lead to spiritual repair, improvement and advancement. This is the supreme task of the kohein in helping others achieve their betterment. It was therefore a spiritual experience of advancement for the kohein as well. Helping others always helps to cleanse one’s soul and advance one’s spirit.”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “One of the many explanations given as to the connection between lashon hara and tzoraat is that lashon hara attempted to “kill” and defame a person in private and secret – a discreet stab in the back tactic – so the punishment was a public physical disfigurement able to be seen by all.”
According to Rabbi Yaakov Emden, it’s not lashon hara (gossip) if you say it publicly.
* Rabbi Wein: “Lashon hara – evil, gossipy speech – dehumanizes us all. It takes a holy vessel, speech and communicative ability, and defiles it and turns it into an instrument of harm and tragedy.”
* “The Pianist is a 2002 biographical war film directed by Roman Polanski, starring Adrien Brody. It is an adaptation of the autobiography of the same name by Jewish-Polish musician Władysław Szpilman.” Much of the time I was watching this film, I was making out with my shiksa girlfriend of the time. What is it about Holocaust films that makes so many Jews horny?
The Pianist is often called a great film and yet the protagonist doesn’t change. You watch this whole long wrenching film and there’s no development in the main character. It’s not like he became religious or left religion. He didn’t decide he could no longer believe in humanity or in God. He didn’t decide to give up classical music because it led to Auschwitz and to decide instead to play nothing but rock n roll as a celebration of life.
* In the second season of Boardwalk Empire, *spoiler alert* this mother and son get drunk and go home and fornicate. And the whole time they’re locked in the clinch, the son on top, the mother tells the son, “This isn’t wrong.” The Book of Leviticus, however, would strongly disagree. A girl I used to date, she knew a brother-and-sister at yeshiva who used to bang each other. The whole yeshiva knew. I wonder what that would do to your shidduch prospects?
* Who should we blame for the declining birth rate of Jews? I say the primary blame is for Jews who don’t observe Judaism. Those who do, generally speaking, marry early and have lots of kids. Those who want lots of spare time to study poetry and Alexander Technique, these guys tend to not marry.
* Rabbi Wein writes: “Compounding the problem is the high number of abortions undertaken by Jewish women every year, the numbers of these abortions being measured reportedly in the tens of thousands.” Too often, Jewish women use their vaginas as toys while Palestinian women use theirs as cannons. (Chaim Amalek)
One Jewish girlfriend of mine wouldn’t tell me whether or not she’d had an abortion. Another said if I got her pregnant, she’d just get rid of it. (I confess that made me happy because I could plook her all I wanted and not worry about fathering a kid. I was still young in my Jewish journey then, more Reform than Orthodox.) Another said that while she’d never had an abortion, every woman she knew had had one. “It’s just something that every woman goes through.”
One woman I knew threw a party after her abortion. Cold.
Rabbi Wein writes: “We may be heartened by the fact that in the religious Jewish community there is currently a high birthrate, 7.6 in the Charedi society and 4.2 in the Dati society. Eventually, this will cause a vast change in the life, politics and behavior of our country.”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “The Lord told us in advance that we would not be a people of great numbers – “for you are the smallest of all nations.” Nevertheless, we have an obligation to promote increased Jewish population and numbers. Family, children, generations, these are the values that Jews are judged by. It is our way of guaranteeing that the message of Sinai will continue to be heard in a world that so desperately needs to hear it.”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “Having children, how many, when, etc. is really a very personal decision. People from the outside have no right to interfere in other people’s personal decisions regarding so intimate a subject.”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “The laws of plagues, purity and impurity are purely chukim – laws that defy our limited rational capabilities to understand. But this is perhaps the very message that the Torah wishes us to learn and internalize. Much of life is not rational and does not fit into our accustomed schedules and plans. And even the most hardened secularist and/or rationalist must admit that much of life is inexplicable.” You’ll find this particularly true if you ever try to have a relationship with a woman, as I have tried and failed to pull off on countless occasions.
Rabbi Wein writes: “Weird things happen to all of us. There are forces in the world, dreams, inspirations, as well as strangers that suddenly appear that are present in our lives and are real to us though we have no idea how or why they influence us.”
“It is the unseen and intangible that truly carries us through life and its vicissitudes. And that is why the Torah devotes so much space and teachings to such a seemingly esoteric subject.”
* Robin Gibb came out of his coma and spoke to his family thusly, “Well, you can tell by the way I use my walk I’m a woman’s man no time to talk Music loud and women warm I’ve been kicked around, since I was born
And now it’s all right, it’s okay And you may look the other way We can try to understand The New York times’ effect on man”
* Rabbi Wein writes: “All halacha, or for that matter all systems of law in the world, is based on the concept of reasonable presumptions. In Jewish law this is called the concept of chazaka – the presumption that what was, still is. Thus halacha presumes that a husband to still alive even if he has somehow disappeared from sight. It presumes that things found in a certain place were at that place before and were not dragged there. It presumes that if there are no known faults in a person’s pedigree then that person’s pedigree is deemed to be faultless. There are many other examples of how chazaka works as an operating principle in Jewish law. In fact, the Talmud exclaims: “gedolah chazaka” – chazaka is a great and overriding principle of law. The basis for this halachic reliance on chazaka is found in this week’s Torah reading.”
“Presumptions in life are valid. People are judged on their past behavior, on family history, on pedigree and on past experiences. It is foolish to ignore presumptions that are based on legitimate grounds. One cannot ignore the realities that stare one in the face even if those realities do not conform to one’s ideology or wishful view of life. This applies in all areas of personal and national life. One cannot presume that one’s child will turn out all right if he or she is not given the basis of a strong Torah education. There is a chazaka that speaks against such wishful thinking.”
“One cannot wish one’s enemies away and become convinced that the tiger is no longer carnivorous. But the main lesson of chazaka is to be aware that human nature does not easily change and that what was is most likely what will be now as well. The lessons of Jewish history, of what works and what fails, form a strong presumption – gedolah chazaka. All of the “newness” of ideas in today’s Jewish society has, in reality, existed before and failed to contribute to Jewish continuity and national strength and security. The past is a hard taskmaster and a coercive instructor with regard to current choices…”
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High intermarriage rates with Jews threaten to extinguish’s the world’s longest ongoing culture — that of the goyim. The unique perspectives of Gentiles such as Aristotle and Acquinas may find no equal in the future if the threat of goyish assimilation to Judaism is not answered.
How many Gentiles grow up to marry Jews and to have children and to raise these kids as Jews? What will happen to Gentile literature if there are no more Gentiles to write it?
Should Jews donate to keep the goyim alive? Should we support goyish religious and cultural organizations? Should we lend them some of our lawyers and lobbyists so they can get some traction on Capitol Hill? Should Jewish doctors volunteer to study their declining birth rate and figure out their genetically-inherited diseases that cut down so many adorable goyim in their very prime?
If most people mated as often as I have with black people, there’d be no more black people and no more black civilization and no more thinkers like Cornell West. This too would be a form of genocide, more devastating, in some ways, than slavery. If it weren’t for all the gentile genocides of last century, like the one in Cambodia, we’d have a cure for cancer today.
Never again!
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On three separate occasions today, I ran into Muslims in Muslim garb in Pico-Robertson. I love our diverse neighborhood! You can never have too much diversity.
Nobody fears for their life, not even Muslims do, when they walk through a Jewish neighborhood.
I believe that 95% of Orthodox Jews were born Orthodox (according to sociologist Steven Cohen). For all the talk about baalei teshuva (returnees), they’re a small proportion of the Orthodox.
If my 95% fact is correct, should not Orthodox Jews have great skepticism about the staying power of baalei teshuva and converts and be reluctant to marry them?
Leonard posts: “That’s a false application of statistics, with a horribly bigoted implication. How does anyone contend the staying power for an FFB (frum from birth) is any more than for a ba’al teshuva? Do you realize how many people have grown up and lived Orthodox that “drop out” in middle age and later? Ba’alei teshuva have made a commitment as great or more than other Orthodox Jews. The commandment to love the “Ger”, i.e. the stranger/outsider/convert in our midst, is the mitzvah which appears the most frequently in the Torah – and to discriminate against them on any basis, let alone on an unfounded fear (based on misguided statistical analysis), is a terrible averah borne of small-mindedness, elitism and bigotry.”
One rabbi tells me: “Not 95%. Around 70-75%.”
Historian Marc B. Shapiro tells me: “I don’t think there is any question that significant more people leave orthodoxy than become baalei teshuvah. However, I don’t know of many examples of baalei teshuvah or converts who marry and then reject Orthodoxy. There are plenty who do so if they don’t get married, but marriage is a very stabilizing force. So people should be very happy to marry baalei teshuvah and converts.”
One Orthodox rabbi tells me: “The statistics need to be split between heavy Orthodox centers and “out-of-town”. I believe the percentage of baalei teshuva out-of-town is much higher. Regardless, the key is the staying rate of converts and baalei teshuva after 3 years — how many remain Orthodox after settling into the community? In my experience it’s close to 100%. So I see no need for skepticism and every reason to welcome them into our families.”
A major rav tells me: “I think the figure is a little high, and it depends upon where. In Israel, the vast majority of Orthodox Jews were born orthodox, but in West LA, the percentage that were born into observant families is much less. All of Aish HaTorah and Bnai David were not born Frum. There is also a large group in Beth Jacob (about 20%) that were Baalei Teshuva a long time ago. But Century City has almost none. Chabad of course has many.
“The key to successful integration of both Baalei Teshuva and converts is a slow gradual process of acculturation and integration, but many people are not comfortable with people changing their lifestyle which leads to extreme rejection of converts and a lesser extent of Baale Teshuva.”
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For black parents in Pasadena, shootings give fresh relevance to ‘The Talk’
The fatal shootings of Kendrec McDade in Pasadena and a black teen in Florida renew the painful generations-old discussion about the need to swallow one’s anger and pride when dealing with the police.
John Derbyshire wrote a column giving a version of “The Talk” for white parents talking to their kids about blacks.
Traditional Orthodox Jews are the most likely group of Jews to actually live among blacks. In general, Jews have liberal views on matters of civil rights. Jewish money and legal help got the NAACP off the ground. During the 1960s, Jews were the most likely group of non-blacks to support civil rights for blacks. Jews voted for Obama at a higher rate than other non-blacks.
Over the past 50 years, Reform Jewish clergy have preached repeatedly that Jews will never be free in America as long as blacks are denied civil rights. For many liberal Jews, equal rights for all minorities are a staple of what they believe Judaism stands for. By contrast, those Jews who most practice Judaism and most devote themselves to studying its sacred texts, have the least desire to associate with blacks (who aren’t Jewish, Jews with black skin color are usually treated by Jews like any other Jew).
Orthodox Jews in Brooklyn, for instance, demonstrate zero desire to pray with black Christians or to even hang out with black Christians.
Traditional Orthodox Jews in America feel little kinship with non-Jewish black Americans.
Orthodox Jews in general don’t socialize with those outside of Orthodoxy.
In my life, I have never mistreated anyone on the basis of race nor have I ever seen this done, except in one direction — I’ve frequently seen blacks threaten whites simply because they’re white. I’ve had black people yell at me, curse me, and threaten me simply because I am white. My high school, Placer, was primarily white. We sometimes played a school (Grant) that was dominantly black. When we went to play on their turf, some of their black students would come over to the visitor’s side of the bleachers and try to start fights with us simply because we were white. When Grant would come to play on our turf, I never saw any of our white kids go to the visitor’s bleachers and pick on any of the Grant black kids and try to start fights on the basis of race.
…If support for blacks is an ineluctable result of Jewish values, then one would expect that the most Jewish of American Jews — the Orthodox of Brooklyn — would be the most sympathetic towards blacks. The exact opposite, however, is true. Secure in their Jewish identity, they do not require close relations with blacks to define it. Their Jewishness rests on more substantial grounds.
…If the most Jewish of Jews are the least receptive to blacks, the Jews most supportive of blacks have often been alienated from Jewish culture and religion. (pg. 240)
…One can imagine the psychological impact on blacks of Eric Hoffer’s comparison of blacks and Jews. The example of Jews, Hoffer wrote, “shows what persistent striving and a passion for education can do…even in the teeth of discrimination. This is a fact which the Negro vehemently rejects. It sticks in his gullet… The Jew impairs the authenticity of the Negro’s grievances and alibis. He threatens the Negro’s most precious possession: the freedom to fail.”
…Jews needed blacks to authenticate their image of themselves as liberals, but blacks did not need Jews to authenticate their image of themselves as blacks. (pg. 243)
Blacks have resented Jews not because they did not do enough for them but because they did too much. (pg. 244)
In academia there is not one black scholar, apart from Julius Lester, a convert to Judaism, whose major field of interest is Jewish studies.
I usually leave the house by 6 a.m. weekdays so I can walk to shul and learn Talmud and say the morning prayers with my community.
Convinced of my own righteousness, I pay little attention to the noise I make walking down the stairs in the morning until the goyim complain.
“Every day you’ve made progressively more noise going down the stairs in the morning,” said a neighbor.
Oy, I don’t want a pogrom in Pico-Robertson. I better think less about my own righteousness and more about the blissful sleep of the Gentiles. When they get grouchy, it’s not good for the Jews. Better to have them remain in their moral stupor. Better for me to walk down the stairs in the morning like I am deeply ashamed.
God chose the Jews to be the MasterRace of mankind. However, He soon realized that this had cruel consequences for the less intelligent goyim of creation, so to protect them from the depredations of the Jews while still providing free will to one and all, he gave the Jews the Torah (both written and oral) by which they might be fenced in. Rest assured that those Jews who today live on the Torah Corral (like myself and Chaim Amalek) are no threat to the gentle gentiles of the world. It is the secular liberal Jew, with his notions of Marxism, tolerance of the sodomite and the transgendered, creator both of socialism and feminism, who is the mortal enemy of the gentile world. I say this in the hope that when you goyim awake from your deep moral stupor (an increasingly unlikely event) and begin dealing with the Jew problem in your midst, you will leave me alone. I hope this clears everything up.
Pornographer turned pastor Donny Pauling posts to my FB: “Luke, it’s interesting that you (as a former gentile) use derogatory words for gentiles. Do you honestly think you, as a “convert”, are accepted as if born into your beliefs?”
According to TheFreeDictionary.com, the first result for goyim is: “Used as a disparaging term for one who is not a Jew.”
This is not a primary definition. Any word, including “American” or “Christian”, for example can be used as a putdown in certain contexts, but the primary meaning of such terms is not pejorative. The Hebrew Bible calls the Jews “goy” meaning “nation.”
Converts to Judaism are usually accepted by Jews like any other Jew (according to their deeds, Judaism is much about about deeds than creeds).
In English, the use of the word goy can be controversial. Like other common (and otherwise innocent) terms, it may be assigned pejoratively to non-Jews. To avoid any perceived offensive connotations, writers may use the English terms “gentile” or “non-Jew”.
In Yiddish, it is the only proper term for gentile and many bilingual English and Yiddish speakers use it dispassionately or even deliberately.
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Chabad is an elite religion. It has long prided itself as the most intellectual of the Hasidim, the group most devoted to Torah study.
Over the past 40 years, Chabad has devoted itself to outreach and it is easy to think of it as a mass movement, but it is not. Chabadniks, those who dress and practice Lubavitch-style Judaism, consider themselves part of an elite, and for the most part, they’re right. Chabad shluchim (outreach rabbis), in particular, tend to be an impressive bunch.
Even though Chabad does massive outreach and provides an accessible path into Judaism for the non-religious, Chabadniks proper are accountable to a rigorous standard of Jewish practice and traditional beliefs that fits in with Charedi Judaism more than Modern Orthodoxy.
The Kabbalah Centre similarly has a dual track. Its stalwarts are Torah-observant and only marry their own while attendees of the Kabbalah Centre are usually non-observant Jews and non-Jews. There’s virtually no marriage between these groups.
In Lubavitch there is the phenomenon of the so called “Chabad Lite” community. People who grew up as Lubavitchers, consider themselves Lubavitchers, but do nothing to actually be Lubavitch. They don’t dress like the way a Lubavitcher would dress, speak the way one would speak, or act in the basic way a chossid would act. In general, I have no issue with these types of people; many of them are my friends and neighbors and we get along wonderfully. I have one major issue: they consider themselves Lubavitch, and take part in our mosdos.
You may ask: “why can’t they be Lubavitchers if that is what they consider themselves?”
My question to you is, if someone buys a pair of military fatigues from the clothing store, is he a special-ops soldier? If he claims he is, saying: “look, I even have the clothes,” You would laugh at him. One is not considered a special-ops soldier simply by calling himself one, nor by owning of a uniform. There are training procedures that have to be fulfilled, as well as constant vigilance and the strict following of rules.
In Lubavitch we are the same. Just because one wears a sirtuk does not make him a Lubavitcher. The Rebbe set out guidelines of what he wanted his chassidim to look like and what type of lives he wanted them to lead.
For the moment, put aside the issue of the simple chillul shaim Lubavitch that such people make – I am not here to defend the name of Lubavitch. I am writing this to defend the integrity of out communities, of our children and of our future.
What happens in Lubavitch schools that have kids from these so called “Chabad Lite” families? There is much confusion. It creates many, many issues.
I live in Los Angeles. Here, we Baruch Hashem have a flourishing cheder together with a wonderful girls school. Now, what happens when your daughter comes home from school wondering why her friend doesn’t dress the way her teacher taught? Why her friend’s “Mommy” doesn’t cover her hair and wears skirts that are way too short?
Don’t kid yourselves, these questions are being asked! It used to be that when questions like that were asked, a parent was able to answer their child that their friend was part of a different community, more modern, not Chabad, etc. Nowadays, however, that distinction is gone! These are our friends and neighbors! These are our children’s classmates! The way it influences the children is horrible! How is a parent supposed to explain to their child why her friend and classmate doesn’t dress tzniusdik?
"This guy knows all the gossip, the ins and outs, the lashon hara of the Orthodox world. He’s an [expert] in... all the inner workings of the Orthodox world." (Rabbi Aaron Rakeffet-Rothkoff)
