I Have No Compassion For Drug Addicts & Alcoholics

I only have contempt. If you want to get sober, good for you, but don’t look to me for support. If you want to practice unsafe sex and catch a deadly disease (physical or spiritual), I have contempt for you.

I reserve my compassion for people who suffer out of no fault of their own.

I have contempt for people who expect a free ride, who expect the government to legislate away their problems, who sue over the ordinary hardships of life. I’m sick of people who expect their employers to care for them, to give them special treatment when they’re hurting, etc.

I’ve been reading Jayson Blair’s memoir and it has set me off on this rage to say that I don’t care for people such as him who sabotage their own lives and needlessly hurt the innocent.

I too would like a free ride through life. My capacity for self-pity and exploitation of others is infinite. I have no sympathy for this large part of myself either.

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The Orthodox Paradox

Joey Kurtzman writes for Jewcy:

At the 1998 reunion of Noah Feldman’s Maimonides yeshiva class, no one could possibly have imagined that a few group photographs–all wide Jewy smiles and shapeless sorta-Orthodox outfits–would spark a seat-ripping public debate almost a decade later, and a messy media scandal a month after that. But here we are, with everyone all hot and bothered by the innocuous-looking pics that played so central a narrative role in Noah Feldman’s "Orthodox Paradox."

Orthodox Paradox was a journalistic Molotov Cocktail delivered to the Jewish community in the July 23rd issue of the New York Times Magazine. Was the article a poignant critique of Modern Orthodoxy, or an infantile rant against the obvious consequences of Feldman’s life choices? A sensitive exploration of the contradictions within Modern Orthodoxy, or vulgar mudslinging? For two weeks, the debate raged.

On August 3, the debate gave way to a scandal. "A class picture has touched off a storm in the American Jewish community," says Ha’aretz. At the center of the storm is one question: Did Noah Feldman and the New York Times intentionally mislead readers to believe that Maimonides published a photo from which Feldman and his non-Jewish wife, Jeannie Suk, had been removed? But other than one woefully inadequate thumbnail at Jewish Week, no one has bothered to publish the f’shtinking pictures. That’s just nuts. So yesterday, Noah Feldman did Jewcy a good turn and sent us the pics.

Feldman tells us: "6 out of 7 included our picture; one did not; that one was published. No one I know really thinks the selection was random, and of course neither does Maimo deny it if you read closely." Meanwhile, the Orthodox Union says Feldman should be fired as contributing editor to the Times for falsely asserting that he and his then-fiancee Jeannie Suk had been "deliberately cropped out" of the photo. The NY Times responds that both the Orthodox Union and Jewish Week have fudged the truth by denouncing Feldman for claims he never made. Who screwed up here?

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Reasons Not To Have Sex

John Tierney writes:

Some of the common reasons were moral and religious qualms, fear of contracting a disease, lack of interest in the other person. A couple of the uncommon ones:

“Because if I want to feel badly about myself for being an overweight, out of shape single mom, I can just call my mother (and keep my clothes on too!).” (Posted by Smartypants).

“The guy kept leaping out of a coffee shop I passed on the way to work playing a guitar and singing Portugese love songs.” (Posted by Anon, who also reported saying no after hearing one of the worst come-on lines in history: “The guy told me I looked just like his exgirlfriend.”)

My favorite combo was from Michelle:

“Reason I didn’t want to: Because he was an idiot.
Reason I did: Because I am an idiot.”

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Phil Jacobs Phony Blog

Phil Jacobs, editor in chief of the Baltimore Jewish Times, blogs:

There are no “henchmen” out there getting in my way to investigate individuals or institutions.

I am not under anybody’s “thumb” to prevent the writing of stories on certain rabbis in town who are under suspicion of past sexual molestation.

So for those bloggers who feel that the have “inside” information as to the progress of any one investigation in progress. You don’t. All you are doing is creating hysteria and panic.

I ask you to let the truth set us free on these issues. It will be the truth that brings any further information to the forefront.

Rest assured, I am working on collecting the truth. But it is of no help to me if you take license with what I am doing and spread it as if it were gospel.

Bloggers, if you want to know what is going on with a particular investigation, simply pick up the phone and call me. I will be happy to share with you what I may.

I’m not being secretive, nor am I taking my time out of any kind of fear.

I repeatedly tried to talk to Phil Jacobs in 2004 and 2005. He always blew me off.

Jacobs reminds me of his mentor Gary Rosenblatt.

From my April 1, 2005 report:

Gary Rosenblatt writes in The Jewish Week:

Though I am getting used to it, I still find it disconcerting to read about myself –– and my journalistic motivations — on Internet blogs, especially because more often than not the information isn’t accurate. Various writers, often anonymous, claim to know what investigative stories I am working on, or not working on, and why, or why not, though none of them have ever asked me.

I was started to feel bad for Gary until I remembered my experience with him. My time interviewing Gary might as well have been spent talking to a wood block. What’s the point of accountability if you refuse to answer any question that causes you discomfort?

I gave Gary every opportunity to answer various damaging reports about him. Gary wouldn’t. He wouldn’t answer any tough questions. He begged off of every single one.

So excuse me if I shed no tears over his hurt feelings. Excuse me if I afford no respect to his latest cries. Excuse me if my most vivid experience with Gary is him constantly saying, I’d rather not answer that.

When push came to shove, Gary was not accountable. Read my profile of him and make up your own mind.

In case Gary forgets, here are some questions he refused to answer:

* Why did he muzzle his best investigative reporter (Larry Cohler) and refuse to publish for 18-months Larry’ss revelations about Malcolm Hoenlein’s slush fund?

* Why does he refuse to publish Yossi Abramowitz?

* Why has Gary never apologized for the way he had Yossi treated when he came in with his JNF scoop?

Gary’s lead paragraph is a lie. I am a blogger and I asked Gary numerous questions, including questions about stories he was working on. JWB has also corresponded with Gary on these matters.

Gary’s primary question about blogs (and JWB in particular) is: Are they good journalism? This is a stupid question. It’s like asking if a telephone is good journalism. Blogs and phones are simply ways people communicate. The most important question to ask about blogs and writing is: Is it good? Does it have merit?

Journalism is a procedure. Merit is a destination. In this case, the destination is more important than the journey.

Inspired by Gary’s column, I called him at 2:45pm EST to ask him such basic questions as the ones I raise in this essay. He was out to lunch. So I left my questions on his voicemail.

Gary writes: "Over the years in this profession I’ve gotten thicker skin, but there are people whose lives are more private than mine whose reputations and character are maligned in these reports. They have no one to turn to in order to set the record straight, and that’s just not right."

Gary provides no evidence to back up his assertions. I guess Gary is so mighty, he doesn’t need to bother with such details as evidence.

Gary writes: "What bothers me, though, is that in this still emerging field, there is no accountability and there are no professional standards to be met. In the rush to get a story out first, the emphasis is on timeliness rather than accuracy, with seemingly little regard –– or responsibility –– for printing rumors or theories that are untrue. So people who are mentioned and maligned by an anonymous blogger have no recourse."

Again, Gary provides no evidence and no examples to substantiate his charges. I guess this is the type of lazy writing you can get away with when you edit and publish a lazy newspaper filled with mediocre writing. The whole thing is so blah, who’s going to notice that the editor and publisher is making a lot of charges without substantiating them.

To rework a Gary Rosenblatt sentence in his latest blog, I mean column: "There is something very appealing about having one’s own newspaper. It’s easy to do, in this particular column it costs you no work in having to interview people with whom you might disagree, and before you know it, you can be sitting at the office and pontificating on any and all topics for all the world to read, even if you’ve made no exertion to substantiate your points." Sweet.

Gary writes: "I wouldn’t seek legal or medical advice from an amateur attorney or physician who insisted on remaining nameless, yet there are countless people reading blogs on the Web by would-be journalists whose reports go unsubstantiated and unedited, and the results are often hurtful, damaging people’s characters and reputations."

Gary sounds like another tired old clapped-out journalist — David Shaw.

Gary writes: "More upsetting are the bloggers who criticize individuals by name, make accusations against rabbis and communal leaders, but don’t have the guts to identify themselves, or bother to interview the people they write about."

Gee, that sounds just like Gary Rosenblatt. He wrote a column about Jewish Whistleblower and company, but didn’t bother to interview the people he wrote about.

Gary writes: "To demand full disclosure of others without identifying one’s self seems the height of chutzpah and hypocrisy to me."

Yeah, it is just like asking a baseball writer to hit a 100mph fastball before he’s allowed to write about baseball. Gary uses anonymous sourcing when it suits him. He gives voice to the agendas of people he allows to remain anonymous.

Gary writes: "Call me old-fashioned, but I still think you do your best work if your reputation is on the line every time you write."

Gary’s been phoning it in for years. His reputation in journalism rests almost entirely on work he did years ago, rather than the stuff he’s done in the past few years. He has a cushy job where he’s subsidized by the Jewish Federation buying most of his newspapers. He can keep his cushy job as long as he keeps playing ball with the machers. Gary is a far better player of Jewish politics than he is an editor.

Given the comparative magnitude of Gary’s resources, the big story about him is that he, week in and week out, publishes a dull paper. And when you put your name on mediocrity, it doesn’t make it anything more than mediocre. It’s nothing more than Yesterday’s News Tomorrow, which, more often than not, is precisely what The Jewish Week reads like if you keep up with the top five Jewish blogs (JWB, Miriam and Paul Shaviv, Chakira, Scott Rosenberg, Steven I. Weiss).

If Jewish Whistle Blower (JWB) develops an impressive track record of accurate reporting, then his work is still sterling even if JWB doesn’t put his real name on it.

It is more important in these types of discussion that we concentrate on what is good rather than on what is "good journalism." It is less important that JWB might not live up to the protocols of journalism than to evaluate his work as a whole for its merit. Most Jewish weeklies are journalistically sound but dull timid affairs. JWB might not be journalistically sound (I’m not arguing one way or another on this), but his work is often timely and ground-breaking.

Inspired by Gary’s column, I decided to ask the subject of this essay a question. I emailed Gary:

If interviewing the people you write about is so important, how come you made no attempt to interview Jewish Whistleblower? Your article indicates no attempt to interview any leading Jewish blogger and include their views. I guess they are not worthy. (Yeah, I saw DNC’s article on bloggers nine months ago, it broke no new ground).

I guess Gary’s rules of good journalism don’t apply to Gary.

I guess he’s not as open to being questioned by bloggers as he pretended. Gary did not return my email or my phone call. I guess Gary’s plaintive complaint about bloggers, "none of them have ever asked me," was just a pose.

Has Gary ever given a good interview? I can’t find one.

Dov Bear writes:

I think Gary is out to lunch on this one. JWB is entitled to his anonymity and to his style. The fact of the matter is that it is not JWB’s job to be responsible, or nuanced, or to think about whether his posts are productive or dangerous, or cogent, or even defensible.

Gary’s objections are the sort of criticisms one might make of, say, a journalist, someone whose job description includes being responsible about what he says in public. JWB, however, is not a journalist?he is an entertainer. Or maybe it’s better to say that he, like all bloggers, is part of a peculiar, modern, and very popular type of news industry, one that manages to enjoy the influence of journalism without the stodgy constraints of fairness, objectivity, and responsibility that make trying to tell the truth such a drag for everyone involved.

Shimon Rosenthal writes:

Mr. Rosenblatt claims that bloggers are unfair and dishonest because they do not print their names. He implies that he and the rest of his print journalist colleagues are honest and fair because they posts their names on their articles. The argument is so flawed and filled with contradiction that it is difficult to know where to begin.

A journalist is fair and honest because they sign their names to their stories. But what about the stories they do not print? A print journalist can hold a story for his own interest. That is corrupt and unethical, no matter how many other stories he assigns his name to. Sins of omission are no lesser crimes or abuses of the journalistic ethic than sins of commission.

Mr. Rosenblatt for example will never write negatively about anything to do with the Federation system. Why? Because UJA NY sends free copies of the Jewish Week to all its members, thereby increasing Mr. Rosenblatt’s circulation and his ad revenue far beyond anything he could dream of otherwise. So, when Mr. Rosenblatt, the dean of Jewish journalism, fails to write a story about the Federation system, but signs his name to another story, is he behaving ethically? Mr. Rosenblatt would not know of this, because he is an honorable man.

Indeed, Mr. Rosenblatt covered up a story about a tremendous government fine levied against him and the Jewish Week. Had Mr. Rosenblatt believed in reporting the news or his obligation to the community, if he were truly fair and honest, he would have printed a story to show the community what happens to those people who abuse financial systems. The New York Times put the Jason Blair fiasco front and center. Mr. Rosenblatt hid his scandal while claming to uncover others. But surely, Mr. Rosenblatt is an honorable man.

Mr. Rosenblatt’s diatribe against bloggers is nothing more than a pathetic attempt by a third class journalist to pick a fight with a developing new medium.

An educated person would tell Mr. Rosenblatt that anonymously written leaflets were a tremendous part of the early newspaper business. In fact, anonymously written papers were the norm and a critical component of early political life in this country. Surely, Mr. Rosenblatt knows this, for he is an educated and honorable man. Mr. Rosenblatt is more educated and honorable than Dr. Benjamin Franklin, because Dr. Franklin took to writing anonymously. Mr. Rosenblatt is a greater thinker than Thomas Jefferson, because the third president and drafter of the Declaration of Independence, wrote anonymously.

Mr. Rosenblatt is more honest than Mr. Madison who, as it happens wrote anonymously. I am sure no one will argue that Mr. Rosenblatt would have made a far superior president than Abraham Lincoln who wrote anonymously. I have no doubt that the Federalist Papers were written by men of low moral character because they too were written anonymously. I am sure no one will argue that Mr. Rosenblatt would have made a far superior president than Abraham Lincoln who wrote anonymously. I have no doubt that the Federalist Papers were written by men of low moral character because they too were written anonymously. But don’t worry, Mr. Rosenblatt is an honorable man.

Mr. Rosenblatt also makes the false assertion that a person signing their name to something cannot be unethical, or careless with the facts. You need only read his paper to know that that is certainly nor the case. Mr. Rosenblatt cannot point to a single issue of the Jewish Week that contained no bias, agenda or false assertion.

Mr. Rosenblatt also fails to note the contradiction inherent when one puts his argument against his practice. If someone who does not sign their names to something is more apt to be careless with facts and details, then why does the Jewish Week publish stories with anonymous quotes? But don’t blame him, Mr. Rosenblatt is an honorable man.

Mr. Rosenblatt suffers from an ailment common to many self righteous people of his generation. He believes that the world began the day he was born and that all was invented under his watch. He believes he can do no wrong and that it is his job to point to the failings of those who do not follow his way, professionally, religiously, philosophically or any other ly you would like. His is a special breed of arrogance and stupidity that is reserved for those who believe they are big fish because they live in an incredibly small fishbowl.

Blogging is an evolving medium, just like newspapers were once. Ethics and standards will emerge. But to dismiss someone, their facts or their opinions for omitting their names while other people do not is wrong. But then again, Mr. Rosenblatt would not know what it is like to be wrong.

The Jewish Week paid a fine of less than a million dollars for abuse of mailing privileges. The details about the fine are public record and should be found at the New York Attorney General’s office.

JWB writes to Miriam Shaviv:

Frankly, I don’t care if people criticize me. I could delete every such post on my blog, yet I do not.

Some quick notes:
1) Rosenblatt never contacted me by e-mail or clarified any of his claims about me or my blog or asked me any questions. He made very clear he was referring to my blog but did not name it.

2) Rosenblattt is more than welcome to comment on my blog. If he emails me a response, I would be prepared to post it uncensored. He can even choose the title. I have been given no such courtesy.

3) I have never claimed to be "a Jewish reporting blog". I make no claim to be a journalist. Perhaps if certain court decisions find blogging to be journalism then I might.

4)>I still find it disconcerting to >read about myself –– and my >journalistic motivations

I never claimed to know Rosenblatt’s motivations other than to improve the community and report factual stories. My criticism was in regard to a number of stories he either killed, chose not to pursue, kept quiet at the request of senior RCA offcials and one story where I felt he "soft-balled" the story.

I have consistently defended Rosenblatt in many posts concerning people who attacked his motivations and in particular his Lanner story, which I believe was some of the finest journalism..

5)
>Various writers, often anonymous, >claim to know what investigative >stories I am working on, or not >working on, and why, or why not, >though none of them have ever asked >me.

I have actually been in contact with Rosenblatt and people around him. In a series of emails, Rosenblatt actually did indicate to me why he would not pursue a story. I would further note that the stories I have criticized him for not pursuing (rabbi who wrote racist articles in a white supremist journal, principal with long history of child molestation etc.), I have quoted from articles and editorials written by Rosenblatt that state/allude to exactly what I claim.

6) The unfortunate situation is that when Jewish victims/survivors are looking for help in the media they are almost always directed to Rosenblatt. Although he was very kind and professional with victims of Rabbis Lanner and Weinberg, there is a lack of attention or courtesy that he has displayed in other situations where there were desperate vulnerable people who thought he would help. My concern is that if he has journalistic standards in this area of reporting that differ from the mainstream media be upfront. I have noted in the past that the standards he applies to abuse stories were applied in the general media, there would be no catholic church abuse scandal.

7) This is part of my ongoing criticism of the Jewish community institutions that still provide nowhere for victims or sexual abuse/exploitation to go and no resources.

I did privately criticize Rosenblatt in a private email (which was a response to an unsolicited email from him, which involved an email I had sent to his mentor which was of course forwarded without my consent to Rosenblatt, everyone ultimatley gets forwarded to Rosenblatt as so many reporters don’t want to touch these sort of stories) several years ago on this exact matter. I had been in contact with Rosenblatt on a similar subject months earlier and realized he had no interest pursuing the story as he has his unique standards for such stories which as I told him at the time served no purpose other than to protect people with documented histories of sexually abusing particularly young children.

Jewish law does not permit me to put my life and my family’s lives in danger when it is unnecessary. In this situation, I believe I can do a lot more good behind the scenes through my blog.

Miriam [Shaviv], when you choose to do hard hitting stories about corruption from the community you came from, I will take your evaluation more seriously (ie: the defunct Toronto Jewish Boys’ choir, look into it).

I don’t claim to be a journalist. Rosenblatt does. If he has criticism of me, why didn’t he try to contact me? He looked at my profile, where an email address is featured. And yet he accuses me of not "…bother[ing] to interview the people they write about".

I most certaily did address my criticism of his journalistic standards (in relation to sexual abuse stories) to him directly. He on the other hand has not done what he preaches.

I confirm he sent me no email in relation to my blog.

Paul [Shaviv], when you start addressing people in your own community and profession that have histories in this area, I will no longer be necessary. I don’t see you posting about the defunct Toronto Jewish Boys’ choir or naming names.

Of course if you do so, you will be hauled to beis dins, have your name plastered in flyers, your parnasah destroyed, you will be put in cherem and your grandchildren’s shiduch opportunities impacted.

Paul, Miriam, put your own house in order. You want a real news story? Track down what happened with this choir. Put together how many of your great community leaders keep this shameful episode secret and protected the predator involved at the expense of victims and how many young men associated with Pirchei are no longer alive (suicides, drug related deaths, etc.) paying the price for your community’s secret shame and silence.

Paul Shaviv responds to JWB:

1. JWB: Acountability and transparency are 2-way streets, and they apply to you as much as anyone else. I would, again, feel reassured if you at least acknowledged that in the London case, a number of your facts were WRONG.

2. You are questioning my own actions and responsibilities. As I wrote at an early stage, I have dealt with a number of cases of professional misconduct over the years. I just don’t publish the details.

3. I have no knowledge whatever of the Toronto case youa re talking about.

4. Your last (6:26) posting talks about the effect / reaction on people who publish names etc, and the awful consequences that they risk. But isn’t that exactly what you have done to the teacher in London?

JWB responds:

You probably don’t know of other situations in Toronto: 1. A gang rape at a local Yeshiva not reported by the headmaster to the authorities. 2. A Yeshiva where several teachers were quietly told to leave town rather than reporting them to the police. 3. A married board member of a Jewish student organization that has a known history of making unwanted passes at young men.

Sultan_Knish writes:

…Rosenblatt is the last to talk about accountability while working for a newspaper that serves as the organ of the corrupt UJA or whatever alphabet soup the federations go by these days. The Jewish Week only does investigations when it comes to smearing orthodox jews not when it comes to accountability at home. If a UJA official began abusing half the population of Cleverland it would never be seen in The Jewish Week.

Secondly there’s a tradition of reporters working anonymously and undercover. Many of the news stories you see in your newspaper go unsigned as well. Unlike Roseblatt, JW isn’t funded by money intended to go to charity and you don’t have to read him or agree with him. He’s one voice. He does not claim to represent anyone but himself. And a lot of the ‘accusations’ he’s accused of wildly making are in fact news stories from mainstream media outlets produced by reporters with names attached to them.

Sultan_Knish writes:

Plenty of compulsive liars, for example Bill and Hillary Clinton, go by their own names. It does not interfere in any way with their chosen career of compulsive lying. People are judged by their track records and that indeed is the only way anyone can be judged, whether they give their name or not.

That my grocer has a name does not matter to me nearly so much as that I know from past experience the quality of his wares. With journalists too, it does not matter what they call themselves so long as there is a consistent name and identity along with a track record.

His critics cite accountability but what does accountability for a freelance blogger who is not doing this for commercial reasons? He has a consistent identity and that identity and his reputation is accountable. No further professional accountability is possible since his reputation is his profession. Personal accountability however is but that is not a credible argument that someone is not a legitimate reporter unless they expose themselves to personal harrassment.

Journalists who operate in the Orthodox community and live within it, particularly excluding the Modern Orthodox Community, face an environment where investigative journalism is tarred as mosering or lashon hara and where social reputation for a family is everything and where everyone knows instances of corruption but no one speaks out because leaders and Rabbanim may not be questioned.

The blog is the future of Orthodox Jewish journalism. It is anonymous and it synthesizes sources and information and throws in gossip and rumor into the mix too. It opens up sources of information that were closed because no one has a face.

Sultan_Knish writes: "But what is the difference between a professional journalist and an amateur blogger? Yes there’s the office and the fat UJA funds derived salary and getting invited to dinners in your own honor."

5/13/05

I email Phil Jacobs, Editor of the Baltimore Jewish Times:

Early this year, you saw the tape of Vicki Polin’s controversial May 1, 1989 appearance on the Oprah Show as "Rachel." Why did you not write about that? What was not newsworthy about that?

According to a source who’s spoken to Phil Jacobs about this, Phil says he has been inundated with stories and the other responsiblitiesof being the editor of a paper. He just hasn’t had time to do the research involved in doing this story. He knows that Vicki wouldn’t talk to another reporter at his paper. He put Vicki on his list of articles to write, and hasn’t gotten to it yet.

Maybe Phil should pay me to do the research and write this story for his august publication?

I email Gary Rosenblatt at The Jewish Week:

How long have you known that Vicki Polin was the "Rachel" in the infamous May 1, 1989 Oprah show? Why haven’t you written about it?

Gary has known that Vicki was the infamous "Rachel" for at least five months, and possibly for years. There was no mention of this in his paper’s 3/26/04 profile of Vicki.

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Alisa Valdes-Rodriguez Remembers Cathy Seipp

Alisa blogs:

Cathy was a great writer, a quick wit, and she was fearless about having an opinion that was completely and utterly independent. She was a beloved conservative, but she was not the kind to toe the party line. She had real opinions based on real thought. I grew to respect her, even when I disagreed with her politics.

When THE DIRTY GIRLS SOCIAL CLUB finally came out, Seipp surprised me by writing a generous review of it. (Generous considering how much reason she had to hate me.) She did not back down from her stance that I was a nutjob, an opinion I suspect she held her entire life, but she did have the guts to say I was a good writer, and to slap down the envious journalists (many of them liberals) who were picking me apart. Cathy said they were petty, and envious – and I think she was right.

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Israel’s Ashkenazi Chief Rabbi Yonah Metzger Underwhelms Beth Jacob Crowd

Rabbi Metzger is a strange guy. He’s the subject of sexual abuse allegations from both sexes.

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Rob Eshman’s Dialogue With Rabbi David Wolpe

It’s my first time at Friday Night Live in 15 months.

I had vowed I’d stop going upon turning 40 (May 28, 2006). This was my second time back.

"Could I see some ID?" asks a young friend.

I ask her about the flyers she’s handing out.

"I’d give you one but …" she says.

I no longer meet the ATID age group of 21-39.

At the end of the service, Danielle Berrin, Rob Eshman and his wife Rabbi Naomi Levy and others join the rabbi and cantor on the bima. They make hamotzi and sing a few songs.

Danielle can sing on key. I wish I could. I’m no Air Supply.

The dialogue begins half an hour after services.

When Rob sees me, he walks over.

I like that. I’m sick of having to chase people down to talk to them. It makes me seem needy.

"I recognize you from the Jewish Journal cover," says Rob.

"Why did you put that whacko on your cover?" I respond. "You’re just giving him credibility."

"See the letters we got?" says Rob.

"Yep."

"Some people can’t take a joke.

"How did your cover go over?"

"I’m huge with the homeless and the mentally ill. They’ve always loved me."

"They’re your consitutency.

"Hey, I was thinking today that you should write up your Jewish beliefs."

"I believe in hypocrisy!" I say as he walks away.

On to the discussion between two of the funniest men in the Jewish establishment.

Rob says that there is no story that his publication fears to pursue.

He’s practiced his lines and has most of us laughing.

"Rabbis are the rock stars of Jewish life," says Rob.

Eshman says that he used to sit a in a "row of dreck," Naomi’s description of the men stalking her at the Mishkon Tephilo Conservative shul in Venice.

The first time Rob introduced himself, she turned around and in the course of wishing him gut shabbos, accidentally sprayed him with herring.

He figured that if he still loved her after that then his feelings must be real.

Most of the comments from the audience say the Jewish Journal is a left-wing rag that pays insufficient attention to Islamic terrorism.

Rob and Rabbi Wolpe note that the paper has moved to the right since Rob took over.

It used to be left-wing and now it is center-left.

Throughout the dialogue, I find my eyes wandering over to a young woman displaying amazing cleavage. She keeps fruitlessly tugging her tight top over her breasts.

I love it when women dress inappropriately and then keep tugging their dresses down and their tops up.

Rob’s wife squirms in the back as he keeps taking it on the chin.

He’s asked which segment of Jewry gives his paper the most grief.

"Depends on the day," says Rob.

One bloke asks what the Jewish tradition has to say about publishing a newspaper.

Rabbi Wolpe notes that if one followed Jewish law, it would be impossible to publish any newspaper, even the most anodyne.

An acquaintance of mine, Joseph, says: "I see Mr. Ford is with us tonight. I do not approve of the way he makes his living. Why did you put him on the cover? Why not profile someone representative of the Jewish community?"

Rob responded that I embodied bloggers and that they raise important issues about responsible speech. Rob added that I had recently broken an important story about the mayor.

An acquaintance inquires of me afterwards: "Does it ever get to you?"

I reply: "It always gets to me. It’s just a matter of how much. Sometimes it bothers me a little and sometimes it bothers me a lot."

One of my mother’s favorite sayings was that criticism rolls off my father "like water off a duck’s back."

At the end of the program, the elegant Danielle Berrin introduces herself. She’s even more beautiful in person. She’ll be leading a discussion group among the ATID crowd after every Friday Night Live.

Rob writes in the latest Jewish Journal:

I know too many beautiful, brilliant single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s.

I hear too many stories about the lack of available Jewish men, the first dates who are too lost or too pathetic, the fights over marriage and children that end the relationship and send the woman, now a bit older, diving back into the ever more shallow pool.

But I don’t blame these women, of course not.

I blame rabbis.

That’s right.

They see the same lonely, sensational women I do: a slim, passionate Hollywood executive pushing 40 who simply, desperately, still seeks the elusive nice Jewish guy. A brilliant doctor with a runner’s body who, at 44, still can’t find "the one." A writer who asks me to keep my eye out for any Israelis new to town, because she figures she’s dated most of the native Jews. A marketing executive who has given up on finding the right Jewish man: "If it happens, it happens."

I ask her if she still wants children, and she says, "More than anything." And tears come to her eyes.

I talked with four of these women over the space of three days last week, all wondering if I had come across any single Jewish men. I mentioned a name. Here’s what happened: They had already dated the guy. I mentioned another name. Already dated him, too: At 41, he was not quite ready to settle down. A straight, eligible Jewish man in his 40s gets around this town faster than the weekend box office numbers.

Why do single women get so much more sympathy than single men?

Here are my thoughts:

* What single women want sounds more noble than the thing primarily on male minds.

* Women complain more. You’re not going to find as many as ready to shed tears over their lack of a spouse and children. That doesn’t mean their pain is any less real.

* Women who never marry don’t fall apart as often as never-married men. Therefore there are more impressive single women circa 40 than impressive single men.

* There are more 40-year old women than 40-year old men because men die more, particularly single men.

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Tabloid Baby Vs. TMZ

I email Burt Kearns, author of the book Tabloid Baby and the blog by the same name: "Why are you always beating up on TMZ? Isn’t it similar to the tabloid TV you pioneered?"

Burt responds:

I’d start by saying that we’re not "beating up on" TMZ. Tabloid Baby keeps tabs on, offers advice to, and holds TMZ accountable because it’s a well-funded arm of the powerful AOL-Time Warner monolith and a launching pad for a syndicated tabloid TV series disguised as a scrappy website.

We like good tabloid. TMZ is giving tabloid a bad name.

Good tabloid has a sense of humour. It has a sense of fairness and a sense of morality. Tabloid sticks up for the little guy. It doesn’t make heroes out of villains. It’s a form of journalism that speaks to the Average Joe. Tabloid is a TV show that you can watch with the whole family; it’s a newspaper you can read in a subway car with people peeking over your shoulder. Tabloid is the ability to tell any story- no matter how sordid or shocking- to any audience, to the Queen of England, as we used to say, as long as you tell the story the right way.

1 TMZ is embarrassing to read.

Its stories and headlines have been lewdly-written, lacking the style and grace that tabloid requires. It’s pervy and porny and crass and dirty and nasty and ugly. And though they have taken our advice and cleaned up their act (insiders tell us so, and recent headlines reflect it), TMZ still offers tasteless banners like yesterday’s "A Little Animated Bush for the Kiddies" and the embarrassing Billy Ray Cyrus "Achy Breaky Fart" report.

2 TMZ markets pornography.

I’m not even considering the plug they gave to Mantra Films and its "Guys Gone Wild" gay porn videos ("pole sliding not allowed," they wrote) on Thursday, but the major marketing campaigns they conducted for porn DVDs including the kinky, coprophiliac "Screech" sex tape (which TMZ in a nauseatingly disgusting turn, named "Saved By The Smell") and one featuring non-celeb Kim Kardashian (hyped with the promise of a urination scene) . In both cases, the site that’s owned by AOL and Time Warner began by posting a series of titillating, teasing clips, leading up over days to the announcement that the DVDs were available, with links to the purchase points. It seems obvious that TMZ or someone in editorial control, is getting a cut of the proceeds.

3 TMZ takes cheap shots.

4 TMZ is nasty.

In a town full of legendary, hardworking professional paparazzi, TMZ takes the cheap way out by giving inexpensive PD-150 cameras to kids, and ordering them to hang out in front of nightspots at two in the morning to harass celebrities in hope of a confrontation. We took a stand against this back in the mid-90s, when the people who took over Hard Copy from us used "stalkerazzi" cameramen to provoke celebs (oddly, the same people now run the tabloid TV series Extra, which spawned TMZ). And when the celebrity is provoked to respond, TMZ lambastes him, as they did with Woody Harrelson and Matt Dillon. In the case of Gary Dourdain from CSI, they actually called him a "c**ksucker"! In print!

5 TMZ celebrates celebutards.

There are great Hollywood, entertainment, political, and high society stories to cover. Who cares about these young do-nothing girls? TMZ has done more to destroy celebrity journalism-and these young women-than any other Internet outlet.

6 TMZ is out of touch with America.

Again, it gets back to morality. TMZ is, at the least, amoral. It’s worldview is that of the Hollywood types who live and play within the exclusive "thirty mile zone." While it purports to want to be a Confidential magazine or Walter Winchell, exposing the secrets, it actually basks and promulgates that twisted Hollywood morality and celebrates, rather than criticize it. Like the most powerful in Hollywood, TMZ wants to be feared.

7 TMZ is bad tabloid.

"Tabloid" is a great journalistic, communication and art form, concise and plain, funny and democratic. Page Six does great tabloid. Nikki Finke does great tabloid investigative reporting. Perez Hilton does great tabloid satire. X-17 does great tabloid photo spreads. Luke Ford does great tabloid morality. Pop on The Pop does great tabloid citizen reporting. TVgasm’s Newsgasm does great tabloid television reporting. Defamer does great tabloid Hollywood. Anorak does great international tabloid. Gallery of the Absurd does great tabloid editorial cartooning. There’s a lot of great stuff out there.

TMZ is supported by corporate millions and wants to be feared. It spreads a kinky worldview. It has no sense of fair play. It’s poorly written. All of my complaints about TMZ have been stated in the past about other misguided tabloid ventures. My book Tabloid Baby, from 1999, shows how these mistakes killed the genre in the 90s. And now that TMZ is headed to TV, they’re making many of the same mistakes.

It’s our job as a media website to call them on it.

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Outreach To Judaism

I just got a package of materials from my father (printouts from outreachtojudaism.com) with this note:

Dear Luke,

Hope all is well with you – health and all things else.

If you ever get a chance to look at this, I would be very grateful for your critique of it. If you do a good job you may make a Jew of me.

With much love,

Dad

My relationship with my father has always been about books and ideas. When I was ten, he gave me $20 to read the Bible straight-through in a year.

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I Want A Moratorium On ‘Debunking Stereotypes’ Stories

From today’s Jewish Journal:

Woody Allen’s oft-told joke about the paucity of Jewish sports heroes reinforces stereotypes going back centuries. A noteworthy example comes from sociologist Edward Ross, a Protestant, who about 100 years ago had this to say about Jews: "On the physical side, the Hebrews are the polar opposite of our pioneer breed. Not only are they undersized and weak-muscled, but they shun bodily activity and are exceedingly sensitive to pain."

In the first half of the last century, American Jews refuted these stereotypes not only by dominating such urban sports as boxing and basketball, but also by enlisting disproportionately in the armed forces in World War I and II.

Some of today’s star Jewish athletes from all around the world, at least those in their early to midteens, will get a chance to display their speed, strength and agility at the JCC Maccabi Games in Orange County. The games will open Aug. 12 at the Honda Center in Anaheim and will continue through Aug. 17 at the Merage Jewish Community Center and other locations in Irvine and Newport Beach.

This year marks the 25th anniversary of the JCC Maccabi Games, which take place every year in the United States (unlike the Maccabiah Games in Israel, which occur every four years). More than 4,000 athletes are expected to compete in 13 sports categories at this summer’s JCC Maccabi Games, which include contests in Houston and Baltimore this week, as well as in Orange County.

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