Here is how they have manifested in my life:
1. Time Indifference – We put off what must be done and do not use our time to support our own vision and further our own goals.
L: Over the past four years, I’ve probably only averaged about 30 hours a week of work. I could have gotten off my butt and looked for more work and made more money. I could have been clearer about my vision for my life and spent more time and taken more steps towards making it real. I’ve wasted a lot of time in fantasy, in narcissistic delusion. I’ve liked to numb out to movies or TV or watching sports or chasing women.
2. Idea Deflection –We compulsively reject ideas that could expand our lives or careers, and increase our profitability.
Yes, that has been huge problem for me. I have compulsively rejected ideas that could have expanded my life and increased my profitability.
3. Compulsive Need to Prove – Although we have demonstrated competence in our jobs or business, we are driven by a need to re-prove our worth and value.
Yes, this has been a constant problem for me. I’m not at peace with myself. I have to try to prove myself to others. I’m insecure.
4. Clinging to Useless Possessions – We hold onto possessions that no longer serve our needs, such as threadbare clothing or broken appliances.
Yes, I’ve had this problem in a mild way.
5. Exertion/Exhaustion – We habitually overwork, become exhausted, then under-work or cease work completely.
I have had this problem. I over-worked at age 21 and at age 22 I collapsed into years of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. This year I over-worked and in my exhausted state I made some bad decisions that cost me thousands of dollars.
6. Giving Away Our Time – We compulsively volunteer for various causes, or give away our services without charge, when there is no clear benefit.
Yes, this has been a tendency of mine. I love causes and indulge in them at a cost to my own welfare.
7. Undervaluing and Under-pricing – We undervalue our abilities and services and fear asking for increases in compensation or for what the market will bear.
Yes, I’ve never asked for a raise in my life. I have even said, “That’s too much” when I’ve been offered a good deal for my services. In some ways, I value myself, and in other ways, I don’t. I just throw myself away.
8. Isolation – We choose to work alone when it might serve us much better to have co-workers, associates, or employees.
Yes, this has been a major problem in my life. I tend to isolate.
9. Physical Ailments – Sometimes, out of fear of being larger or exposed, we experience physical ailments.
Ouch.
10. Misplaced Guilt or Shame – We feel uneasy when asking for or being given what we need or what we are owed.
True.
11. Not Following Up – We do not follow up on opportunities, leads, or jobs that could be profitable. We begin many projects and tasks but often do not complete them.
True.
12. Stability Boredom – We create unnecessary conflict with co-workers, supervisors and clients, generating problems that result in financial distress.
True. I love stirring people up and then they don’t want me around because I’m too much aggravation.
