How Livestreaming Made Me A Better Man

Dispensing your opinions online tends to degenerate most people as they develop an e-personality that corrodes their real life.

I started blogging in 1997 and I’ve experienced my share of the perils of the e-personality (carelessness, impulsiveness, thoughtlessness, self-aggrandizement, audience capture, over-sharing). Aside from these dangers, there’s also the cost of what you did online eliminating other possibilities for your life.

Here are some possible ways that livestreaming (and I have deleted less than 1% of everything I’ve produced live) makes me a better man:

* I learn that almost everyone I talk about hears about what I have said, and so I have to stand behind my words, or apologize for them.
* I get a regular test for prioritizing my real self or my e-self? The more priority I put on my e-self, the more off track I get in life.
* I learn to make peace with making mistakes and trade-offs. When I start a show, there are many things I want to explore, but as soon as I press the button to go live, the technical and social demands of the show eat away at my energy, enthusiasm and cognitive powers, and so my conversational palette narrows. I lean on my notes as the ideas fly from my head (and I consistently fail to do adequate preparation). There are so many things to look after with a live show, with sound quality being number one, and paying attention to one aspect of your show takes you away from other things. For example, I try to write down time stamps on every show, but when I’m doing that, I’m not saying anything or listening to anything or paying attention to anything else.
* I recognize that most people are better off without my show, and that people who were key parts of my show have moved on for good reasons.
* I learn to stand on my own two feet and to not need audience approval. I’ve often said things on a show that everybody in the audience strongly disagrees with (for example, I believe the establishment views on combatting Covid have been more right than wrong, and I don’t believe that our elites are evil and bent on our destruction). I risked and lost relationships for the sake of saying what I believe to be true. That is a good test in life. You can cuck to your relationships, or you can heedlessly burn your relationships, or you can try steer a middle path, valuing both things and making considered choices.
* I learn to listen to many points of view and to talk to people from all over the world.
* I learn to present my ideas in ways that will have the widest opportunity to be heard. I learned to talk about controversial topics in ways that are the most socially acceptable.
* On every show, I confront who I am, what I look like, what I sound like, how prepared I am, and the quality of my choices. You often get more honest feedback from anonymous people online than you do from people you see face to face.
* I get to bring on the show a feeling for my most important relationships, and when I carry that love, I make better choices. A large part of me, when undisciplined by gratitude, loves the cynical blistering remark a little too much.
* A large part of being a man is protecting and providing. Livestreaming is one more opportunity to do this.
* With every social media post, you finetune your circle of friends by making public what you are about.

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see My work has been covered in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and on 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (
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