Why Am I Reacting This Way?

After years and years of therapy, I’m finding my self-talk moving away a little from wondering why other people act the way they do to why do I react the way I do.

For instance, instead of worrying quite so much why somebody ignores me, I now wonder more often why do I need so-and-so to buck me up? Why do I feel driven to getting a response from this person? Why do I feel the need to make attention getting jokes?

When I dread checking phone messages from a person, I ask myself why. When did I feel this way before? Who does this person remind me of? What unprocessed emotional issues do I need to look at? What are my unresolved layers of shame, rage and guilt?

Why does this person trigger me? Why do I care what he thinks of me? Why do I need to react to him?

When I feel lonely or sad or mad or horny, I have more tools these days to orient myself in a healthy direction. I can meditate or read something uplifting or go for a walk or talk to a friend or go to shul or write a blog post or scribble in my journal.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see Amazon.com). My work has been covered in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and on 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (Alexander90210.com).
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