If your spouse has some kind of syndrome, how much should you put up with?
I say you should not put up with any more than if the spouse had no such diagnosis or syndrome.
There’s nothing that forces you to treat somebody badly. There’s no syndrome that forces you to speak badly to your family.
In my experience, some people take advantage of their syndromes to abuse others. Other people with as much duress treat others beautifully.
Some wives claim PMS as their excuse for treating others badly. I don’t buy it.