‘Why Didn’t He Molest Me?’

In my capacity as a moral leader, I have to counsel a lot of hurt and confused men and women dealing with the hard knocks that life delivers.

Sometimes their pain comes from their rabbi being accused of molestation.

"I don’t understand it," they will say. "I never saw the slightest evidence for these charges. Do you think people might be making things up?"

With time and the right questions, I finally bring them to face their fear — that their former rabbi and teacher never chose them for molestation because they weren’t sexy enough.

"Why? Was I not pretty enough? Did he not find me attractive?"

It is important at these moments to not blame yourself.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see Amazon.com). My work has been covered in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and on 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (Alexander90210.com).
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