Dennis Prager Update

According to this Dec. 11 video from PragerU CEO Marissa Streit, Dennis is no longer breathing through a ventilator most of the time. Instead, he’s usually breathing through a cpap.

Using a ventilator for more than a few days has dangers:

Time on a ventilator can have lasting effects on a person’s mind and body for weeks and even months after leaving the hospital. This is called post-intensive care syndrome, and it can include physical weakness and cognitive dysfunction, sometimes called brain fog, marked by a loss of intellectual functions such as thinking, memory and reasoning. Patients with cognitive dysfunction have trouble recalling words, performing basic math and concentrating.

I don’t begrudge anyone fighting for their life soliciting all the help and prayers they can get. Vulnerability is scary.

When I first started listening to Dennis Prager on KABC radio in the fall of 1988, I noticed he loved hearing from people about how he had changed their life.

When I became a Prager fan, I knew what I needed to say to him to connect: “Dennis Prager, you’ve changed my life…”

Dennis gives people a recipe to feed him. Like Donald Trump, his appetite for praise cannot be quenched.

Gurus love praise from strangers, but many people find it creepy.

Would you like to receive a dozen roses from a stranger? I’m not sure I would. It might be disturbing.

Seeking praise from listeners via email is a bit like asking for roses from randos to your door. You’re seeking a one-sided connection with people you don’t know. You’re encouraging a parasocial relationship.

Just because you read my blog does not make you my friend. I don’t want parasocial relationships with people who listen to me online.

I suspect that healthy people primarily care about love from people they know.

Most women I’ve known did not appreciate attention and gifts from men they weren’t interested in, unlike actors who seem perpetually hungry for adulation from any source.

I can’t recall any public figure who so actively seeks praise as Dennis does (not just now, but throughout his career). I put into Google, “Why do people ask for praise?”

I got this AI response:

People seek praise from others because it acts as a form of social validation, boosting their self-esteem and sense of worth by confirming that they are doing things right and are valued by others; essentially, it fulfills a basic human need to be recognized and accepted by society, often leading to positive emotions when receiving compliments.
Key reasons why people seek praise:
Low self-esteem:
When someone has a low opinion of themselves, external validation through praise can be crucial to feeling good about themselves.
Social connection:
Being praised can strengthen relationships and make someone feel more connected to others.
Motivation:
Positive feedback can encourage someone to continue working hard and strive for improvement.
Dopamine release:
Receiving praise triggers the release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and reward, making it feel good to be recognized.
Cultural influence:
In many societies, there is a strong emphasis on achievement and recognition, which can lead to a greater desire for praise.
Important considerations:
Excessive praise-seeking:
While seeking some praise is normal, an excessive need for validation can indicate underlying issues like low self-esteem or narcissism.

I grew up in Australia where it is socially unacceptable to ask for praise.

I asked Grok why do people ask for praise and it answered in part:

Insecurity or Uncertainty: Sometimes, individuals might seek praise due to underlying insecurities or doubts about their abilities or worth. Asking for praise can be a way to alleviate these feelings by receiving external confirmation of their value or success.
Attention Seeking: On a more surface level, some might ask for praise simply because they desire attention. This isn’t always negative; it’s a fundamental human drive to be noticed and acknowledged.
Emotional Regulation: Praise can act as a mood booster or a stress reliever. The positive emotions associated with receiving praise can help in managing one’s emotional state, especially in stressful or high-pressure situations.

A significant reason that I post so much is that I enjoy feedback, but it would never occur to me to ask for praise. I often find more value in accurate criticism than in praise.

When I was young, external praise and criticism often shaped my moods, but as I aged, my own opinion of myself became more important than the opinion of randos. I reckon that 2020 was the year when my internal sense of myself became solid and I no longer needed other people to tell me who I am.

I can’t imagine moving through my 60s and 70s and soliciting strangers to tell me how I’ve changed their life. If such praise from strangers uplifts you, then criticism from strangers will depress you.

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Decoding America’s Slide Into Soft Totalitarianism 2013-2022 (12-15-24)

01:00 Don’t be a sucker, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=158267
09:30 Marc Andreessen on AI, Tech, Censorship and Dining With Trump, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgTeZXw-ytQ
13:00 Debanking over your politics, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=158257
16:00 Hollywood vs. America: Popular Culture and the War on Traditional Values, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=158243
30:00 The emerging counter-elite who are often more successful than the ruling elite
37:50 ‘Nick Fuentes gives credit where credit is due to Israel.’
40:00 What happened in Syria?
48:10 Kip joins to discuss admirable vs contemptible behavior
1:47:40 Democratic political strategist Lindy Li is not going to pre-hate everything Trump-related, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KO_fSBGFMoQ
1:55:30 “The Elites are Shaking” – CIA Analyst breaks down modern media manipulation, Trump, Elon, and Obama, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4wH-MsQpxo8
2:02:00 The Comfort of False Beliefs: Why We Crave Misinformation, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XK8jXJPbnLc
2:07:45 Politics as an identity akin to a religious identity
2:10:00 Psychology of disgust, https://www.aporiamagazine.com/p/the-psychology-of-disgust
2:25:30 Disgust as a vehicle for prejudice
2:33:30 Does America have vital interests in Syria?
2:36:00 Does Europe need to increase its defense spending?
2:39:30 Elbridge Colby vs John Mearsheimer on China, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0CfjlhAyZQw
2:58:00 Philosopher Rony Guldmann joins the show, https://ronyguldmann.com/
3:26:30 Transgender coverage in the news
3:38:30 American conservatives live under soft totalitarianism
3:43:00 Was Sam Bankman-Fried excessively punished?
3:49:00 Republicans are the low-IQ party
3:53:00 The best & brightest in academia are not woke

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How To Avoid Getting Conned

When I moved to Los Angeles in 1994 and pursued work in acting, I was taken for about $10,000 by various cons that appealed to my vanity. At the time I was handing over my money (and I was living out of my car so I could spend every spare dollar to follow my dreams), part of me knew this was a scam, but I paid out anyway to live out my fantasies.

The more strongly I want something, the more vulnerable I am to scams. On the other hand, the better I am able to step away from my desires and try to see things from a third party perspective, the more clearly I see reality.

Ties bind and blind, notes Jonathan Haidt.

A good life is with your in-group, but to see clearly, you have to step outside of your group and consider things briefly from the ten-thousand foot level. For example, when it comes to politics, I accept that different groups have different interests, and so I don’t primarily see the Muslim-Israeli Jewish conflict as bad guys vs good guys.

One of my favorite resets is to let go of everything I believe and to just live in awareness for a few seconds. When I do this practice, I notice my body tension decreases and my breath comes more easily.

I often start to meditate and then get some startling insights.

I heard this good advice from a veteran KFI programmer for talk show hosts — prepare for your show the day before and then allow insights to come to you as do other things.

Living in truth is not always recipe for happiness. If buying into a con doesn’t hurt you, if in fact it helps you, then I say believe away. If you are lucky enough to think that your wife is the most beautiful woman in the world and that your people are the most noble in the world, then believe away.

Philosopher Michael Huemer writes:

The typical con has four elements: (1) A background Desire that you have that is unsatisfied, (2) a Story that appeals to that desire, (3) an Action the scammer wants you to do, (4) some supposed Connection between the Story and the Action, such that if you believe the Story, you are supposed to do the Action…

Example 2: Religion

Apologies to my Believing readers, but doesn’t religion kind of fit the pattern?

Desire: The near-universal desire for life and happiness, for an end to pain and strife; the desire to be reunited with dead loved ones.

Story: There is a place where there is maximal happiness, love, and basically everything good, and nothing bad. There is an all-powerful entity who is literally the best conceivable thing, and he wants to give you a literally infinite amount of goodness.

Action: Join this religion.

4. Left-Wing Scams
In the last several years, political scamming has soared in popularity as people on both sides of the political spectrum have become ridiculous suckers. Think of how you feel about people who fall for the Nigerian Prince scam: that’s probably how I feel about a lot of your political beliefs.

In this case, the Desire will be a desire to have your ideological beliefs confirmed, to “own” the other side, or to participate in striking a blow for the values of your side.

Let’s start with left-wing scams. Woke leftists have a standing desire to believe that racism is all over the place, to position themselves as crusaders against it, and to believe that the other side is evil.

Jussie

A scammer like Jussie Smollett knows how to take advantage of that: Tell a story about how you’re a victim of racism. Wokists will basically never be suspicious about any such story, no matter how odd the details are. In this case, I suppose Jussie just wanted more attention and sympathy. Other scammers would use stories in that genre to get jobs, to gain sympathy, or to excuse bad behavior on their part. (Compare: Claudine Gay.)

DEI training

Or consider DEI trainings at big corporations. These appeal to the progressive desire to position themselves as anti-racists and to assuage their white guilt. The Story is that these trainers are experts who know how to stop racism. Clearly, the Action called for is to give them a bunch of money to lecture your employees.

Scams usually involve something that is “too good to be true” – that is, they take advantage of the target’s desire to avoid accepting unpleasant realities. For left-wing scams, these unpleasant realities might include:

a. There are many good people who disagree with you.

b. There isn’t any simple, cheap way to get black Americans to succeed, e.g., to close the income gap. All plans that might actually help would be difficult and costly.

c. And they would probably require black people themselves to change; it can’t all be done by whitey.

The “too good to be true” claim would be that the problems of black America can be fixed by having white progressives sit around and talk about their ideology.

Trump scams
Progressives have a standing desire to see Trump discredited and/or humiliated. This makes them vulnerable to any story that makes Trump look bad. E.g., the “very fine people” meme (definitely bogus) or the story about the “pee tape” (likely bogus). Unfortunately, this makes it easier for Republicans to dismiss the damaging things that are actually true.

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Debanking

In a recent interview with Bari Weiss, Marc Andreessen talks about America’s slide soft authoritarianism between 2013 to 2022.

Every public pronouncement I remember from Andreesen seemed like commonsense (unlike those of Elon Musk, which are often nonsense).

Over the past ten years, I’ve increasingly heard about people on the right getting debanked for their political views. Debanking is not primarily about individual bank managers making nasty decisions, it is about a structure set up by TARP in 2008 and chiefly weaponized by Democrats against their opponents.

DC Journal published:

In her new memoir, former First Lady Melania Trump reveals that she was abruptly dropped by a bank with which she had a long-standing financial relationship. She also discloses that her son, Barron, was blocked from opening a new account at the same bank, the name of which she does not reveal.

It’s unclear from the memoir if the bank harbored concerns about the legality of her deposits, or if bank associates were motivated by animus against the Trump family, since banks and not required to alert customers about either of those things. But Melania believes the refusal to open an account for Barron, at least, was driven by political discrimination.

Banks, like other private businesses, have the right to refuse service to would-be customers —whether for reputational risks, financial risks, or compliance concerns. However, there is a growing sense that financial institutions are being “nudged” by state regulators to act in line with political priorities.

Debanking is an alarming problem in the banking industry. It is the practice of financial institutions refusing services for political reasons to individuals, companies, or organizations. The relationship between a firm’s discretion, preference, and behind-the-scenes governmental pressure on financial firms has grown more intertwined since the 2008 financial crisis. Following the 2008 crash, a host of new laws and regulations were introduced around the world, such as the Dodd-Frank Act and Basel III, respectively, increasing regulatory scrutiny on banks’ risk management and corporate governance practices.

Most notoriously, the Obama administration’s “Operation Choke Point” targeted specific industries, such as firearms and ammunition manufacturers, by pressuring banks to cut off financial services. The initiative received blowback and revealed how government regulatory power can be misused to limit financial access. More recently, regulators have pressured banks to deny financial services to crypto-related businesses in what is being called Choke Point 2.0.

The Economist:

“What do Barron Trump, son of the president-elect; some Islamic charities in Britain; and America’s legal cannabis industry have in common? This is not a set-up for a bad joke. Rather, all have been at the sharp end of a rise in “debanking”, having lost or been refused access to the services of commercial lenders.”

The Heritage Foundation published Dec. 10:

President Biden has overseen nearly four years of a two-tiered justice system, as his pardoning of Hunter Biden and the political persecutions of then-candidate Donald Trump make all too clear.

But there have been quieter attacks on justice, like “debanking”—and few people realize they could be the next victims because they are a “politically exposed person,” that is someone who disagrees with the liberal status quo.

Debanking is a kind of financial blackballing that has appeared within just the last 20 years.

It started under then-President Barack Obama as a war to punish those seen as political enemies, like firearm manufacturers. Government documents unsealed at the end of 2020 proved that the federal government used its regulatory authority over financial markets to attack political opponents.

Government regulators essentially make it impossible for certain people or businesses to make online transactions, or to have a bank account or a credit card…

Dr. Joseph Mercola, a critic of the COVID vaccine, found his business accounts shut down by JP Morgan Chase, a move his chief financial officer claimed was at the same time Mercola spoke out against the Food and Drug Administration.

In her new memoir, Melania Trump says her bank account was terminated after the riots of Jan. 6, 2021, and her son Barron was unable to open his own account. She called it “political discrimination.”

In the modern world, exclusion from electronic financial services is an economic death sentence.

Regulators will claim that they’re not technically forbidding a private bank from doing business with an individual, and that the bank is freely choosing not to have that person as a customer.

But the reality is very different—because of the undue influence and control in the hands of today’s bloated administrative state.

A bureaucrat can make someone’s life so difficult that the victim is forced to comply—the government strong-arming a private individual or institution into doing what the government itself cannot do by law.

It’s like when the Biden administration pressured social-media companies into deplatforming anyone who questioned political talking points about the COVID pandemic.

The debanking scourge under President Biden has hit the crypto world particularly hard. The Securities and Exchange Commission has unleashed a plague of investigations, some real and some merely threatened, to force innovators and investors out of that space.

Dozens of tech and crypto founders have been debanked under Biden, and their inventions smothered.

On Joe Rogan‘s podcast, venture capitalist Marc Andreessen blamed the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, a group set up at the behest of Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) to go after crypto firms in particular.

“Basically every crypto founder, every crypto startup, either got debanked personally and forced out of the industry, or their company got debanked,” Andreessen said.

Andreessen added that others, like Kanye West, have been debanked, “For having the wrong politics. For saying unacceptable things. Under current banking regulations, after all the reforms of the last 20 years, there’s now a category called a politically exposed person, PEP. And if you are a PEP, you are required by financial regulators to kick them off, to kick them out of your bank.”

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Hollywood vs. America: Popular Culture and the War on Traditional Values

There’s nothing I find so regularly disturbing in movies and TV as sex scenes between dudes. I recently had to stop watching the Netflix thriller series Black Doves because of the incessant explicit homo sex scenes.

I don’t think I’m alone in my involuntary disgust reaction.

This academic study written up in The Pink News (“PinkNews is the world’s largest and most influential LGBTQ+ led media brand”) in 2017 rings true:

The study, which was carried out by the American Institute of Bisexuality, found that even those who say they are accepting of the LGBT community have a physical reaction upon seeing two men showing affection for each other.

The participants were shown images of gay men kissing, hugging and engaging in sexual activities.

Scientists then measured the levels of salivary alpha-amylase present in the men’s saliva, which is a type of a digestive enzyme which has links to stress and disgust.

Dr Blair and their team found that when they were presented pictures of gay men kissing, the participants produced the same salivary alpha-amylase levels as when they were confronted with images of rotting flesh and maggots.

It also showed that the level of alpha-amylase was the same for those who were shown to be tolerant of gay relationships and those who were not.

Here’s an example of the opposite approach studios could take: FT: “Religious films are a saving grace in tough year for Hollywood”

I’m willing to put up with a lot of my internal disgust reactions if the movie or TV series is great. Black Doves was mediocre so it wasn’t a big sacrifice to give it up. The TV series Industry and Aaron Hernandez: American Sports Story were great and so I didn’t give up watching despite all the gay sex. I also loved the gay cowboys movie Brokeback Mountain. I just stopped watching during the four homo scenes.

Michael Medved wrote in his 1992 book, Hollywood vs. America:

In 1990, for example, NBC lost several hundred thousand dollars when it proved unable to sell all the available advertising time on its controversial docudrama on the abortion issue, Roe vs. Wade. ABC took an even bigger hit by sanctioning the inclusion of a scene in “thirtysomething” in which two gay male characters appear in bed together, talking about the one – night stand they’ve just enjoyed. This brief sequence cost the network more than $1 million in lost revenue, but following the fiasco top corporate officials assured “thirtysomething” producers that “they would fully support any future exploration of the gay characters’ lives.” True to their word, they authorized another show in the next season (1991) in which the same two characters exchange a midnight kiss at a New Year’s party. This time, advertiser withdrawals cost the network more than $500,000. “I am grateful that ABC was willing to air the program at a loss,” said Ed Zwick, co – creator of the critically acclaimed series. Robert A. Iger, president of ABC Entertainment, told the press that his support for the embattled episode reflected his “social and creative responsibilities.”
Along similar lines, NBC aired a January 1992 edition of “Quantum Leap” about a heroic homosexual cadet who becomes the victim of gay – bashing aimed at a naval college. Four months before the broadcast, NBC executives had asked Universal Television, producers of the series, to accept liability for any lost advertising revenue associated with the episode’s controversial content, but in the end they relented and agreed to swallow the loss themselves. The predictable result of this noble decision: a setback for the network estimated by official sources as “about $500,000.”
This pattern — repeated on several other shows in recent years — could be applauded as a courageous example of unselfish devotion to principle, or it could be condemned as a stubborn refusal to respond to public and advertiser concerns over highly sensitive materials. In any event, it demonstrates that in today’s Hollywood, the famous bottom line is not always the bottom line.

No one could deny that the formidable gay presenee in the entertainment business encourages industry leaders to take a far more sympathetic view of homosexuality than does the public at large. In a 1990 study of “Hollywood opinion leaders” by University of Texas government professor David F. Prindle, 68 percent said they supported “gay rights,” compared to only 12 percent who endorsed that position in a 1987 national Times Mirror poll. More recently, an impressive array of the Hollywood establishment’s most influential figures have provided support for leading gay rights organizations. In August 1991, top executives from all four television networks and from the eight largest movie studios served together on the host committee for a gala dinner to benefit the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force.

Two years ago, Maga9428 posted on Patriots.win:

I have had it with this bullshit, I’m so tired of seeing gay shit thrown into otherwise normal TV shows. If a movie or TV show is going to have gay kisses or sex scenes then it needs to be a movie/TV show intentionally made for gay people. But this crap of just pushing gay shit into TV shows that aren’t about gay stuff is becoming more then just obnoxious. Its intolerable and disgusting.

Straight men do not want to watch dudes kissing or fucking other dudes. Its fucking repulsive, and completely unnecessary on top of that. And I’m sick of seeing Hollywood shilling lesbian crap too. I’ve absolutely had it with these giant corporations not giving a shit anymore about what their customers actually want and instead just trying to shove their beliefs down our throats.

I scroll and scroll on Google about this disgust reaction by straights to unexpected gay scenes and I can find no respectful or sympathetic treatment of our pain. Similarly, I scroll and scroll through Google and can find no sympathetic treatment of the distress normal people feel when they can’t figure out whether someone is male or female. I guess our pain doesn’t matter.

Grok gave an even-handed reaction when I wrote in: “I hate seeing gay scenes in movies/tv”

Grok included this response:

Opposition to Inclusion:
Personal Discomfort: Some individuals express discomfort or dislike for these scenes, often citing personal taste or cultural upbringing. This discomfort might not necessarily stem from homophobia but from a general aversion to sex scenes or unfamiliarity with non-heterosexual relationships.

Oversaturation Concerns: There are opinions that the inclusion of gay characters or scenes has become excessive or tokenistic, used more for the sake of appearing inclusive rather than serving the narrative genuinely. This perspective sometimes leads to discussions about whether such inclusions are forced or if they contribute meaningfully to the story.

Grok linked to this LaShaun Turner essay:

“I don’t mind if people are gay or transgender, it’s their choice and body and none of my business. However, I’m offended to see this rammed down my throat every tv show I watch as if it’s normal when it isn’t. I don’t accept that and shouldn’t be forced to. Be gay but don’t be overly graphic about it to prove a point. Where is my choice? I don’t want to see that garbage as it repulses me,” wrote one commenter on a thread.

I don’t enjoy watching gay sex scenes. I find it somewhat repulsive. In my opinion, it would be better to insinuate it, that’s enough.

Grok linked to this Reddit post:

Why are LGBTQ Characters so Over-Represented in modern Television, Movies and Streaming (Especially Netflix)?
According to Where We Are on TV Report – 2020 | GLAAD , LGBTQ characters represent 9.1% of characters on prime-time T.V.

The largest reputable estimate of the LGBTQ population I could find is 5.6%. LGBT Identification Rises to 5.6% in Latest U.S. Estimate (gallup.com) (Note that this number has increased from 3.5% to 5.6% in the past 9 years).

Using these numbers alone, representation of LGBTQ characters in prime-time television is a whopping 71% higher than what you might expect to find in reality, however when you compare the numbers of specific stations it is clear some take it further than others.

The CW is the leader of the pack, having had 14.2% of their characters as LGBTQ. This is an astounding 2.5x higher than our best guess at representation in the real world.

The report from GLAAD does not detail the specific percentages for streaming services (although reading the report suggests they have the data available) however one thing is abundantly clear: Netflix Originals have by far more LGBTQ characters than other producers.

There are roughly the same amount of LGBTQ characters in Netflix produced shows (110 total counted) than in The CW, ABC, FOX, NBC, CBS, Amazon Prime and Hulu Combined (111 total counted).

Grok linked to this X post: “I am getting so tired of almost every show/movie coming out and having some male homosexual effeminate character that adds nothing to the story. It is disturbing because the majority of gay males do not act like women or broadcast gay.”

I asked Grok: “I find it disturbing when I can’t tell if somebody is male or female.” I got back a purely PC response: “Luke, it sounds like you’re grappling with some discomfort around gender ambiguity. This is a common feeling for many people as societal norms around gender become less binary.”

I put “distress” into a search of Rony Guldmann’s book Conservative Claims of Cultural Oppression and received more empathy for my lived experience:

* “psychic distress is a kind of mental pain” and “is plainly something that people prefer to avoid.” There is thus an obvious sense in which conduct that causes it—like the consumption or dissemination of pornography—is “harmful” and falls within the ambit of the harm-principle, irrespective of secondary effects. The same holds true of communal harm: “If people get satisfaction or happiness from living in a particular kind of community, then conduct that subverts that kind of community and thus reduces such happiness inflicts a kind of ‘harm.’”

Yet liberals will greet such claims with “peremptory dismissal” and “dismissive indignation,”…

* Though the old Victorians have an undeserved reputation as meddlesome moralists and officious busybodies, they would in reality “have been as distressed by the overtness and formality of college regulations governing sexual conduct (with explicit consent required at every stage of the sexual relation) as by the kind of conduct—promiscuity, they would have called it—implicitly sanctioned by those regulations.”

* Therapism seeks to “professionalize” normal human distress, appropriating common sense as its own special province, and thus persuade the public that it requires specialized assistance to cope with normal human travails. Enfeebling the objects of its compassion, therapism is an assault on the “American Creed” and its paramount virtues of self-reliance, stoicism, and courage. In undermining these, argues Sommers, therapism has gradually slid the nation into a permanent regime of “therapeutic self-absorption and moral debility.” By resisting the solicitude of therapeutically-minded liberals, conservatives are once again signaling their rejection of the disciplines and repressions of the buffered identity, whose innerness they cannot but see as “therapeutic self-absorption.” Their antagonism to therapeutic ideals is merely one outgrowth of their broader resistance to the liberal elites’ ordering impulses, which are always lying underneath the altruism. In rejecting these impulses in favor of “the trials of everyday life,” conservatives are embracing the pre-modern anti-structure that forever upsets all merely human designs, announcing their resignation to the flux and disorder that the modern order refuses to acknowledge.

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