Dennis Prager’s Contempt For ABC Anchor Charles Gibson

Dennis says on his radio show today: "My contempt for Charlie Gibson is deep."

"Charlie Gibson reinforced the belief that Republicans are running against Democrats and the news media.

"This was not an interview. It was an attempt to get her, to catch her. The Bush Doctrine was an example.

"I was a fellow at Columbia’s graduate program for international affairs. I am steeped in international relations. I had no idea what the Bush Doctrine neither do any of you listening nor does Charlie Gibson.

"The notion that you attack those who are about to attack us is not the Bush Doctrine. It is common sense.

"If somebody is getting ready to kill you, you get up earlier and kill him first. (Talmud) Is that the Bush Doctrine that was enunciated by the rabbis 2,000 years ago?

"Bush doesn’t know what the Bush Doctrine is."

"You idiot… Mr Gibson it is so transparent."

"You saw the way he did it? Smirking, with his glasses down his nose? He lost my respect."

"There was no attempt to understand what she thinks on anything. It was all gotcha."

"He wanted to show his fellow members of the Fourth Estate that he was going to be tough on this lady. They live in this tiny ghetto. It is all liberal. It is intellectually vapid."

Liberal columnist Timothy Noah writes:

Sarah Palin says lots of dumb and untruthful things in her interviews with ABC News’ Charlie Gibson. But on one point, she is being mocked unfairly. I refer to the purported howler of her not knowing what the Bush Doctrine is. As many commentators (including Slate‘s Jack Shafer) have pointed out, when Gibson asked Palin’s opinion of the Bush Doctrine, the vice-presidential candidate flailed around like a C student nailed by a sadistic schoolmarm. She clearly had no idea what Gibson was talking about:

Q: Do you agree with the Bush Doctrine?

A: In what respect, Charlie?

Q: The Bush—well, what do you—what do you interpret it to be?

A: His worldview.

Q: No, the Bush Doctrine, enunciated September 2002, before the Iraq war.

A: I believe that what President Bush has attempted to do is rid this world of Islamic extremism, terrorists who are hell-bent on destroying our nation. There have been blunders along the way, though. There have been mistakes made. And with new leadership, and that’s the beauty of American elections, of course, and democracy, is with new leadership comes opportunity to do things better.

Q: The Bush Doctrine, as I understand it, is that we have the right of anticipatory self-defense, that we have the right to a pre-emptive strike against any other country that we think is going to attack us. Do you agree with that?

This was painful to watch, in large part because I searched my memory in vain to remember which of the various rigid nostrums articulated by President Bush over the past eight years had become enshrined as the defining principle of his foreign policy. When Gibson identified the Bush Doctrine as the doctrine of preventive war ("the right of anticipatory self-defense" is not quite right) as laid out in the Bush White House’s famous National Security Strategy document of 2002, I felt humiliated. I’d always thought of that as … the doctrine of preventive war. That was what the New York Times had called it in an editorial published Sept. 12, 2004. And what Benjamin Barber had called it in a Los Angeles Times column published Dec. 3, 2003. And what Peter Baker, then White House correspondent for the Washington Post, had called it as recently as March 16, 2006. When did it become not just "a" Bush doctrine but "the" Bush Doctrine?

Charles Krauthammer writes:

"At times visibly nervous . . . Ms. Palin most visibly stumbled when she was asked by Mr. Gibson if she agreed with the Bush doctrine. Ms. Palin did not seem to know what he was talking about. Mr. Gibson, sounding like an impatient teacher, informed her that it meant the right of ‘anticipatory self-defense.’ "

New York Times, Sept. 12

Informed her? Rubbish.

The New York Times got it wrong. And Charlie Gibson got it wrong.

There is no single meaning of the Bush Doctrine. In fact, there have been four distinct meanings, each one succeeding another over the eight years of this administration — and the one Charlie Gibson cited is not the one in common usage today. It is utterly different.

He asked Palin, "Do you agree with the Bush Doctrine?"

She responded, quite sensibly to a question that is ambiguous, "In what respect, Charlie?"

Sensing his "gotcha" moment, Gibson refused to tell her. After making her fish for the answer, Gibson grudgingly explained to the moose-hunting rube that the Bush doctrine "is that we have the right of anticipatory self-defense."

Wrong.

I know something about the subject because, as the Wikipedia entry on the Bush Doctrine notes, I was the first to use the term. In the cover essay of the June 4, 2001, issue of the Weekly Standard entitled, "The Bush Doctrine: ABM, Kyoto, and the New American Unilateralism," I suggested that the Bush administration policies of unilaterally withdrawing from the ABM treaty and rejecting the Kyoto protocol, together with others, amounted to a radical change in foreign policy that should be called the Bush Doctrine.

Then came 9/11, and that notion was immediately superseded by the advent of the war on terror. In his address to the joint session of Congress nine days after 9/11, President Bush declared: "Either you are with us or you are with the terrorists. From this day forward any nation that continues to harbor or support terrorism will be regarded by the United States as a hostile regime." This "with us or against us" policy regarding terror — first deployed against Pakistan when Secretary of State Colin Powell gave President Musharraf that seven-point ultimatum to end support for the Taliban and support our attack on Afghanistan — became the essence of the Bush Doctrine.

Until Iraq. A year later, when the Iraq war was looming, Bush offered his major justification by enunciating a doctrine of preemptive war. This is the one Charlie Gibson thinks is the Bush doctrine.

…Yes, Sarah Palin didn’t know what it is. But neither does Charlie Gibson. And at least she didn’t pretend to know — while he looked down his nose and over his glasses with weary disdain, sighing and "sounding like an impatient teacher," as the Times noted. In doing so, he captured perfectly the establishment snobbery and intellectual condescension that has characterized the chattering classes’ reaction to the mother of five who presumes to play on their stage.

Dennis: There’s no depth to Barack Obama. Only a facile way with words, and not if he doesn’t have a teleprompter to read off.

Has the press ever asked Barack Obama if he was qualified to be president? If they did, they’d be called racist.

Charlie Gibson only asked one tough honest question — about attacking Pakistan.

I wanted hard questions. I didn’t want gotcha.

I never try to humiliate. He tried to humiliate her.

I’ve had big left-wing guests. I have never sought to humiliate them. In my religion, it is a deep sin to publicly humiliate a person.

Bumper: Dennis Prager says: "Do you want to hear me make liberals cry? Stick around."

Dennis: "Charlie Gibson will go down in history as a buffoon for this interview."

"He succeeded among those he wanted to impress."

Dennis talks about how he would’ve responded to Gibson. "He wouldn’t have interviewed me again. He would’ve given it over to a colleague."

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‘The Dark Knight’

Marc Gafni writes:

The Joker. I told Luke that there was a part of him that reminded me of the joker.
Or at least the Joker archetype.

Some of these ideas were expressed by Luke in the first half of a long conversation we had on July 3rd 2008.

For the Joker, all of reality is a joke. The joker is in some sense a mystical master who seeks to strip away the veneer of civilization. The Joker exposes bourgeois morality; he reveals and mockingly revels in the false piety of spiritual leaders and religious establishments, indeed of all establishments and all leaders.

The joker is the jester in the court of King Lear or the “Badran” in the Chassidic court.

But unlike these two jester figures who seek to prick egos in order to provoke human grown and evolution, the joker seeks to destroy both the court and all the people in it.

For the Joker, as for Luke, “people are all creeps with clay feet” and their job is to expose them, for the sake of anarchy, clarity and truth.

Now truth be told, that is only one side of Luke. One of the things I have learned of late is that Luke really is not like the Joker at all. Indeed when you hear his story it is dramatically different then the impression one might get of him were one to reconstruct the web sources that comment on him.

It is more like Luke has a joker strain in his personality that sometimes – in the past – in my humble view – got the better of him.

But that was then and this is now.

In his heart Luke loves to be of service. Ethical integrity is enormously important as a value to Luke and ask him what he is most proud of and he will tell of the lives he saved
when he broke a story about the aids virus in the pornography industry. Luke is a person of integrity; there is a code he follows. He will not break his word in the context of his code – even when it is to his advantage.

What Levi and I have huge disagreements about is the content of some central parts of his code. What he thinks of –as a post modern blogger – as fair, ethical and in Integrity, many of us- but me for sure – think of in much different ways.

Second:

What I love about Batman is that the Joker is fooled. The joke was on him. The Joke is on the Joker. Sacred divine laughter affirming human goodness overcomes the shrill and empty laughter of narcissistic nihilism.

When the Joker rigs two boats with explosives and offers each boat survival if they will but blow up the other boat- in the end both boats refuse – both the boat of convicts and the boat of ordinary people.

Paradoxically in that moment the people do not need a Christ like hero to save them.

They are their own superheroes, their own Christ. The joker thesis that people are

basically creeps is exposed as a lie.

Now for Luke this is the weakest part of the movie as his view of human nature is as he writes and says fundamentally cynical.
My view of human nature is certainly not all sweetness and light.
That would not be a noble view of human nature; it would be simply stupid.
Rather I embrace what I understand to be the kabbalistic view of human nature.

There is in this understanding, what I might refer to as three levels of human nature.

Level One is civil and decent and good. {J.S. Mill. Jeremy Bentham}
Level two; right beneath level one is dark and creepy. For Luke this is the essence of the human being. {Frued is in some passages clearly with Luke on this}
Level Three is gorgeous, beautiful, decent and good. {The Kabbalist and all other great mystical traditions}

For Luke the essential person is located at level two.
For me the essential person is located at level three.

Not that I have not met more then my fair share of level two behaviors. Ultimately however I have great hope and love for almost all people, for I know in my deepest heart realization that level two is but a temporary if terrible aberration, clouding a clearer manifestation of man’s more true and higher nature.

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Obama Jumped The Shark In Berlin

Charles Krauthammer writes:

The problem is that Obama began believing in his own magical powers — the chants, the swoons, the "we are the ones" self-infatuation. Like Ronald Reagan, he was leading a movement, but one entirely driven by personality. Reagan’s revolution was rooted in concrete political ideas (supply-side economics, welfare-state deregulation, national strength) that transcended one man. For Obama’s movement, the man is the transcendence.

Which gave the Obama campaign a cult-like tinge. With every primary and every repetition of the high-flown, self-referential rhetoric, the campaign’s insubstantiality became clear. By the time it was repeated yet again on the night of the last primary (#3), the tropes were tired and flat. To top himself, Obama had to reach. Hence his triumphal declaration that history would note that night, his victory, his ascension, as "the moment when the rise of the oceans began to slow and our planet began to heal."

Clang. But Obama heard only the cheers of the invited crowd. Not yet seeing how the pseudo-messianism was wearing thin, he did Berlin (#4) and finally jumped the shark. That grandiloquent proclamation of universalist puffery popped the bubble. The grandiosity had become bizarre.

From there it was but a short step to Paris Hilton. Finally, the Obama people understood. Which is why the next data point (#5) is so different. Obama’s Denver acceptance speech was deliberately pedestrian, State-of-the-Union-ish, programmatic and only briefly (that lovely coda recalling the March on Washington) lyrical.

The problem, however, was that Obama had announced the Invesco Field setting for the speech during the pre-Berlin flush of hubris. They were stuck with the Greek columns, the circus atmosphere, the rock star fireworks farewell — as opposed to the warmer, traditional, balloon-filled convention-hall hug-a-thon. The incongruity between text and context was apparent. Obama was trying to make himself ordinary — and serious — but could hardly remember how.

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The Committee For Kosher Music Has Spoken

From the BBC:

"They are leading the public astray and are causing a great negative influence on the young generation," says Rabbi Efraim Luft, head of an ultra-orthodox organisation in Israel called the Committee for Jewish Music.

Supported by leading Haredi rabbis, Rabbi Luft has drawn up a black-list of musicians and bands – music that he says that is not kosher and cannot be played at ultra-orthodox weddings or public events because of its decadent nature.

What Rabbi Luft objects to so vehemently is not just contemporary, western music – rock, rap or pop – but the use of modern instruments and beats in the tunes of orthodox singers like Lipa Schmeltzer.

"The main part of the music should be the melody. Percussion should be secondary. They should not bend notes electronically and should not use instruments like electric guitars, bass guitars or saxophones in Jewish music," he says.

Sitting in the dining room of his small flat in the orthodox town of Bnei Brak, close to Tel Aviv, Rabbi Luft explains his preference for traditional, even sombre, Jewish tunes like Kol Nidrei.

A serious, studious man the rabbi explains how he thinks modern music is disrespectful, leading young people astray and can lead to the collapse of education and the family system.

It is a broad charge, but the rabbi is convinced that in the last 25 years music has gradually eroded moral standing in society.

Saying that music is "powerful", he says the "purpose of modern music – its influences – is to distract young people and change good characters into bad".

The Rabbi says such music, even Jewish rock music, "where the dangerous beat plays more of a part than the melody, has no place in a society where people are trying to keep their moral standards high.

Concerts banned

There are approximately 500,000 ultra-orthodox Haredi Jews in Israel. They tend to live in their own communities in, or near Israel’s major towns.

Their plain, modest clothing, rituals and centuries-old customs make the Haredis unmistakable and their lives revolve around their faith.

Because of the loyal relationship between orthodox Jews and their rabbis, the influence of bodies like the Committee for Jewish Music and the Guardians of Sanctity and Education is considerable.

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Alan Friedman Sued

Alan Friedman was one of the people arrested in the Spinka fiasco. This lawsuit might be him. Case Number: SC099598
ALAN FRIEDMAN COMPANY VS. MARC E. HECKER

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Artscroll author and convicted felon Rabbi Leib Pinter pleads guilty to theft faces up to 20 years of prison

From JWB:

Artscroll author and convicton felon Rabbi Leib Pinter
( http://www.artscroll.com/Authors/Rabbi_Leib_Pinter.html )
pleads guilty to criminal charges yet again and faces going back to jail yet again … this time for up to 20 years.

Rabbi Pinter plead guilty on Thursday to conspiring to commit fraud in a $44 million theft of payoff proceeds for refinanced mortgage loans funded by Fannie Mae. Rabbi Pinter admitted pocketing the payoff proceeds for 257 mortgages his company serviced. Rabbi Pinter faces a maximum sentence of up to 20 years on the charge, but the sentencing guidelines as part of the plea agreement call for a prison term of 10 years and one month or less. The sentencing was scheduled for December 19.

This is of course the Rabbi who helped spearhead the campaign to smear the zoo rabbi.
see: http://www.zootorah.org/controversy/account.html

A. Past guilt:
1) Multiple articles at: http://news.google.com/archivesearch?hl=en&ie=ISO-8859-1&um=1&tab=wn&q=%22leib+pinter%22
2) Salami and Cheese Put In a ‘Kosher’ Sandwich
New York Times
February 20, 1978

Salami and Cheese Put In a ‘Kosher’ Sandwhich
When Representative Elizabeth Hotlzman first started investigating complaints about the B’nai Torah Institute’s operation of a summer feeding program, a Queens woman telephoned the Congresswoman’s assistant, Elizabeth Lang, to describe the "Kosher" food she was receiving from the Queens Assistance Program, a B’nai Torah affiliate.

The woman said she specifically requested kosher food, but salami and cheese sandwiches were delivered to her site – a clear violation of Jewish laws that forbid the consumption of meat with dairy products.

"She told me she called the program and they put the ‘Rabbi’ on," Miss Lang recalled. "The Rabbi said, ‘if it’s kosher salami and kosher cheese, it’s a kosher sandwich.’"

3)
Rabbi Pleads Guilty To Bribing of Flood
Washington Post
May 12, 1978
Charles R. Babcock, Washington Post Staff Writer

A Brooklyn rabbi pleaded guilty yesterday to paying more than $5,000 in bribes to Rep. Daniel J. Flood (D-Pa.) for the congressman’s help in obtaining federal contracts for his Jewish poverty agency.

Rabbi Leib Pinter, 34, head of B’Nai Torah Institute in New York, told a federal judge in Manhattan that he paid Flood about $1,000 at least five times between late 1974 and early 1976.

B. Present Guilt:

4) The indictment
http://www.usdoj.gov/usao/nye/pr/2008/2008may08.html

5) The guilty plea
http://www.reuters.com/article/bondsNews/idUSN1117127920080911
http://www.nypost.com/seven/09122008/news/regionalnews/44_mil_fannie_fleecer_128764.htm

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Sarah Palin Shines On ABC News

Hugh Hewitt blogs:

Charles Gibson threw fastballs –fair, but hard fastballs– and Sarah Palin connected on every one save the Bush Doctrine and even there she recovered nicely, demonstrating a poise that will serve her very well in the next 54 days.

Gibson’s job is to press (and would that anyone in MSM had conducted as remotely a focused interview with Obama, complete with interruptions and three or four follow-ups on some subjects), and McCain-Palin backers should cheer such interviews. Pointed questions about serious subjects provide her an opportunity to shine, which she frequently did in the portions shown tonight.  Some of the assumptions behind Gibson’s questions –that meeting foreign leaders is itself an important credential–are widely shared among Manhattan-Beltway media elites even though they fail to impress middle America, and Palin has to display a comfortable disregard for the sneer of the political elite when such assumptions surface.  She did just that in the interview.  Good for her. Her defense of her comments on God’s plan was perfect pitch.  Every evangelical in the U.S. and most other people who have ever heard a prayer for the troops understood immediately what she was saying on the tape from her church and what she said tonight.  And not only understood, but approved.

Palin’s sincere pride in her son’s choice to serve the country is the defining exchange, the one that will resonate far and wide.  Gibson’s major misstep was his assertion that he "got lost in a blizzard of words," when Palin avoided the very sort of provocative declaration about Pakistan that seasoned diplomats always avoid.  Palin was demonstrating the very sort of careful choice of words that Obama would have benefitted from before bringing up lipstick.  My mail shows a lot of hostility to Gibson, but I think that is misplaced.  We want tough interviews of all four candidates.  We just want them of both tickets, with the same abruptness when Obama filibusters and stammers.

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Love Junkie: A Memoir By Rachel Resnick

Here’s a Q&A with Rachel:

How do you know if you’re a love junkie?

You can tell if you’re a love junkie if you meet someone new, and instead of a spark, you get the whole meteor shower. It’s like you’re shooting up that skin-tingling, electric feeling of love, right into your heart. And “love” wakes you up. Now this could maybe be a sign of chemistry between two people—if you’re healthy. But love junkies aren’t healthy. You’re a love junkie if you have a core of neediness and dependency that’s waiting to grasp onto someone. You want someone to rescue you, take care of you—the way your parents should have (and probably didn’t). You have a big gaping hole that the wind howls through, and that distorts our perceptions of the world and especially of the destructive lovers we choose.

For years I thought I was unlucky in love. I also thought I was extra-passionate. I didn’t realize I was using these super-intense relationships to avoid unresolved pain, anger and grief from my past. Some people have to get hit upside the head to wake up. I am one of those people. One thing that woke me up was a friend’s response. I called to complain about another relationship ending after months of agonizing e-mailing, clinging, hanging-on, fighting and apologizing. I told her, half-joking, “Maybe there’s something wrong with me.” I expected her to say, Don’t be silly. You’re great. He wasn’t the right guy. Instead she said bluntly: “Maybe there is something wrong with you.” I was mad as hell, but I couldn’t get her words out of my head. Those words eventually prompted me to go to my first twelve-step meeting for people who have addictive problems with love, sex, relationships and fantasy.

How can someone intervene with a friend who’s a love junkie but doesn’t know it yet?

If you’re close enough, you can take the risk, like my friend did, and tell the truth. You can say gently and with love, “Maybe there is something wrong with the choices you make. Have you ever thought about going to therapy, or meetings?” Then you can suggest resources that deal with this addiction, like SLAA, the twelve-step program for Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, or LAA, Love Addicts Anonymous, or CODA, Co-dependents Anonymous. Then it’s up to them. Some people suggest more straight-up interventions. It depends on how bad the situation is. Generally, you need to decide for yourself if you’re ready to change, if you’re prepared to look at what’s underneath.

What are three big red flags that might tell a person he or she’s in love-junkie territory, and that s/he needs to take a long, hard look at his/her relationship patterns?

Most people I’ve spoken to can relate to at least some of the destructive tendencies in my memoir. They’ve had at least one relationship like this. But usually it’s only one. So ask yourself these questions:

1) Do you have one destructive relationship after another after another? Do they all crash and burn? If so, that’s a pattern, and you’re a love junkie.

2) In a moment of real honesty, would you say that when you fall in love or are trying to salvage a relationship, you let the other parts of your life go to hell, your work performance suffers, or you watch your dreams fall away? You may be using love and relationships to avoid really living your life. If so, you’re a love junkie.

3) Do you put your lover and the relationship first over loving yourself? Do you try to set healthy rules for yourself about dating and relationships that you can’t ever seem to follow? Do your relationships have a negative impact on your financial life, your friendships, or your peace of mind? You just might be a love junkie.

What distinguishes an addiction from healthy love?

When you’re addicted to someone, you’re using them. You’re getting high. You can actually feel the chemicals dropping down into your system, the warm pinging of your nerves. You’re escaping reality. It’s not really about them, or even about the two of you. Because if you’re addicted, life is unsatisfying when you’re on your own. So when you find a mate, you tend to glom on, become inseparable, suffocate, suck each other dry. You’re not trying to partner; you’re trying to merge. You’re trying to take the love you never got as a kid. You may as well attach a siphon to your lover. You’re holding them hostage with your feelings. Only now it’s too late. Your chance to have unconditional parental love has unfortunately passed. And until you give up that futile quest, you won’t experience healthy relationships. That’s addictive “love.”

Whereas with healthy love, you’re two separate, (relatively) mature people coming together to share two strong solid lives. At least that’s what I hear!

Why should readers care about the difference between “process” and “substance” addictions?

Because until you get that, it’s hard to grasp how you can get addicted to love. A substance addiction is more obvious. A substance could be meth, cocaine, alcohol, cigarettes. Sobriety is more clear-cut, too. Either you’re sober, or you’re not. A “process” addiction is harder to pin down. It means you’re hooked on something you’d be doing anyway: love, sex, spending, eating—things we need in order to live, almost like breathing. But if you have an addictive personality, you can use these relationships to such processes, like sex and love, to avoid living your real life.

Do you think you’ll ever get another date?

For the first time in my life, I’m okay either way. For years all I did was pour my energy into finding The One, that mythical creature. I was hellbent on meeting someone. I was so focused, I avoided taking responsibility for my own life. It’s tough, because our culture still makes single women feel stigmatized. I think people automatically assume something’s wrong with you if you’re not in a relationship, if you’re not married, if you haven’t borne children. However, in my case, in the past something was wrong with me when I was in a relationship. I needed to be on my own, growing. Healing. Now I’m single, and I’m (mostly!) relaxed about it. If something happens, great. If it doesn’t, I trust I’m supposed to be putting my energy elsewhere. At least that’s the idea!

Is a period of celibacy the only way to break an addiction to toxic love?

I am not an expert. I am one person who had a serious pattern of bad relationships for decades. When I use the term addiction, I mean it as a wake-up call. When I first realized I was an addict, when I first called myself one, that’s when things began to change. I had to take responsibility. And naming it—calling it an addiction—cleared the way to facing the truth. It wasn’t bad luck. It was me. After I realized this, I had to step back from all intimate engagements. I did not date and I virtually did not have sex for two and a half years. Well, I had three slips, with three men, in a 30-month period. Still—it was the longest time I’d ever retreated sexually like that. In my case, I needed that period of time to get to know myself and to heal. To break the patterns and behavior that were so deeply ingrained. Though each person has to find his or her own answer.

Your last relationship isn’t with a guy at all—it’s with a woman. Is this a coming-out book?

It’s a coming-out book in the sense that I’m identifying myself as a Love Junkie. If you mean am I announcing I’m a lesbian, then no. I did become more willing to let go of my ideas of who I was supposed to be involved with. I even became open to having a relationship with a woman. And it was a growing experience. Obviously I’m bisexual in ways I didn’t realize. I think some people are—they just land on different spots on the straight-gay spectrum. I don’t know if I will be involved again with another woman. It was hard for me, harder than I thought. The relationship went against the dominant culture, and that added pressure and internal conflict for me. It also gave me amazing insights into what life is like for my gay friends. But I fell in love with a person. That was a gift of recovery. I’ve always had amazing female friends. They figure into the book a lot, and I owe my health in part to their support.

What are your feelings on twelve step programs and other ways of treating an addiction to destructive love?

Twelve step programs have saved my life. They’ve provided me with community, with support, with wisdom, with a spirituality that accommodates your own needs and is non-denominational. I can’t speak highly enough about them. They’re free. They manifest democracy in its purest form. They’re also flawed, because humans are flawed and we go to meetings because we have problems. So problems are bound to occur. But it’s worked for me. The first time I went to a meeting, in 1989, I didn’t know what was going on. But I was moved, hearing people talk so honestly. It was raw. Then when I was leaving, someone touched my arm. And it was such a loving gesture, so pure – I started to cry. And I kept going back after that. It was like this simple gesture of kindness, and warmth—from a stranger—there’s something special that happens in those rooms.

On the other hand, I don’t think it’s the only way to go. Some therapists specialize in this addiction, and there are treatment centers too.

Do you think our culture plays a part in love addiction?

I feel this culture is in love with love, and not the healthy version. Don’t you? Everywhere we turn, there are presentations of love addiction – in movies, books, magazines. And it’s presented as passion. As what you should want and expect. This is crippling, and misleading, and I think, dangerous. Because in my case, I’ve confused sex with love, and intensity for mature love and passion when it’s more about distraction and drama.

Are you and Catherine still together? 

We’re not. The relationship didn’t turn out to be lifelong, but that doesn’t mean it failed. It means it worked for a year. The huge difference for me, as a love-junkie-in-transition, was that I could exit it with mutual respect—and by that I mean respect for Catherine and for myself.

When you date someone now, does it feel different since you’ve broken the addiction, and if so, how?

It feels incredibly different. I feel like a teenager! I’m trying to be present. I’m not hiding. I take my time, and don’t rush. I see how I’m feeling. There’s not that consuming instant passion and attraction and adventure I used to go for every time. The love-at-first-sight phenomenon.

Now there’s just a slow getting to know someone while continuing to live my life. Sometimes I get bored. Restless. I wish I could be like I was, and feel those thrills. But it’s too late. I know too much. I’m too healthy, frankly.

 

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I Like Amy’s New Picture

From her new blog:

She’s got that classic Sophia Loren-thing going.

Writer
Amy Klein is the writer of "True Confessions of an Online Dating Addict." Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, MSN, NPR, The San Francisco Chronicle, The Jewish Journal of Greater Los Angels and The Jerusalem Post.

Jim emails: "Still cyberstalking it seems. Looks like she was right about you, creep."

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Screwed By Rev. Wright

From the New York Post:

He almost wrecked Barack Obama‘s presidential dreams, and now firebrand pastor Jeremiah Wright has helped destroy a Dallas church worker’s marriage – and her job, The Post has learned.

Elizabeth Payne, 37, said she had a steamy sexual affair with the controversial, racially divisive man of the cloth while she was an executive assistant at a church headed by a popular Wright protégé.

When word of the unholy alliance got out, Payne’s husband dumped her, and she was canned from the plum job at Friendship-West Baptist Church, she told The Post.

"I was involved with Rev. Wright, and that’s why I lost my job and why my husband divorced me," Payne said.

She refused to reveal when the adulterous affair started or how she met Wright.

But fellow churchgoers at Friendship-West "found out about the affair in the spring," Payne said.

At the time, she was secretary to the Rev. Frederick Haynes III, a longtime Wright disciple.

In April, Payne organized a series of Texas public appearances by Wright, 67. Weeks before, Obama had disavowed his preacher of 20 years after Wright’s anti-government rants came to light.

"Liz was by Rev. Wright’s side day and night during those days," a church source said.

"It’s all true," said Payne, adding that she has filed a wrongful-dismissal claim with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission to get her job back.

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