Wisdom From Kids

This 11yo boy asks me at shul: “Do you have kids?”
Luke: “No.”
Boy: “Are you married?”
Luke: “No.”
Boy: “So you’re single.”
Luke: “Yes.”
Boy: “It’s lame to be single.”

I wasn’t bothered by the kid’s comment. I thought it was superb. I know I’m a freak in Orthodox Judaism, for many reasons including my bachelorhood.

Steve writes: “Single adults have no value in Orthodox Judaism. Is that a surprise for you?”

Every human being has value in God’s eyes, and consequently in the eyes of Orthodox Judaism. Is that a surprise to you?

I remember calling Dennis Prager’s radio show around 1996. He said something to me on air to the effect that if I never married, I should admit I was selfish. I think I responded, “Not necessarily. Life is complicated. Not every guy gets to marry, and it is not always his fault.”

If I hadn’t gotten so sick in my 20s, I probably would have married in my 20s. I emerged from six years of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome at age 27 with about two-thirds of normal health, and I had to limp through life, which is not a formula for getting married.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see Amazon.com). My work has been covered in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and on 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (Alexander90210.com).
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