Luke Ford – Failed Alpha Male

Glenn emails:

Hi Luke,

A while ago I noticed you lamenting on your website about the difficulty of attracting women. It has to do with being or not being an alpha male. Alpha males attract women. There are some sub categories that do as well. However, in the human kingdom, failed alpha males are often gay. If you are a failed alpha male, and not gay, you will experience frustration at being unable to attract women usually reserved for alpha males.

Some guys know they aren’t alpha material. They marry or hook up with a woman in their own sub group. But a failed alpha male will still be attracted to alpha category women even though he can’t get them.

I’m not sure if this is a reversible situation or not. Once a guy fails in his bid to becoma alpha, there may not be opportunities to repeat the process, whatever it happens to be.

Failed alpha males can usually get women beneath them. They don’t really satisfy the needs of a failed alpha, however. This contributes to promiscuity.

Failed alphas can move into the spiritual world and become celibates, or try to. They can also pray for an exception to the norm, which is possible.

Some failed alpha males, after a period of promiscuity, realize that chastity is the best option. It certainly has to be better than being tied to a problematic woman.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see My work has been followed by the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (
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