A young man converting to Judaism tells me: “The problem I have is that most orthodox women (90% +???) won’t recognize a ger (a convert to Judaism) unless he has an RCA-approved conversion.”
If you do want to be chareidi, getting that initial Orthodox conversion to Judaism, even if it is not approved by the RCA, will make your life 100% easier.
Any Orthodox non-charedi girl who tells you that your LA Beit Din conversion is not good enough is just feeding you a line to get rid of you.
I remember at LimmudLA a man asking about his wife’s conversion status with Rabbi Michael Melchior. The wife had done a non-RCA approved Orthodox conversion to Judaism. Should he worry? Rabbi Melchior told him not to worry.
People worry too much.
Jeff emails: “Believe it or not, my experience with Jewish dating has been mainly limited to the internet! I have used sites like www.frumster.com and www.jdate.com. Your telling me that a Rabbi Rue conversion is generally good enough for most modern orthodox women puts things in perspective. I was rejected by several women on these sites because my conversion was not RCC. However, I never ran a control. What I mean by a “control” is an experiment which would see whether ALL girls using internet dating are this selective. I guess it’s very easy to make an excuse when using online dating, because all it takes is a mouse click. The other issue is that the kind of frum girl who is using internet dating probably couldn’t find a Jewish man in her local community anyway.”
Few orthodox women will take you seriously until you have finished an Ortho conversion.
Also, you will most likely marry a fellow convert…rather than a woman FFB (frum from birth). You’ll have more in common.