For my own sanity, I need to make amends to the people I’ve hurt, so long as making the amends doesn’t inflict further hurt.
I’m working the Fourth Step now, “making a complete and fearless moral inventory.” Actually making amends is not until Step Eight. I shouldn’t rush things.
I used to do a lot of juggling multiple women at once. I was scrupulously honest, I thought. I never claimed to any one of them that we were in a committed relationship, but I didn’t let them know all that was going on with me. This is a tricky area, making amends here might do more damage than good.
