‘This Is How You Write About Someone You Love?’

In 1998, I met a woman at synagogue. We started talking. I found her attractive, smart and accomplished. She had a PhD. She’d dated this rabbi I admired.

I started going out with this woman. After a few dates, I brought her over to my apartment. It was around September.

I showed her my website on Dennis Prager. As she read it, she started crying. “This is how you write about someone you love?” she said.

I felt strange. I thought my writing was funny.

We lay down. The neighbors were yelling. “You’ve got to get out of here,” said the woman. “You’ve got to move.”

A few days later, we hung out at the pool. It was the first time I saw her legs. They were flabby. There were no muscles. They were a big turn-off to me.

I decided to break up.

Despite my decision, or perhaps because of it, I started questioning her intensely about her life.

She’d set a rule for me, no photographing naked women for my website lukeford.com. No topless shots. No nudity.

So after I decided to break up with her, I went on a set and shot some topless photos and posted them on my website.

She called me that evening. “I guess you’ve made your decision,” she said. I agreed.

She was confused. Why had I questioned her so intensely if I was breaking up with her?

She went on to a long relationship with a friend. He later told me it was the relationship from hell.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see Amazon.com). My work has been followed by the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (Alexander90210.com).
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