Perky Check-Out Girl At Walgreens

I went to Walgreens on Pico and Robertson Blvds about 9:30 this morning and got two sticks of Classic Old Spice deodorant.

My check-out girl was Asian and she looked like she was in high school. And she was happy. Very few check-out people exude happiness. Very few people period exude happiness.

It’s not the first time I’ve encountered her, but every time I do, it makes me smile. I want to go back and keep buying stuff just for the pleasure of talking to her again. I wonder if she’s religious? What’s her secret? Why is she so happy?

According to an online dictionary, perky means “Having a buoyant or self-confident air; briskly cheerful. 2. Jaunty; sprightly.”

Perky means up. Buoyant. Somebody who’s pulled down, compressed, and unnecessarily tense is not going to come across as perky.

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There’s Nothing New About That Breitbart Clip Of Obama At Harvard In 1990

Even posthumously, Andrew Breitbart appears to have made reckless claims. And his Breitbart empire repeated them.

There was nothing new in that Obama 1990 clip made public this past week by the Breitbart empire.

PBS Frontline reports:

But there’s nothing new about the clip or Obama’s role in the controversy at Harvard Law School. In 2008, as a part of our quadrennial election special The Choice 2008, FRONTLINE ran the same footage of the speech as a part of an exploration of Obama’s time at Harvard Law School, where he graduated in 1991. It’s been online at our site and on YouTube since then. You can see that part of the film below.

FRONTLINE producers obtained the footage from the same source as BuzzFeed did this week: the archives of WGBH, Boston’s PBS station. The footage was shot in 1990 by a team of local news producers for the WGBH Ten O’Clock News. FRONTLINE is produced at WGBH and our producers were alerted to the footage in the station archives in 2008.

In light of today’s controversy, and Breitbart.com editors’ claims that the footage had been edited, we pulled the full archived tape. It includes not just Obama’s speech, but other footage from the rally and portions of Derrick Bell’s speech. You can watch it in full below.

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Women Know How To Go For The Jugular

I was watching this PBS Frontline report about terrorist David Headley (he planned the 2009 Mumbai attacks).

I was struck how his wives, after falling out with David, would go to the FBI and other law enforcement to say that he was a terrorist.

They were happy to marry him and to live with him, but when he did not treat them as they wanted, his wives went for the jugular and tried to destroy him.

That’s been my experience with various women. If they feel scorned, they stop at nothing to destroy you.

I don’t know any man who’s tried to destroy the career of a woman who’s broken up with him. I would never act that way and neither would any of my friends. We would never send faxes to an ex’s workplace to try to destroy her. Yet I’ve had that done to male friends of mine by their exes.

Bruria emails: “After watching PBS Frontline report about terrorist David Headley, the only question you came up with is Re: his wives loyalty? This raises some questions in my mind:
You ‘go global’ and generalize ALL women…That is warped and ugly. To add insult to injury, you sheepishly proclaim that you couldn’t “Go for the Jugular” as women do…Really, Luke? You just did! to a whole collective of women.”

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Has the left coast deprived Luke of the American experience?

Greg Leake emails: Hi Luke,

A few days ago you had an interesting post called “The Apprenticeship of Luke Ford.” I always appreciate the insight into yourself, and at the same time I asked myself, “Has Luke missed some of the American experience?’

Let’s start with your religious background in California. You mentioned to Rabbs not long ago that you had been close to a religious community most of your life, in the early days with the Seventh Day Adventist Church and more recently with Judaism. You lived in the Napa Valley in the Seventh Day Adventist community, went to their schools a while, and had a sort of unaffiliated time when you fell harder than most, which is to be expected for a preacher’s kid. (Preacher’s kids are notorious for being wild, non-conformist, and independent.) And then Judaism.

I would like to tell you that when you leave the coasts, left and east, you find yourself in flyover country. And flyover country is different in some ways.

You’ve talked about how cloistered and unearthly the Seventh Day Adventist church is as a denomination.

In flyover country, take, say, big metropolitan Baptist and Methodist churches are basically part of the WASP power structure. You have talked about being impressed by the doctors, lawyers, and Indian chiefs in the Jewish world.

In flyover country, the big Protestant denomination metropolitan churches are filled with well-to-do upward-mobile power couples, climbers, and politically-connected professionals. the difference in flyover country is that the doctors and lawyers do not have any more authority than the guy who owns a car dealership or the guy who is a VP in an insurance company or the CFO of a franchise business. The guy who has made some money from a string of gas stations may have more dough than the doctors, lawyers, and Indian chiefs. Remember, George and Laura Bush are Methodists. You should see the well-heeled church they go to. You should see the church that Jerry Jones attends. You know, John Wesley once said when asked about money, “Get all you can, give all you can.”

One needs to keep in mind that the US was basically started by Protestants and their work ethic. Surveys have demonstrated that wherever you have state-supported religion, belief in God diminishes. Protestantism is almost always been outside the bounds of state control. I live next door to a Pentecostal minister, and know whereof I speak. Remember George H. W. Bush was an Episcopalian before that church put its foot in it.

In Protestantism, especially in the South, it’s almost synonymous with rugged individualism, independence, and a distrust of government control.

So my basic point is that in your cloistered spiritual community associated with your early days with the Seventh Day Adventists is not really characteristic of being in a hard-charging Protestant community in flyover country. It is curious in this regard to wonder why rick Santorum, very thoughtful and devout Catholic, is getting most of his support from evangelical Christians. The Catholic vote seems to be going to Romney.

You also discussed the dichotomy between the part of you that wants to be a highly moral, solid citizen and another part that enjoys the seamier side of life. and as a Jew you chew on this dichotomy and wonder what should be done and what perspective this should be seen from.

In flyover country you’re just a guy with high ideals and some low appetites. The authentic Luke is a guy who is a mixture of both qualities. Outside of these cloistered religious environments, this would not be unusual, but just a fairly normal human condition. Carl Jung, a psychologist I prefer to Freud, said, “The more light you have, the more darkness you have. Someone with a lot of light casts a very large shadow. The “Shadow” was a way that Jung discussed all of the negative traits that each of us has that others see but we do not see in ourselves.

All of the psychotherapy you have done has made your own shadow very visible to you. As a consequence you are ahead of the game, because your deleterious factors are not operating unconsciously, and they present you with a moral dilemma just as Jung said. Because you know your shadow so well, you have an opportunity to consciously correct some of your misguided inclinations, and this is how one becomes a better person.

In flyover country, this is automatically assumed to be true for most people without any of the knowledge of Jungian psychology. As a consequence, we spend a lot fewer hours chewing on it and just try to correct it as best we can.

Professionalism is important in flyover country, but less so than in the Jewish world. In flyover country there is less appreciation for people who seem to have affectations. Our model of desirability is more someone who appears to be a regular guy despite their profession or success. I’ll mention George Bush again. If you did not know who he was, and you drove by him raking leaves and struck up a conversation, you might think he was a guy who owned a construction company or a couple of feed stores. You’ve listened to Rick Perry, and you might get the same idea about him if you saw him outside his role as governor. The whole idea of being a doctor, lawyer, or Indian chief does have some prestige in flyover country, but not as much as you find in your community. I used to live next door to a lawyer. He was a nice guy and played up being a lawyer a little bit, but we both understood that while he had professional status, he was just a guy I might hire.

so in flyover country, whether it’s ion Dallas, Phoenix, Kansas City, Denver, Indianapolis, there is a whole different social ethos when it comes to presenting yourself as a professional or the sort of respect that one gives to a professional. And in the small towns and small cities, the professional is just a guy pumping gas at the next pump.

Ultimately my point is that your descriptions of your lives and dilemmas are illuminating, and there is a certain part of the American fabric that you seem to have missed. What I have been describing is ordinary life away from the coasts and out in the big middle where most Americans live the American way of life outside of a bunch of cultural influences imported from elsewhere.

I think you have done a remarkable job of gaining insight into the workings of your own psyche. And your desire to improve deleterious parts of your own character is very respectable.

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Rick Santorum Song Goes Viral

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The Emotional Need To Tighten

When my life is not as I wish, I feel an overwhelming need to grip or grind my teeth and to create other forms of body tension.

I often feel so frustrated and angry with my life. Usually I feel morally compelled to not lash out at others (unless they remind me of certain folks), so instead I just tense and compress myself.

I often wonder about the stories behind my students’ body tension patterns. I am somewhat aware of some of my own.

I have no psychological training (but have been a patient in psycho-therapy for about six years).

I am terribly curious about exploring this with my students who want this exploration. I might gingerly ask if there’s a story behind a particular type of tension. What do you fear coming up if you were to release this tension? How does this tension serve you? Do you notice under what circumstances this tension arises?

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Checking In On My Former Church

I grew up a Seventh-Day Adventist. Even though I have no desire to be a Seventh-Day Adventist today, I have more positive feelings about my former church than negative feelings. At least I think I do. My feelings are complicated.

My dad was a minister in the church who was pushed out in 1980. The man who pushed him out was conservative and canny administrator Neal C. Wilson, who died in 2010.

I sat in on many of the meetings that saw my dad’s fate sealed.

It’s left a big emotional imprint on me. It’s a reason I struggle with authority and continually isolate myself so as to preserve a maximum of freedom.

Logically, I see that Neal Wilson had no choice as a normative Adventist but to push out my father (and the rest of the family). Emotionally, I hated Neal Wilson as a teenager because I loved where we lived at the time — Pacific Union College in the Napa Valley — and it hurt me when we had to leave for Auburn, more than two hours drive north-east.

I have more sentimental feelings about Pacific Union College than any other place I’ve lived. I have no desire to live there today, but I feel like it was the one place in my life where I came closest to happiness.

This feeling is a illusion as my intimacy disorder isolates me at Pacific Union College as it does everywhere else I go in life.

For the first time in about a year, I surfed to the Spectrum Magazine website (the website for Adventist intellectuals). And I read an article by Doug Wilson, a family doctor in Napa who’s the brother of the conservative head of the Adventist church today, Neal C. Wilson’s son Ted N. C. Wilson.

Adventism continually cycles through liberal and conservative tendencies. Unlike Judaism, and like Roman Catholicism, the Adventist church is hierarchical and there’s one leader.

Doug Wilson writes: “I consider myself a somewhat progressive California boy. I gratefully accept the contributions of science, modernism and post-modernism to my world-view. I happily worship Love and the Creator alongside siblings of any wisdom tradition. I desire liberty and justice for all, so I advocate for my gay friend’s right to marry. That my daughters should have an equal chance at church leadership is a truth I hold to be self-evident. Since Dr. Bruce Lipton showed in The Biology of Belief that biological evolution, from the perspective of the cell, is a story of increasing co-operation that allows increasing awareness, I find biological evolution and modern cosmology fit compatibly with my Christian values. My circle of care and self-identity has, at least at times, moved beyond ego-centrism, beyond ethno-centrism, beyond Adventist-centrism, and beyond species-centrism to compassionately embrace all life. So why am I proud of the direction our church is heading?”

I’m sure I would feel comfortable hanging out with Doug Wilson. He sounds like a lovely man. But his views are balmy. He says he worships “Love.” Worshiping anything other than God is idolatry. Love is not always right or good. Pursuing love can seriously screw up your life and the lives of those around you. Sometimes love is the right response to a life situation and other times it is hate (how should one react to rape and murder and torture?).

He’s moved beyond species-centrism? The world was made for man. It wasn’t made for insects. God gave man charge of the earth and gave him the charge to cultivate it.

Any religious group that moves beyond a centrism focused on itself is not going to last long.

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She’s astounded at the sheer amount of time wasted…

Janet messages me: Hello,

I happened on one of your vids while researching Dr. Kime. After watching “Truth about Women”, “Chronic Fatigue”, “People take Offense” and “Life Passing Me By”, I am curious to know if you are earning money from them, or if you have made five thousand videos simply for the pleasure and satisfaction of seeing and hearing yourself talk?

I hope my question does not “offend” you.
sincerely, Janet in The Great State of Tennessee

Luke says: No offense taken.

I have over five million views of my Youtube videos. I make money from them. I meet people from them. I get traffic to my websites from them. Aside from that, nothing!

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Dr. Laura: ‘These Days, Most Women Are Pigs’

Orthodox Judaism and I agree with everything said in the following video minus the inflammatory language. There’s no need to call men or women “pigs” for having sex in the first few dates. First, most women don’t do this. Second, those who do are usually engaging in self-destructive behavior and calling them an awful name is not going to help them or society. Third, many people I know or know of sleep together on the first night and end up married for life.

When you use hyperbolic language, you turn off those who don’t already agree with you and make it easy for people to dismiss you as a nut.

As a Torah Jew, I guard my tongue and take care to never say anything needlessly offensive.

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Dr. Laura Schlesinger and Her Trainer Jason Baker Discuss Handbag Posture

Dr. Laura’s trainer Jason Baker looks at her slumping to her left under the weight of her handbag.

Jason prescribes some exercises to strengthen her back, neck and shoulder muscles to fix this problem.

As an Alexander teacher, I would primarily want Dr. Laura to notice how she’s reacting to the stimuli of carrying a handbag. When she becomes aware of how she’s distorting herself, we would then work to let go of those responses of distortion, compression and unnecessary body tension. We wouldn’t work on building up her muscles so that she could more easily distort her head, neck, back relationship.

Jason says: “What’s happening here is a little bit of weakness in your trap muscles.”

By contrast, I see what is happening here is a reaction to stimuli by Dr. Laura’s whole self that is not serving her. I don’t see the problem as weakness in her trap muscles. I see the problem as primarily a lack of awareness of how her whole self reacts to the stimulus of carrying a heavy handbag. I would suspect that her reactions to this stimulus mirror her reactions to other stimuli such as chopping vegetables, walking, and getting in and out of a chair. We tend to exhibit similar stimulus reactions across all of our activities. Somebody who tightens her neck and compresses her back when chopping vegetables will do the same thing when romping in the playroom with her child.

If Dr. Laura follows her trainer’s directions, she’ll strengthen certain muscles but won’t improve her overall coordination. Instead, she’ll in all likelihood make it worse.

Jason says: “If we build up those traps and make them stronger, you won’t have that problem anymore and it won’t hurt as much.”

I doubt it.

Jason: “So that when you do carry things, it won’t put as much strain on your shoulders.”

If you build up your trap muscles but don’t change your habits of compression, you’re still likely to have pain and discomfort.

Jason advocates a neck stretch exercise where you drop each ear to a shoulder for 20 seconds. With each dropping, you create compression in that side of the neck and you will likely feel terrible. Watch Dr. Laura’s face as she does these varying forms of neck compression. She’s plainly not feeling good. Some people who do this will injure themselves.

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