Getting In To See The Rav

Shuli* emails: I miss the days when a Shull’s Rav was everyone’s Rabbi. You could drop by to see if he is not busy..or wait a little, to have a heart to heart talk.
That was a personal relationship with my Rabbi. He knew me. There was
no prIce tag attached to my name. I was a member of his flock and just that.

Since then, lot’s of water went through the Nile…and you have to be on the
A list to have your Rabbi speak to you:
Weiss’s tenure: It required you to be well off or a confused female (prefer both)
Weil’s: Very strict guidelines: Rich only. Notice: No Rabbi In front of his name…considered himself CEO.

By the way, this Is not symptomatic only to Beth Jacob. Same disease festers in many Conservative and Reform Synagogues.

“Money makes the world go around the world go around…” and makes another tear drop from Ribbon Shell Olam’s eye.

Luke says: I’ve been in Los Angeles since 1994 and I’ve always found all of Beth Jacob’s rabbis easy to talk to. I’ve never tried to make an appointment to see one. My friends have found Rabbi Kalman Topp particularly accessible. Rabbi Weil was a social person but he kept a strict schedule and he was not pastoral.

Rabbi Kanefsky at Bnai David has long been about as accessible as a rabbi can be (not just to his congregants). Perhaps the strain of that contributed to his heart attack a few years back.

Rabbi Muskin at YICC has always been totally dedicated to all of his congregants and has made many a sick call. He’s not an outreach rabbi.

Aish Hatorah rabbis are outreach rabbis. They’re usually as accessible as humanly possible.

I find Chabad rabbis tend to be accessible. Like Aish rabbis, they’re usually outreach rabbis.They’re busy but they’ll usually make time for you if you need it.

The Lubavitcher Rebbe used to set aside three nights a week to meet privately with people but after his heart attack (circa 1978), he had to do away with this schedule.

Overall, the top rabbis are much more difficult to see these days then at any other time in Jewish history. I think life has become more bureaucratic. The big rabbis have staff now who protect them from the common people. It did not use to be that way. The simple people could get in to see the gadolim. Anybody could call up Reb Moshe Feinstein and get a halachic ruling.

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How The Alexander Technique Can Help Musicians

Laura Klein is an Alexander Technique teacher and professional jazz musician in Berkeley, California.

Laura tells Robert Rickover: “In a way, musicians and singers are athletes. We don’t think of ourselves as athletes, but we are athletes of small movements. We need optimal coordination. If you are doing something that is even a little bit problematic and you’re doing it hundreds of times a day, it’s going to start to cause problems. The majority of musicians suffer some kind of injury during the course of their career so we need all the help we can get.

“We need to be able to execute our musical conceptions without any hindrance — mental or physical. There are lots of things that can get in the way of our playing or singing at our best.”

“When somebody comes in for lessons, they’re usually concerned about specifics. A pianist or guitarist might be concerned about their hands. A singer might be concerned with breathing.

“We really play and sing with our whole selves, not just one part of ourselves.

“One of my tasks as a teacher is to be concerned with the person’s general use of themselves and what might be getting in the way. I used to work with a young man who was on track to be a professional conductor. He was having a lot of pain conducting. He was getting his shoulder inappropriately involved in his conducting movements and his standing balance was not optimal and was interfering with the length of his spine. When you compress your spine, you’re not going to breathe as freely.

“We were able to resolve those issues and he was able to conduct for long periods of time comfortably.”

“People come to the Technique for many different reasons. One of the most common is if they’re having some kind of difficulty, pain or injury. Maybe they feel they’ve hit a wall with their technique and they’re not improving. Sometimes people come because they’re having stage fright and anxiety. Many times we find we can change that by changing the physical response to performing. How to use the excitement of performance to enhance performance and not to detract from it. ‘Don’t get excited. Be exciting.’

“Alexander Technique can improve your stage presence. If you don’t like the way you look on stage, it can give you more poise and more confidence.

“A lot of musicians when they’re trying to express themselves musically make movements that detract from their performance. We all know musicians that might play like angels but they’re hard to watch. Maybe they’re making funny facial expressions or grimacing or compulsively hunching over their instruments. It’s nicer for the player and the audience if they’re moving in a way that helps the playing and is visually attractive.”

Robert: “What was your original reason for taking Alexander lessons?”

Laura: “I had a lot of back pain. I tried various approaches. Nothing was working. A couple of people advised me to try the Alexander Technique. As soon as I started taking lessons, I loved it. I didn’t really understand it but I felt it was helping me.”

“Once I started taking lessons, I realized that all the habits I brought to playing generalized into all of my activities. Not only was the Alexander work helping me to play better and to feel better while I was playing, it was helping me in all aspects of my life. I felt calmer. My general coordination was improving.”

“When you’re paying attention in your daily activities, if you’re using yourself well, then when you sit down at your instrument or it is time to sing, you’re well set up. You can be improving your musical performance even when you’re not practicing.”

“As you go through your day, whatever you’re doing, speaking on the phone or getting dressed or taking a shower or reading a book or using your computer, in all of those activities, you’re moving. The way that you sit, stand, walk, bend, you can do those things with efficiency or ease. We call that using yourself well. Or you can be doing those things with contraction and unnecessary tension. That’s not good use and often leads to problems.”

Robert: “One of Alexander’s great discoveries was that patterns of misuse tend to carry across wide degree of activities. Somebody who tightens his neck to play his guitar in all likelihood tightens his neck to drive the car.”

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Los Angeles Has Predatory Rabbis Doing Orthodox Conversions To Judaism

Alarm bells should go off in your head if the rabbi in charge of your conversion to Orthodox Judaism asks you:

* When do you menstruate (so he can get at you when you won’t contaminate him)
* To meet alone with him behind closed doors
* To pay an extra fee for your conversion (and his voice drops into a whisper as he indicates this will not be a monetary fee)

Your converting rabbi should not be making repeated inappropriate remarks on your appearance. He should not be isolating you from your friends and family. He should not be telling you that the physical things you do together that make you feel dirty are getting you ready for marriage.

Los Angeles has several Orthodox rabbis with a record of doing many of the things above. One is in charge of a conversion program and one no longer is (Abner Weiss).

Rabbis are as likely to be sexual predators as plumbers or bloggers or any other group. They’re more likely to be successful than plumbers when they’re in a powerful position. Having the power to decide whether or not he will convert you to Orthodox Judaism is significant power. All power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

I don’t know any attractive convert or would-be convert to Orthodox Judaism who’s not had the hard word placed on them by married Orthodox guys (frequently rabbis). One beautiful convert to Conservative Judaism told me, “Jewish guys don’t know their level.” She was amazed by the shleppers who thought they were in her league. A part of her admired their confidence.

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The Strain Of Repeated Precise Movements

One in ten dentists according to a 1997 survey have such severe pain from repetitive work movements that they seek the help of a physician and about half of these curtail their work because of such pain.

I’m listening to a great interview by Robert Rickover with dentist and Alexander Technique teacher Martin Goldman of the San Francisco Bay Area.

This interview will be of interest to anyone who has to work in odd positions doing precise work.

Martin: “The Alexander Technique is a 100-year old method for streamlining how you perform day-to-day activities. It provides a way to let go of unnecessary tension and to allow for free and open movement.”

“I had a private practice for 30 years. I thought that coming home after a long day with a sore aching back and shoulders as tight as piano wire was just part of the game. I tried acupuncture, yoga, various exercise regiments. They’d give some relief for a time but the pain would always come back. I now realize it wasn’t so much what I was doing but how I was doing it.”

“To address the patient, dentists usually have to come down and to the left. To be downward directed and unilaterally collapsed can lead to all kinds of woes up and down the spine.”

“Most dental procedures last from an hour to three or four hours. It can be intense to be in a held position doing precise minute activity. There’s a different way to do this from an open easy attitude.”

“I feel better now than I did 30 years ago and I am thankful to the Alexander Technique for being able to say that.”

“Dentistry is done sitting down.”

“The atlanto-occipital joint. I want you to imagine that on your shirt is a row of buttons. I want you to look down at the third button. It’s on the lower half of your sternum. Bring your hand to the back of your neck and see if the cervical spine of your neck is engaged while you are looking down. There is a price to be paid while you look down at your patient if the neck is involved in that activity more than it needs to be.”

“I’d like you to put your fingers underneath your ears. Do that with one finger on each side of your head and then imagine there is a rod between your fingers. This rod would pass through the atlanto-occipital joint. This is the head-neck joint. This is where the head rests on top of the spine. If you could visualize that when you look down, that downward motion of the front of your face is going to rotate around this axis, looking down is done from an open attitude.”

Robert: “When I show students that, I have them put their fingertips at right angles to their head where their ear hole is and I tell them to imagine between your two fingertips. Nod your head back and forth and know that you are rotating your head around that line. Most students will notice that the movement seems freer and easier. The neck is available to you but not the best thing to use first.

“The same thing applies to sideway movements of the head. Imagine that line between the two fingertips and imagine a vertical axis in the middle and when you turn your head from side to side, know that you are rotating around that vertical axis.”

Martin: “It’s good to have feedback from your feet. Let your feet share the load while you’re sitting. The more simple the chair you have, the better. Any time you come off the height of your sit bones, you’re introducing muscular tension to your body and constricting your breathing.”

In his next interview, Martin says: “The breath is the canary in the coal mine. If your breath is restricted and you find you can only take shallow breaths, you know that somewhere in your musculoskeletal system, there’s a compression or restriction or you’re off balance.”

“You’ll benefit from allowing your jaw to be free while working. There are parts of the body that are filters for tension such as shoulders and jaws. You can even see muscles bulging on the side of people’s jaws while they’re concentrating on a task. There’s a direct correlation between a tight jaw and a tight neck.

“You can bring your hand gently to the back of your neck and bring your jaw to a tense held position. You might even think a thought such as, ‘Ohmigod, I have to hurry up.’ You can’t have a free jaw if you have a tight neck and vice versa.”

Robert: “The joint between the jaw and the head is not a hinge joint.”

“The temptation in doing precise work is to focus all of your attention, particularly visual attention, on one area. You do that at quite a cost to the rest of you. Don’t forget your back even though it does not seem involved in what you’re doing.”

Martin: “People say, how can I think of all these things while I’m engaged in a complex task? I say, through practice, you can become more aware of where you are in space. That’s kinaesthetic awareness. Alexander Technique helps you gain this self-knowledge.”

Robert: “It’s a light awareness. It’s not concentration.”

Martin: “It’s like a background hum.”

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Anyone But Romney

On his radio show today, Dennis Prager said: “Mitt Romney had to do one thing — sell himself to conservatives. Not the right-wing. Just mainstream conservatives. This is where I stand.

“I believe Romney is conservative but he’s not been able to make the sale. It may deny him the nomination.”

Charles Krauthammer says Rick Santorum is in a good position.

“Dennis talks to William Beach, Director of the Center of Data Analysis at the Heritage Foundation on how Americans are becoming more dependent on the government.”

Dennis: “A way the lowest form of pimp gets a young girl hooked into that profession is by injecting her with addictive drugs. Giving people money that they didn’t earn is a form of addictive drug. It’s hard to breakaway from.”

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The Most Islamist States (Iran and Saudi Arabia) Were Never Colonized

On his radio show today, Dennis Prager said: “This notion of let’s blame the British, the colonialists, for our condition. This is the reason we have millions of people supporting the idea that you slit throats in the name of Allah?

“You never hear the Indians complain about British imperialism. It had a longer period of colonial rule than any of the Arab countries. How did the Indians create a democratic country? How did India have such a goofy foreign policy?”

“If India, Brazil, Russia, China are a new force in the world, they are not a force for good.”

Dennis just watched the movie Of Gods and Men. “All they [the seven Christian monks] did was good for the Muslims around them. Then you have men whose lives are devoted to slitting the throats of innocent people.”

According to Wikipedia: Of Gods and Men is a 2010 French drama film directed by Xavier Beauvois, starring Lambert Wilson and Michael Lonsdale. Its original French language title is Des hommes et des dieux, which means “Of Men and of Gods” and refers to a verse from the Bible shown at the beginning of the film. It centers on the monastery of Tibhirine, where nine Trappist monks lived in harmony with the largely Muslim population of Algeria, until seven of them were kidnapped and assassinated in 1996 during the Algerian Civil War.

Largely a tale of a peaceful situation between local Christians and Muslims before becoming a lethal one due to external forces, the screenplay focuses on the preceding chain of events in decay of government, expansion of terrorism, and the monks’ confrontation with both the terrorists and the government authorities that led up to their deaths.

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Teach Yourself Alexander Technique

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Alexander Technique And A Cold Transformed My Voice

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The Barista’s Curse

So I’m reading this article in the New York Times by an ex-barista lamenting how now that he’s a big-time writer, people still associate him with making their coffee.

Jason Diamond writes:

I have a friend I like to avoid because when we go out together, he tends to introduce me as “a writer that used to make my Americanos.” Another tenant in my building recognizes me as the surly barista who habitually ignored her if she was trying to order while squawking into a cellphone. Last year, I went into a second interview for an editor job I thought I had on lock. But when I met the publisher, he stopped midsentence to ask, “Hey, didn’t you used to work in the coffee place near the Lorimer stop? You did the best cappuccino!” Then he wondered why I had left the barista job off my résumé. “It’s nothing to be ashamed of,” he beamed. But he didn’t give me the job.

The truth is, these encounters are certainly frustrating, but I’m not ashamed. There was a certain romance to the hardships and the hustle of the job — getting up to open at 5:30 a.m., spilling scalding water on my hands, chasing a dream. Sure, I would rather have paid my rent a different way, but I don’t regret those years. Many of my best friends are still baristas, slinging coffee to support Ph.D. habits or supplement glamorous art director wages. And while I may always be more recognizable on the city streets for my great steamed milk than for my killer prose, there are worse things than having a legacy, even one so strange and aromatic.

So Jason Diamond spends almost all of his essay relating shameful anecdotes and then concludes by saying he’s not ashamed.

I’ve learned that when people say things that are unnecessary, such as “I’m not ashamed”, it is only because they are ashamed.

Just like with the person who keeps telling you, “You have to believe me,” you’d do well not to believe him.

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The Perils Of Giving Free Lessons

It is very tempting as a new Alexander Technique teacher to offer your friends free lessons.

It rarely works out.

Alexander Technique demands a lot from the student and somebody taking a free lesson is unlikely to do the work necessary.

It’s not just that people will show up drunk or high or late, it is that the freeloader is unlikely to treat your observations with any respect. If you point out that they hunch their shoulders when they get in and out of a chair, they’ll say it’s not a big deal. Or it’s just a temporary blip. It’s not an observation that means anything to them.

Most people enjoy getting a table turn because it’s like a massage. But when it comes to the cognitive work demanded by the Technique, they’re not signed on.

By contrast, if you give a free lesson to a busy professional like a doctor, they are signed on. Because their time is so valuable, if they are willing to extend some of it to you, it’s because they’re seriously interested in what you have to say and what you observe. All the doctors I’ve met with and given free lessons to have taken the work as seriously as my paying students.

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