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Many of us entertain a fantasy that some person can complete us. We don’t believe that we’re complete in ourselves. Only when we do will we become able to share in a life-enhancing partnership with another person. Only when we love ourselves can we love others realistically, instead of seeing them as fantasy figures, projections of our own desire.
No one can hurt us emotionally unless we allow the hurt. We’re full partners in everything that we do, and taking responsibility for our actions and our desires is our first step toward being fully lovable.
The only one who can save me is me.
So what does this sentence mean? “No one can hurt us emotionally unless we allow the hurt.”
It means that unless a criticism resonates with us, it won’t hurt us.
We never get hurt in areas where we feel strong and confident. I have no doubt, for instance, in my courage to write unpopular things, so if I were to be called a coward, it would have no meaning to me. If somebody said my blog was insignificant, it would have no meaning to me because I have seen so many times how much influence my writing has.
I am intensely insecure about other things, so anything there touches on tender spots and easily wounds me.
