Vayetze (Gen. 28:10–32:3)

Wikipedia: “The parashah tells of Jacob’s travels to, life in, and return from Haran. The parashah recounts Jacob’s dream of a ladder to heaven, Jacob’s meeting of Rachel at the well, Jacob’s time working for Laban and living with Rachel and Leah, the birth of Jacob’s children, and the departure of Jacob’s family from Laban.”

Listen here.

* Blood and soil is the most basic, most commonsensical political philosophy. It is the philosophy of Torah. It is the philosophy of the Nazis.

Wikipedia: “Blood and soil (German: Blut und Boden) is a slogan expressing the nineteenth-century German idealization of a racially defined national body (“blood”) united with a settlement area (“soil”). By it, rural and farm life forms are not only idealized as a counterweight to urban ones, but are also combined with racist and anti-Semitic ideas of a sedentary Germanic-Nordic peasantry as opposed to (specifically Jewish) nomadism. The contemporary German concept Lebensraum, the belief that the German people needed to reclaim historically German areas of Eastern Europe into which they could expand, is tied to it. “Blood and soil” was a key slogan of Nazi ideology. The nationalist ideology of Artamanen and the writings of Walther Darré guided Nazi agricultural policies which were later adopted by Adolf Hitler, Heinrich Himmler and Baldur von Schirach.”

How is that different from Genesis 28?

13. There above it stood the Lord, and he said: “I am the Lord, the God of your father Abraham and the God of Isaac. I will give you and your descendants the land on which you are lying. 14 Your descendants will be like the dust of the earth, and you will spread out to the west and to the east, to the north and to the south. All peoples on earth will be blessed through you and your offspring.[d] 15 I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.”

When God tells Jacob that He will give him and his descendants a particular piece of earth, does He mean that he will give this land to the Jews so that they can then be overrun and rendered a minority in the country they create?

Does God only give land to the Jews or does God also give Germany to the Germans, Japan to the Japanese, etc?

* Yggdrasil’s Eyes Wide Shut review.

* Gen. 28:1: “So Isaac called for Jacob and blessed him. Then he commanded him: “Do not marry a Canaanite woman.” That sounds racist. How is that any different than telling your daughter not to marry a black man?

* The Atlantic: ‘The Making of an American Nazi: How did Andrew Anglin go from being an antiracist vegan to the alt-right’s most vicious troll and propagandist—and how might he be stopped?’ Dennis Dale

* New York Times:

Responding to her former teammate Aly Raisman — who said on Twitter that women dressing “sexy” does not entitle men to shame or sexually abuse them — Ms. [Gabby] Douglas argued that it was incumbent on women “to dress modestly,” “be classy” and not attract “the wrong crowd.”

Does how a woman dresses and comport herself have no affect on her likelihood of being raped? That’s absurd. If you choose to walk in a bad neighborhood alone and at night, does that increase your odds of being attacked? Of course. It does not morally excuse your attackers, but you deliberately put yourself in harm’s way.

Aly Raisman, who’s Jewish, said on Twitter: “Just because a woman does a sexy photoshoot or wears a sexy outfit does not give a man the right to shame her or not believe her when she comes forward about sexual abuse. What is wrong with some of you? AND when a woman dresses sexy it does not give a man the right to sexually abuse her EVER.”

In a legal claim, the longer you wait to make a claim, the less force it tends to carry (and often it is barred by a statute of limitations). For example, if you claim your life was ruined by a car accident but you wait two weeks to seek medical treatment for it, your claim is not strong.

So these women who are speaking up now about sexual abuse that happened years ago are not impressive if you judge them on the same standard that you would with other torts, or on the same standard you would judge men.

If you believe women have moral agency, then women waiting years to come forward with stories of sexual abuse are not impressive. If you view women as a natural resource that needs tending, directing, and protecting, then you judge women differently from men. You don’t expect women to take responsibility as readily as men do because until recently, women were regarded as the responsibility of their fathers or husbands or brothers, and so personal responsibility is new for them.

Women are not valid witnesses in Torah law. Wikipedia: “Testimony in Jewish law consists of testimony by eligible witnesses to a Beit Din (court) authorized to render decisions according to halakhah (Jewish law). Eligible witnesses must in almost all cases be free men who are not deaf, mentally or morally unsuitable, or too young for Bar Mitzvah; in particular, women are in most cases not eligible.”

* WP: “Stand-up is hard for anyone who does it, but it’s also long been a boys’ club — with extra obstacles for women.” Yeah, because women “comics” don’t tend to be very funny.

* The arbitrary morality of the Aaron Sorkin movie Molly’s Game.

* News: A woman claims she was physically attacked on an New York City subway Thursday after asking a [black] man to stop splaying his knees across several seats, colloquially known as “manspreading.”

* The 1835 Nathaniel Hawthorne short story Young Goodman Brown.

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What Is Elsagate?

From the BBC:

Thousands of videos on YouTube look like versions of popular cartoons but contain disturbing and inappropriate content not suitable for children.
If you’re not paying much attention, it might look like an ordinary video featuring Peppa Pig, the cheeky porcine star of her own animated series. But soon after pressing play on this particular YouTube clip, the plot turns dark. A dentist with a huge syringe appears. Peppa’s teeth get pulled out. Distressed crying can be heard on the soundtrack.
Parent and journalist Laura June almost immediately noticed something was not quite right as her three-year-old daughter was watching it.
“Peppa does a lot of screaming and crying and the dentist is just a bit sadistic and it’s just way, way off what a three-year-old should watch,” June says. She wrote about her experiences on the website The Outline.
“But the animation is like close enough to looking like Peppa – it’s crude but it’s close enough that my daughter was like ‘This is Peppa Pig.'”
It’s far from an isolated case – BBC Trending has found hundreds of similar videos of children’s cartoon characters with inappropriate themes. In addition to Peppa Pig, there are similar videos featuring characters from the Disney movie Frozen, the Minions franchise, Doc McStuffins, Thomas the Tank Engine, and many more.
Some of the videos are parodies or have such over-the-top content that they’re clearly meant for mature audiences. Others are unauthorised copies of authentic cartoons or use the characters in innocent ways – troubling to copyright lawyers perhaps, but not necessarily harmful to children.
However many, like the video Laura June’s daughter saw, both contain disturbing content and can pass for the real cartoons, particularly when viewed by children.

Reddit: “ElsaGate is a Phenomenon on Youtube of reoccuring Themes, Animations in Context of inappropriate Topics in Videos on several Channels available and targeted at Kids. Those videos often feature Spiderman, Frozen Elsa, Joker, Mickey Mouse and other Characters popular with Kids.” More.

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The Sexual Harassment Crisis

Comments at Steve Sailer:

* Women want men to feel attracted to them. For a woman, it’s a huge self-esteem booster when a man finds her attractive. When a woman is attractive to a man, she also has power over him – and that can be a lot of fun as it allows her to yank him around. For a woman, it’s particularly fun when she gets to manipulate a wealthy/powerful individual.

At the same time, women don’t actually want to have sex with a man unless he’s “hot” and “fun.” The majority of women obviously have to compromise (to some extent) on these standards, but their goal is to maximize “hotness” and “funness.” So if you’re Harvey Weinstein or any of these powerful men, women don’t actually want to sleep with you or even physically touch you. They just want to toy with you and extract favors/money from you.

What a lot of these women didn’t realize is that they were dealing with men who were much smarter, more manipulative, and more aggressive than them. So lots of these women sort of ended up getting “screwed” (no pun intended) in the end.

As for Stallone, in the account given in the paper, the assaulted girl claimed that the 1986 encounter with “Rocky Balboa” was partially consensual. Howver, she got creeped out when he brought in his Italian-American meathead bodyguard and forced her to have sex with him.

That seems to be a common occurrence. Famous actor/musician/athlete gets a woman to have consensual sex with him, then passes the woman off to less attractive/famous friends. Stallone passes his groupie off to an ugly bodyguard. The star quarterback/runningback passes off his girlfriend to some fat linebacker. At that point, it goes from consensual to rape.

In his prime back in the 80s, Stallone was a huge action hero and sex symbol. So I’m sure he probably didn’t have to rape women back then. Not like Weinstein, Cosby, etc. These days Stallone may still be famous, but he’s well past the point of being a sex symbol (except maybe to senior citizen women). To the average woman in 2017, it sounds disgusting to think of Stallone having sex with a young girl. In 1986, it wouldn’t have been so creepy.

When super handsome Paul Walker (“Fast and Furious”) started dating a 16 year-old girl, people didn’t say much. Mostly because women thought he was “super hot.” If he had been ugly or akward, there would’ve been more outrage.

If a man is “hot,” he can get away with a lot of stuff.

In conclusion, be “hot.”

* Reminds me of that great SNL skit with Tom Brady some years back. It was a fake 1950s-style training film on how to avoid harassment charges from women in the workplace.

It featured a nebbish man nervously asking women for a date. Each woman sneers in disgust then picks up the phone and calls security.

Tom Brady’s character waltzes up to women at their desks in his underwear, then cups a breast after getting her phone number. The women giggle and swoon.

The main pointers to avoid sexual harassment charges are shown on the screen at the end:

1) Be handsome
2) Be attractive
3) Don’t be unattractive

* There seems to be a fundamental misunderstanding about women on this board. Normal women are are biologically programmed to think they’re going to get an emotional commitment from the man they have sex with him. If he just walks off after sex and has no more interest in seeing her again, women get confused and angry. Woman think a man who is attracted to her on day one should, logically speaking, also be attracted to her on day two, and so forth. When a man acts completely obsessed with a woman on one day and then totally turned off by her the next day after having had sex with her, that makes a woman think men are fickle, two-faced, and untrustworthy. That’s unnatural behavior, to a woman’s way of thinking.

A lot of trouble could be avoided if men understood this.

* It’s nice be a normal, middle-class, moral, well-adjusted American woman. With a husband and children. All this hotness/cheating/groping/horniness talk can sound like modern poetry or art: Utterly meaningless and empty.

Marriage, intimacy, and procreation are where it’s at.

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‘The Gift Of Fear’

Gavin de Becker writes: After one speech, a policeman who’d been in the audience asked to talk with me alone. He told me how he realized just then that he had relentlessly pursued a female student at the police academy when he was on the staff there. She said no to him for eighteen months, all the while concerned that the rejection would have an impact on her career. “She gave me no indication that she wanted a relationship with me, but I never let up, not for a moment,” he said. “It paid off, though. We got married.” (p. 195)

* But the howls for glory of assassins had been unanswered in their mundane pre-attack lives. The assassin might be weird or unusual, but we cannot say we don’t understand his motives, his goal. He wants what Americans want: recognition, and he wants what all people want: significance. People who don’t get that feeling in childhood seek ways to get it in adulthood. It is as if they have been malnourished for a lifetime and seek to fix it with one huge meal. (p. 244).

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‘Different Hoax For Different Folks’

Steve Sailer writes:

Last week, comedy legend Larry David shocked much of the country by devoting one joke in his Saturday Night Live monologue to noticing that his fellow Jews were overrepresented in the ongoing Harvey Weinstein-inspired sexual-harassment scandals.

Similarly, Jews tend to disproportionately figure in validating and promoting hate hoaxes. But few know this because David-style criticism of any Jewish tendencies toward self-indulgent behavior is punished in modern America.

Indeed, the ADL says it exists to “to put an end forever to…ridicule of any sect or body of citizens.” In essence, Jews are off-limits to satire. Yet being vulnerable to criticism encourages us to behave better, which is why people like Weinstein and Greenblatt are able to run amok for so long.

There actually are a certain number of classic hate crimes committed each year by whites against nonwhites. But these usually involve lowlifes and the cops come down on them like a ton of bricks, so the stories don’t because national causes célèbres.

In contrast, a high proportion of the cases in the national media turn out to be absurd. For example, when The New York Times a year ago was promoting the idea of a “wave of hate” following Trump’s victory, its top-featured case was from Lindenwood U. There a jolly Polynesian lady rugby player had jokingly assembled a “wall” of tennis shoes to divide her half of the dorm room from that of her Mexican roommate. The outraged Mexican coed called campus security.

But lining up sneakers toe to heel isn’t illegal, yet.

America has tens of thousands of social scientists. Yet as far as I can tell, not one has ever studied quantitatively what percentage of nationally publicized “hate incidents” turn out to be misleadingly fallacious.

This ought to be the highest-priority social science question in America, but it’s likely to remain off-limits for objective study.

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There Are No Style Points With Krav Maga

Jews are good at getting things done. When you hire a Jewish attorney or Jewish accountant or Jewish doctor, you usually get a better outcome than when you go with goyisha equivalents. Why? Because Jews aren’t sentimental when it comes to practical matters. They don’t worry about style points. They get things done by doing what needs doing. Goyim often find these methods “unsporting.”

Krav Maga is the same way. According to Wikipedia:

Krav Maga is known for its focus on real-world situations and its extreme efficiency[5][6] and brutal counter-attacks.[7] It was derived from the street-fighting experience of Hungarian-Israeli martial artist Imi Lichtenfeld, who made use of his training as a boxer and wrestler as a means of defending the Jewish quarter against fascist groups in Bratislava, Czechoslovakia, in the mid-to-late 1930s.[8] In the late 1940s, following his migration to Israel, he began to provide lessons on combat training to what was to become the IDF.

From the outset, the original concept of Krav Maga was to take the most simple and practical techniques of other fighting styles (originally European boxing, wrestling and street fighting) and to make them rapidly teachable to military conscripts…

Some Krav Maga organizations do not support a competition component, taking the stance that Krav Maga is not a sport. So-called “fighting” sports tend to operate under principles of using safe techniques, doing minimal harm, and consequently wearing down opponents and using other tactics supported by the “rules” of safe competition. In its role as self-defence and as a hand-to-hand combat system, Krav Maga operates under a completely different set of principles in which techniques may indeed cause significant damage and fights are to be ended as quickly as possible when the conflict cannot be avoided…

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The Atlantic: ‘The Making of an American Nazi: How did Andrew Anglin go from being an antiracist vegan to the alt-right’s most vicious troll and propagandist—and how might he be stopped?’

My major complaint about this article is that it portrays people such as Andrew Anglin as lashing out at phantoms rather than real people with real conflicts of interest. Life is war. Different groups have different interests. Diversity plus proximity equals conflict.

Luke O’Brien writes the best piece yet on Andrew Anglin:

At the time, Richard Spencer and Andrew Anglin barely knew each other. Spencer, who fancies himself white nationalism’s leading intellectual, cloaks his racism in highbrow arguments. Anglin prefers the gutter, reveling in the vile language common on the worst internet message boards. But Spencer and Anglin had appeared together on a podcast the day before Sherry’s Medium post was published and expressed their mutual admiration. Anglin declared it a “historic” occasion, a step toward greater unity on the extreme right…

Anglin is an ideological descendant of men such as George Lincoln Rockwell, who created the American Nazi Party in the late 1950s, and William Luther Pierce, who founded the National Alliance, a powerful white-nationalist group, in the 1970s. Anglin admires these predecessors, who saw themselves as revolutionaries at the vanguard of a movement to take back the country. He dreams of a violent insurrection.

But where Rockwell and Pierce relied on pamphlets, the radio, newsletters, and in-person organizing to advance their aims, Anglin has the internet. His reach is exponentially greater, his ability to connect with like-minded young men unprecedented.

…But he maintained a footprint in Columbus through his father, who has said he was “not really involved with Andy’s site.” In fact, Greg was involved. He’d registered The Daily Stormer’s trade name and filed paperwork for his son’s limited-liability corporation, Moonbase Holdings—a likely reference to a conspiracy theory that Hitler survived World War II by escaping to a secret lunar base…

No payment processor would touch The Daily Stormer, but Anglin had little trouble raising money. Since 2014, he has taken in about $250,000 worth of bitcoin, the cryptocurrency, from unknown sources, according to John Bambenek, a cybersecurity expert who has been tracking neo-Nazis’ bitcoin wallets. Anglin urged his readers to send checks as well. Those donations went to Greg’s office, which was why the protesters had gathered outside, many of them from the Columbus chapter of Anti-Racist Action, a national antifascist network.

Anglin had first come to my attention in the summer of 2015, after he endorsed Trump on The Daily Stormer. When I interviewed him over email for HuffPost last year, he lied to me repeatedly—about his site’s traffic numbers, his financing, his location. Before that article came out, he falsely accused me on The Daily Stormer of fabricating information from the FBI regarding his whereabouts. More than once, I offered to walk him through my reporting, but he refused to hear me out. He also refused numerous requests to talk to me for this article…

The Daily Stormer had become arguably the leading hate site on the internet, far surpassing Stormfront, whose message boards had brought white nationalism into the digital age back in the 1990s. Anglin was a punchy, prolific writer who used snark and hyperbole to draw in Millennial readers. “Non-ironic Nazism masquerading as ironic Nazism” was how he described his approach. Irony gave him cover to claim that he was just kidding around. He cited Infowars, Vice, and BuzzFeed as inspiration, but the closest analogue in terms of format and tone, he said, was Gawker. Like the now-shuttered gossip site, The Daily Stormer aggregated the news with attitude. Unlike Gawker, Anglin doctored everything to reflect his racist worldview….

Anglin wrote about his longing for a race war and urged his readers to prepare for combat against nebulous forces unleashed by Jews, blacks, Muslims, Hispanics, women, liberals, journalists—anyone who might impede the alt-right’s assault on the nation. Like many young men on the extreme right, Anglin hadn’t just given up on the idea of the United States as a liberal democracy. He wanted to burn it to the ground. “There is rapidly approaching a time when in every White Western city, corpses will be stacked in the streets as high as men can stack them,” he wrote. “And you are either going to be stacking or getting stacked.”

Anglin’s influence extended offline with Daily Stormer “book clubs,” which he created to engage his followers in “real world actions.” The clubs were small chapters of readers who gathered in cities in the U.S., Canada, and other countries. A Columbus group met at a gun range. Other clubs had been kicked out of bars after openly expressing anti-Semitic views or flaunting Nazi paraphernalia. Anglin pressed his readers to study martial arts, learn to use firearms, and engage in “simulated warfare” through paramilitary training with pellet guns.

Among the protesters in the rain outside Greg’s office, I met Anglin’s preschool teacher, Gail Burkholder, who described being shocked when she’d learned that her former student had grown up to be a notorious white nationalist. “Why would I think one of my students would become a Nazi who wants to kill me?” said Burkholder, who is Jewish. She’d spotted Anglin’s name in the news after Dylann Roof murdered nine black people in Charleston, South Carolina. Roof reportedly left comments on The Daily Stormer, and he has become a hero to Anglin’s readers, who honor him with “bowl cut” memes.

Roof wasn’t the only killer who read The Daily Stormer. In 2016, Thomas Mair shot and stabbed a British member of Parliament. This year, James Harris Jackson was charged with killing a black man with a sword in New York City and cited The Daily Stormer as an ideological influence. Devon Arthurs, an 18-year-old former neo-Nazi who converted to Islam, shot and killed two of his three roommates in Tampa, who were still neo-Nazis. Police arrested the surviving roommate for hoarding explosive materials.

…He also got deeply into drugs, according to half a dozen people who knew him at the time. He did LSD at school or while wandering through the scenic Highbanks Metro Park, north of the city. He took ketamine, ate psychedelic mushrooms, and snorted cocaine on weekends. He chugged Robitussin, and “robo tripped” so much that he damaged his stomach and would vomit into trash cans at school.

But people who knew Anglin in high school told me that, for reasons that were unclear, his behavior became erratic and frightening sometime around the beginning of his sophomore year at Linworth. Visitors to his house saw holes in his bedroom walls, and they knew that when he was upset, he would smash his head into things. Several recall an episode at a party: Anglin burst out crying after Alison drunkenly kissed someone else, then ran outside and bashed his head on the sidewalk over and over.

He harmed himself in other ways, too. He tried to tattoo the name of his favorite band, Modest Mouse, on his upper arm but gave up after two and a half letters, leaving him with moi etched on his skin. He stretched his earlobes by jamming thick marker caps into piercing holes until they dripped blood. He claimed to feel no pain and used lighters to melt the flesh on the inside of his forearms. He provoked people into assaulting him but never fought back, instead laughing as the blows fell. Two kids beat him into a gutter once. Anglin just lay there until they stopped, out of pity and confusion.

Former friends recall that Anglin’s parents seemed blind to their son’s alarming behavior. And while he could be tender toward his younger siblings, Chelsey and Mitch, and loyal to his friends, he also had a sadistic side. Alison (who asked that her last name be withheld from this article) told me that during Anglin’s sophomore year, she called him, distraught: She said she’d passed out at a party and been raped by a friend’s older brother. She needed compassion and support, but Anglin just laughed and broke up with her.

“You’re a slut,” she remembers him saying.

Several girls Anglin had gotten to know at another high school began calling her house at all hours of the night, according to Alison and other sources. “You deserved it,” they’d say. “You slut.” Alison says the abuse went on for weeks, as Anglin showed friends a video he’d made of them having sex.

After the breakup, Dan Newman, another friend at the time, remembers Anglin once bashing his head into the walls of his bedroom in such a frenzy that his mother had to call the police. Several classmates told me that Anglin didn’t date again in high school and sometimes tried to kiss other boys, including one black student he especially liked. Whether this behavior was authentic experimentation or just for shock value, it’s notable in light of the extreme homophobia Anglin has since expressed on The Daily Stormer and elsewhere. He has advocated, for instance, throwing gays off buildings, isis-style.

By Anglin’s junior year, Greg and Katie’s marriage had come undone. People who knew Katie back then described her to me as a browbeaten woman who lived in fear of her husband. A person who was close to one of Greg’s former clients, along with two Columbus pastors familiar with Greg’s work as a counselor, told me that Greg got involved emotionally, and sometimes sexually, with his female clients. Court documents related to his divorce support this claim: A former client is identified as his girlfriend. Greg would later make her a partner in his counseling practice.

… In Davao, however, Anglin hit on every pretty young Filipina he saw and had success with many of them, sometimes taking advantage of their hope that an American husband could be an exit from poverty. Most of these girls were 18 or 19 years old, but Edward says some were younger. He remembers Anglin once picking up a 14-year-old in a bar and bringing her back to the Sampaguita to spend the night…

This fixation on strength is common among members of the alt-right, but Anglin took his devotion to power to a wild extreme. “He thinks in terms of a fascist Disney film,” a prominent white nationalist who has collaborated with Anglin told me, adding that Anglin believed that if he tried hard enough, disciples would flock to his cultish vision and help him summon another Hitler into existence. “He imagines he has some magical power.” Over his heart, he’d tattooed the spidery black sun of the Sonnenrad, an occult symbol in a mystical strain of neo-Nazism whose followers embrace such notions as Hitler being an avatar of Vishnu.

In March 2013, Anglin, or perhaps his father, used Greg’s email address to register the domain name for The Daily Stormer. Then Anglin left the country again. First he went to Greece, where he stayed in a hostel in Athens for three months. He found work giving tours of the Parthenon and other sites and attended meetings of Golden Dawn, Greece’s ultranationalist far-right political party.

On July 4, 2013, The Daily Stormer launched in beta mode, replacing Total Fascism. Anglin named his new site after Der Stürmer, a virulently anti-Semitic Nazi-era weekly that Hitler had read devoutly. (As Anglin would later write, the official policy of his site was: “Jews should be exterminated.”) The Daily Stormer was unlike anything else in white nationalism: The design was clean, the posts were infused with Anglin’s wry humor. It was Nazi Gawker, and it caught on.

…In 2014, Anglin was living in Europe when he found a partner in Andrew Auernheimer, a.k.a. “weev,” a neo-Nazi hacker and troll. Auernheimer grew up in the Ozarks and went to federal prison in 2013 on identity-theft and hacking charges. After his conviction was vacated on appeal a year later, he moved abroad. He now lives in Transnistria, a small, Russia-backed breakaway region on Moldova’s eastern border.

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Exhausting

I notice that some people, some friends even, exhaust me. We can exchange but a few words on a text or via Messenger, and I feel depleted and annoyed. So why is that?

One reason is that they ask too many questions about the wrong things and at the wrong time. They seek clarification on stuff most people intuitively understand. I might say I start my day with a cold shower, supplements, prayer and meditation, and they’ll ask if I ever use hot water (yes, I do, but I like to finish off with cold for 60 seconds). Do I do yoga? How long is my commute? How long is davening? Do I ever miss Talmud class?

So why do I find these simple questions draining? I guess I just didn’t expect to have to provide so much detail and explication in the context. I don’t think many people like explaining themselves. I know I hate it. And yet when I look back on my life, I see that I have often driven people crazy demanding that they explain themselves. I didn’t get the cues. I was lazy and I ignored them.

I had one girlfriend who I never had to explain things to. She intuitively grasped when I was sarcastic. Other girlfriends hated my sarcasm and couldn’t understand it. One type of relationship was smooth and the other was annoying.

I find it easier to have relationships with people who speak English as a first language, love to read books, and read social cues as well or better than I do.

Another thing I find depleting is when in a casual conversation, people will pick on contradictions and ask me to explain. I might say I love to get working before the sun rises and they’ll ask me about my prayer life and Talmud study and where’s the time for meditation in such a situation.

Explaining is tiring.

Relentlessly negative people are also exhausting.

I’m not sure there’s much that annoying people can do directly to become less annoying. I figure that their life doesn’t work and so when they hear about things that work, their mind instinctively tries to deconstruct that option to show why it wouldn’t work for them and why it doesn’t work for me either, I’m just fooling myself.

We all want others to become more like ourselves. People who are happy instinctively want to give to others and to increase their happiness. People who are depressed instinctively need to drain happiness from others.

Without exception in my experience, depressed people are a bottomless pit of need. You can never give to them enough to raise them out of their depression. And I say this as someone who has been low-grade depressed throughout my life (until 2013, when I began using this Fisher Wallace device nightly). A therapist more than a decade ago said I reminded her of a baby who tries to suck every teat dry because he has no faith that there will be enough. A girlfriend once remarked that when she left me on Sunday nights after speaking the weekend together, she always felt drained. She’d never met someone so needy. She gave me a book called “The Givers and the Takers.”

One of the things that I took away from my ten years of psycho-therapy is that there usually always more choices than what I am seeing. I’d typically go into therapy complaining that I was between a rock and a hard place but my therapist would typically point out that I had more options. I was at such a primitive place that these options were often not real for me. I had to grow up to expand my options. I was still stuck in fear, self-seeking, dishonesty, selfishness and related character defects.

I tend to do better with structure imposed upon me. That was one thing that attracted me to Orthodox Judaism. I’ve had to work the 12-Steps multiple times in multiple programs to get more power in my life. Even with God’s power, I still encounter people and situations that drain me and so I do my best to minimize these interactions.

After more than six years in 12-step programs, I haven’t put much effort into constructing, let alone living, my vision. I want more recovery before I do that. Until now, my character defects have so warped my visions that many of them have not been worth living.

A great thing about 12-Step programs is that your life tends to immediately get better because you stop doing things your way and start taking direction from God, the program and from those you respect in the program. It’s amazing how when you stop doing things your way, your life improves.

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Prince Charles Expressed Concern About The ‘Jewish Lobby’ In 1986 Letter To A Friend

The Independent: “Prince Charles blames ‘foreign Jews’ for Middle East turmoil in 1986 letter”

Comments on the Frame Game thread:

* There are days when I can hardly imagine life as a red-blooded Gentile because of how maddening it must be to watch such obvious truths be so sloppily & cavalierly discounted to zero by institutionally powerful Jewish groups.

How could it NOT engender anti-Semitism!?!

* We’re not even allowed to say “Jewish lobby” now. What, is AIPAC ecumenical now? It’s so ridiculous. God damn.

* Why would the neutral term “Jewish lobby” be considered anti-Semitic, unless it’s “pro-Semitic” to lurk in the shadows?

* It’s maddening they think we are not bright enough to look behind the veil. Thank you for showing us not all jews loath us. Besides we’re too cute and funny to go to a gulag.

* I mean, does AIPAC and the ADL do anything other than shout “anti-Semite” when someone connects the dots?

* Can you help us understand the split between many Israeli nationalists and the open borders zealots of the diaspora elites?

Joe* says:

Its interesting that he wrote to Laurens van der Post. Van der Post is one of those men who led a fascinating life although his biographer thinks at least some of it was made up. What we do know about him is that he was born in South Africa, traveled to Japan along with William Plomer in the late 1920’s, was one of the original members of the South Africans who created the magazine Voorslag, worked on South African Newspapers, emigrated to England, fought in WWII and was captured early in the conflict in what is now either Indonesia or Malaysia and spent the remainder of the war in a Japanese POW camp. The men who served under him in the camp (he was an officer) speak highly of him maintaining morale, along with other prisoners instituting educational classes, and his knowledge of Japanese proved invaluable.

After the war he dumped his first (South African wife) for Ingaret Giffard a lay Jungian therapist, did much exploratory work in British colonies in southern Africa in what is now Malawi and Botswana, and became a defender of the Bushmen, a stone age group of persons, different from the other native Africans. He produced a film about them which was aired on the BBC. He also someone or other ingratiated himself with Margaret Thatcher and with Prince Charles. One of the stories is that Charles brought a collection of van der Post’s writings with him on his honeymoon for Princess Diana to read. Some of Van der Post’s books are accessible, others are not so easily understood.

Van der Post himself had some familiarity with Palestine. In his book, the Seed and the Sower, an important scene of the book takes place in Palestine. Before he went to the Dutch or British East Indies, he had been sent by the British Army to help be a camel wrangler to support the anti Italian forces in Ethiopia.

Van der Post was a keen observer of international affairs, although he developed his own stereotypes about nations (as an example that the Japanese are very influenced by the moon) and many of his predictions about post apartheid South Africa have come to pass (although he was an ardent opponent of Apartheid, he was a strong supporter of Buthelezi and the Zulus and a staunch opponent of the ANC and considered Mandela a terrorist since he had been convicted of that and did not consider him a political prisoner/freedom fighter/ moral conscience, although Mandela himself was much more gracious to Van der Post in the messages he wrote upon van der Post’s death.

He did consider the founding of the state of Israel and the British promise (if that is how the Balfour Declaration is construed) to create a Jewish homeland in Palestine a mistake and a wrong done to the Palestinians who lived there. He believed that although the Jews had suffered in WWII that it was morally wrong to impose a new state for the Jews on an existing area that had been predominantly Arab. It seems that Charles’ letter to Van der Post makes a crucial distinction that most Jews are unwilling to look at. Although in many of the Arab (and Islamic) countries from Morocco to Iran to Yemen, the Jews were not treated well, in many of those countries, they were well integrated into the communities where they lived and thrived and prospered there. The creation of Israel had the unintended effect of leading to anti Jewish sentiments in many of these countries where they either had been close to non existent, or at a very low level. I think this the reason that Charles is singling out the European Jews as causing the friction with the Palestinian Arabs. Because he looked at it historically when the Ottoman Empire gave refuge to the Jews expelled from Catholic Countries in 1492 and after.

Jews do not like to think that the introduction of Jews to Palestine in the post Herzl Zionist era, and then in the aftermath of WW II was in any way colonialist. That is why it is so important for Jews to promote the idea that Israel is the homeland of the Jews, as if the 25,000 Ashkenazi Jews in the 13th Century which grew into something like 10 to 12 million at the outset of WWII (including European Jews who had emigrated to America) had any sort of actual historic claim to Israel.

Van der Post who was quite familiar with the Dutch and English colonization of South Africa in particular, recognized this for what it was and I am sure this the reason Charles was willing to confide in him in this letter which I am sure he never thought would be made public.

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Bobby Riggs, The Mafia and The Battle of the Sexes

I just watched the silly 2017 movie The Battle of the Sexes about the 1973 tennis match between Bobby Riggs and Billy Jean King.

The movie never mentions that Bobby threw the match to satisfy his gambling debts. Instead, it presents Billy’s victory as some great triumph for women and gay rights. As Wikipedia notes: “According to an extensive article by the ESPN program Outside the Lines,[26] Riggs took advantage of the overwhelming odds against King and threw the match to get his debts to the mob erased. This would confirm the suspicions held by many of Riggs’ peers, including Don Budge.”

Slate:

This lack of preparation—and Riggs’ uninspired, error-riddled play during the match—fueled speculation that the old hustler had intentionally thrown the match, perhaps because he had bet against himself, perhaps at the behest of the mob. (The strongest such claim came in a 2013 ESPN story by Don Van Natta Jr.)

Riggs made no effort to hide the extent of his gambling habit (a July 1973 Sports Illustrated profile described Riggs and his best friend Lornie Kuhle betting “on everything from tennis games to memory contests, from the turn of a coin to the flight of a robin”), and according to A Necessary Spectacle, he annoyed both King and his own support team by spending the break after the first set trying to negotiate a change in the odds with his bookie up in the stands.

The fact is that most any man among the top 100 players on the senior circuit would beat the top female tennis players of any age.

ESPN reports:

It seemed a certain payday for him. Four months earlier, Riggs had crushed Margaret Court, the world’s No. 1 women’s tennis player, 6-2, 6-1, in an exhibition labeled by the media as the “Mother’s Day Massacre.” Court’s defeat had persuaded King to play Riggs. Nearly everyone in tennis expected a similarly lopsided result. On the ABC broadcast, Pancho Gonzales, John Newcombe and even 18-year-old Chrissie Evert predicted Riggs would defeat King, then the No. 2-ranked woman. In Las Vegas, the smart money was on Bobby Riggs. Jimmy the Greek declared, “King money is scarce. It’s hard to find a bet on the girl.”

But by aggressively attacking the net and smashing precision shots, King ran a winded, out-of-shape Riggs all over the court. Riggs made a slew of unforced errors, hitting soft returns directly at King or into the net and double-faulting at key moments, including on set point in the first set. “I don’t understand,” Cosell said after a King winner off a Riggs backhand. “He’s been feeding her that backhand all night.” Midway through the third set, Riggs looked drained and complained of hand cramps. After King took match point, winning in straight sets, 6-4, 6-3, 6-3, Riggs mustered the energy to hop the net. “I underestimated you,” he whispered in King’s ear.

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