Many people ask converts to Judaism if they feel accepted by other Jews and some converts complain about a lack of acceptance. I’ve found that most Jews I’ve known accept me 100% as Jewish and treat me indistinguishably from others Jews. I’ve long been counted in the minyan and called to the Torah for an aliyah. I may be fooling myself, but it sure feels like acceptance to me. They’ve brought me into their homes for meals, they’ve set me up on dates with Jewesses born into the tribe (usually the dregs, but hey, no rabbis daughters have come my way), they’ve offered me jobs, they’ve rented apartments to me, sold me cars, etc. Most of the Jews who don’t accept me don’t accept me on my own demerits and they do accept other converts who have gotten with the program.
When you were here before
Couldn’t look you in the eye
You’re just like an angel
Your skin makes me cry
You float like a feather
In a beautiful world
I wish I was special
You’re so fucking special
But I’m a creep
I’m a weirdo
What the hell am I doing here?
I don’t belong here
I don’t care if it hurts
I wanna have control
I want a perfect body
I want a perfect soul
I want you to notice
When I’m not around
You’re so fucking special
I wish I was special
But I’m a creep
I’m a weirdo
What the hell am I doing here?
I don’t belong here
She’s running out the door
She’s running out
She run run run run…
Run…
Whatever makes you happy
Whatever you want
You’re so fucking special
I wish I was special
But I’m a creep
I’m a weirdo
What the hell am I doing here?
I don’t belong here
I don’t belong here
The late comedian Patrice O’Neal said: “White people have had a bad rap.”
“White people have this innate thing where they want to feel bad. That’s why they voted for Barack. I’m a creep. I didn’t own slaves, but I’m a weirdo.”
An important bit of advice by O’Neal for nonwhites trying to learn how to deal with whites: “You cannot meet passive aggression with aggression.”
Microaggressions are a hallmark of a high civilization — e.g., the dialogue in Jane Austen’s or Evelyn Waugh’s novels — so they are particularly irritating to people worried that they come from a lower civilizational level, inciting them to respond with macroaggressions.
If I look for rejection from Jews, I can find it. If I look for acceptance, I can find that too. I guess it is up to me to decide what to concentrate on.
Steven: “When I worked at Strand book store in New York City one of my supervisors was a black American convert to Orthodox Judaism. He chided me about being non-observant (I was raised Reform and never Bar Mitzvah-ed). He wore a prayer shawl and payos at work. I never doubted this guy was a zillion percent more Jewish than I was.”
“Judaism is a religion, and despite Hitler and all the DNA research into Jewish genetic relatedness (which I welcome), it is not a race. When I worked at Strand I respected my black convert supervisor Tom Weatherly as a Jewish elder. Tom knew and experienced more about Judaism than I ever did or will, as I am sure Luke Ford has done. The faith and the culture of Judaism means more than genetics. It’s both offensive (and unfounded) to say otherwise. I’m sure a hell of a lot of Islamic supremacist Palestinian Arabs have ancient Hebrew ancestors. What’s important is the choices you make and the tradition you identify with.”
Chris: “What polite Jews may say to your face, Luke, and what they really think of you, could be entirely different things. I don’t believe Jews really trust any Goy deep down, even converts to the tribe, or those who marry into it. At best, it is grudging acceptance, though they aren’t really happy about it.”
Chris: “Jews are not a race in the classic sense of the term and run the gamut of phenotypes from kinky-haired and hook-nosed Mizrahis to Aryan blond, blue-eyes, snub nosed Ashkenazi, but there is a peculiar mentality ingrained in Jews culturally and spirtually where they see themselves as and often act as if they are racially distinct from the Goyim they live amongst.”
Corwin: “It’s a figment of your self regard that any jew would ever welcome you into his family. Sorry, bud.”
Luke: “Jews aren’t polite. So when a Jewish family has me over for Shabbat meals in excess of 50 times? That is all just for show? I’m not sure exactly what they get out of my presence if it is just for show. Show to whom? I don’t think anyone can read my blog or my FB and think I slant my impressions in favor of the Jews.”
Corwin: “A friend, a Shabbat guest, a co-religionist — sure. When you say that you have been set up with jewesses, I’m sure it’s not by a father with a daughter, but with a distant relative or cast of acquaintance.”
I’ve had Jewish fathers try to set me up with their daughters, but admittedly the daughters were 5s or below if I recall correctly. Some of them were a bit retarded.
There are a lot of Orthodox rabbis who are converts to Judaism and they have respected positions in Jewish life and are often married to women born Jewish.
