American doctor declared free of Ebola finds the virus in his eye months later

Even if this outbreak leads to massive blindness of survivors and continued outbreaks of Ebola, isn’t that a small price to pay for continuing our responsibility to help Africa?

CNN report.

* I’ve been dealing with women who don’t know the difference between right and left (in space). They have a poor sense of spacial direction and I believe this is generally true of women when compared with men. They also tend to get hysterical once a month. No wonder Judaism won’t accept women as witnesses.

* Americans have the right to insult Islam…and Judaism, the Holocaust, Christianity, cripples, gays, blacks, every group.

* Friend: “What’s a tough call for me is whether the illuminati only want to take down the whites incidentally–only because the whites have happened to be awesome–or if the illuminati has it in for whites right to the end for some reason. The latter possibility is demonic.”

* A friend says: “White holocaust. Who cares? What really would be lost if the blue eyes were all gone?”

* “Ethnocentrism is the technical name for this view of things in which one’s own group is the center of everything, and all others are scaled and rated with reference to it. Folkways correspond to it to cover both the inner and the outer relation. Each group nourishes its own pride and vanity, boasts itself superior, exalts its own divinities, and looks with contempt on outsiders. Each group thinks its own folkways the only right ones, and if it observes that other groups have other folkways, these excite its scorn. Opprobrious epithets are derived from these differences. … For our present purpose the most important fact is that ethnocentrism leads a people to exaggerate and intensify everything in their own folkways which is peculiar and which differentiates them from others. It therefore strengthens the folkways.” (William Sumner)

* Can individualist Western civilization survive cutthroat competition between impermeable racial groups? (Culture of Critique)

* Is not a given ethnic group better off if other competing groups have fewer numbers, fewer resources, lower social status, lower fertility and less political power? (Culture of Critique)

* “A community has a right to defend its territory and its national integrity against an invader, whether his weapon be the sword or foreclosure. In the territories of the Italian Republics the Jews might, so far as we see, have bought land and taken to farming had they pleased. But before this they had thoroughly taken to trade. Under the filling Empire they were the great slave traders, buying captives from barbarian invaders and probably acting as general brokers of spoils at the same time. They entered England in the train of the Norman conqueror. There was, no doubt, a perpetual struggle between their craft and the brute force of the feudal populations. But what moral prerogative has craft over force?
Mr. Arnold White tells the Russians that, if they would let Jewish intelligence have free course, Jews would soon fill all high employments and places of power to the exclusion of the natives, who now hold them. Russians are bidden to acquiesce and rather to rejoice in this by philosophers, who would perhaps not relish the cup if it were commended to their own lips. The law of evolution, it is said, prescribes the survival of the fittest. To which the Russian boor may reply, that if his force beats the fine intelligence of the Jew the fittest will survive and the law of evolution will be fulfilled. It was force rather than fine intelligence which decided on the field of Zama that the Latin, not the Semite, should rule the ancient and mold the modern world.” (Goldwin Smith)

* The White Canada policy died in 1962. “This important policy change was made not as a result of parliamentary or popular demand, but because some senior officials in Canada, including Dr. George Davidson [Deputy Minister of Citizenship and Immigration and later a senior administrator at the United Nations] rightly saw that Canada could not operate effectively within the United Nations, or in the multiracial Commonwealth, with the millstone of a racially discriminatory immigration policy round her neck.”
“The primary and identical motivation of Canadian and Australian politicians in trying to exclude first the Chinese, then other Asian migrants and finally all potential non-white immigrants, was the desire to build and preserve societies and political systems in their hard-won, distant lands very like those of the United Kingdom. They also wished to establish without challenge the primary role there of her founding peoples of European origin… Undisputed ownership of these territories of continental size was felt to be confirmed forever, not only by the fact of possession, but by the hardships and dangers endured by the early explorers and settlers; the years of back-breaking work to build the foundations of urban and rural life… The idea that other peoples, who had taken no part in these pioneering efforts, might simply arrive in large numbers to exploit important local resources, or to take advantage of these earlier settlement efforts, was anathema.” (Frieda Hawkins)

* “Since all British Jews are, or are descended from, immigrants, it was unethical — even immoral, for a Jew to support immigration control.” (Geoffrey Alderman, 1983, p. 148-149)

* “All restrictions on immigration are in principle retrogressive steps, particularly for this country, and a disappointment to those throughout the world who would like to see the limitations on the freedom of movement reduced rather than increased.” (Jewish Chronicle of London, Oct. 20, 1961)

* B’nai B’rith got a grant [circa 1987] from the United Nations Educational, Scientific, and Cultural Organization to bring German representatives to Israel because Israel is “a diverse, formative society, which, under strains of war, terrorism, and massive, deprived, immigration, has strived to develop a just, democratic and tolerant society.” “Our view was that the multicultural, multi-ethnic, multi-religious and multi-fissured, democratic society of Israel… could provide a credible and worthwhile point of comparison for others coming from a similarly highly-charged society.” (Culture of Critique)

* In 1952, Senator McCarran said: “I believe that this nation is the last hope of Western civilization and if this oasis of the world shall be overrun, perverted, contaminated or destroyed, then the last flickering light of humanity will be extinguished. I take no issue with those who would praise the contributions which have been made to our society by people of many races, of varied creeds and colors. America is indeed a joining together of many streams which go to form a mighty river which we call the American way. However, we have in the United States today hard- core, indigestible blocs which have not become integrated into the American way of life, but which, on the contrary are its deadly enemies. Today, as never before, untold millions are storming our gates for admission and those gates are cracking under the strain. The solution of the problems of Europe and Asia will not come through a transplanting of those problems en masse to the United States. . . . I do not intend to become prophetic, but if the enemies of this legislation succeed in riddling it to pieces, or in amending it beyond recognition, they will have contributed more to promote this nation’s downfall than any other group since we achieved our independence as a nation.” (Senator Pat McCarran, Cong. Rec., March 2, 1953, p. 1518.)

* “Imagine one immigrant, say an engineering student, who was studying in the U. S. during the 1960’s. If he found a job after graduation, he could then bring over his wife [as the spouse of a resident alien], and six years later, after being naturalized, his bothers and sisters [as siblings of a citizen]. They, in turn, could bring their wives, husbands, and children. Within a dozen years, one immigrant entering as a skilled worker could easily generate 25 visas for in- laws, nieces, and nephews.” (McConnell 1988, p. 98).

* Representative Blanton, complaining of the difficulty of getting restrictionist legislation through Congress, noted “When at least 65 per cent of the sentiment of this House, in my judgment, is in favor of the exclusion of all foreigners for five years, why do we not put that into law? Has Brother Sabath such a tremendous influence over us that he holds us down on this proposition?” (Cong. Rec. April 5, 1924, p. 5685)

* When restrictionist arguments appeared in the media, the AJCommittee made sophisticated replies, based on scholarly data and typically couched in universalist terms as benefiting the whole society (e. g., Neuringer 1971, p. 44).

* In undertaking to sway immigration policy in a liberal direction, Jewish spokesmen and organizations demonstrated a degree of energy unsurpassed by any other interested pressure group. Immigration had constituted a prime object of concern for practically every major Jewish defense and community relations organization. Over the years, their spokesmen had assiduously attended congressional hearings, and the Jewish effort was of the utmost importance in establishing and financing such non- sectarian groups as the National Liberal Immigration League and the Citizens Committee for Displaced Persons. (Neuringer 1971, p. ii) (Culture of Critique)

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What makes a Jewish dentist run for the U.K.’s anti-immigration party?

From Haaretz:

Raymond Shamash is a candidate in the May 7 general election for the United Kingdom Independence Party, slammed for its anti-EU, xenophobic stances.

It can be hard to stand up for what you believe in, as Raymond Shamash, the new United Kingdom Independence Party candidate in the country’s May 7th general election, representing the heavily Jewish London suburb of Hendon, is finding out.

UKIP, a right-wing, populist, anti-immigration party, is a tough sell in metropolitan London anyway, especially to a community overwhelmingly composed of immigrants and their descendants.

But worst of all, his own three children are so horrified by his candidacy for a party often accused of xenophobia that they have refused to let him reveal their names, occupations or even what country they live in. His wife, says Shamash mournfully, is in full agreement with them.

As for his potential Jewish constituents, at a recent hustings in a North London Orthodox synagogue, Shamash was told in no uncertain terms that none of his audience would have ever been born in Great Britain if UKIP were in power.

But the 68-year-old dental surgeon, who has spent much of the last four decades living in Haifa, where he voted Likud, believes there is too much at stake to let personal discomfort get in the way.

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Jews Can Be Challenging

I notice that Jews tend to complain more than Protestants.

The Torah portrays Jews as a difficult people. This stubbornness can be an asset though. It can be thought of as an unwillingness to settle for mediocrity. It can also translate as diligence and drive and energy.

The following lawsuit would have been unthinkable in the WASPy Australia I grew up in.

REPORT: Two Jewish groups that led a youth trip to Israel last summer failed to warn and protect students in their care about sand flies that infested the region, according to a lawsuit filed this week.

The parents of four Los Angeles County high school students filed suit on behalf of their children against the Union for Reform Judaism and the North American Federation of Temple Youth, the organized youth group of Reform Judaism. The groups “planned, hosted, conducted, led and supervised” the trip, the suit states.

The lawsuit alleges the teenagers were repeatedly bitten by sand flies and contracted Leishmaniasis, a parasitic disease that causes painful skin ulcers.

The students received no warning about sand flies before the trip, the suit alleges. Though the Jewish groups “expressly agreed” to monitor and protect the minors while abroad, they did not provide protection against sand flies, such as insecticides and insect netting, and gave the students bug-infested bedding, the suit states.

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The Board Of Deputies Of British Jews Promotes Censorship, Hate Speech Laws, Multi-Culturalism

It is sad to see organized Jewry at the forefront of the struggle to limit speech.

Here is its 2015 General Election manifesto:

* With the growth of social media, Antisemitism is finding new forms of expression which must be monitored and countered. We would therefore welcome additional political and material support to prevent and prosecute Antisemitism and other forms of racism in these new media.

* The Jewish community is concerned about hate speakers being allowed into the UK to spread and incite various forms of hatred against Jews; other faiths and races; the LGBT community; and other minorities. Hate speakers should be blocked from importing their hatred into the UK, spreading animosity and division. The Jewish community recognises and appreciates the work of the Home Office in refusing entry to some known hate speakers in the past.

From time to time, UK citizens are implicated in preaching hatred on university campuses and at community venues. The Community Security Trust, the Board of Deputies and the Union of Jewish Students have worked with groups including university authorities to balance the need for free speech with a clear opposition to hate speech.

Policy Ask: To support cohesion by banning speakers considered to be ‘not conducive to the public good’ from entering the UK. Policy Ask: To work with the Jewish community to prevent UK citizens preaching hate, including in universities and community centres.

* The Jewish Community is committed to positive and authentic engagement with people of all faiths and none. Promoting good relations between communities proactively prevents tensions, racism and violence. Steps should be taken to educate people of different faith and belief backgrounds about each other, and proactive efforts and investment should be put into developing good inter faith relations in order to prevent tensions and promote cooperation.

Whilst much of this work is driven from faith groups themselves at a local and national level, only Government has the resources to facilitate the strategic growth and direction of this work. The Jewish community and the Board of Deputies, in particular, prides itself on working with Government to enhance the interfaith encounter, producing joint research, projects and events. Organisations and projects like the InterFaith Network for the UK and its regional and local affiliates, as well as national bodies like the 3FF, Mitzvah Day, the Council of Christians and Jews, the Christian Muslim Forum, the Christian Hindu Forum and the Joseph Interfaith Foundation offer sustainable mechanisms and partners to deliver a more cohesive and integrated society.

Since 2005, the United Kingdom has officially marked Holocaust Memorial Day on 27 January every year. The Day does not just commemorate the Nazi Holocaust of the Jews, but also the genocides in Cambodia, Rwanda, Bosnia and Darfur. Like other Holocaust-related activities, the aim is not just to remember the past, but to create a consciousness that will prevent any other genocides happening in the future.

With each passing year there are fewer Holocaust survivors able to tell their stories. Therefore, it is important for schools across Europe to teach students about the Holocaust. Bodies like the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance, the Holocaust Memorial Day Trust, the Holocaust Educational Trust, the Wiener Library, Yad Vashem, the Anne Frank Trust, Yom HaShoah UK, the Centre for Holocaust Education and the Beth Shalom Holocaust Centre all merit support.

The Board of Deputies’ response to the 2014 Holocaust Commission made recommendations, including the following:
• Strengthen and broaden existing Holocaust modules within the National Curriculum
• Educate children to become activists for human rights and social justice, and against prejudice
• Formally designate Holocaust Memorial Day as a recognised day in mainstream schools.
• Increase the number of Holocaust Educational Trust trips to concentration camps
• Support/fund a central Forum for Holocaust Education and Commemoration to offer a joined-up approach.
• Provide all school children in the UK with a copy of Anne Frank’s Diary
• Build a ‘Memorial to the Holocaust’ in Central London – ensuring that it has the power to educate as well as to commemorate
• Promote initiatives to enable young people to shadow survivors of the Holocaust

Policy Ask: To implement the Board of Deputies’ recommendations to the 2014 Holocaust Commission. Policy Ask: To support Holocaust education, remembrance, commemoration, research and survivor testimony. Policy Ask: To show solidarity with all the victims of Nazi persecution, including Jews, Gypsies, homosexuals, disabled people and political opponents of Nazism, as well as the victims of other genocides in Cambodia, Rwanda, Bosnia and Darfur.
Policy Ask: To include and expand holocaust education in schools to prevent ignorance which can in some cases lead to revisionism or denial.

Holocaust denial and revisionism is widely abhorred, but it continues – particularly in the context of opposition to Israel. The current Iranian Supreme Leader, Ayatollah Khamenei, previously sought to question the veracity or extent of the Holocaust. Former Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad even organised a two-day conference in 2006, attended by neo-Nazis and the Ku Klux Klan, to question the reality of the Holocaust. In Europe, convicted French racist Dieudonné M’bala M’bala uses his public comedy shows to suggest that Jews created the idea of the Holocaust in order to reap financial gain. He was banned from the UK in 2014.

In Europe, the 2008 Prague Declaration caused alarm among many Jewish communities by conflating crimes under Soviet Communism with Nazi crimes. The concern is that some countries have attempted to deflect attention from the complicity of their wartime governments in the Holocaust, cynically attempting to avoid liability for compensation to Jewish victims. The crimes that Communist governments committed against their people should be explored and the perpetrators prosecuted, but it is important that countries acknowledge their role in the Holocaust and do not attempt to gloss over a very troubled period in their history.

At times, a related trope is that many leading Communists were Jews and so – it is claimed – the Jews as a whole are complicit in the crimes of Communism. The rationale continues that, as such, Jews in general do not deserve sympathy or compensation for their suffering in the Holocaust. This argument is unacceptable. The actions of some Jewish Communists do not make all Jews complicit. The ‘Jewish people’ does not hold property confiscated by the Communists, but various states do hold Jewish property confiscated by the Nazis and must fulfil their obligation to return it.

Policy Ask: To refute and confront individuals and political movements who seek to minimise or downplay the Holocaust.

Luke: I love how the Board of Deputies argues that promoting multi-culturalism leads to a more cohesive and integrated society. The last Chief Rabbi of Great Britain, Jonathan Sacks, had different views.

AP 2007: Multiculturalism promotes segregation, stifles free speech and threatens liberal democracy, Britain’s top Jewish official warned in extracts from his book published Saturday.

Jonathan Sacks, Britain’s chief rabbi, defined multiculturalism as an attempt to affirm Britain’s diverse communities and make ethnic and religious minorities more appreciated and respected. But in his book, “The Home We Build Together: Recreating Society,” he said the movement had run its course.

“Multiculturalism has led not to integration but to segregation,” Sacks wrote in his book, an extract of which was published in the Times of London.

“Liberal democracy is in danger,” Sacks said, adding later: “The politics of freedom risks descending into the politics of fear.”

Sacks said Britain’s politics had been poisoned by the rise of identity politics, as minorities and aggrieved groups jockeyed first for rights, then for special treatment.

The process, he said, began with Jews, before being taken up by blacks, women and gays. He said the effect had been “inexorably divisive.”

“A culture of victimhood sets group against group, each claiming that its pain, injury, oppression, humiliation is greater than that of others,” he said.

In an interview with the Times, Sacks said he wanted his book to be “politically incorrect in the highest order.”

I love this sentence: “In Europe, the 2008 Prague Declaration caused alarm among many Jewish communities by conflating crimes under Soviet Communism with Nazi crimes.” Why should the victims of communism be less remembered than the victims of Nazis?

If all adult Germans alive during WWII were complicit in the Holocaust (a notion I find ridiculous), then Jews as a people are complicit in communism (even though only a tiny proportion of Jews pushed communism, just as only a minority of Germans supported Nazi genocide).

“Israel is a diverse and pluralistic society that seeks to guarantee equality to all its citizens.” Nonsense. Israel is the Jewish state. Non-Jews in Israel are necessarily second-class citizens. From a Torah perspective, there is no room for Gentile citizenship in the Jewish nation.

Why should a Gentile nation officially commemorate the Holocaust more than any other genocide? That makes no sense. The victims of communism deserve as much commemoration as the victims of Nazism.

“The popularity of faith schools with parents reflects their academic results, their ethos, their behavioural standards, and the contribution that their pupils go on to make in wider society. Currently, one in every three schools in Britain is a faith school, and around sixty-five per cent of Jewish children in the UK attend Jewish schools. Whilst some faith schools operate in the private sector, there is a significant benefit to the relationship between public authorities and those faith schools that are part of the state sector. Many of them are models of best practice. As such, faith schools should remain an integral part of the state-sector offer.”

I don’t see why any country would want to promote religious diversity. That is only a recipe for increased conflict. The more Jewish the country of Israel is, the stronger it is. That same principle equally applies to Gentile countries.

“The success of faith schools is partly due to the sense of shared values and a shared purpose. Quotas or other interventions in schools’ admissions criteria risk losing this benefit.”

In other words, the Board of Deputies of British Jews wants minority groups to be as ethnocentric and closed as they like while denying that same cohesiveness to the majority.

“Policy Ask: To support the right of schools to continue to set their own admissions’ criteria.”

Why shouldn’t the nation as a whole and other communities within it set their own admissions’ criteria?

“Policy Ask: To ensure that there is provision for breakfast clubs in schools to ensure that vulnerable children are supported.”

Let’s ask the government to feed our kids.

“Policy Ask: To impose greater regulation on the rental market to give protection to people in the private rented sector.”

This is the very opposite of the Board’s program for Jewish schools (to set their own admission criteria).

“Jews and Roma were persecuted together during the Second World War, and continue to face abuse from extremists, especially in Hungary, but in other places too. Victimisation of the Roma needs to be tackled urgently.”

Great. So let’s move Roma into the homes and communities of the architects of this document so they can enjoy the diversity.

“The Jewish community is, essentially, an immigrant community, arriving in the UK as either economic migrants or refugees fleeing persecution. As such, the Jewish community takes a particular interest in the plight of immigrants and asylum seekers, and shares a discomfort in loose, pejorative language that stigmatises new arrivals in this country.”

The Board of Deputies must hate the pejorative language in the Torah about Amalek. Funny, I don’t hear the Board of Deputies requesting that Jews censor their texts and prayer books to remove pejorative language about out-groups.

“Policy Ask: To promote fair policies towards migrants, asylum seekers and refugees, takings pains not to encourage hatred or baseless suspicion towards these groups.”

What if the hatred and suspicion is justified by the facts? England is already over-crowded. Why would this country want more immigrants?

“The flourishing UK Jewish cultural scene is testimony to a thriving and integrated community.”

The Board of Deputies seeks cohesion for Jews and multi-culturalism for the goyim.

In sum, this document’s recommendations will make Great Britain weaker.

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Chinese Apparently Lack Subtlety In Their Attitudes To Blacks

Shame Chinese lack nuance on blacks. They don’t understand white privilege.

The poor chinese don’t understand how oppressed they are.

They’ll never amount to anything with these backwards attititudes.

They’re just hurting themselves.

ForeignPolicy.com: A growing number of black people – in particular, traders from African countries — are indeed moving into China. Guangzhou, a massive city in the country’s south, houses Asia’s largest African population. According to local officials in Guangzhou, 16,000 Africans legally resided in the city in 2014. Experts estimate the total number of Africans living in Guangzhou – legally and illegally – lies somewhere between 20,000 and 200,000. Debate is fierce about just how many Africans live there — and no one knows how many Africans live in China overall — but few dispute that the steady influx of African immigrants into Guangzhou since the late 1990s has led to growing tension between local and African communities. Africans are routinely characterized as illegal workers responsible for a rise in robbery, drug dealing, gang activity, and general disturbances of the peace, and are subject to random visa inspections by local police. The African community has taken to the streets to demonstrate against unfair treatment — in 2009 following the death of a Nigerian man who jumped from a window trying to escape a police raid, then again in 2012 when an African man died mysteriously in police custody.

Many comments on articles about the Baltimore protests mentioned these African immigrants, drawing an implicit connection between one and the other. Commenters called them “out of control,” and a “hidden danger to the future public safety of our country.” Another warned, “Black people love to make trouble.” There were far worse comments, not fit for print. Many were written out of a professed concern for Guangzhou. Although there are no available statistics for African crime in Guangzhou, crimes committed by foreigners tend to attract disproportionate media attention.

Some commenters pushed back. One wrote, “Black people are willing to go out on the street and protest and die for their compatriots. What about us?” (Protesting and civil organizing in China is often harshly punished.) Another reminded readers, “Your ancestors also came from Africa.” Yet even these relatively enlightened users did not point out the fundamental disconnect between a protest on the streets of Baltimore, and a larger discussion of Africans from Africa – which, of course, is a mind-bogglingly diverse continent with 54 countries, over 1 billion people, and, according to the African Language Program at Harvard University, “anywhere between 1,000 and 2,000 languages.”

My work research work suggests that this diversity is lost on Chinese observers. Domestic media coverage of Baltimore and the resulting xenophobic outpouring in China’s online community has simply surfaced pre-existing and deep-seated racial attitudes that belie burgeoning Sino-African political and economic ties, which include extensive Chinese-funded infrastructure projects all over Africa and the establishment of the “China-Africa New Strategic Partnership” in 2006.

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5 Ways Sex Addiction Recovery Can Get Derailed

Linda Hatch writes: The problem arises when the addict’s “sobriety” was only skin deep. Treatment involves addressing many different issues and neglecting any of them is not an option. Here are some of the reasons sex addiction treatment can fail and recovery can go off the rails.

Incomplete disclosure. Sometimes the addict in treatment “discloses” everything to the partner but holds back something from both the partner and the therapist. This can be subtle such as omitting the fact that the addict had unprotected sex with someone or failing to reveal that the affair was with a friend of the spouse. Or it can be blatant such as the failure to admit to a whole set of behavior like cybersex, gay sex or hiring escorts. Complete disclosure often comes in stages, but if the addict never tells everything he or she is perpetuating the habit of sexual secrecy. Without a commitment to honesty the addict will continue to live with the lies and shame that can ultimately lead back to acting out.
Recovery tourism. Some addicts are recovery tourists. They follow through on a program of sex addiction treatment and even go to 12-step meetings but they do not feel engaged in a genuine way. They sometimes feel they are there to keep their partner happy or to look good in the eyes of others. But they never feel the intrinsic value of recovery for themselves. This limits how much they can really change. Recovery demands deeper change and those in good recovery experience this as truly life-changing.
Seeing the problem as purely a relationship problem. Sometimes addicts never get the right kind of treatment to begin with. It is an easy mistake to think that sexual acting out by one partner is a symptom of something wrong in the relationship. But couple therapy alone cannot address the very powerful habit of using sex a drug any more than couple counseling can cure alcoholism. While it is true that sex addiction usually signals a problem with intimate relating, better relationship skills may not be possible until the addict addresses the addictive behavior. A trained sex addiction therapist will be able to make a plan to treat all aspects of the problem.
Ignoring the deeper issues. On the flip side, it is possible for treatment to address the addict’s problem with using sex as a drug but never deal with the intimacy avoidance that goes along with a sexual double life. Most addicts lack true intimacy skills, the ability to be nurturing and vulnerable, to share power and to communicate their needs and feelings. Unless they gain these skills their relationships will be problematic and inauthentic. This in turn leads back to the addict reaching out for another kind of gratification elsewhere. And the intimacy avoidance can in turn relate to longstanding problems such as childhood attachment issues, abuse and trauma. These must be resolved somewhere along the line for the recovery process to be reliable.
Misdiagnosis. This happens more than I would like. I see couples who have been to therapists for help with one partner’s sexual acting out behavior but have come away with a mistaken understanding of the problem.

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Narcissists Watch More Porn: Enter Eroticized Rage

Linda Hatch writes: For the narcissistic sex addict, compulsively seeking out pornography on the internet does more that just provide sexual arousal and gratification. Remember, the narcissist who cannot resist internet porn may be being triggered by an intense need to rebuild his fragile facade. The addict is feeling unworthy, rejected, and “less than”. But porn can and does put that fragile Humpty Dumpty back together again.

Patrick Carnes in his article on eroticized rage describes the mechanisms by which sexual acting out behavior can be a way to cope with anger. The average person whose ego has been somehow deflated may feel embarrassed, humbled or dejected. But the person whose narcissistic bubble has been burst feels mostly outraged and resentful. There is no soul-searching, only the feeling of something intolerable and the impulse to change it.

Porn is a fantasy outlet offering a perfect escape from narcissistic wounding. It takes a person who feels outraged and victimized and offers them a quick fix through:

• Restoration of parity

The scenarios depicted in online porn images and videos have the power to change feelings of being one-down or undesirable and make them into their opposite. This restores the person’s sense of self. I had a client whose addictive pattern was to hang around coffee shops and look at attractive, much younger women. He would then realize that he could not “have” these women and go home to a marathon of pornography use. He particularly liked the fact that these fantasy women were “always there for me.”

• Getting even
When the addict feels victimized he or she may respond by using pornography to get even or turn the tables. The fantasy scenarios involved may be ones of revenge or humiliation but not always. For the person who feels abandoned and rejected by a partner, the mere fact of indulging in porn may be a violation of trust and therefore an act of revenge.

• Defiance of convention

Doing what is seen as perverse provides an outlet for anger and an affirmation of one’s own uniqueness and importance. Once again, it reaffirms the battered ego by means of getting away with something exciting and risky. It says “I am important enough that I play by different rules.”

Because the fantasy escape into porn merely restores the narcissist’s false self, it does not last. There is no permanent strengthening of the sense of self, only the repairing of the narcissistic facade.

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Would You Buy A Used Car From Me?

I’ve never worked in sales. The prospect of such a job fills me with dread, but many people tell me I have the gift of the gab. Maybe I should be more open-minded?

Would you buy a used car from me?

Oz writes: “I can see you talking about Japanese IQ scores while trying to sell a Toyota.”

Chaim Amalek writes: “And why not? Who would you rather built that new car you are about to commit spending 30K on: a high I.Q. Japanese manufacturing battalion, or some drunken Irishmen (or worse)?”

I’ve been trying out the slogan, “At Ford, quality is job one”.

Phig: “Would be an awesome tagline for you to end dates with.”

Steven: “There’s a Ford in your future!”

The boss says to me: “You’re a living legend, but what kind of legend?”

So in a recent job, I asked the boss if I could make fun of him and he said yes, and I did, and then there was no more work for me. Hmm. Correlation?

Another boss complained that while my memory of the naked twister story is impeccable, when he has asked me to do some elementary things, I was all confusion.

I asked my rebbe for advice and he said: “The only answer I can come up with off the top of my head is that you write a serious book that is not about you (sorry!) but perhaps about some big topic. And you have plenty at hand. But do you have the discipline to write about such a topic?”

Oy, I started my day being completely wrong about the location of something (I said another bloke had it when it was in my cabinet).

Great technique for dealing with difficult people. Say, “I’m confused when you say X…” Only elucidate if you think they can hear you. Otherwise just say, “Hey, my confusion is my problem.”

My favorite saying when I get caught: “This isn’t what it looks like!”

The past is never past. It lives with us each day.

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Israel’s Disproportionate Response To Nepal Earthquake

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LAT: Aide to Kamala Harris, 2 others accused of running rogue police force

Story:

An aide to state Atty. Gen. Kamala D. Harris and two others are accused of operating a rogue police force that claimed to exist for more than 3,000 years and have jurisdiction in 33 states and Mexico, authorities said Tuesday…

A website identifying itself as the police force’s official site describes what makes the group unique: “When asked what is the difference between the Masonic Fraternal Police Department and other Police Departments the answer is simple for us. We were here first!”

The website adds: “We are born into this Organization our bloodlines go deeper then an application. This is more then a job it is an obligation.”

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