Confiding Vs Venting

I was feeling quite honored this week that a beautiful woman was confiding in me.

Then a few minutes later, she went cold.

I didn’t understand it. I wondered what I did wrong.

I find emotional intimacy with an amazing woman so intoxicating that I want it to go on forever. It always hurts me when she shuts down.

I talked about all this with a mutual friend and he explained that the woman wasn’t sharing so much as venting. That’s how she ran. She’d connect deeply with you for a few minutes and then she’d hit her limit and shut down.

Something weird happened to me in shul recently. I was embracing a male friend and got so carried away that I kissed his shoulder. I have no idea how that happened. I hope it doesn’t mean I’m gay.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see My work has been noted in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (
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