The blatant racism in escort ads disgusts me. It’s about time somebody does something. Perhaps President Trump should issue an executive order against this or the Attorney General should investigate this problem?
There’s a rising tide of anger in this country that could blow up into a revolution at any time if black men keep experiencing this blatant discrimination.
Isn’t it about time that johns are judged on the content of their character rather than the color of their skin?
We have left our kids a disenchanted world. Today things are optimized, rational and efficient, but where’s the magic? Where’s God and the transcendent? Great men have been shoved off the stage. Dennis Prager can’t move from the neck down.
We don’t give our kids heroes anymore. When I was a kid, we had real men to venerate such as Ronald Reagan, John Holmes and Ron Jeremy. We had giants walking among us. Now these men have been torn down. Reagan was supposedly racially insensitive. Holmes had a connection to the four on the floor Wonderland murders. And Jeremy was a rapist.
Jeremy was accused of sexual assault more than a dozen times between 2017 and 2020, for incidents stretching back to 2004. In June 2020, Jeremy was charged with four counts of rape and sexual assault involving four women, and in August 2020, he was charged with another 20 counts of either rape or sexual assault over a span of 16 years from 2004 to 2020 that involved 12 women and a 15-year-old girl. Upon further investigation he was indicted on 30 sexual-assault counts involving 21 victims. He was initially jailed awaiting trial, but in January 2023, a judge found him mentally unfit to stand trial due to “incurable neurocognitive decline”; he was released to a private residence in November 2023.
I always thought Ron would go out with a bang. Not like this. Not with a whimper. I guess all stories are tragedies if you tell them honestly and all the way to the end.
Look, mate, nobody should be a racist or a rapist, and the righteous man doesn’t facilitate mass murder to feed his drug habit, but we should separate the artist and his art and the art these men made will echo in eternity. Maybe we need to give artists wider moral latitude due to the sensitivity of their perceptions?
Ron Jeremy always struck me as possessing the soul of a poet.
I fear we are not nurturing and protecting our next generation of cinematic talent when there’s so much free material online from foreigners. It is time that Trump puts tariffs on foreign porn to protect our domestic industry. China might well be exploiting the vulnerabilities of American males with free porn so that they can blackmail us and hack us and impurify our vital fluids.
Let’s make American great again.
Our children need role models.
I’m concerned that when the youth hear the Ron Jeremy story, they’ll think — it’s not worth striving for greatness because people will find some flaw in me and tear me down just like they did to Ron.
Maybe President Trump needs to issue a pardon to Ron Jeremy so that men can have hope again.
The Justice Department could make it mandatory that any sex worker has to serve ten black guys at a discounted rate as a form of reparations for white slavery before she can choose her customers and the government could have an inspector on hand to make sure she doesn’t flinch or show any racism. That way johns can sleep easy at night knowing that their dates are not racist. Pam Bondi could offer escorts the equivalent of the Good Housekeeping seal of approval. And we’d get one step closer to Martin Luther King’s dream.
Act now Mr. President before it is too late! The rage of our brothers frightens me.
Lance V. writes at Modern Mandingo:
I once called an escort who was a beautiful, exotic mix of different ethnicities, and she didn’t have any restrictions for men on her ad other than being a gentleman. Since I have a nice voice and speak proper English, she was very polite and kind during our discussion. Then, the inaudible drum roll sounded as I asked if she was open to race. The cymbal crashed, her tone became more serious, and I was flooded with a barrage of questions as if I’d been detained by the Customs Department at the airport:
What race are you? How old are you? What profession are you in? What area do you live in?
She grilled me with even more questions about myself than those mentioned above. Even though I had no intent of acquiring her services, the interrogation would’ve killed any desire of mine had I intended to do so. But that might’ve been part of her avoidance plan to sway me from visiting. After ending the conversation, I wondered what would’ve happened had I not asked about or told her my race and been given the OK to show up at her place. Because of my voice, I’m sure she’d have expected a professional White guy. So, if she’d seen a Black man (though well dressed and groomed) through door’s peephole, she’d most likely have interrogated me from behind the door before opening it; that’s assuming she wouldn’t have ignored me altogether.
So who are the rotten black apples that make it bad for the rest of the bunch?
Cheapskates and Thieves. Some girls have noted experiences with Black customers that try to haggle down the price agreed to before meeting. Others have had Black men put the money on the dresser before the act, grab it, and rush out after the deed is done.
Well-Endowed Men. Some girls exclude Black men because of their size. Of course, not all Black men are hung like a horse and there’s plenty of scientific research to prove it, but myths and stereotypes prevail in this business. Since being a sex worker is a business and the body is the product, a sex session with any well-endowed man would require much more recovery time than the average (or below-average) customer who’s efforts aren’t muscle-exhausting, marathon performances. One or two of the escort’s orifices are the items being used repeatedly on a daily or nightly basis, so the smaller and least intrusive the better.
Disrespectful Youngsters. Young Black men have been typecast as being degrading to women both in and out of the bedroom thanks to certain aspects of hip-hop culture and the images it portrays of how men treat them. Women should be referred to as bitches and hoes while having alcohol poured over the bodies and doing every sexual act the man wants. Some escorts have stated that younger Black men can be rougher and demeaning than their non-Black customers, reiterating what was mentioned about minimal product damage.
Pimps. The majority of pimps are Black men and some of them don’t want their girls to service other Black men in fear they might be lured away from the pimp or the escort business altogether. That would be a loss of income for the pimp, so they think it’s best to service men who aren’t Black. But the faulty logic in that restriction is that a client of a different race could lure her away just the same. However, it seems the biggest reason for the exclusion of Black men comes from pimps who hunt down independent sex workers and force them (sometimes violently) to work under their control.
What every man, regardless of race, should realize is that sex workers don’t do the job for the enjoyment of sex. It’s a business; the oldest form of commerce that exists in humanity. The women are there to make money and their bodies are the products used to generate revenue. The clients they entertain usually aren’t men they’d seek out for pleasure in real life and the sex they’re providing is an illusion of gratification that’s meant to make the client feel wanted and to satisfy his needs. There’s no enjoyment for the worker except the money she’s given for creating the illusion.
And, since sex workers are using their bodies as the means to create the illusion, discrimination laws don’t apply and they can refuse service to anyone they choose. Not to mention their profession is illegal in most parts of the world, so there’s no reason to start a social movement against the biases of an illegal profession without attempting to eliminate the profession altogether.
Discrimination is an ordinary experience in a Black man’s life, even in the most trivial of situations. The denial of basic, sexual pleasure from those who offer it should be no surprise, especially when there are some who’ve distorted the perception of suitable Black men who bear no malicious intent towards anyone, sex worker or not.
Archer86 writes at GirlsAskGuys:
There’s a website called Backpage.com where you can find everything. On one section are escorts where you can break it down by specific city location. One day just teasing myself because I was horny as all unholy hell, I was browsing some of the local women in Indiana and Illinois and found quite a number of “escorts” who advertised: “No Blacks”, “Sorry, no African-Americans”, “No brothas” and so on. What’s worse is that even some black chicks placed the black man on the forbidden lists. The worst of all is that I never saw any other ethnic group prohibited by these women. I counted up in one city of 123 women, 34 refused to give service to blacks. WHAT THE f***?!?!?!?!?!?!?! I’m trying to figure out how women can choose to screw anything and everything…except one particular race. And why just black men? The issue isn’t about sex, it’s about why this bull sh*t still goes on, even among our own women? Controversial subject. Those who have seen my posts are well aware that I’ll bring up the taboo and the unspeakable. So…let’s hear it folks. Stupid? Or something else?
Mr. Oracle responds:
It’s less to do with racist views than you’d imagine (which is why even some black women have this rule). It’s much more about CULTURE.
In “black culture” (i.e., urban/hip-hop culture), a culture where GETTING respect is an important keystone, GIVING respect is looked down upon, and that’s especially true for women. In this culture, women are routinely degraded, disrespected, and violence against women is accepted and even glorified.
And when dealing with honest-to-goodness whores, many black men feel that they have every right to treat them like crap. That may mean violence, it may mean attempting to steal them from their pimp, or refusing to pay/stealing back their money. It isn’t racism, but experience, that teaches them to avoid black men as customers, especially in certain areas of the country (you’ll note that you won’t find this rule everywhere).
I went to college to be an Audio Engineer, and I used to work in a venue that hosted all types of acts. This included big rock shows, metal shows, country shows, and even punk shows, but by FAR, the most dangerous shows were the R&B and hip-hop shows. They typically required triple the insurance, at least double the security, and there were still multiple incidents at every show. Not all of the people involved in these incidents were black, either, but they were all heavily involved and influenced by urban/hip-hop CULTURE, where respect of others is rarely given, where there is always an adversarial attitude towards authority, and where violence is used to solve even the smallest of problems or perceived slights, all in the name of “respect.”
The open market responded to these issues by charging more for the venue, requiring more insurance, requiring more security, requiring an on-site medical staff and sworn police officers, and so on. It’s not that the market was racist; they didn’t charge extra for Reggae acts, Jazz acts, or 50s/60s oldies acts with mostly all-black performers. But experience taught them that dealing with the black urban culture came with much higher risks, and so the prices went way up.
Prostitution is an equally open market, and it has likewise responded to the higher risk of dealing with men of this culture with it’s own rules and responses. It’s unfortunate that some folks get falsely grouped in with the problem elements, but at the end of the day, business is business, and risk vs. reward has to be observed.
Grok says:
One explanation comes from anecdotal reports on forums and social media, where some escorts cite negative past encounters—such as aggressive behavior, non-payment, or safety concerns—as reasons for adopting these preferences. For instance, discussions on platforms like X and Reddit suggest that a small number of sex workers may generalize from isolated incidents to avoid perceived risks, even if those incidents aren’t representative of all black men. This isn’t unique to race; escorts often screen clients based on other traits like rudeness or intoxication, but racial policies get more attention due to their visibility and implications.
Another angle is economic. Some escorts cater to specific clientele for branding or market demand, and a few might exclude black men based on assumptions about payment disputes or preferences of their regular customers. There’s no hard data to back this up industry-wide, but it’s a theory floated in online debates. Stereotypes—sometimes fueled by pornographic tropes or cultural biases about black men’s behavior or anatomy—might also play a role in shaping these decisions, rightly or wrongly.
On the flip side, critics argue it’s straight-up racism, conscious or not. Studies on implicit bias, like those from the American Psychological Association, show people can act on prejudiced assumptions without fully realizing it. In the U.S., where sex work operates in a legal gray area, escorts have wide latitude to set boundaries, and “no black men” policies can reflect broader societal attitudes seeping into personal choices.