Category Archives: Attachment

How I Conquered My Relationship Insecurity

Tracy Chabala writes for The Fix: The pain prompted me to do some research on relationship insecurity—I had to know what the hell was wrong with me. That’s when I learned about attachment styles and the important role they play … Continue reading

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Falling In Love

I fall in love way too easily, way too quickly, and way too intensely. I’m an easy target for mockery because I can’t help wearing my feelings on my sleeve. I’ve had long stretches of my life feeling helpless, feeling … Continue reading

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If You Can’t Connect With People, You’ll Have To Connect To Something Else Such As A Process Or Substance

I tweeted yesterday: “The higher my quality of life, the more secure my attachment, the less hold my addictions have on me.” Harel responded: “Luke, this really hit home with me. Can you expand on this?” We are wired to … Continue reading

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Another Sleepless Night

When my alarm went off at 5:35 am, I was in a dream where these dusky guys were making fun of me online and I ran into them in person and I tried desperately to connect with them and to … Continue reading

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Seinfeld & Secure Attachment

I’ve started watching this old TV show (I’m nearly through season three). I identify more with George Costanza than Jerry Seinfeld. Seinfeld in the show exhibits secure attachment. According to Wikipedia: Secure attachment is classified by children who show some … Continue reading

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