Category Archives: Personal

Should I Move In With My Friend Fred?

Fred emails: I’m going to go out on a limb and speculate that Luke does not want to leave LA. Khunrum: A bit more than speculation counselor. Could you be hoping Luke doesn’t want to relocate 400 miles north? Fred: … Continue reading

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I Don’t Like To Look At Fat People

Unless the person has some extraordinary qualities or proximities to me, I don’t like to look at fat people. If I see the person in shul or at work or in a writer’s group or at yoga and I get … Continue reading

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How Did I Get In This Position?

All the air went out of my tires tonight when I realized… This happens to me over and over again. I have to believe I have a backstop so that I can go out and do what I want. Then … Continue reading

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My Shameful Social Climbing

I’m not at all happy with where I am in life. I want to climb higher. I like the air where the elite hang out. I’ve had a few sniffs of it in my time (when I was traipsing along … Continue reading

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Out Of The Shadows

I was a little embarrassed this afternoon to be checking out this book from a librarian I know in the Jewish community while frum Jews were all around me!

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We Teach People How To Treat Us

I’ve been listening to this series of lectures by Igor Ledochowski on lifelong success. He makes these points about relationships: Over the long course, the life span of relationships, people will treat you the way that you’ve trained them to … Continue reading

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A Painful Life Lesson From Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Assignment: Write about a big lesson you’ve learned in life. Give the person you became an Indian name and give the lesson an Indian name. Person I became: Broken Arrow Lesson: Trying Too Hard I fear that I did something … Continue reading

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I Thought You Were Religious?

Friday. 7:30 pm. I’m at a friend’s home. The wife and kids have lit the Shabbos candles. They’re religious. He’s not so much. I sit with him on the couch and watch the Laker game. First, one kid comes over … Continue reading

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What If Luke Were Normal?

Greg Leake emails: Hi Luke, By this time, Luke, I think you pretty well understand that I basically like you, have been following your exploits for quite a while, I don’t hold your background against you, and you know I’ve … Continue reading

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Conversations With My Therapist

Scene one. Therapist, Buffy, pretty dark Persian female, 27, talks with bearded Orthodox Jew, 42. Therapist: “Do you want to connect with me?” Luke: “Wouldn’t that be unprofessional? You won’t even tell me if you’re Jewish. How can I connect … Continue reading

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