You Have To Make An Effort

On Dennis Prager’s radio show today, psychiatrist Dr. Stephen Marmer said: “Happiness, love, creativity, will power, all of them need input. Entropy, the tendency for things to disintegrate, is the default state. If we don’t put energy in, we’re going to be gloomy. If we put energy in, we have a chance to be loving, happy, creative. If you don’t make an effort to be happy, you’re not going to be happy.”

Dennis: “We assume that the given in a holiday is to be happy and if something is missing, something is wrong. But something is missing.”

Dr. Marmer: “One of the antidotes to giving up is to give to. If you feel like you are ready to give up, the best antidote is to give to someone else. There’s always someone who needs you. And when you do give to them, you will feel better.”

“Those who try to make it a perfect holiday will diminish their happiness. Make it a good holiday.”

“There is no correct way to warn. You should never reproach yourself for crying too much or not enough. We all have to do it in the way that moves inside of us.”

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