Failed Messiah: ‘If At First You Don’t Succeed, Sue the Victim’

Shmarya Rosenberg writes on FailedMessiah.com:

A Chabad man serves as the hazzan of a Chabad synagogue. Several years ago, outside another synagogue after a community event, the Chabad hazzan sexually assaults a woman who is a member of the Chabad synagogue. He is eventually arrested and pleaded guilty to a misdemeanor charge of lewd conduct. He is sentenced, serves a very brief time, is given probation and community service.

Meanwhile, the victim civilly sues Chabad, in part because she claims Chabad sheltered the hazzan. Now Chabad has sought a judgment against the victim for more than $175,000 in attorneys’ fees, and a judge is about to grant that.

The Chabad? Las Vegas, Nevada. The Rabbi? She Harlig. The hazzan? Michael Segelstein. As Jewish Survivors notes:

Rabbi Harlig is attempting to sue a rape victim for attorney fees. This is a rape victim of a convicted sex offender who is on the national sex offender list.

Immediately after the arrest, Rabbi Harlig falsely claimed this victim – who worked in the synagogue’s kitchen – was not Jewish. She went to the RCA’s beit din. They investigated and found Rabbi Harlig’s claim false. The woman is the daughter of a Jewish holocaust survivor from Vienna, Austria. The beit din issued her a document verifying her Jewishness. But, during the time the beit din was investigating Rabbi Harlig’s false claims, this woman’s teenage son – a very active synagogue goer and participant – was forced to sit in the back of the synagogue. He was banned from receiving aliyot or leading services. And he was shunned by other members, as was his mother, apparently at the direction of Rabbi Harlig.

And the man who attempted to rape this woman? He is a proud member of Chabad to this day, leading services and fully participating in synagogue life.

A double standard? You bet it is. And that double standard is sanctioned by and orchestrated by Chabad-Lubavitch.

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Rabbi Mordecai Tendler appeals court award of legal fees and costs against him in action against bloggers

Here’s more on Mordecai Tendler. Here’s a link to the case information. Here’s Mordecai’s appeal. Here’s the response from the bloggers’ attorney.

Mordecai’s brother Aron appears headed for divorce. He’s moving to Baltimore. About four years ago, Aron put his Valley Village house in his wife’s name, so if he got sued, the property could not be touched.

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If You Are A Married Man, Why Do You Not Wear A Wedding Ring?

Dennis Prager says it was a given until 20 years ago. He doesn’t understand why married men don’t wear a wedding band.

Prager is a religious Jew. He should know (and does) that religious Jewish men do not wear jewelry, including wedding bands.

I won’t wear one because I’m so religious. Also, I’m not married.

Aside from religious and vocational reasons, Prager’s found the only reason men don’t wear a wedding band is because they’re uncomfortable announcing to the world that they are married.

DP on Aug. 1: "It’s harder to change women’s minds because they believe their instincts are right. Men have less faith in their instincts [and more in their reason]. When you appeal to a man’s reasoning process, you [can] get far."

ChayyeiSarah blogs:

…What I’m talking about is the assumption that I must be looking for dirt. Now, it is true that I’ve written a few “expose” type of articles, in which I brought other people’s bad behavior to light. When I interview the people who are guilty of bad behavior, they have every reason to be defensive. I may be striving to be fair and balanced, but ultimately, they are in the hot seat.

No, what makes me laugh is when I’m interviewing people for, let’s say, an article for a Jewish newspaper about wedding bands, and they act as if they are George Bush at a press conference about Iraq’s WMD. If they say something off the cuff that is less than nice, they fall all over themselves saying “please don’t print that.”

Really, when I write these little service pieces, my goal is not at all to cause trouble for people. I’m just writing about, say, the pros and cons of different kinds of bands. Nothing terrible. In fact, I enjoy the fact that I’m giving free publicity to the bandmembers I interview.

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NOAH FELDMAN PLAYS A DANGEROUS GAME OF CONNECT THE DOTS

Shira Dicker (married to journalist Ari Goldman whose mother Judy was the sister of Mindy Lamm, Rabbi Norman’s sister) posts:

I personally think that Maimonides’ decision to airbrush you out of their newsletter was pretty stupid. But you shouldn’t have been surprised. To be surprised is kind of disingenuous, isn’t it, Noah? You know the consequences of marrying a non-Jew within the Orthodox community.

Some readers of your essay familiar with the goings-on inside Orthodox Jewish community might conclude that you must have been dozing in day school during that lesson on sure-fire ways to obliterate the Jewish future. Numero uno: marry out and raise non-Jewish kids. Have the line end with you. Finish the job Hitler left undone.

Other readers might conclude that you want it both ways: to spit in the face of the community and receive applause for marrying the woman you love…who happens not to be Jewish.

But this reader thinks that in your pain and hurt at the rejection of you and your wife by the Orthodox community of your youth, you have marshaled all your forces, all your intellectual aptitude and built a dangerous missile, pointed straight at the Jewish community at large, packed with enough ammo to inflict real damage.

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Homeless Chicks Are Not Hot

All my favorite pick-up joints — the library, Star Bucks, Pico and Robertson Blvds — are getting overrun with mentally ill homeless. It’s not a turn-on for me.

I was in Starbucks this evening and there was a homeless lady there drinking her coffee and getting counseling. She had nice legs and blonde hair but her face was weatherbeaten. I didn’t feel safe enough to bring her home, and I have low standards.

I support gentrification for Pico-Robertson. If you can’t stay clean and sane, then move on to where the black people live.

Chaim Amalek writes:

As satire (if that is what you had intended), this would be funnier if you had said “shvartzes” instead of “black people”. The former can be interpreted as hip Jewish self deprecation, whereas the latter sounds mean-spirited and too close to what many really think.

I am soon set to open the Amalek School of Social Satire, for bloggers of all political stripes. For $250, you can not do better.

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Modern Orthodox – The Play

According to the Jewish Journal:

July 31-September 2
What happens when a secular Jewish couple living on the Upper West Side collides with an Orthodox diamond dealer from Brooklyn? Head to Beverly Hills to find out, where the West Coast premiere of Daniel Goldfarb’s "Modern Orthodox" will be playing until September. The romantic comedy is loaded with humor that only a bona fide member of the tribe would appreciate. Mon.-Sat. at 8 p.m., Sat.-Sun. at 2 p.m. $20-$22. Theatre 40, Reuben Cordova Theatre, Beverly Hills High School, 241 Moreno Drive, Beverly Hills.
(310) 364-0535. http://www.theatre40.org.

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I’m Getting Profiled In Thursday’s Jewish Journal

Aug. 2, 2007 cover story.

By Brad A. Greenberg. I spent about six hours with him last Thursday, posed for some pictures Friday for the Journal’s French gal photographer, and today the Journal’s web guy is coming over to shoot some video of my glamorous life.

It’s about time that my prodigious efforts on behalf of humanity receive their just recognition.

PS. So Dennis the web guy (a few months ago he deleted my post to the Jewish Journal forums because I quoted this literary aside by Jonathan Ames in  his novel Wake Up, Sir!: "She encouraged, so I put a finger inside her, slow and respectful, like a Jew stepping inside a church") came by with his Canon camera. I thought I wouldn’t have much to say but once he turned his camera on, I couldn’t stop talking and he had to shut me up after a few minutes. The problem was that I knew Danielle Berrin was going to watch this, so I got nervous and lost my voice. I didn’t however lose all my sense, managing to get my wisdom across to the younger and hotter generation through ancient aboriginal hand signals (wrongly considered obscene by my co-religionists to the right).

Did I tell you how much I loathe this personal attention? I’m all about the work.

PPS. I just found some notes for my week-long dialogue with KTLA’s Eric Spillman:

I’m not a blog triumphalist. I have no allegiance to any particular system of delivering information, be it pigeons, smoke signals or TVs.

Journalism rules, like traffic rules, are important but they are not the most important thing about a piece of communication. What matters most is merit. Everything else (whether a person signs his name to the writing, whether it is on a blog or a newspaper or it is read over the radio, whether it conforms to the principles of good journalism, etc) is secondary.

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Bank Financial Scandal Brewing

A source says: A financial scandal is brewing that the LA Times, as usual, is slow to pick up. It goes like this. When you have an adjustable rate mortgage, your payment is initially fixed, let’s say at $2500 a month. When rates go up, your monthly payment goes up. However, all of these "ARMs" (adjustable rate mortgages") allow you to keep paying the base payment of $2,500 and add the increased payment to your principal balance. This is known as "negative amortization" – instead of amortizing your loan down, you are adding to the balance.

Since rates have gone up, lots of borrowers have been allowing negative amortization to occur, and now, their principal balances are in excess of their homes’ value. For instance, borrower buys a home for $400,000 and borrows $320,000. His monthly payment is about $1700 a month. Rates have gone up the past few years, and the payment has been running closer to $2000 a month. Over three years of this increased payments, the borrower has added about $15,000 to his mortgage balance (the $300 a month in extra payment not made per month, multiplied by 3-4 years). Now the mortgage balance is $335,000 and if the buyer took out a home equity line of say, $40,000, the total loan balance on the property is $375,000 ($320,000 original loan, $15,000 negative amortization, and $40,000 home equity loan).

As you know, prices are down in some areas by 20-30% and falling further as the market softens. So now the $400,000 house is only worth $320,000 and the borrower is upside down. The bank’s loan of $320,000, now up to $335,000 looks to be in jeopardy, and people are advising buyers to just walk away or give the bank back the house for $320,000. But THAT IS NOT HOW THE BANK IS REPORTING IT. Instead, banks like First Federal, Downey Savings, Washington Mutual (they are mortgage lenders more than banks, they are heavily invested in real estate), are including negative amortization, which is a classic doubtful account, as earnings. Somehow, an increased IOU from a shaky borrower, is income. The whole negative amortization thing is is like giving crack to an addict.

So many local area banks have this negative amortization that the LA Times should be sending its reporters out, but of course that will not happen. You can read about negative amortization on some blogs and in business week, but not at the LA Times.

From the July 29, 2007 edition of the Los Angeles Times, the column by Robert J. Bruss:

Question:When my adjustable-rate mortgage was recently "recast" to current interest rates, the unpaid interest was added to the mortgage principal balance. I now owe about 110% of my home’s market value. I recently lost my job. Do I have any recourse to convince the mortgage lender to do the right thing?

Answer: You enjoyed the low monthly mortgage payments for a year or two after obtaining that mortgage. When the mortgage terms provided for a "recast" to a higher interest rate and larger monthly payment, the lender added the unpaid interest to your mortgage balance. This is called "negative amortization" because you owe more than you borrowed.

If you are unable to make the higher mortgage payments, ask your lender if you can sell the house for its current market value as payment in full on the mortgage. This is called a "short sale."

Most lenders will approve a short sale only if you are behind in monthly mortgage payments with little hope for catching up.

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Damage Control

Danielle Berrin blogs:

Francesca Lia Block told the audience the reading would be difficult for her because her story was so personal. In it, she revealed a deep shame over her appearance and the botched plastic surgeries that worsened her self-concept.

It is in those moments of pain, when a woman is messy underneath, that she craves a little ‘lift,’ a touch of color, or a new ‘do. When her appearance improves, her emotions follow suit. Or do they?

…An anonymous makeup artist who works at a strip club wrote, "Sometimes, the only peace in a woman’s day is the twenty-minutes when she’s getting her toes done or her fingernails done. The only time she has when someone else is completely focusing on her. One of those rare opportunities when someone’s looking her in the eyes and seeing what she needs."

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Annulling A Conversion

From the Jerusalem Post:

In February, Ashdod Rabbinic Court judge Rabbi Avraham Atia issued a ruling that shocked many outside the rabbinic establishment. Basing his verdict on the fact that a woman who came to him seeking to divorce her husband was not observing Shabbat and the laws of ritual family purity, Atia annulled her 15-year-old conversion, retroactively ruling her and her till-then Jewish children non-Jews, and automatically annulling the marriage.

In his decision, Atia also attacked the state Conversion Authority and its courts, which operate under the formal direction of the widely-respected Rabbi Haim Druckman. "These ‘courts’ permit 100 percent gentiles to marry into the Jewish people," Atia wrote. "And they cause many people to sin terribly. They have turned conversions into a joke. The judges are nothing less than blasphemers and evildoers. And since the judges are criminals, none of the conversions they perform should be recognized."

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