The Case For Concubines

In his third lecture on Rabbi Chalom Messas for Torah in Motion, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

[In 2006], Zvi Zohar in Israel, an expert in Sephardic halacah, just came out with a book on 20th Century Sephardic rabbis.

He wrote an article saying we need to bring back the institution of pilegesh (concubine aka live-in girlfriend).

The Rambam says this is forbidden but the Ramban and the Ravad and most of the medieval authorities permit this.

Today this is out of style. We don’t consider this proper. We don’t consider this moral. In the last 20 years, morality in the larger society has changed and people don’t see a problem with living together.

The Jewish view is not that these people are “living in sin.”

When people say that living together is immoral, I have a problem with it because the Ramban and the Ravad said it was permissible. To say it is immoral insults our great sages.

This Lubavitcher woman goes around to these public schools and encourages people to get married and says that living together is immoral. But according to Jewish law, there is no such thing as marriage for non-Jews. Living together is marriage.

The OU puts out this literature saying that sex is special but you can only do it within marriage. If you remove it from marriage, it’s dirty. Excuse me! The Ramban and the Ravad and many other gedolim think differently.

According to everyone, the king was permitted a concubine.

Do you invite them to the Shabbos table? In my opinion, why not?

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A Convert’s Sad Story

Anonymous writes:

I am a convert. There can be no question that I am halakhically Jewish, at least if you trust the Lubavitchers to know halakha. I am writing to protest the downright shameful treatment of converts by the Orthodox community, which so conveniently forgets the explicit commandment to not oppress the ger.

First, let me state my background—though I will omit identifying details for reasons that will appear later. I was raised as a Christian in the Bible Belt to believe that the Bible was the word of God. Nobody explained to me why “God’s Word” did not include the laws in the first five books, which today are observed only by Jews. Due to my parents’ severe opposition, I could not do anything toward converting to Judaism until I went away to graduate school in a small college town.

This was more than 35 years ago. At that time, I took instruction from the only Orthodox rabbi in the state, who could be described as Modern Orthodox. In those days, I knew nothing of Modern/Hareidi distinctions among Orthodox Jews; in fact, there were no Hareidi Jews in my immediate vicinity. The Bet Din consisted of my rabbi; the only Conservative rabbi in that town (he was a Sabbath observer), and one other person. As I started meeting other Jews for the first time (I had had no significant social Jewish contact before my conversion), I started getting questions about this conversion. I had met a community of Lubavitchers by this time, and they decided that although they believed my conversion was valid, they would redo it just to remove all question. They even placed a call to New York and got a ruling that I should not say God’s name in the blessing for this re-run. This second conversion took place about a year and a half after my first conversion.

I did not meet and marry my husband until nine years later. His entire family is Hareidi, and he is yeshiva-educated. We are Shomrei Shabbat but not “yeshivish,” and live in a small college town with a bare minyan for our Orthodox community. We have one child, a son, who is also Shomer Shabbat.

The basic problem a convert faces in the Orthodox world stems from the following mind-set: If you observe one mitzvah more than I do you are a fanatic, and if you observe one mitzvah less you are an apikores, or heretic. This is hard a enough mind-set for a ba’al teshuva to navigate and to figure out what is essential halakha and what is less essential minhag, or custom—and even more so for the convert. If a convert is at all less stringent than the person he or she is speaking to, the logic seems to extend that the convert has not accepted all of the mitzvoth, and therefore the validity of the conversion is in question. I’ve even had an Orthodox rabbi say this to me in those very words!

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Making God Look Bad To The World

In his fifth lecture on Rabbi Joseph Elijah Henkin (the leading posek in America during the 1940s and 1950s) for Torah in Motion, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

Rav Henkin says Jews must be careful about how they speak about non-Jews. Non-Jews today are not akum (idol worshipers).

We shouldn’t talk about how non-Jews earn the death penalty for violating the Noahide laws.

People who don’t understand Jewish law shouldn’t write about it and do a terrible chillul HaShem as they do on such websites as Yeshiva World News and Vosizneias. Take a look at these websites. Look at some of the comments. The ignorance. A little knowledge is dangerous, especially on the internet. What people write is unbelievable. It makes Judaism look bad not just to non-Jews but to non-Orthodox Jews. It makes them think that if this is what traditional Judaism is, I don’t want any part of it.

I used to be friends with David Kelsey. He’s a blogger now. All he does is attack Orthodoxy.

You have many others. It’s not Orthodoxy that they are turned off of. They were turned off by a crazy fanatical Haredi type of Orthodoxy and now they are very anti-Orthodox. If they had a different approach, there’s no reason to believe they wouldn’t be in the fold. For some of them, when they first learn about science, they are turned off.

Almost 100% of the anti-religious [Orthodox] types you see online, Failed Messiah who was Chabad, all these people who have an axe to grind against Orthodoxy, they don’t come out of the Modern Orthodox world. They come out of the extreme Haredi world. Because they were so extreme on one side, they go extreme on the other side.

They’re arguments are all the same. That Judaism was never humane. It was never filled with love. It was all about hatred of non-Jews, hatred of the Modern Orthodoxy, hatred of the other. It was always negative. It was always filled with destruction.

My impression is that most rebels are from the Hasidic groups. Pearl Gluck made a movie about them.

Some of them now have tattoos. They are in biker t-shirts. But you listen to them talk, and they sound like they did when they had payos. Because they grew up speaking Yiddish, they’ll never sound like an ordinary American. They’re not like the Litvishers. If a 20-year old Litvisher guy wants to leave, he’ll at least have some secular education. He’ll have a high school degree.

These are people who’ll never make something of themselves. They have no secular education. Many don’t leave Hasidic Judaism precisely because of that. In the community, they’re given manual labor jobs and that’s accepted. In the wider world, they have no possibilities.

Haredi learning in Israel is not an elite movement. How can you have a society where you tell every man they have to do the same thing?

When a Satmar guy drops out, he goes off the deep end. When a traditional Litvisher guy leaves the Haredi world, they end up in places like Teaneck or West Orange. They become more modern. They don’t reject everything.

Rav Henkin didn’t have students. He had baal habatim (congregants and followers).

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Rent Control

In his fifth lecture on Rabbi Joseph Elijah Henkin (the leading posek in America during the 1940s and 1950s) for Torah in Motion, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

You get a sense that Rav Henkin has a very liberal sense. I have no doubt he voted Democrat down the line.

Economists of all sides agree that rent control is a bad idea.

There was an Orthodox rabbi who argued that Jews do not have to be bound by rent control. According to the Torah, private property is sacrosanct. It is my apartment. Look in the Shulchan Aruch. There’s no rule stating anyone can tell me how much I can charge for it.

If the government tells me I can only charge $1,000 a month for my apartment, I don’t have to abide. If I have a prospective Jewish tenant who won’t appeal to a secular court, I can say, “I don’t care what the government says. Pay me $1000 and $200 under the table.”

Rav Henkin says this is not true. Elected representatives are allowed to pass any law, even if it is against the Shulchan Aruch. If you don’t like it, vote them out of office. The Beth Din is obliged to vote in favor of government law.

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Can You Rely On The Government For Your Kashrut?

In his fifth lecture on Rabbi Joseph Elijah Henkin (the leading posek in America during the 1940s and 1950s) for Torah in Motion, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

Rabbi Joseph Elijah Henkin was asked if you can rely on the government for kashrut. This was an era when the OU was getting started. People were wondering what do I need the OU for? Why can’t I just look at the ingredients? We’ve been doing that for so long.

Rav Henkin says there are things you need hashgacha (kosher certification such as the OU) on such as meat. You can’t rely on the Department of Agriculture. When it comes to other foods, you can rely on the government. If you have a choice, you have to follow the hashgacha.

We have products with tiny amounts of non-kosher food and a traditional rabbinic point of view (from the Rashba etc) has been that this is not a problem if it amounts to less than a sixtieth.

According to the FDA, every ingredient has to be listed.

Other countries don’t have hashgachas (kosher certification) on foods. If you go to England or Australia… The Bais Din puts out a list of kosher food products, but it’s not like these rabbis go out and visit factories. They’re not making surprised inspections. They are making these judgments based on ingredients and based on correspondence. There’s no supervision.

The London Bais Din is a strict bais din. According to their kashrut booklet: “Kosher species of fish canned or in jars are approved.”

No Orthodox Jew in America would dream of buying something like that without a hashgacha.

All jams and jellies are approved. How different is that from us?

All yoghurts and frozen vegetables are permitted. All canned sugar and fruit juice, except grape juice, are permitted.

I wonder if it wasn’t for the profit motive America wouldn’t be like everyone else.

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Rav Yosef Kanefsky Undergoes Angioplasty

An email from BnaiDavid.com: “For those of you who may not have been in Shul over Succot, we are sending this e-mail to let you know that Rabbi Kanefsky underwent an angioplasty late Wednesday afternoon, shortly before Yom Tov. He is now home recuperating and is doing very well. His prognosis is excellent. Rav Yosef sends his love to everyone and appreciates all of your well wishes. At this point, we would request no visitors. If you would like to wish him well, please feel free to do so via e-mail at [email protected].”

Joe emails: Heart treatment now is really aggressive so that 45 is not young, it is just good medicine. And for good reason. The main symptom of heart disease is death. So, most cardiologists these days hardly operate. It is all stents, balloons, pacemakers, ablasions, all in an attempt to keep the heart healthy – a bypass is usually too late in terms of avoiding some permanent damage to the muscle. Open heart surgery is a bit of a barbaric procedure and once it is performed it is likely that the heart has suffered permanent damage.

Think of this parable. The body is a swimming pool and the toxins must be removed. The heart is the pump, and the liver/kidney are that filter at the edge of the pool. If the pump is strong, the blood flows nicely and is cleansed by the liver/kidney and removed. If the pump is slow, the filter is taxed. Modern medicine’s only real cutting edge capability is its work on the heart. There is no non-transplant effective means of repairing the kidney or liver or groin. Most old people with congestive heart failure never die of heart ailments, it is the liver or kidney that fail.

In any event, I recommend to many people like Kanefsky a strict vegetarian diet – maybe some fish – much like your Seventh Day Adventists, with perhaps one exception, namely, the Sabbath and Festival meal. The Rambam states that the way for a man to fulfill the commandment of being happy on the Festivals is to drink wine and eat meat. For us today, when meat is plentiful, it is hard to see the satisfaction derived from a brisket. But take away meat on non-festive days, promote your heart, and you may actually be able to more properly enjoy the Festivals of Pesach, Shavuot, and Sukkot with meat.

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Bnai Brak Is Out Of This World

In his third lecture on Rabbi Joseph Elijah Henkin (the leading posek in America during the 1940s and 1950s) for Torah in Motion, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

Rav Ahron Kotler was able to squash yeshivas from having secular learning….but this was only for his sons. His daughter was a graduate student at Columbia in Political Science.

Bnai Brak has nothing to do with traditional Lithuania[n Jewish learning]. Bnai Brak could never have developed if people had to work and make livings. It’s an artificial society developed because people are able to live on public funds. Jews were not supported by the government in Lithuania.

You should see the way Lithuanian rabbis wrote about professors (often frum Jews with extensive secular educations). It was always with a sense of respect (unlike the way Hungarian rabbis wrote about professors and maskilim).

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Public Comments Vs Private Comments

In his third lecture on Rabbi Joseph Elijah Henkin (the leading posek in America during the 1940s and 1950s) for Torah in Motion, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

How significant are private comments? They’re interesting. If you have a table talk versus published comments, the published comments are more significant.

What about private letters? Some argue, such as professor Isadore Twerski, hold that the published word is more significant.

I disagree. I think the published word is often written in a politically correct fashion to appeal to certain people and the private correspondence is more eye-opening and more significant.

This became a great dispute in my dissertation defense [at Harvard University on R. Jehiel Jacob Weinberg]. Jay Harris kept out of it. Professor Twerski insisted that I could not put so much emphasis on private correspondence.

I tend to think that in a private letter to a good friend you say what you really think, while something published publicly, the edges are smoothed out. Politicians say one thing privately and one thing publicly. Which will we take more seriously?

…Rav Henkin was one of those rabbis didn’t want to rock the boat. The Jews have to be quiet… Rav Henkin would’ve been outraged seeing what happened in trying to get this execution [of Martin Grossman] halted. To protest in front of people’s houses, he was very opposed to that.

…I didn’t give money to the OU last year because one of their rabbis came out and attacked Rabbi Moshe Soloveichik as an unreliable mashgiach. Without any knowledge or any evidence. The OU never retracted… Signing up with Chabad. Enough of a reason for me not to give a second year. They can make more money by selling hashgachas on toilet bowl cleaner.

…Chabad were among the most fervent anti-Zionists before the state of Israel was established in 1948 and among its strongest supporters since the state of Israel was established.

…He permits singing songs in the vernacular. Only fools think this is a problem. Try in our shul singing songs. They’ll think it is a gospel church.

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Am I the Only Orthodox Blogger Who’s Feeling the Love for the New Harry Potter?

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Did Women Pray In Ancient Times?

In a 2009 lecture on Rabbi Avraham Shapira, Rabbi Marc B. Shapiro says:

Don’t think that women didn’t pray [with the Jewish prayer book] before modern times. Daniel Sperber has a whole chapter on women’s prayer groups.

I’m assuming that the typical woman in Eastern Europe didn’t daven, didn’t bench [including the wife of the Chofetz Chaim]. Most women didn’t know Hebrew. This isn’t what their lives were structured around.

Dr. Erica Brown is one of the top women scholars in Modern Orthodoxy. She told me that she went to Brovenders at the time it was at Kiryat Moshe. She would go to the Mercaz HaRav yeshiva to daven mincha. The women’s gallery is upstairs but during the week, the guys are upstairs learning. She’d come into the women’s section and it would get them very annoyed because they would have to leave.

One day she comes in for mincha and one of the bochers hands her a note. Rabbi Avraham Shapira wants to see her.

So she goes to see him. She knocks on the door. His wife answers. One of the first thing his wife says is that Rav Avraham doesn’t speak to women but Rav Avraham is in the background.

He told her that he’d heard what’s been doing on. Rav Avraham looks at her and says, “Are you a baales teshuva?”

In the traditional frum world, that a woman would daven mincha, certainly with a minyan, was unheard of.

Rabbi Avraham Shapira was the last great gadol Yisrael, the last great sage universally recognized to hold the position of Chief Rabbi of the Ashkenazim.”

At Avraham Shapira’s funeral, the young people are crying… I was at Rabbi Soloveitchik‘s [funeral], and no one was crying.”

After the Lubavitcher rebbe passed away, two names were in the news for years to succeed him — Adin Steinsaltz and Manis Friedman.

In a statement to Moment Magazine in 2009, Friedman was quoted as saying:

“I don’t believe in western morality, i.e. don’t kill civilians or children, don’t destroy holy sites, don’t fight during holiday seasons, don’t bomb cemeteries, don’t shoot until they shoot first because it is immoral. The only way to fight a moral war is the Jewish way: Destroy their holy sites. Kill men, women and children and cattle.”

Marc Shapiro: “Chabad has many great Torah scholars. Don’t assume that the shaliach near your house is representative of Chabad. Most of them don’t know anything.”

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