The Fourth Step of the 12-steps is to “make a complete and fearless moral inventory.” A key part of this step is to list everybody and everything you resent and then look at each item on your list and see where you contributed to the problem.
I resent *** *** but that is out of my conscious awareness. I can’t consciously or rationally think of any reason to resent ***. I have a lot of resentment towards the ****** who rejected me, but rationally and consciously, I see that I have no reason for complaint. Still, emotionally, I’m raw when I think about those painful ejections.
At what point will my rational mind shape my feelings so that I let go of these resentments?
