Category Archives: Psychology

Therapist Jerry Wise: “Over-seriousness is a reactive state…when we become immature, naive…when we enmesh through seriousness and intensity. This lessens our self-differentiation and clouds our self-awareness.” “So often, people are talking and someone becomes very serious… If we are the … Continue reading →

Therapist Jerry Wise: “The belief that someday I will find someone who will love me in ways I don’t love myself. That’s an immature dependency-needs approach. I’m going to find that special someone who will love me in ways I … Continue reading →

Mass email: Many of us entertain a fantasy that some person can complete us. We don’t believe that we’re complete in ourselves. Only when we do will we become able to share in a life-enhancing partnership with another person. Only … Continue reading →

I’m listening to a lecture on Social Neurobiology by UCLA pyschiatrist Daniel Siegel: “One way of describing shy kids is that they have more reactive right hemispheres. Jerome Kagan (of Harvard) found that depending on what the parents did, shaped … Continue reading →

I love this Daniel Siegel book. Here are excerpts that moved me: For those whose histories included a sense of emotional unavailability and a lack of attuned, nurturing parenting, there may have been an adaptation that minimizes the importance of … Continue reading →